#tw picky eating

[marshmallowprotection]

could you write something for saeyoung with a picky eater MC? i keep thinking during the days in the apartment when he keeps ordering and making food (while still insisting he doesn't actually care lmao) and I'd feel so bad bc he's spending time and money on me but odds are I wouldn't eat most of it but i also feel weird saying so sometimes, bc i wouldnt want to snub a gift + a lot of people dont get that i cant control it and think its annoying :////////

Saeyoung understands. You might think that he wouldn't understand because he was somebody who didn't have a choice when it came to the things he was eating. In some ways, he still doesn't have much of a choice. He has to go with the flow with whatever is put into his hands. But that doesn't mean that he doesn't understand the feeling of control when it comes to your food.

Sometimes, a texture is really bad or a taste just doesn't do it for you. That's all you have to say and everybody should take you seriously. If you don't want something, then you shouldn't be forced into doing it. There are ways around getting the nutrition you need if you can't handle eating something.

You don't need to be tricked or manipulated into eating something that doesn't work for you. There are ways to make it work and people in your life should work with you to make that happen. Anything small can make the difference. For Saeyoung, all he wants is to make sure that you are able to enjoy yourself. If there is anything he can do to make it easier, he's going to make it happen.

He's more perceptive than you think. It doesn't matter if you act like you need to accept something, he'll know right off the bat that you're lying to him. It's the way that you're holding yourself or the way that you're saying that it's okay when it's not okay. He would call you out on it even in the midst of all of his struggle with wanting to be around you. If he can make anything easier for you, he always will.

Even if he's trying to push you away. So, it would only happen once or twice where you would try to lie to him about this stuff. That's all it takes for him to realize that you're lying through your teeth to him about what you're comfortable with. He might scold you or nag you about it for avoiding the truth, but it's not like he's going to be angry with you. He knows that there are things that you can't control.

It would be wrong for him to be upset about this sort of stuff. He has food that makes him feel good about himself and if he could choose to have that all the time, he would. It's hard to step out of that comfort zone and bubble of control. But, you wouldn't force him to do anything that he didn't want to do.

So, why would he try to convince you to do something that you don't want to do? When you think about it, it's kind of silly when you put it that way.

Just be honest with him about your limitations and the way that you eat. It doesn't need to be complicated and you don't need to feel insecure about it. He understands. He empathizes. He wants to do what he can. He's going to do what he can. Don't be surprised when he figures out what your safe foods are before you even tell him. It doesn't take much for him to figure it out.

[boatemboys]

uuuhhghhh that picky eater post is making me think about stuff again. no making me sit at the table for hours until i finished didnt make me not picky it just made me want to kill myself over eating

[andresmounts2]

TW: Mentions of parental abuse, ableism, & eating disorders.

Disrespectfully, if you ever make "jokes" about how you'd starve your kid if they were a picky eater or borderline abuse them, DON'T. HAVE. KIDS.

[nuks]

guys guys so I never liked cherries bc I’ve only had maraschino cherries but my bestie had me try like an actual cherry the other day and MAMA MIA THEYRE DELICIOUS… this is a cherry household 🍒

[uncanny-tranny]

I really wish there was more insight as to why children are "picky eaters" because the way people go about "fixing us" can be detrimental to our relationship with food.

When I was a kid, I was obviously neurodivergent, and I wasn't tested for anything and never received any support. I was a huge "picky eater" to the point that going to a new restaurant with a menu I didn't know would send me into panic mode. I didn't understand why I felt that way, I didn't understand that I wasn't a selfish, horrible kid for being unable to force myself to eat. I'd be the person sitting at the dining room table for hours because I just couldn't force myself to eat the food I was given.

I understand why parents do that. It can be concerning when you think your kid isn't getting the proper nutrition. It's concerning when a kid's pallete is overly shrunk down. But if you're going about it in a punishing way, you only reinforce the idea that food is bad and dangerous. And if a child knows that eating their food would cause them less grief and stress than not eating the food, and yet they still will not or cannot eat, that's a sign. Maybe work with children, try to understand why they're a "picky eater." Chances are they're not doing it because they personally want to spite you and they despise your very aura.

[sunnibits]

I just asked my irl friends this too but I’m rlly curious to know so: can you guys give me any recommendations for new food to try for someone who is an extremely picky eater who’s trying to practice expanding their palette?? like maybe some really simple foods that would be a good place to start, or alternatively pls tell me what food you would recommend to someone who has never eaten food before lmao

[gunkbaby]

ik most of u dont agree with my ed tokyo ghoul takes and that’s fine. but there is something so validating about an almost entire cast of characters for whom eating is a task that inherently involves a lot of guilt and shame.

