#this has been a part of my life for a year and im realing

[drdemonprince]

what do u think about romance abolition? i recently discovered that i dont think romance actually exists as in i think every relationship every person has with anyone is unique and different. the concept of romance is rooted in a lof of our opressive systems and aphobia is inherently tied to it. i think these labels of being in a "romantic" relationship endanger everyone due to a percieved wrong clearness of what their relationship boundaries and expectations are and it also devalues "platonic" (and a lot other) relationships.

i also recommend the aromantic manifesto blog on here to kind of get part of the concept im talking abt

this comes from the mind of an audhd aroace trans person, if thats of any relevance!

thank u for ur blog an your opinions ⭐

I am fairly receptive to the idea that romance as we currently conceive of it is a recent cultural invention that is pretty ahistorical, and that is used to further the isolation of individuals from community. but also, I don't think we are going to get anywhere as a social or political movement in denying the feelings that a majority of people have, myself very much among them.

Even if it is all born of cultural conditioning, the cat is kind of out of the bag, and a great deal of us experience a romantic drive, romantic longings, close attachments that are romantic that we experience as distinct from non-romantic attachments, and view romance as a meaningful fount of inspiration in our art, sexualities, and even spiritualities.

I am all for a move away from amatonormativity and the primacy of the monogamous, legally committed relationship, but I do think there is something emotionally real going on there for those of us who experience it. I used to care a lot more about straightforward rationality, and after that about justice, but now I care a great deal about the emotionally felt reality of things, and the realms of life that are not easily categorized or known. I can't explain why the idea of romance is important to me, only that it is, and I personally have no desire in doing away with it.

perhaps I feel some of the resistance to the idea of romance abolition that some instantly feel when they first hear of family abolition-- The idea makes them uncomfortable because of what it sounds like, which is a threat to something that they are very bonded to.

I think on an institutional level it would be very beneficial to not tie social benefits or legal status to a person's romantic relationships. but in terms of my personal life? I draw very firm boundaries between relationships that are romantic in nature and those that are not, that is a distinction that is very important to me and I often feel really trampled upon by people who believe that no one should see a designation between those things. in most of the world writ large that's a very small problem, but I mostly run with polyamorous queer people who tend to see many of their relationships is a big mishmash of affection and commitment and friendship and that can get real fucking messy real fast in addition to being beautiful or revolutionary or what have you.

I think ultimately I'm a little bit more interested in providing the social supports and physical infrastructure that would make it more possible for individuals to form community in whatever ways that means for them. I think a lot of beneficial social changes and liberation would flow from that, rather than moving to abolish romantic relationships first.

and I really do get uncomfortable when a certain subcategory of relationally radical polyamorous queer people try to push against other people's romantic or sexual boundaries in the name of liberation; I understand if that sounds like a totally ridiculous complaint to you, the way a person complaining about veganism being forced on them almost always sounds like a overreacting cry baby, but I've been in enough toxic fucking communities since I was an 18-year-old to feel like I'm owed this grievance, and kind of want to give voice to it because I have seen people be abused in the name of otherwise really understandable ideals like these.

I think it is okay for a person to draw distinctions between their types of relationships, and to want certain forms of attachment with only certain people... there has to be a way to square this with a desire for greater community ties and interreliance. I need there to be, or it would not be a ideology I could really find myself safely within to be honest.

All that uncomfortable hand ringing aside, as a member of the asexual community and a person who does not form connections in a typical way, I have so much respect and care for my aromantic comrades and I do recognize how supremely excluded from basically every social practice and institution in the world you are, and how difficult it is for anyone to make family or build community for themselves in a world that prioritizes exclusive romantic relationships over everything. and I do really believe that fighting against that is a worthy and necessary project. I am perhaps just ultimately a bit less enlightened in terms of what I personally need and aspire to.

