#the privilege GRATES
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just had a cishet white dude complain to me that the business world doesn't take him as seriously if he doesn't grow a beard.
mf, image being a woman in this patriarchal society. no beard cheat-code. you just gotta deal with it and let your work speak for itself. 🙃
#the privilege GRATES#true story#male privilege#patriarchy#fuck patriarchy#also#toxic masculinity#the straights are so out of touch#on god#haley rambles#me irl#the patriarchy#feminine rage#fuck society#the straights#it boggles the mind
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Everytime I hear about a school shooting my mind goes to the disabled students, teachers, and personnel who can’t hide as smoothly as others, whose disability doesn’t allow them to be quiet and still, who can’t run…
I mean, obviously it’s a situation no one should be in but I hope there is something in place to help disabled people during a school shooting.
#this makes me just more grateful of my privilege of being European and living in Europe#jokes about school shootings are never funny to me#I really hope the us government does something for this#it’s totally wild#disability#cripple punk#cripple#cpunk#crip punk#disability rights#tw: school shooting#physical disabilities#mental disabilities#sensory disabilities#intellectual disabilities#actually disabled#disabled students
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also, as a coda to that post---my parents retired about a year and a half ago. It was a good decision for both of them, honestly; my youngest brother (the only one still living with them at that point) was worried that divorce was imminent, and even my mother will admit that it was a dark period.
After an understandable period of adjustment, my mother settled into her new life---she has a book club and a yoga studio, checks in on my grandparents and serves as support for my uncle, who takes care of the grandparents full time; she has reconnected with friends of hers from Back In The Day, travels around to see them, listens to more podcasts than is probably healthy for an adult woman; tries to get together with her children more.
My father, after that same period of adjustment....went out and got another job.
I share this not to shame my dad! But to point out that there's a world where we don't figure out that we're more than job-doing creatures. Where we turn 60, 65, 70, and don't know how to put down the burden we've been carrying since our 20s. I like work very much (for my sins) but I think considering it the only measure of worth is wildly inappropriate. A violation, really; a surrendering of something inimitable and incalculable. In some slantwise way, I pity my father for getting a glimpse of sunlight and choosing to head back into the cave.
(I keep thinking about that story---for years, a draft horse was put into a harness and taught to walk in circles around a central post. I think it was to power a laundry, or maybe a mill? Anyway, for years, the horse walked in circles, endless circles. Then when they put him out to pasture, the horse picked a random bit of earth and went on walking in circles. He didn't know what else to do.)
As a species, we're silly, useless creatures who are fascinated by taxonomies, weather, poetry, beads, colored thread, history, plants, and computer code. If we spend so much time at a desk or wearing a uniform that we forget this? I think it's very hard to get back.
#I think there's a touch of resentment too if I'm being honest.#I don't know if I'm ever going to get to retire; it feels like a personal insult that my father refuses to stay retired#you've been given this incredible gift! you have a privilege that so many people don't or won't have!#WHY ARE YOU NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF IT. WHY ARE YOU NOT GRATEFUL.#celestial emporium of benevolent knowledge
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orgasming just from the feeling of my clit brushing against my strap combined with the overwhelming rush that came from pleasing and taking in the naked form of one of the most gorgeous people i ever met underneath me will forever top the list of most mind blowing and pleasurable things i have experienced in this lifetime
#i still think about them and it has been 2 years lol#actually probably the best sex of my life#u see the weird individuals who hate pillow princesses will never know the pure beauty and eroticism that is the privilege of pleasing one#on a serious note i really have felt the most safe with my partners who were stone bottoms. they are beautiful people who remain in my life#i am so grateful for them and for the privilege to know and to love them!#ramblings#lesbian nsft#nblw nsft#wlw ns/fw#sapphic nsft#wlw nsft#nsft lesbian
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iconic bouncy era looks: @cordiallyfuturedwight edition
#ateezedit#atzsource#ateez gifs#kpopedit#kpopccc#maleidolsedit#ultkpopnetwork#useraimee#userines#userdimple#userzaynab#hicosmo#cheytermelon#tuserochi#majatual#raplineuser#*mine#hongjoong#san#tw flashing#it's already the 24th here so happiest of birthdays love#i can't lie putting this together put me through it#we do share half a bias line after all lol (and what a privilege it is too)#ugh them in this era was a massive serve wbk#i digress i hope you have the best day today & i hope it's filled with much love & joy#there's not a day that goes by that i'm not grateful to have you for a friend & i will never cease to remind you when i can#alright i'm done being sappy enjoy your gifts <3
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i recently passed the five year anniversary of the first time i wrote fiction, back in april of 2020, during the pandemic and the release of the seventh season of the clone wars. it's remarkable how much and how little my life has changed since i first copy-pasted plato into a word document and turned it into porn, the things i've been through and survived, the things obikin as a community has been through too. when i started writing fic, there were 4k obikin stories in the tag, and i'd read a significant portion of them. there are over 10k now, and the community has grown past and around me in ways that i am genuinely proud to have been part of. back in 2020 the idea of a kenobi show was silly to even imagine, getting new footage of obi-wan and vader interacting on screen seemed an impossible dream, and yet we had the remarkable experience of the impossible coming true. the summer of 2022 was one of the best and worst of my life, the struggle of dealing with recurrent cancer, but making so many new friends through obikin, bonding over the almost religious experience of those episodes dropping and the community frothing with excitement and ideas. i'm still astonished that i've managed to write 765k words and over 50 stories over the years, and i've been very proud that my stories have resonated with people. it means so much that people are still finding them to this day and finding joy reading them. it's given meaning to my life in very dark times, like in a very real way fandom has kept me alive in every way that matters. i appreciate everyone's patience and kindness as i deal with significant problems that have interrupted my creativity offline. thank you all so much, the community has given more to me than i could ever say, and i look forward to many more years to come <3
#just. thanks#it's been a wild ride#and i'm proud of what i've made and so grateful for the people i've met#those who have come and gone#i miss many people#but their presence was a privilege while they were here#fandom stuff#fanfic stuff
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it's always so obvious when a "leftist" was raised in a conservative religious household. they just traded one black and white rigid way of thinking for another. puritans with blue hair and pronouns. we get it, you're mad at your republican parents.