[maudiemoods]

Hello :) Your most recent post about your stardust beings au and what Eclipse & crew used to do made me wonder, does Eclipse still "hire" unsuspecting victims that he ends up eating? Or is he done with the whole crew scene and just literally flies solo?

Nah, he only ever ate his crew! Still not sure what his plans are for sun and moon. Eclipse hates the idea of cannibalism for power not to mention he knows that when a being consumes too many cores, they lose their mind and have terrible physical side effects. Eclipse's mind isn't as intact as it used to be and he knows that.

After the feast of 87' eclipse is stranded for a hot minute since sun and moon took his ship when they ran away. Eventually, eclipse finds a shattered cult, destroyed by their previous leader and now without any authority figures. It's perfect for eclipse! He takes immediate control and builds an empire using what was once a wimpy cult! I'm thinking he even has a small planet as a base of operations. He mostly flies around though. As the leader of this cult, he allows cannibalism only by his terms. He immediately kills any who eats for power.

I want to clarify that eclipse didn't eat sun and moon because he wasn't 100% sure about them. He definitely cared about them but they were relatively new compared to his crew. He also was sure he could convince them to join him. Of course, if they did that I'm sure eclipse would have ended up cannibalizing them

[that-jack-kline-bestie]

so fucking upset. i looked up what's considered concerning weight loss and got a statistic. i looked up the same question but specified teens and i got a bunch of articles about how to lose weight. what the fuck

[the-entity-down-the-street]

Can we talk more about how having severe allergies puts mortal fear into your soul at a young age?

Like "hey kid I know you're like five, but your body has a design flaw where if you eat (or sometimes even share a space with) {allergen} you essentially drown on land, and instead of water rushing into your airways, your body turns against you, tongue and throat swelling until breathing is completely cut off. You're surrounded by oxygen, yet it's completely inaccessible. Only way to *temporarily* keep that from happening is to stab yourself in the thigh with a needle full of panic chemicals. Also avoiding your allergen is mostly on you because restaurants won't think twice about frying potential allergens in the same oil as the goddamn fries (or worse, they use an oil made from your allergen), the folks bringing potluck dishes don't provide listed ingredients (and you shouldn't trust their word alone), and your allergen shows up in unexpected places because nobody thinks about this stuff if their literal life isn't on the line. Have fun with that!"

What in the Junji Ito Clive Barker David Lynch horrific fuck is this body/psychological horror shit

[big-sibby-zammy]

"Alerting" Sensory Snacks

These texturally different treats are meant to help wake up your mind/body and bring you back to reality. I tried to think of as many suggestions as possible

[echoing--void]

I dont have much of a platform, but I find it to still be important to share my experiences!! Now, I got diagnosed with autism last year in the summer, at 16. My sensory issues have been horrible my entire life, I have always hated most foods and I have lost comfort foods while not gaining any new ones. In 2017 I had fallen ill with lung inflammation, I had lost so much weight and eating was more of a hustle than something I saw as needed. Now as I get older and older, I learn, I understand my past self more and I understand my experiences. I want to be confident, I want to be proud of who I am, I dont want to just say "I'm just like this because,, yea" I can finally understand my body and my brain, I can finally freely say that I have ARFID and not feel like I am lying to myself about my experiences with food. Your experiences are valid, you know how they affected you more than anyone else. Find the confidence to shape how you think based on those experiences, find yourself. ARFID is not fun to live with, it is honestly a pain and every day I wish that I could get myself to eat something new, something I have not eaten before, but I understand that I cannot. I wish I could eat at the table with my family, but I understand that my body cannot handle it. I am so lucky to have a mother who allows me to get meals that I am able to eat whenever she cooks something I cannot. Every single one of you is special, beautiful in your own way. Show that beauty to others. Show that beauty to yourself. I know it is hard - I am still not fully done with this journey myself - but I know that as a community, we can show how strong we are. I love every single one of you out there.

