#trans and chronically ill

[nondivisable]

I need to say something and I need y'all to be calm

if it isn't actively bad or harmful, no representation should be called "too simple" or "too surface level"

I have a whole argument for this about the barbie movie but today I wanna talk about a show called "the babysitters club" on Netflix

(obligatory disclaimer that I watched only two episodes of this show so if it's super problematic I'm sorry) (yes. I know it's based on a book, this is about the show)

this is a silly 8+ show that my 9 year old sister is watching and it manages to tackle so many complex topics in such an easy way. basic premise is these 13 year old girls have a babysitting agency.

in one episode, a girl babysits this transfem kid. the approach is super simple, with the kid saying stuff like "oh no, those are my old boy clothes, these are my girl clothes". they have to go to the doctor and everyone is calling the kid by her dead name and using he/him and this 13 year old snaps at like a group of doctors and they all listen to her. it's pure fantasy and any person versed in trans theory would point out a bunch of mistakes.

but after watching this episode, my little sister started switching to my name instead of my dead name and intercalating he/him pronouns when talking about me.

one of the 13 years old is a diabetic and sometimes her whole personality is taken over by that. but she has this episode where she pushes herself to her limit and passes out and talks about being in a coma for a while because of not recognizing the limits of her disability.

and this allowed my 9 year old sister to understand me better when I say "I really want to play with you but right now my body physically can't do that" (I'm disabled). she has even asked me why I'm pushing myself, why I'm not using my crutches when I complain about pain.

my mom is 50 years old and watching this show with my sister. she said the episode about the diabetic girl helped her understand me and my disability better. she grew up disabled as well, but she was taught to shut up and power through.

yes, silly simple representation can annoy you if you've read thousands of pages about queer liberation or disability radical thought, but sometimes things are not for you.

[a-totally-reasonable-username]

I'm wishing a very Happy Pride Month to all the queer people who:

are disabled

are chronically ill

can't celebrate for health reasons

disability gets in the way of their gender representation

disability got in the way of a relationship

don't have anyone to celebrate with

have homophobic caretakers

Happy Pride Month to all disabled queer people

[enbycrip]

ID: a tweet by mythical @mitskileaks

“I used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that's awfully convenient to the world.for some of us our best revolt is self-preservation,”

[fickes]

Top surgery journal #1

[ezratheunready]

The Russian roulette of going to the doctor as a trans chronically ill person. Will it be deadnaming and misgendering or talking down/gaslighting/doctors being clueless about my chronic illness.

Surprise it’s always both ☠️🚨

[genderqueerdykes]

disabled intersex trans lesbian needs help saving up for rent while preparing for surgery & GI procedures

hello, my name is equinox. i'm a multiply disabled intersex trans lesbian who deals with a lot of different health issues. currently, i'm dealing with a large gallstone that is stuck in my gallbladder, which has been causing a lot of pain, as well as very severe GI issues. it has been virtually impossible to stand, sit upright, or be out of the house for significant periods of time, and even sitting upright to work or use the computer has proven to be painful. i am also struggling to keep down food.

i'm currently awaiting surgery to have my gallbladder removed, as well as an endo/colonoscopy and a gastric emptying study:

in the mean time, i need to save up for my monthly rent, which is only $178/month thanks to me having subsidized housing. i currently do not make any other income other than my shop, i am applying for disability but am currently in the processing stage. i sell handmade jewelry as well as zines i have written on queerness as well.

$0/$178

if you are interested in helping, you can do so in the following ways:

cash app: $glitterGraphix pay pal: glittergraphicnightmare # gmail .com venmo: $Equinoxian chime: $equinoxian

thank you to everyone who takes the time to read, reblog and support- i appreciate you more than words can ever express. thank you for your generosity and kindness

[800-dick-pics]

Help a Trans Lesbian of Color stay Employed!!!

My girlfriend recently got a job, which is exciting for us but she needs help getting some work clothes/shoes and funds to get to her work trainings. What is most important is getting to her trainings and getting non slip shoes but she wont be getting paid until much later in the month so if you can please help us until we have some stable income!

$160 GOAL!!!!

