#this alter is aromantic

[midnightcrisisstuff]

actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.

[tremendously-crazy]

"No guy wants a girl who-" "No guy is gonna want you if-"

original image from @sirompp

[teleportzz]

hey guys do the allos know that they can have qprs too? like do they know that being alloromantic doesn't mean they can't choose to be in a qpr anyway? because qprs aren't "romance-lite" for aros, they're an entirely separate kind of relationship that anyone can have. you can do this with fictional characters too. you can put characters that aren't aroace or are even canonically dating in qprs with each other just because you think that would be a cool way to play with their dynamic. it's actually very cool and you totally should.

[wishfularoace]

does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok

[judas-not-that-one]

being aromantic is so confusing because i literally have no idea how i feel ever, actually

[dragondoodling]

When your actual label is not well know so you just use the broader label that’s isn’t quite right but you would rather people know what you’re talking about than explain yourself for the thousandth time

[twigstarpikachutroll22]

Reblog for something aspec to happen to you this summer

[isapun]

queerplatonic attraction is so weird. i wanna friend this man so bad. i wanna put him in my pocket. heck, I wanna play DND with him.

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

Let's go to the aquarium together and I can draw the sharks while you tell me facts like how sharks keep swimming even when they're asleep and you've got that excited look on your face and then we can go home to our house and cuddle on our couch while we watch our favourite shows and play video games and cook each other dinner and go to coles together and spend every moment of our lives together because the look on your face when you see me is infinitely more beautiful than all the sunrises we'll watch together

[chronicallyleggless]

Aroace (sunset) userboxes! (Full pack)

[the-aaaaa-battery]

Being aroace but also feeling a tertiary form of attraction (alterous attraction) was one of the most confusing parts of my identity to figure out. Before I knew what alterous attraction was, I only knew sexual, romantic, platonic, sensual, and aesthetic attraction.

I had a crush on one of my friends (and I still do). It made me kind of scared because at that point, I was 99% certain I was aroace, and I couldn't tell if I was experiencing romantic attraction or not. I didn't like the idea of dating and I didn't like the word "romance," and yet I also felt like I wanted to be more than friends with that person.

It wasn't until months after discovering I had a crush that I learned about alterous attraction. I liked the definition and I thought that if fit me best, so I started to use it to describe my crush. I felt way more confident using aroace again, because it felt right! And I had a way of explaining my feelings for my crush.

But oh my God, it was so hard to figure out.

Shoutout to people who are confused about their identity right now! Gender and sexuality is tough to figure out, but it's okay to question.

[tremendously-crazy]

Pov: You've never had a good, proper friendship before, so the moment you have one with a boy, you convince yourself that you like him, and then you do all the things people do when they like someone, (complimenting them, trying to spend time with them, talking to them, thinking about them 24/7), only for things to get stressful and anxiety enducing when you both confess to each other because you don't REALLY know what its like to love/like someone romantically and everything he does grosses you out and now you're just texting him for hours but he won't even look at you in real life and LOOK NEW HYPERFIXATION!! GOODBYE KID MY NEW LOVE IS SHERLOCK HOLMES

[starfishinthedistance]

If you're alloromantic and have ever said anything along the lines of "QPRs are literally just friendships, you guys are just friends stop trying to be special lol" then I am legally allowed to hunt you for sport

[luxlitemidnight]

Just a reminder that even if you know like, all the labels, you can still discover things about yourself. I figured out yesterday I'm oriented aroace (alterous attraction) when I've known the term oriented aroace probably since 2020 and have been dating my partner since 2022. Anyways, hello oriented aroaces!

[alterouslyinlove]

oh to live with your qpp. oh to be in separate rooms or bunk beds but always join each other if we need to. oh to dance in the kitchen and make meals together. oh to cuddle while watching a movie. oh to have our time to our selves but still be close to each other. oh to be able to say i love you irl and any time you want. oh to own a cat together. oh to go grocery shopping together. oh to sit on the porch and watch the stars together. oh to simply be with one another. wouldn’t that be great.

[mathematical-cheese]

"QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships are not inherently amatonormative because there existence challenges amatonormativity" and "the way that some people frame QPRs as inherently more than friends is recycling amatonormative rhetoric like 'they must be in a romantic relationship or at least a QPR because friends don't do that' and is no more helpful" are statements that can co-exist.

There are phrases like "romantic relationships for aros" that completely miss the point of QPRs and frames it like aros need to make up for not experiencing romantic attraction (at the same level as allos). Ignoring the way that some people treat QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships as a stand in or a substitute for romantic relationships is ignoring the hurt this causes non-partnering people.

Notice the nuance in what I'm saying. I'm not saying that QPRs are amatonormative. I am saying that the way some people talk about them is. Also notice I'm not talking on an individual level, this isn't about people who feels their qpps are more important than their friends. I firmly believe everyone has the right to choose what relationships are important to them and how important they are. I am talking about people who make generalising statements that do a disservice to the point of QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships and harms non-partnering people