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Guess who just purchased Date Everything

#jane journals#self insert talk#crush: 💨#I'M COMING FOR YOU YOU SEXY CHUNKY H-VAC SYSTEM#and we'll see what other lucky objects can catch my eye uwu 💖💖💖#i just love a character who's obsessed with me and grateful for the PRIVILEGE of kissing me
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YOOOOO DAISUKE! congrats on the internship, tho how the heck did you end up in the freighter business??? didn't think that was ur thing... or that they did internships over there in the first place LOL. how's it been so far?
Maybe this is where I find my thing! Boss has me doing so much reading that my eyes are starting to huuurt. I've got to learn something!
Slight elaboration on the second panel in tags!!
#🌺.art#🌺.response#I have strong feelings about Daisuke's home life guys#what do you call a place full of privilege but lacking in love?#is that even home?#i headcanon that Pony Express was aware it was on the verge of going under and tried to preserve itself by seeking outside investments#Daisuke's wealthy parents were among those approached and they used their position to negotiate for Daisuke's internship#you can debate whether or not they actually intended on indulging the company#PE put Daisuke on the Tulpar because of Curly's prestige and Swansea's experience thinking they would be a good face for the company#//ooc#thank you sm for the ask! theres already a few I'm working on and I couldn't be more grateful <3 I rlly rlly appreciate the interest!#also there was a version of the first panel where i actually drew that kitchen. never again.#mouthwashing#mouthwashing game#daisuke mouthwashing#mouthwashing fanart#ask blog
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honestly, i'd rather have lando (and the other drivers who get so much unnecessary hate) to just go off the grid when its not race weekends, and give us absolutely nothing about their personal lives, than have people or "fans" film them every second theyre out of the house and call every move they make as a pr stunt or whatever.
#idk this might be controversial#but like#goddamn give it a rest#we're not entitled to know about their personal life in the first place#its a privilege to know what we do know#take what youve given and be grateful for it#and like if you dont like a driver dont go looking at their posts#is that so hard????#lando norris#ln4#gonna tag this as just lando#but im so sure im gonna have people screaming at me for this
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Proud to say I’m at a place where I’m very ambitious w my goals, but still very content w where I currently am. No matter my financial or academic or just any personal aspirations at all, I’m so in love w my life as it is and realize that it will be no objectively better when I do attain all the tangible things I want to attain. Legitimately so happy to just be here, surrounded by love and books and privileged to be studying and gaining knowledge. At the end of the day this really is all that matters to me. And this is a feeling no amount of money can buy
#I’ve always had a very healthy balance of ambition and contentment I think#I’ve only ever been competitive when it comes to academia bc that’s just hard wired into me#I’ve never felt much about somebody else owning more material things or having more opportunities than me#i do understand why some people feel that way but I’m also happy to be working hard for what I have#while also having a very solid family unit / being privileged enough to go after hobbies / living comfortably#and most importantly — having a strong home base to go back to if things go wrong#i owe my mom SO many things ok sorry I’m done. i just love her sm and am so grateful#p
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More silly memes we have made today for you 😵💫. Apologies for the poor editing, we are tired.
If we do not joke about these things, we will throw stuff!!!
Yes, that is our actual eye 😅. Lighting is not very good in the photos but hopefully it shows the “blue” well enough hahah.
Sort of ramble + information below!
