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handsoffthefuckinshield · 7 months ago

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okay. the collective empathy level has lowered significantly

#🪖.words #this is a self defense mechanism #if we're being a little cold or distant it's not personal #this is a coping mechanism #system fuckery

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stop-breaking-my-heart-telltale · 8 months ago

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What can I say? They're my favorite.

#twdg #twdg clouis #clouis #twdg clementine #twdg louis #sometimes they creep back into my mind and i'm like 'ah yes' like a crow admiring a pretty stone they found years ago and kept #also thank you pi for the screenshots. i used to have a whole folder full of them but that was when i was doing themed nights #the source for these is me i just have a random document full of dynamics and ship things i enjoy because.....i dunno i like keeping track #and so many of them apply to clouis but there's also an overlap of with clouis and rose/alistair [my warden from origins and alistair] like #alistair's romance route is like an evolved matured and extended version of clouis sksksks gee i wonder if i have a type #look you present me with a character who deflects with humor and isn't taken seriously by the rest of the group and the longer you know the #the more you realize how high they've built a wall around themselves and how *unwell* they really are and how they're not as sunshine #as they present themselves and also they avoid leadership and responsibility until they grow closer with someone who pushes them #and they end stronger and more balanced as a person while finding the affection they've craved #and also there's the daddy issues #present me with that character as a romantic option and i'm in no questions asked okay i don't want the mean broody one that's meh to me #i want the one that has every reason to be broody but chooses not to be because they have a completely different defense mechanism #and a warped sense of themselves and self-esteem issues they leave unaddressed until forced to face them #i'm just saying i'm aware that i have a type i'm always going to gravitate toward clouis nearly checks all the boxes #also the lack of clouis these days? my crops are thirsty and i have too many ongoing projects to do anything about it other than this sksks #so until i make time to finish my long ass louis/clouis analysis this is the best i can provide for now

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torukmaktoskxawng · 11 months ago

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If Tsu'tey lived and met my OC:

Tsu'tey: Ah, another Suli, here to stomp around and make a mess of things.

Kayla: ... You seem nice.

Tsu'tey: You should go away.

Kayla: Nah, you'd miss me.

Tsu'tey:

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ventsesh24 · 19 days ago

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Me reconnecting with nature after crashing out today and contemplating moving far far away from people

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thespineoftherighteous · 1 year ago

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i know everyone and their grandmother has said "he's such an asshole!! (affectionate!!)" and while that's obviously fully true.. it seems to overshadow one of the most seemingly counterintuitive things about Neil which is that he naturally can be very polite. obviously they're not mutually exclusive qualities but i feel like it's hardly ever talked about. like from the beginning he apologizes a lot and occasionally has manners and shit, and especially once he gets close to the foxes he genuinely feels bad and guilty about lying to them and hurting them. I feel like people try so hard to make sure he's not seen as soft that the general idea has become that he's this verbally aggressive jackass who's only ever nice to like. andrew. but I don't think he is

#he's not really consistent either which i think is great #because people are going to want to go 'well hes only an asshole to people he doesnt know or care about' but no!!#he is still an asshole to coach and the foxes sometimes AND he has canonically been polite to strangers for no reason #and that's so much more interesting than a clean cut 'hes only a jackass to be mean or as a self defense mechanism'#qksjdhs now i think about it i feel like sometimes people are so determined not to baby neil that the turn to the other extreme #this is such an unnecessary post but I was just thinking about it and the whole concept amused me #neil josten #aftg #mine aftg

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daz4i · 1 year ago

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sometimes i fear i am filled with too much rage but then i go online and see. people so dedicated to their anger it is practically their entire existence. are you not tired? do you not feel consumed by it? it's okay to let go. your passion can still be expressed through other feelings as well. flames of emotion do not always have to burn you to ashes. please rest a bit and let them just pleasantly warm you