[wishingtoflylikeabirdinthesky]

Ok ok, the tears are dry, let's say some words

THE CHALLENGE

Oh Penelope, I've waited to hear your voice for so long and it was so worth it!!!!!! I love the quiet strength and determination in Penelope here. I've seen a lot of gross mischaracterizations of her over the years and this got her exactly right. This song is Penelope

HOLD THEM DOWN

Sweet fucm however dark I thought this was going to be. It was darker. Like I knew it was going to be real creepy but my gods. I was not ready for that verse about Penelope. Also also also the ending of course Antonius was the first to die That makes sense but still I am reeling from the shock of that Arrow

ODYSSEUS

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Okay, now that that's out of my system. Ody being the monster is giving me complicated emotions. Not bad ones but complicated ones. This was the song I was most anticipating cuz I have listened to the one snippet over and over again since it dropped. And it did not disappoint. I will say that like the righteous anger radiating off Odysseus every single time he killed one of those suitors was miraculous. It was magnificent it defied words. I'm probably going to have more thoughts about this, but it's 12:30 so I'll have thoughts later

I CANT HELP BUT WONDER

Ooohhhh Boy this one made me sob. Like a freaking baby. I thought I was ready. I was not. I was ill-prepared. I liked the note that Ody and Athena ended on it was very mutual respect and I liked it. The call back to how they first met also destroyed me utterly. Telemacus getting to meet his dad. I am unwell. I am sad. I am happy I am in the f****** walls.

WOULD YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH ME AGAIN

Yeah so this is my new bar for romance in anything ever. I cried the entire song. I just he's so nervous. He's so scared that she's going to reject him or send him away or hate him and she doesn't. She loves him always. The bit with the bed Penelope being clever and tricking Odysseus into acknowledging that. No he is still her husband and her having to like yell it at him. That she will not give up on him no matter what I am unwell. This has made me unwell. This is such a perfect finale to the whole show. The final I love yous are so perfect. I could not have asked for a better ending to a perfect show.

Jorge, if you're reading this, thank you so much for this beautiful piece of art that you've given us. Thank you to all the actors who lent their voices to this and gave these characters life. Thank you for reimagining this story. Thank you for making something really really beautiful.

[ghostly-kal]

Something something the hands that cradled you something something (im going insane over my dnd campaign help, the Dm is scaring me)

[blossoms-phan]

me rn after finishing my first read of amaaf at 3am

[dreamlogic]

aye can i get a fuckin uuuhhhh

break. on my burger

[noecoded]

If you could have any Asmo/reader fic what would be the things you would want from it? like an ideal fic would contain what tropes or AUS or situations or whatever

uhmm anything wellwritten that characterizes asmo similar to the way i do ! i rlly like character exploration , both more serious stuff & just sillycute...anything where asmo is a little cunning and toxic and also gets railed into oblivion.anything where hes a vampire. ill write a tag essay about the specifics

[gingerbreadmonsters]

its so important to me that you know how much ive already cried over this wip and its literally only been two days

[lesbuoyant]

everybodys all lets condemn people with Morally Impure Interests until all of a sudden you have an interest that is suddenly considered Impure and wanes in and out of Public Opinion for many years because nobody actually knows how to think for themselves online. personally i think we'd all be very lonely if we chose and broke friendships based on.... What Video Games They Like and like absolutely nothing else regarding the person's character

[orcelito]

As for my post this morning. If anyone was worried. Me personally I'm okay (I guess) but my dad's in the hospital and things r still very up in the air. So.

[doctorwhoisadhd]

wait these audiobook exclusive 12th dr companions were designed to appeal specifically to me .

[ssoupcup]

Imagining how 16 year old me would have reacted to not only the fact that I made it to 20, but also that I've become a wakes up at 7am on purpose and in bed by 12am latest person with a boyfriend I get to see every few weeks studying at my dream uni and honestly fucking thriving guys I'm so fucking happy this is amazing

[volcanogoblin]

:')

[cats-in-the-clouds]

it is unfortunate when i go to prayer and cry my eyes out and the only response i really hear is that i simply have to bear it. like usually i can get my emotions out and once they’re settled i hear a rational solution but it sucks when i don’t get the answer i want. i just have to keep waiting. like normally i hear something that gives me strength but wow apparently i’ve hit a new low

[musingmycelium]

. noncoherent but also thoughts

[oyasleepy]

hi guys. would you still love me if i got really into danganronpa 2 & realized komaeda is the exact type of character i go for. in the year 2023.

[freebooter4ever]

jeff sent me a few photos from yesterday - i like my pink bow ^_^