#this might just be a neurodivergence problem

[thecornerofegg]

The biggest problems of being in choires and orchestras are that youll perpetually have the songs stuck in your head, and they will loop like in rehearsals when something just cant be gotten right and the conductor is spending 5 minutes on one phrase

Speaking from oh so much personal experience

EDIT: spending 5 minutes on one phrase is SUCH an understatement. More accurately it's 20 minutes on one and a half phrases

[sana090]

You know

I hart the Green Yuri Manga but I'm way too obsessed with Mitsuki to care about anything else

This happens a lot in media actually

I get waaayyy too Obsessed over a character and I just

make everything about them.

I either only watch things about them and their part in the story (Including skipping to scenes they are in and only watches those in a series)

orrr

I enjoy the story with them as a whole.

but this is a romance so I really wanna focus on everything not just Mitsuki

i can't really stop myself from getting really excited about a character though

[salty-software-engineer]

Man I just finished Babel and I was excited to read discussions online because there's so much going on in it with so many little things and just....angry white people. Everywhere. Truly a dead dove moment.

[megumi-fm]

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[drawnecromancy]

There's been plenty of slop shit books containing sex before now and there will be plenty of slop shit books containing sex in the future. I don't see what's wrong with it.

[notajoinerofthings]

for lent i'm also giving up wasting emotional energy on people who have shown me time and time again that i'm not a priority for them.

[undiagnosed-neurodivergent-chaos]

Y'all, if any of my teachers ask me something and I am in a position where I can't just say that I have ADHD (considering as I can't get a diagnosis right now), I might just have to say that 'I am clinically incapable of prioritising tasks'.

[wanderingmind867]

I return to school today, after having been off for the thanksgiving long weekend. And i don't know how to feel about all of this. I'm even half tempted to ask for well wishes or something, because of my current stress. Because as i mentioned before, i feel nervous about leaving school in the future (i don't know how to deal with reading and stuff in the future), so that's stressful. But also going to school is always just a nerve wracking thing. The wait for the bus is nerve wracking and i don't like to go bathroom at school, so i hole up in the bathroom before school. It's stressful sometimes. Also because i've lately struggled with feelings of insecurity regarding not reading enough. Because with this being my last year of high school, it's the last consistent year of reading for me.

[immortal-dreamer]

Quick musing but this is your friendly reminder that just because kids like something does not mean it’s “brain rot” or “a sign that we as the human race are doomed”

Maybe instead of immediately jumping to the worst assumption, try investigating into the things children like and give them a chance. Especially if you work in a place where children are constantly at like schools.

[ooc-miqojak]

People love to say they support neurodivergent people - but I've found that this is lip service, more often or not, because it requires a lot of patience - and the ability not to assume the worst about a person (especially in a digital space). Every ND person is unique, and has their quirks! But in an online space, I've found that people just tend to assume the worst about you, and kick you/block you/ghost you for your behavior or words, instead of taking the time to have an emotionally mature talk about what happened, and explain why this thing that happened/thing that was said was upsetting or problematic - you're never given the opportunity to explain that you meant no harm. Many of these people, in my case, I've spoken to at length when I was getting to know them about how important communication is - if I've said or done something upsetting, I can't read your mind! I have to know, before I can amend things, and adjust my behavior.

Sometimes I'm oblivious to what I've said/done, because my 'normal' is different. For instance, I love to debate - not argue - but debate. It's interesting to see others' POV! Variety is the spice of life after all, and if we all had the same beliefs and outlooks, that would be boring! But for some reason, most people seem to see a debate as an emotional argument? It's as though you can't disagree - not even respectfully - without people assuming you're angry or mad or attacking them. I don't understand people who get intensely emotionally invested in these debates (when they're not about typical hot button topics, as I don't do religious/political debates) - to me it's like a football player claiming someone on the opposing team was legitimately attacking them, not tackling them as a normal part of the game.

But I also don't engage in 'sub-text' as many neurotypicals do, either - to me, it's not only a waste of time, but a quick way to end up tangled in miscommunication. I say what I mean, and I tell people this... and they'll still apply some hidden meaning to it that is entirely fabricated... then get angry at me for sub-text that isn't really there. (When I was reprimanded in an online space earlier this year, I kept asking what I did wrong... and got told that I was arguing by asking what I was being scolded for/why I was being condescended to.)