#i think. people focus too much on their anger at other people for being wrong #rather than love to the people being wronged #alternatively; it is in the place of self preservation. a defense mechanism from the unfairness of life #but you can't run on rage alone. you will burn yourself out #and actively adding fuel to the fire by looking for things that'll make you angrier... aren't you exhausted yet?#if it's a thirst for justice you seek you should still take breaks here and there just to exist #or else what will be the point of achieving it. yknow?#...idk if I'm being coherent i am very tired #and as you can see. failing to suppress the 19th century poet

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hyunpic · 1 year ago

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wtf what kind of pussy power possession is happening here

#IM GONNA DIE AND EXPLODE AS A SELF DEFENSE MECHANISM #mp #hyunjin #video

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pivsketch · 10 months ago

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doing research

did you know that a tree doesn't actually grow from the center outward? the center core is actually just inert wood, and the living wood part is just underneath the barks. also trees don't heal by replacing cells, they just cordon off damaged/infected areas and keep growing around it. waow. becoming an arborist just to draw "a cool tree" once or twice

#they become hollow in the center because only the living sapwood zone has self defense mechanisms #while the center heartwood part is not alive and thus vulnerable to microbe attack #something like that.

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when-wax-wings-melt · 1 year ago

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ohhh that's the thing that's the thing. that Sophie thinks of Fitz's anger as a mask the way Keefe uses humor but she can't accept that it might not be a mask, it might be an intrinsic part of him that comes with the package. there's Fitz and then there's his anger and you can't peel that fury away, you have to sit with it, with him, knowing that this is who he really is. it scares her. it scares all of them. to know him truly.

#not to say that the sweetness and selflessness is a mask absolutely not #it's that fitz is both sides of the coin. Keefe's humor is a defense mechanism but Fitz's anger is a reaction #he is sweet and he is also furious. these coexist. sophie cannot accept that. there MUST be a true self and that true self must be kind #but that's not who he is ....#(bites)#summer rambles #summer reads kotlc #fitz vacker #blorbo tag

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askmatthias · 10 months ago

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Since Louis remembers everything does that mean he most likely remembers all his deaths too?..

"Yes."

"Everytime."

( cw self-harm, s*icide attempts implied, blood )

"But not the perspective you might be imagining."

"... And, eventually, destroying 'me' wasn't enough."

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"He's what you might call... Delicate. So you and I will be keeping this between us. Okay?"

#ask louis #cw self harm #cw blood #cw implied suicide attempts #louis' alter type is Misguided Protector #so even his responses and reactions to trauma will vary just as wildly as matthias'#louis is just as complex as matthias and I lov him frfr #also having Louis respond to these asks specifically is another defense mechanism from matthias #who shuts down and becomes unresponsive while voicing louis #I hope this makes sense #I hav too much knowledge on DID due to my own experiences and studies #so I'm really glad can portray these complexities in a fictional setting #albeit these symptoms are a little more extreme due to the setting of idv #but I the mun digress #take ur angst HEATHENS

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pastelsapphy · 2 years ago

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day 8 in the apartment is just

seven: [trauma dumps] do you still think I'm hot

MC: yes

seven: no!!!!!!

#it actually made you hotter and more interesting #love me a sad flirty redhead who's real self is hiding behind ten layers of defense mechanisms and identity crises #mystic messenger #707 #saeyoung choi #mm #mysme #choi saeyoung #seven mysme #saeyoung mysme #707 mysme #luciel mysme #luciel choi #choi luciel #seven #luc rambles

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theophagie · 3 months ago

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I cannot for the life of me understand how someone could say that Verosika wasn't important to Blitz......... picturing my ex crying because of me in my own head and keeping a photo of us together in my "people I care about that I screwed over/am afraid of screwing over" folder just because apparently

#like are we not talking about the guy who pushes people away both as a defense mechanism and to pretty much self-harm #but hasn't actually gotten over anyone in his life ever. is it not him that we're talking about #and. that's also one of the Points isn't it #like. what he's doing now matters Because of how badly he handled everything that came before it. of course he had to care......#helluva boss #series #mytext #blitz buckzo

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crystalsenergy · 5 months ago

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the danger of (focusing only on) the Mind

in difficult moments

The mind has a tendency towards defense,

and with defense, being connected to this mechanism, in moments when we face some kind of threat, fear, or difficulty, the mind focuses on seeing the negative.