CA: $sleepyhen

VN: wildwotko

Dm for Paypl

[dogd0m-charlie]

yeah yeah sure rough freaky t4t gay sex where i mount you aggressively and overstimulate you by making you cum over and over until you're crying etc etc. but- hey, no, listen. take my hand for a second. what if. what if maybe um. you know, instead of that, what if you let me just lay back and kiss my neck gently and slowly jerk me off or maybe ride me for a little while and praise me for how much I've been doing lately and how good i make you feel all the time and tell me you're proud of me, because you know it's really hard for me to always just push through and make myself get things done and you want me to be the center of attention just this once, so you decide to make me cum this time while muttering praises in my ear to make me really feel as appreciated as possible. maybe. (please)

[chrissy-kaos]

Idk if I’m ready for this. It’s about to be a journey. Wish me luck. I’m going to need it. I’ll update when I get out of the OR. Surgery is about 6 hours. Then recovery.

[mosaic-system]

Thought of this in the car and had to do it to 'em

-Fizz

[beranibear]

Something that I will never understand is how accessibility is always an afterthought. Wouldn’t it just be easier and cheaper to build accessible unisex toilets rather than a bunch of random gendered ones?

Gendered toilets is such a bizarre concept to me. Some people claim it’s for safety but if a creep wants to go into a toilet and creep on some people nothing is stopping them? Plus I know a lot of my guy friends wouldn’t hesitate to kick out and call out someone creeping on a woman for example.

It’s just like how TERFs don’t want transgender people in bathrooms. Hello?? Don’t you realise there is literally no law that is preventing anyone of the opposite sex from walking into the others bathroom. It’s a public toilet, a guy could walk into the woman’s bathroom if he wanted too, there is no laws or rules. God forbid “someone pretending to be a certain gender” walks in and uses the bathroom.

Plus why do I have to go walk to the other side of the shopping centre to find one that’s accessible and has a handrail, seems pretty stupid to make people who are assumably physically disabled travel to some random corner out of the way to use a bathroom.

Fucking weirdos.

Edit: I’m talking about the laws (or lack of laws) exclusive to Australia. I have not been to other countries while legally (or otherwise) identifying as Nonbinary so I can not speak on experiences elsewhere.

[nondivisable]

can we talk about being trans and medically complex for a minute??

about all the extra appointments with different doctors I'd have to make to make sure my body won't shut itself down if I start T

about all the extra psychiatric examinations I'd be subjected to before being able to start T because I have a history of delusions

about how T can affect any future health decisions I make because i won't have the privilege of not disclosing my transness to doctors anymore. how many doctors are biased against trans people. how many diseases are associated with a specific sex and I might get denied a diagnosis for it not aligning with my gender

about all the extra money a month that T implies and how that may not even be possible for me because of how much I already spend on meds

about how I can't be sure if I'll ever be completely independent so me starting T has to be approved by my parents because even if I'm not a minor i still need them to survive

I dunno, intersectionality is always so important and I feel like we don't talk about it enough

[flynnlovesart]

EMERGENCY COMMISSIONS OPEN

I’m a trans disabled artist suffering from life threatening conditions who desperately needs to find themself a new living situation. If you could contribute even five dollars, I’ll make you a sketch.

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[enbycrip]

Took me waaay too long to realise this was Evangelical Nonsense and not a relatable Trans With Chronic Illness meme 🤣

[existennialmemes]

If you're afraid that you're "faking" your gender, orientation, disability, mental illness, etc.

Please remember that faking is something you do on purpose, with forethought. If you have to worry about whether or not you're faking, that's proof that you're not.

Faking is Intentional, it can't be Accidental.

[ezratheunready]

Having doctors and dentists use your chosen name instead of your birth/legal/dead name will never not make my heart explode. It literally never happens. My deadname is still my legal name and it’s a punch in the face when I’m at the doctor and they call me deadname for the whole waiting room and then proceed to use it throughout the appointment. Even if they have my chosen name and pronouns on file even if the appointment is specifically for TRANS HEALTH CARE. Y’all the way I wanted to cry when they correctly gendered me and used my name at my appointment today, that’s so fucking sad.

Sincerely,

a tired and chronically Ill transgender