#this is not a unique experience however

[fanfictionroxs]

The one thing that puts me off watching dramas with hetero romances is the amount of hate female characters receive. Especially the main female character. And god forbid the main male guy has a bromance. Then our girlie will be fucking annihilated by shitty misogynistic fans. They want the man to receive his due respect, but if she gets treated like how a partner deserves to be treated, she's suddenly the homewrecker between the men's bromance.

Where she's called boring, her male counterpart would be called sexy and brooding. Where the guy is a poor little meow meow, she gets hate that he wouldn't get for even committing mass murder. The fact is that she gets hated, only and only because she's a female. That is her main crime.

She comes with her own struggles, but they're always ignored by the fans in favour of the man's trauma. She is always delegated to a prop who's there to be the male lead's therapist, mother, maid whatever. But she's not her own person and this is an attitude that even the creators reflect in the way she is written and portrayed. Reminds me of these lines from Labour: Just an appendage, live to attend him. This is basically what misogynistic fans want and what the creators happily provide and then she keeps getting hate. And I'm so fucking done with that.

[licollisa]

If you have trouble drawing clothing folds, wrap a tissue around your finger and bend it at the angle and position you want it to

[uncanny-tranny]

I think the thing that makes masking disability very complex is that often, masking is done to protect one's self, but you still don't know exactly how you'll be perceived by other people, and if you're safe in the ways you want to be. Something I've learned more and more is that... you often can't "fully mask" in the sense that there are certain blindspots you may miss. My flat, monotonous affect stems from autism, and while I can (and do) mask other traits, I can never mask that trait. But, the thing is that I don't detect that I am monotonous, and I only learned that because other people perceived me that way and actually told me. That's what I mean by masking only goes so far, often.

[shiningstarr15]

Alright I’ve seen enough takes on this and while I understand everyone’s viewpoint and validate it I want to give mine bc mine is probably a very niche perspective.

When it comes to the relationship between Gregory and Vanessa, I do view them as siblings. And no not in the umbrella way, not in the “this is the only thing that makes the most sense” sort of way, I mean they have sibling energy period. And I’ll tell you why.

Bc I do not view them as being immediate found family. At all. They have too much trauma both independently and with each other. I don’t even think they’d like each other very much at first. I feel like their initial relationship would be more of a ”you saved me so I’ll return the favor by helping you out” way.

Personally. I don’t think relationships with strong bonds should immediately go into something romantic or familial (maybe it’s cuz I’m raging aroace and very platonic/queerplatonic bc I know that’s an unpopular opinion) but in my eyes, you NEED TO BUILD A FRIENDSHIP FIRST. and I think that’s exactly what they’re gonna do.

They’re gonna slowly and gradually form a friendship, one that most people would think is strange and unusual bc it’s an adult and a child but let’s be fr neither of them are what you’d consider “typical” (yes I personally hc them both being ND. Again, this is my opinion). I also don’t think they don’t really give af what people think. So why would they bother putting a label that they don’t really agree with on them? No imo they won’t do that unless they truly do mean it.

Again, this could very well be projecting. But I am personally someone that doesn’t like being given a “sister” label unless it’s actually meant. Maybe it’s my extreme sibling complex. But I don’t think I’m wrong for feeling that way. And imo, I think overtime they would view each other in the way best friends view each other as siblings. I don’t even think there would even need to be anything legal. But if there was, she would be a legal guardian at best. Bc it still gives the freedom to identify how they choose. And to me, it’s very similar to Lilo and Nani from “Lilo and Stitch.”

Bc I think two things can be true at the same time. Vanessa can be a caregiver, and have some responsibilities when it comes to making sure Gregory is ok and kept safe. But also, she herself needs someone to take care of her. Bc she can’t. And while I do like the idea of Freddy taking care of them both, I also like them taking care of each other.

She definitely has aspects that could be seen as maternal, but I don’t view her as essentially parental. She simply isn’t ready. There’s too much trauma and a bit of emotional immaturity (again not a bad thing, she’s very childlike imo). I think she sees him more equal than that. Not someone that is helpless and needs to be watched 24/7. But someone that needs a little guidance every now and then. And that’s where I think looking up to her in an older sibling kinda way comes in.