Since it feels that it is important to protect itself from everything, it soon understands that you must be on the defensive.

This is why pessimism tends to arise.

For in moments when something negative appears to deal with, the mind immediately wants to take us to defense.

It's as if the negative situation is, for the mind, a confirmation that everything is negative and that only evil exists. Hence the pessimism.

However, because it is an exaggerated state of defense, the mind falls into the traps of sadness, melancholy, aversion to opening up to others, generating anguish and melancholy.

Focusing on the heart, intuition, and feelings can save us from this. <3

For instead of insecurity, we will find some internal support and assistance. Instead of the inner voice saying that nothing is reliable, by relying on your heart and yourself, you can feel confidence in yourself.

It is important to remember that the more these things happen, the more the human mind deals with crystallized thoughts of pessimism, closing off from the world, defense, anger, and the need for isolation, precisely because it believes that life is only this.

Remember: you are not your state; states come and go, especially intense states that demonstrate phases of your life!

You are more than that. You are stronger than your own mind!

After all, it is only a part of you.

And the mind, lies!

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ask-ursa-tonypeter · 5 months ago

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[fic: wicked love] Tony, Peter - what are your favorite things about the way your relationship is right now?

Peter: Oh, man. I just… I love him so much? So getting to be-- open about that instead of pretending it's not there is amazing. And-- when I was Spider-man, one of the things that got to me about it was… getting to know him as like, a person? I didn't know how much stuff he kept under wraps or sort of… muted or angled or whatever about himself when he was just being "my dad," but getting to know all of him is…

He's so incredible and I feel so lucky and I don't think he's as comfortable with it now, being fully himself now that we're both on the same page, but I'm hoping, like-- as we keep going-- I just want to be able to show him how much I love him, y'know? All of him.

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Tony: …I love spending time with Peter. I never… I was always trying to prepare in my head for when he'd hit that stage where he didn't want anything to do with me, y'know, kid stuff, wanting to be his own man and all that, it's normal, but I wasn't looking forward to it.

It's… fucked up-- it's totally wrong and twisted but that he still wants to be close, that he'll come and talk to me about stuff that he wouldn't have mentioned before, that I get to see him-- grow up in all these areas that I'd normally be locked out of and I don't have to just throw him out of the nest to figure it out on his own--

…I know it shouldn't be this way. But I can't… not… love that I get to have him in my life like this.

#fic: wicked love #wicked love: tony #wicked love: peter #ursa interlude:#another one that they could not answer together #because the most interesting versions of their answers are not things they would say in front of each other #also a rare non-deflection from tony #he S T R U G G L E S with the contradiction between like #knowing that the healthiest thing WOULD be for peter to leave the nest and form his own identity #and have the independence to make mistakes and grow in a direction that wasn't under tony's influence #but then also feeling like it is so special and intimate and beautiful that he still gets to be SO much a part of peter's life and growth #look sometimes you gotta romanticize your incestuous relationship with your kid as a self-defense mechanism against your own screaming guil

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fighting-these-demons · 6 months ago

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The whiplash from moment to moment caused by the Bone Shattering Sincerity of this show makes it feel like I'm really being picked up and thrown into walls.

#This show activates my fight or flight -but because the setting's characters are so fucking positive and wholesome #The MC never gets bullied or wrecked for his cringe sincerity - there's NO NEED TO CRINGE because a Fist or Social Isolation isn't coming #But my body has been trained to do so as a self defense mechanism so it does anyway and just #This is SUCH a great show #It is SUCH a great show you should definitely watch it #Wind Breaker #It's a balm for the soul

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professionalpixiegirl · 6 months ago

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My heart still remembers the last time we let someone in, and the marks are still there. The wound still stings. I'm sorry this won't be easy. Maybe in some time, I will start unlocking my soul. Until then, can you just hold my hand?

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