#this user is in a queerplatonic relationship

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[januscorner]

Made these cus I was pissed, feel free to use with credit

[incognitopolls]

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[ink-stains-and-constellations]

Happy pride month! Featuring my new sona. I'm still looking for a new drawing program, so I had to do this in my sketchbook.

Bonus:

GARLIC BREAD

[vm-sys]

have told my partner abt tts. that am going to use it for long speeches (like more than 1 or 2 sentences). he accepted.

feel so reassured by him. he is really good n supportive. he cares abt me, i have all my current life because of him.

am so happy to have him in my life. am so happy to be able to accommodate. am so happy to not feel rejection because of my disabilities.

love him so much.

[flyttadigs]

NEVER LEAVE ME OUT / LET THE RAIN COME DOWN : AN ANAWEATHER/ WEATHERSUI FST

originally published on january 23, 2017.

♪ listen // cover art edited by myself

♫ track guide ::

"Brown Eyes" - illoquence

"Unsteady" - X Ambassadors

"Do You Feel It?" - Chaos Chaos

"The Sorrow" - NxxxxxS

"This Will Make You Love Again" - IAMX

"Love Will Save You" - Swans

"Weird Fishes / Arpeggi" - Radiohead

"Into the Ocean" - Blue October

"Florida" - Modest Mouse

"Record of Love" - Pretend

"Plenty of Girls in the Sea" - MGMT

“if weather report wasn’t here to keep him calm, there’s no knowing what anasui would do.”

[ink-stains-and-constellations]

Heya, I was bisexual, now I'm an aroace genderfae neopronoun user in a queerplatonic relationship.

Everyone introduce yourself by what you thought your OG queer identity was and what you currently identify as

Ill go first: hi I was bisexual now I’m a pansexual aroace

[kanameows]

hmm

[sirenium]

Give me more lesbians who date men too, who aren't MISERABLE and forcing themselves to do so because of compulsory heterosexuality. Give me more lesbians who ARE men: cis, trans, somewhere in between, both, neither. Give me gay men who also date women happily, who are women themselves to whatever extent. Give me queerplatonic relationships between a gay guy and a lesbian. Give me a lesbian and a gay guy who are friends with benefits. Give me multigender turigirls and lesboys. Give me an individual who is polyamorous and aroace, more gaybians, more nondysphoric trans people, more she/her guys and he/him women, more it/its and nounself users, more queer teens who go by Arson. I could go on and on, but to sum things up: give me the sides of the queer experience that are hidden even by other queer people. Show me the box breaking, the line crossing, the beautiful complexities that arise from being queer. Give me the 'cringy' identities. Give me the historical identities that people are trying to erase. Preserve what they're trying to snuff out.

[aropride]

people love weird queer people they see as sexually attractive and not "cringe" (though people have stopped using the word out loud and just let the implication go unspoken), and the second it's not about crazy gay sex or whatever people start acting like high school bullies.

sorry but "weird queer people" has to include 14 year old asexual demiboys on tiktok & aro cishet men who want to have platonic sex with women & polycules with multiple people you aren't attracted to & people (aromantic or alloromantic) in queerplatonic relationships (& queerplatonic polycules) & yes this includes the most annoying most 14-year old twitter user you know. you don't have to like people personally and you don't have to interact with them, obviously, and if someone's causing harm you do not have to tolerate that. obviously.

but like. i'm 21, and 17-18 year olds make up a good half of the student body at my college, so i've met and befriended several 17/18 year olds who clearly and self-admittedly have spent most of their formative developmental years on tiktok and twitter. and frankly i would much, much rather hang out with them and have to explain bi lesbians and have to ask them not to call me slurs, than i would hang out with a 24 year old tumblr user whose only joke is making fun of asexuals/aromantics/polyamorous people/neopronouns/xenogenders/queerplatonic relationships/nondysphoric trans people/transmascs/label hoarders/et cetera and acting like having sex is the most important part of being queer.

if you say you love "weird queer people" but can't extend even basic kindness towards the type of weird queer person who gets no bitches (whether on purpose or not) & wishes there were more queer cafes because they don't drink. i don't think you really love weird queer people.

[lgbtq-userboxes]

Requested by sylvayex

[analogtoonz]

DUKE4DUDE / DUDE4DUKE

-> Dude4Duke describes an individual who finds comfort or enjoyment in the ship of Duke Nukem x POSTAL Dude, or are alterhumans / fictionkin / alters of the two characters and are in a platonic, queerplatonic or romantic relationship.

id: a rectangular flag with 8 horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the stripes are coloured dark yellow, yellow, pastel yellow, grey, dark brown, brown, red and dark red. there is a slim black line below the grey line, separating the yellow and red colours. in the foreground, at the very centre, is yellow and black nuclear waste symbol /end id

(Inspired by Tumblr users @yummycrummy & @dudexdukeweklyy !!)