She’s like a combined playmate and caregiver. An equal partner but also someone that takes on the worst of the burden so he doesn’t have to. Even though he will do so anyway bc he cares that much about her.

So yea, that’s my take on their relationship. Again, it’s just my opinion, and I understand people not agreeing and wanting something else for them. But this is how I choose to view them, and I don’t think that it’s wrong ❤️

[dragonseeds]

i didn't realize you were such a big fan of rhaegar, he's definitely a controversial figure in the fandom

i would classify myself as a rhaegar enjoyer or understander but sure, yes. that’s my guy, my black hole at the center of the narrative, my story within the story, my darling miserable failure, tristan and lancelot/guinevere and paris/hector and three different romantic heroes crammed into one singular person whose entire life was a chosen one deconstruction saw trap that he could never escape and ending up pulling not only everyone he loved but also the entire continent into with him. grrm simply went off in the character creation with this.

[marypsue]

One of my favourite things in writing is to take a character who takes themselves very, very seriously, and then just have the narrative and the other characters around them constantly highlight how ridiculous that is.

[chaseprice]

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[emmafaeru]

one of the things that's insane to me about terraria is it's lack of online prescence. it's the 10th best selling video game of all time. there's like 3 people who make videos about it. it's been around for 13 years. there's not even 400 fics tagged as terraria on ao3. 45 million people have played it. there are maybe 4 pieces of fanart somwhere if you really dig for them. and the crazy part is I totally agree. I have never wanted to create about terraria. I have rarely if ever wanted to consume content about terraria. this is a game I have a disgusting amount of hours in and I would give a very high rating of and I have never once gone feral over it like I have with other things I consume. terraria is this ball of awesomeness of a game mixed with this complete fucking undecipherable void of a prescence and i think it's insane

[devotion-between-the-wheat]

I do blame my.stic messenger exclusively for why a lot of dating sims nowadays have some form of text/chat system. and I do love the change, especially when the text styles reveal things about the characters and so on, but I am glad that none of them seem to have taken on the real time elements of the original as well.

[vang0bus]

the transandrophobia discourse is so fucking stupid. objectively transmasc people DO experience specific forms of discrimination - usually stemming from misogyny but sometimes from actual misandry* coming from, say, radfems - that transfem people dont. that doesnt mean transmascs are inherently more opressed than transfems. no one is saying that. it's just different. its ok to have different words for different types of discrimination. it doesnt mean its worse or more violent than transmisogyny, just that there are unique elements to it that are generally not a part of transmisogynistic discrimination. stop worrying about if youre winning or losing the opression olympics for a second and let people talk about their experiences

*no, i dont believe that men are systemically opressed and discriminated against. but if youve looked at a terf blog for more than two minutes you KNOW there are people who really, violently hate all men and think theyre literal monsters. yeah, this might not affect cis men in their daily lives, but it does affect trans men and transmascs, who unlike cis men are much more likely to be the targets of terfs and radfems who think all men are violent monsters

[maddymoreau]

Pokemon Egglockes are so much fun because they get you to care about Pokemon you’ve never even given a single glance:

The Team:

[bookwyrminspiration]

How is your secret Santa fic going? Do you think you will make it on time tomorrow?

I...think so? I'm trying to, at the very least! As of answering this, the fic stands at 17.6k words and I'm writing section 7 of 7. And having a frazzled delight of a time, because I've never written the kinds of things I wrote, but am also having a lot of fun.