[astxrope]

Fun fact I think a teacher got herself fired because of me when I was like 6 or 7 lol.

fucking deserved it.

context below cut cw: eating disorders and force-feeding

So it was like grade 2 yk, and my teacher decided to do some cooking with us, fun times no issues there. made some zucchini slice no problems there.

now some context, I have ARFID. fully got hospitalized because of it when I was 4, overall nkt a fun time. I'm better now I'm 18 but my arfid is still horrid... speaking of i need to take my vitamins soon... (see what i mean by 'not disabled enough' 'not able bodied enough')

Anyways we finished cooking, and everyone got a slice of the food to eat, being the arfid lil kid I am I turned it down, AND IT SHOULD HAVE ENDED THERE!

but no. she didn:t take no for an answer. gave me the slice made me go sit down. So I sat there, slice sitting infront of me. I think i offered it to someone else I was a little kid and trauma made me forget a lot of my childhood.

Either no one wanted the slice or she heard me asking people because she made me

sit at the front of the class infront of her desk until i ate it

she fully held me hostage until i ate this food.

I ended up eating it but I was having a full on mental breakdown.

And then she left a few months later. Not sure what happened, dunno if it had to do with this incident or not but GOOD GODS DO I HOPE SHE NEVER WORKS IN CHILDCARE EVER AGAIN.

Completely unapolagetically do not like that woman at all.

[stellanix]

food is a fundamental and important part of the human experience, which is incredibly frustrating for someone like me who has ARFID/severe sensory issues with food and a lot of trauma associated with food

i can handle things fine most days as i live alone, but whenever i'm traveling or socializing things become difficult

if i'm hanging out with people, i'll often have to figure out my own situation with food because i usually can't eat what everyone else wants to eat

when traveling i often struggle to find safe food and skip meals as a result

and when i do get to eat safe food with other people, i constantly feel anxious and scared of being judged because of how my own family made me feel like a freak for having such a limited diet my whole life

the "joys" of trying new food in an unfamiliar place or sharing a meal with friends are things that i cannot comprehend as joys, they're ordeals i have to struggle through multiple times a day

food is a fundamental part of the human experience, but i'm fundamentally alienated from it

[themogaidragon]

Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) Pride Flag

PT: Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) Pride Flag /end PT

ID: a flag with seven horizontal stripes of the same size. Their colors are, from top to bottom, green, light green, greenish grey, dark red, greenish grey, light green and green. END ID

ARFID: an eating disorder in which the sufferer has an extremely selective palate and avoids the overwhelming majority of foods to the point of causing health problems; such has failing to meet nutritional energy needs, weight loss, nutritional deficiency, failure to meet growth trajectories, dependence on feeding tube, dependence to dietary supplements or psychosocial interference. The avoidance is either due to sensory aversion, lack of interest in food, traumatic avoidance, fear of aversive consequences or a mix of those.

I’ve redesigned the ARFID pride flag a second time. You can find my first edit of it here (link). The ARFID flag has been designed by @nightmare-cubed (link). The base for the template used for eating disorders flags is from someone who might support the transabled movement (link), this is also why I'm currently redesigning the eating disorders flags. Please check the blog @transcendent-mogai-pride-flags (link) for more information.

[rosytintedlights]

Growing up a picky eater was eating chicken nuggets and fries almost every meal.

It was going to bed without dinner sometimes because the food my dad made looked disgusting.

It was being handed chicken, then being told it was actually pork and It was the disgust I felt knowing my dad lied to me and that I put something I didn’t try before into my mouth.

It was my mom asking me to at least try something once before I decided I didn’t like it.

It was my brother putting hot sauce in my ketchup, my only safe dip, because he thought it was funny.

It was my sister chewing foods I hated the smell of with her mouth open because she knew it bothered me.

It was my parents hoping I wouldn’t be diabetic when I grew up because all I ate was carbs.

It was my dad poking fun at my weight, and it was the shame I felt after for being so chubby.

It was avoiding most school lunches because it looked or smelled bad.

It was some of my friends wondering if I had an eating disorder because I avoided so many foods.

It was being told I was on the verge of diabetes when I was 19.

But…

It was also my dad letting me cook with him so I could learn how to make my own meals.

It was finally giving something new a shot and liking it for once.

It was learning about as many foods as I could online and being excited to try them.

It was my dad going out of his way to cook something I wanted too.

It was my mom telling me to just eat what made me happy.

It was my brother buying me food when we were home alone.

It was my sister sharing foods I did like so I wouldn’t be hungry.

It was my mom buying extra foods during family holidays so I could eat with everyone in case the food served was something I refused to eat.

It was my whole family still loving me even though I was ashamed of myself.

As a picky eater, I struggled with food, a lot. But looking back, my family was always willing to try and help to make sure I didn’t ever feel hungry, left out, or unloved.

To any fellow picky eater out there - there’s a food out there for you. You just have to be willing to take the first bite.