[bogkeep]

when i was a teen, i was in love with my best friend. to this day i cannot tell you with any certainty whether or not i was in love romantically or platonically. i don't know and i don't care. it's very possible there is a difference, but i never found it. i've asked many people about it and everyone has their own definition of where that line goes, none that ever applied to my own experiences. there is no satisfying, universal and objective line. i think that's good, actually. the idea that there is some shining abstract concept that's specialer than all the other concepts that can only be achieved like nirvana by some people and not others is not a comfortable idea. this is not to say that everyone has the same feelings and experiences, absolutely not - but we categorize our experiences within the contexts we exist in. or maybe that's just word salad.

i know that - at the time, i knew i was deeply connected to this other person and kept thinking about her all the time and we talked about wanting to be close friends for our whole lives and wrote poetry together about our soulmateness and we made mutual friends feel like a third wheel. i knew i had no desire to kiss her or take her on dates, and she crushed on some boy at summer camp, but the connection between us was mutual and explicit. if the concept of a queerplatonic relationship had been available to us at the time, maybe we would've recognized it as such. i just knew that what i was feeling didn't match up at all with what i've been told 'being in love' was supposed to be like - especially because, at the time, Being In Love also included sexual attraction. we had just cracked open the 2010's and asexuality was a punchline and a joke.

i know that - during the time i was made to feel ashamed of my aroace identity and the narrative was that i'm actually just repressing my TRUE queer identity, i reframed my memories - i had obviously been in love with my friend Romantically. i was a Real Gay. i was Valid. I Was Sapphic Actually. you can't kick me out of the parade if i had pined for my best friend as a teen!!!!

i know that - once i reclaimed the pride in myself, i reframed the memories again: i had obviously been in love with my friend Platonically, because otherwise i would've been a traitor to the good name of aromanticism. if i knew what it was like to have a crush i would contradict myself. who am i to write about romantic love as if i know? what was i doing at the devil's sacrament?

maybe it is a mystery. maybe i don't know shit. it's hard, actually, to know anything at all when the way my strange brain filters emotions through my body reads so different to the user manual. how can anyone stand to pine for another when it's all anxiety, all day? "butterflies"???? really????? how am i supposed to know anything for sure when my brain's favourite hobby is to pick thoughts apart and run them through the distortion machine on repeat, on repeat, on repeat? i don't know if i've ever loved anyone at all, now that i think about it. maybe i'm an empty shell of a human and everything i do is an act of puppetry and wishful thinking.

i just gotta trust that the love is there, in some form or another. even when i can't reach for it and confirm its existence - let alone deduce a detailed taxonomy. what do you even need that for.

[conarcoin]

I was wondering, as I’ve always wanted to ask a tag wraggler, what could authors do to make your job easier for your side of things?

i can only speak from my own perspective but:

don't put tags like "ao3 stop using real names" or "where is the bbh tag???" etc, we added usernames for this exact reason, we can't do anything more because we have to follow site guidelines. all these tags do is create clutter

if you see something that should be changed, send a ticket, don't complain in tags (and don’t send asks to me about it). if you send a ticket support will send it along to us

"mentioned (character)" goes in freeforms, it will just be synned to the character if you put it in characters

just avoid duo and trio and ship names. please. they're a mess to decode and a pain to keep track of

don't combine multiple concepts in one tag, we can't do anything with it

"why isn't there a tag for..." you have to make it. 3 unique users = we can canonize your tag.

there's a "not rpf" tag, you guys really don't have to keep generating hundreds of "i mean characters not real people" tags for us to syn there

/ is for romantic/sexual, & is for anything else. "queerplatonic x" goes in freeforms, we can't do anything with it in relationships.

idk thats about it, i cant rly think of anything else!

[tsbs-shipfessions]

I sort of like eaps moon x eclipse

But in a queerplatonic manner, is that a thing?

When I first saw how they both acted with each other, I instantly knew I'm attached and there's no way I'm letting go unless I leave the fandom.

Though they did get into an argument, because of Eclipse's trauma (my man needs a therapy session with Earth even though she stopped doing those) which lead one mistake to another..

.. In recent episodes, they're interacting again.

I'd honestly love to see them bloom together, in whatever manner. I just like them alot.

Them playing a game together? Lit!

Both of them teaming up to find the missing children? More please!

I would confess with my user but knowing that the fandom is currently a dumpster fire regards relationships which aren't familial, I'd rather not risk it.

I absolutely see the vision, they could be adorable together.

And I hope once the fandom calms down a bit you feel safe to confess your user. I know there are people out there who love this pairing just as you do.

[our-alterous-experience]

if you dont mind explaining, what is alterous? (I hope I spelled that right)

Alterous! Aka Alterous Attraction is a type of attraction that does not fit within the boundaries of strictly romantic or platonic labels. For some it may be completely non romantic and non platonic but a separate kind of love within the larger spectrum. It’s kinda like the nonbinary/agender spectrum of attraction.

Sometimes alterous attraction can be very platonic/friendship based where they may never want to partner with whoever the user feels the feelings towards. They may also not want to be physically affectionate, or they may want to very physically affectionate. (I.e. someone may be aro allosexual and grow a strong bond with someone that is more than friends but definitely not romantic). That being said there are definitely QPR’s that are alterous and that’s apart of their queerplatonic attraction.

Sometimes alterous attraction can be very “romantic” or partnering based. Wanting to go on dates, being very physically affectionate (preferring hugs, kisses, cuddles, sex), investing in a home together, possibly having kids together, getting tax benefits off of each other.

Of course this is a veryyyyyyy like. rigid way to view relationships. Like platonic is just One Thing and romantic is just One Thing. you could do either of these things in whatever relationship you are in. The main defining feature is that the feelings are not as simple as being able to be prescribed to “platonic” or “romantic” labels. It may have bits and pieces of one of those things, it may have a bit of everything and more. it may have no platonic or romance involved. And this is without even including polyamorous alterous experiences. But those are just as vast as well!!

Coined in 2015 on tumblr it’s one of those terms that I’m glad stuck around until my lil aro egg ass found once i had cracked and I was like holy shit. This is what I’ve been feeling. Thankfully this also helped me come out as aplatonic bc i…. i don’t go there sisters im so sorry. It’s all just alterous love to me.