The one blip is that I don't actually know how long section 7 will be. It's the uniting section, tying all the other six together, and while nothing significantly new is happening, I don't know what the story wants to happen. The other six, I had a destination and guided the characters that direction, but now the characters are kinda doing their own thing and guiding me, so I don't know exactly what they'll end up doing or how many words it needs

Then there's also the fact that I have *checks notes* at least 45 pages worth of writing to edit. So while finishing the fic and editing it to post tomorrow isn't an impossible ask, it's definitely not a simple one. I will be trying to get it done on time, but if needed I'll just take the extra time :)

Thank you for checking in on it! I am...curious, to say the least, to see what people think. You know. Once they wade through the several thousand words

[t4tstarvingdog]

and i feel transgender joy this holiday season

[myrtaceaae]

Ok I am going to be a bitch but I hate when people talk about "seeing lights flickering" or "hearing constant buzzing" or "feeling like *insert texture* is like sandpaper" and talk about them as if only one diagnosis of people experience that.

Plenty of people without that diagnosis experience it! In fact I would go as far as to say that neurotypical people experience that as well!

[activemagnesiumcream3000]

tryna figure out what makes us intrinsically human since it isn't love, fear, empathy, intelligence, capacity for learning etc, and have come to the conclusion that actually maybe there is nothing special about us and that is ok. and really it is that or 9/11 jokes so .

[saritawolff]

Phew. This one took, uh… a bit longer than expected due to other projects both irl and art-wise, but it’s finally here. The long-awaited domestic animal infographic! Unfortunately, I didn’t have enough space to cover every single domestic animal (I’m so sorry, reindeer and koi, my beloveds) but I tried to include as many of the “major ones” as possible.

I made this chart in response to a lot of the misunderstandings I hear concerning domestic animals, so I hope it’s helpful!

Further information I didn’t have any room to add or expand on:

🐈 “Breed” and “species” are not synonyms! Breeds are specific to domesticated animals. A Bengal Tiger is a species of tiger. A Siamese is a breed of domestic cat.

🐀 Different colors are also not what makes a breed. A breed is determined by having genetics that are unique to that breed. So a “bluenose pitbull” is not a different breed from a “rednose pitbull”, but an American Pitbull Terrier is a different breed from an American Bully! Animals that have been domesticated for longer tend to have more seperate breeds as these differing genetics have had time to develop.

🐕 It takes hundreds of generations for an animal to become domesticated. While the “domesticated fox experiment” had interesting results, there were not enough generations involved for the foxes to become truly domesticated and their differences from wild foxes were more due to epigenetics (heritable traits that do not change the DNA sequence but rather activate or deactivate parts of it; owed to the specific circumstances of its parents’ behavior and environment.)

🐎 Wild animals that are raised in human care are not domesticated, but they can be considered “tamed.” This means that they still have all their wild instincts, but are less inclined to attack or be frightened of humans. A wild animal that lives in the wild but near human settlements and is less afraid of humans is considered “habituated.” Tamed and habituated animals are not any less dangerous than wild animals, and should still be treated with the same respect. Foxes, otters, raccoons, servals, caracals, bush babies, opossums, owls, monkeys, alligators, and other wild animals can be tamed or habituated, but they have not undergone hundreds of generations of domestication, so they are not domesticated animals.

🐄 Also, as seen above, these animals have all been domesticated for a reason, be it food, transport, pest control, or otherwise, at a time when less practical options existed. There is no benefit to domesticating other species in the modern day, so if you’ve got a hankering for keeping a wild animal as a pet, instead try to find the domestic equivalent of that wild animal! There are several dog breeds that look and behave like wolves or foxes, pigeons and chickens can make great pet birds and have hundreds of colorful fancy breeds, rats can be just as intelligent and social as a small monkey (and less expensive and dangerous to boot,) and ferrets are pretty darn close to minks and otters! There’s no need to keep a wolf in a house when our ancestors have already spent 20,000+ years to make them house-compatible.

🐖 This was stated in the infographic, but I feel like I must again reiterate that domestic animals do not belong in the wild, and often become invasive when feral. Their genetics have been specifically altered in such a way that they depend on humans for optimal health. We are their habitat. This is why you only really see feral pigeons in cities, and feral cats around settlements. They are specifically adapted to live with humans, so they stay even when unwanted. However, this does not mean they should live in a way that doesn’t put their health and comfort as a top priority! If we are their world, it is our duty to make it as good as possible. Please research any pet you get before bringing them home!