ADHD people are regularly called 'passionate' - so much so that I almost want to roll my eyes when I hear it, now... but it remains a decent word to explain, for neurotypical people, our seemingly 'over the top' behaviors - be they positive or negative. And I've had people online assume I'm mad, or attacking them... when I'm just excited... or "passionate." Emotional dysregulation can be hell - some compare it to a car with no brakes. Normal people apply the brakes before the words come out - ADHDers lack those brakes. It means I try to be hyper aware, instead, and apply the Fred Flinstone brakes. I don't always catch myself, either - and in-person/on voice chat, this can result in things that seem rude - like interrupting others; but this isn't meant to be rude, and I don't realize I've done it! I'm excitable, and with the way ADHD works, I feel as though I have to get this comment out before I forget it! If I have to hold onto this thought, I'll either forget it, or spend the entire time the other person is talking trying to hold onto that thought, and miss what's said. But other people just tend to assume I'm being rude by interrupting - so I told a friend I upset this way that he's allowed to notify me in some manner when I've done this - because I don't want to be rude! I don't want to steamroll a conversation - and sometimes I need a gentle reminder that I've done so. I often jokingly compare myself to a jumpy golden retriever - I love people! But no one really wants a big dog jumping all over them, even if the dog means well - sometimes you have to say 'down', and the dog will stop jumping! They just forgot not to do this unwanted behavior because they were so excited!

Emotional dysregulation to me is like my emotions are a volume dial on a radio that was cranked way too high, and the dial broke off. The volume is permanently too loud - which is great when I'm happy, and devastating when I'm sad. But I don't get to turn them down, either way - the volume is stuck at max.

So yeah, sometimes people online need a little grace - a little patience, and for others not to jump to the worst possible assumption. Your normal isn't the same as everyone else's normal, and you might have to take extra time to understand where someone is coming from, and what they meant. Sometimes you might need to explain something that seems obvious to you, but it isn't to someone else. Sometimes that 'rude' thing that happened wasn't at all intended to be upsetting/rude, and talking to the person who said/did that thing can clear the air, and they can apologize and note that this is something they should not do or say, or that they should be more aware of.

Sometimes, the dog is just jumpy and excitable - not aggressive.

[nonbinarycalicocat]

im posting a lot this fine night (courtesy of insomnia that Does Not let me sleep when its dark only when its light) but i would just like to announce that my "need a schedule need a routine help help" autism and my "fuck it we ball" adhd are currently battling to the death on packing for a camping trip. that im taking this weekend.

[rattus-viridis]

The thing about ADHD is how you read about how the biggest symptom is forgetfulness and you will think to yourself, what a relief, I'm not THAT forgetful, it doesnt impact MY life too bad.

And this is because,

You will also forget about the things that you've forgotten.

A neurotypical will be like! Oops I ~feel~ like I'm forgetting something!

I CAN'T RELATE BRO MY MIND IS A HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT

[byanyan]

i've caught myself thinking once again about byan experiencing sensory overload without them recognizing it as such and realized that it's probably something that has them causing fights that they don't actually mean to start bc their reaction to the overstimulation is to just lash out over the tiniest thing... thinking about how these are probably some of their worse fights bc they can't focus well enough to perform while they're so overwhelmed... how inevitably they probably just run off and hide in some dark, quiet corner, dissociating and staring blankly off into the distance while they calm down...

[realboutfatalfury]

it might just be bc it's late and i get sad sometimes when it's late but i'm sad i like feeel soooo bad about several things and i feel like i want to cry but i can't ughh idk...

[amalgamationillustration]

My neurodivergent ass wants to wear headphones like this all the time but my also neurodivergent ass hates not being aware of my surroundings 24/7 in case there's a noise like the cat getting stuck somewhere or my partner falling in the shower or someone breaking in or if I'm outdoors someone following me or calling me or doing something suspicious. I want to block out all external noise and enjoy my silly little me time in my music or podcast world but I also don't want to leave myself open to not hearing danger or emergencies, you feel me?

[jules-van-hering]

goddamn, just found out that there seems to be a connection between the thyroid condition I got diagnosed with at 21 and developing adhd later in life. I feel like I'm a private investigator who's trying to solve the puzzle of my fucked up mental and physical health and I'm slowly getting to the core of it all