#qp

[hotch-girl]

HOW AM I A WHORE?

- AARON HOTCHNER, 2009

[lgbtqtext]

[lgbtq-userboxes]

Requested by sylvayex

[genderqueerdykes]

Can a relationship be both romantic and queerplatonic at the same time? If so, how might that work?

yeah it can!

relationships are very complex and people often feel multiple forms of attraction for one another. for example, some may feel a familia connection to their partner as their husband, wife, etc. as well as the fact that they are romantic and sexual partners as well. if relationships can be romantic and sexual at the same time, why cant they also be queerplatonic? queerplatonicism and romance aren't opposites! some people experience both of those modes of attraction at once! attraction isn't exclusive, you can have as few or as many forms of attraction as expresses your identity. they don't cancel each out or anything like that. same goes for genders, or any other queer identity, really. ur not limited to just one. hope that helps!

[killjoyous]

”I find that the mundane things are what are most devastating.”

the most absurd thing about grief is waking up the next day

[hermeticamente]

se você ama alguém                                                                                          fale grite sussurre escreva pinte em um quadro cante uma canção ou só toque violão coloca uma faixa no céu ou no mar contrate uma banda ou aqueles carros bregas coloque no jornal ou no youtube esculpe em uma árvore                                                                                      crie uma melodia                                                                                                faça algumas poesias                                                                                  escreve no muro   faça o que tiver que fazer                                                                                  mas deixe ela saber que você a ama

[pride-hearts]

Queerplatonic Hearts

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Got any advice for an aroace in a qpr?

I’m insane about them, i fantasise about living together and adopting a child but with no romance or anything.

But they're a fairly unserious person and i don’t wanna seem like i’m taking it “too seriously”

we agreed to get married for tax reason in the future, but when i talked to them about qprs, they said “haha! that’s like us :)”

please help should i bring this up and if i should how?

No matter the status, nature, or definition of a relationship: If you are thinking about quote “fantasise about living together and adopting a child but with no romance or anything.” You need to have a serious talk about the direction and definition of your relationship.

Regardless of outcome, a conversation is needed, and it does need to be a sit-down, shut-up and talk, conversation. It is serious. Marriage is a huge commitment, regardless of why you are marrying. It comes with many many many little extras that you need to discuss. And it needs to be serious.

[hotch-girl]

EVA GREEN as VESPER LYND

CASINO ROYALE (2006)

[lgbtqtext]

Requested by lxvenderjewel

[incorrectpot]

And also, one thought I had:

Holy shit, there’s three of them

[richesthermit]

queerplatonic Grian icons ❀ requested by 🩷🪻 anon! 🦜 ┈ art : 1. 2. 3.

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[genderqueerdykes]

I sometimes feel "invalid" or that im invading lesbian spaces bc my lesbian/lesboy attraction is "only" queerplatonic/aesthetic and sensual, or that i should have "more" attraction in order to be an actual lesbian/lesboy or to relate to lesbian experiences/songs

(not to mention that im also sexually n romantically attracted to men, and im a nonbinary guy myself)

i notice so many people who feel the same way as you, so i'll address anyone with this type of queer imposter syndrome, and then especially lesbians and lesboys:

there is no way to be not queer enough, or even "too" queer. it's not a spectrum in terms of intensity. if you're queer, you're queer. a butch lesbian is not more queer than a femme lesbian. a femme gay is not more queer than a gay bear. non binary people are not less queer than binary trans people, and so on! there's no way to be "not queer enough". being queer is the requisite, no one else can determine if you're not queer "enough" because what queer looks like for you and anyone else around you will be totally different, it's on a person to person basis

now especially when it comes to lesbians and lesboys, it really does not matter when it comes to how "intense" these feelings are. a lot of women end up living with another woman whom they generally identify as a best friend, that they do not kiss or have sex with, and don't really identify as partners, but do consider themselves lesbians/sapphic. some women consider themselves lesbians because they want to live with and be around other women and lesbians of whatever gender primarily, even if they are not physically attracted to women and lesbians.

some people believe that a lesbian being bisexual makes them not/less of a lesbian but that's not true, either. queer identities don't cancel each other out. a lesbian being attracted to a man does not revoke their lesbian status, their identity just has multiple layers to it. people do try to invalidate people from being 'real' lesbians all the time and this has to do with radfeminism and lesbian separatism. bisexual lesbians are not "less lesbian," and neither are masc and male lesbians, aromantic lesbians, asexual lesbians, queerplatonic lesbians, and so on

there are many ways to feel attraction toward someone. love comes in a lot of different forms. lesbians can be aromantic and asexual, so why not queerplatonic? lesbians do not have to kiss, cuddle, have sex, exchange pet names, or anything else romantic or sexual if that's not how they feel love, attraction, or experience relationships with other lesbians of whatever gender, or women in general

i hope that helps somewhat, take care of yourself, you're doing just fine. there's no check boxes that have to be crossed off, it's okay to do your own thing