“Blue” sclera can actually be a grey, blue or purple-ish colour! It’s basically when the white part (sclera!) in your eye thins out/becomes more translucent, and you start to see the blood vessels and uvea more clearly. It is usually caused by the collagen (which helps make up your sclerae!) being affected. It can be caused by multiple things, including iron deficiency, certain medications, and genetic connective tissue disorders like osteogenesis imperfecta, Marfan syndrome, Elhers Danlos syndromes + other disorders that cause hyperpigmentation of the uvea and general eye area 🤍. It is really interesting to learn about actually, would recommend looking into it! (/genuine but not forcing tone.)
Anyways, we are still on our diagnosis journey, but we’ve been told that we likely have (h?)EDS, MCAS, POTS, CFS/ME by our specialist. Goodness me what a collection… Now it is just a waiting game + probably a lot of testing too 🫡. It’s good to have potential answers though! Much better than the past medical gaslighting!! (/genuine but slightly bitter tone.)
#actually disabled#disability#disabled#complex disability#physically disabled#mhsn disability#physical disability#elhers danlos syndrome#mcas#mast cell activation syndrome#chronic fatigue syndrome#myalgic encephalomyelitis#postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome#don’t know if the POTS diagnosis would replace our IST diagnosis or just join it.??#honestly we are so overwhelmed lol#very grateful to have the help we are getting right now though#like it is such a privilege + we hope we can get to a point where we are well-managed enough to go try help others…#okay byeeee#disability memes#physical disability memes#eye cw#cw eye imagery#cw eye contact#eye contact
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#jun#oc#thank yew again for this patreon comm request im privileged and grateful to be paid to draw my own ocs
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FINALLY!! At long last, I've gotten my hands on a Pumpkin Kitty, after a whole year of wanting and waiting.
Her name is Latte! (Short for Miss Pumpkin Spice Latte) You can also call her Miss Spice!
#I spent 10 minutes picking her out omfg#not even exaggerating. I was deciding between this one and one of the last 3 unstuffed PKs#altogether there was only 5 of them left in the store including the 2 stuffed displays#the other one I was looking at had a nearly perfect pumpkin eye patch but less pumpkins overall#and their face wasn't as nice plus the ears were a bit wonky for my taste.#tho it was really hard to tell which would be better while they were unstuffed and flat#in the end I chose Latte because right away she looked to have a sweet face. her ears were nice and she had better patch placement#including a couple full patches on her tail#tbh if I'd had the money I might have bought both because the decision was hard#the bear builder actually asked if I was alright while I concentrated on studying each of those damn cats#I apologized and explained wtf was up with me. she was very understanding#I've always had this quirk where sometimes it'll take forever for me to pick between plushies I really want#especially if they're both the same exact plush. because then I gitta focus harder on finding out which has the better personality#you get what I mean?#anyways this has been a thing for me even as a real little kid#I remember spending and hour-hour and a half almost every time when my dad took me to choose my monthly webkinz#“my monthly webkinz” god that makes me sound so privileged. it was the nicest/best thing my dad could afford to get me because we were poor#he wanted to spoil me as all good fathers do but that was the most he could afford and I was always so grateful and still am! but I digress#anyways I took way too long to pick which kitty would become my Latte#but I'm glad I had the opportunity to choose yet alone to actually see pumpkin kitty irl available for purchase#what do you guys think of her?#stuffed animals#plushies#plushblr#build a bear#BAB#pumpkin kitty#viti's plushie#plushie: latte
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#aac#aac user#aac device#chatterboards#neurodivergent#neurospicy#nonbinary#transmasc#transgender#disabled#autism#nonverbal#semiverbal#head covering#gender queer#trans#accessibility#communication#ipad#high tech aac devices are a privilege#I am very grateful for#gratitude#veil#head wrap#queer#introduction#introductory post#captions
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And What a Privilege
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And you bleed into everything I am,
Everything I do,
Like ink bleeds on the surface
Of a still water
Somewhere within me.
There are no storms,
Yet the screams from the night
Seems to rest somewhere beneath its surface.
As if a primal cry could tether you back,
Rewind the clock,
As if love isn't violence
In the end.
In the end,
We all fall like the leaves
We used to catch from that old oak tree.
But no amount of wishes on the wind,
Digging through leaves and mud,
Screaming-
Could ever bring you back.
My soul is stained with you,
In a way that is heavy.
In a way I'd never be able to undo.
In a way that is my price
For how much I love-
How much I loved you.
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.. @nosebleedclub April 19th; lamentations/dirge
#poets on tumblr#writing#spilled ink#poem#spilled thoughts#original poem#sad thoughts#mental health#heartbreak#lovesick#poem prompt#nosebleedclub#lamentations#dirge#if we're talking about grief#i want in#did i cry writing this#yes#tumblr is my diary#the love never goes away#they live on in how they changed you#and what a privilege it is#to love someone enough#that they live with you#it feels heavy#but it's a reminder and i am grateful#and thankful#and i could write a thousand more things#but whether or not i do#it won't bring them back
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