#the privilege GRATES

[haley-harrison]

just had a cishet white dude complain to me that the business world doesn't take him as seriously if he doesn't grow a beard.

mf, image being a woman in this patriarchal society. no beard cheat-code. you just gotta deal with it and let your work speak for itself. 🙃

[majaurukalo]

Everytime I hear about a school shooting my mind goes to the disabled students, teachers, and personnel who can’t hide as smoothly as others, whose disability doesn’t allow them to be quiet and still, who can’t run…

I mean, obviously it’s a situation no one should be in but I hope there is something in place to help disabled people during a school shooting.

[notbecauseofvictories]

also, as a coda to that post---my parents retired about a year and a half ago. It was a good decision for both of them, honestly; my youngest brother (the only one still living with them at that point) was worried that divorce was imminent, and even my mother will admit that it was a dark period.

After an understandable period of adjustment, my mother settled into her new life---she has a book club and a yoga studio, checks in on my grandparents and serves as support for my uncle, who takes care of the grandparents full time; she has reconnected with friends of hers from Back In The Day, travels around to see them, listens to more podcasts than is probably healthy for an adult woman; tries to get together with her children more.

My father, after that same period of adjustment....went out and got another job.

I share this not to shame my dad! But to point out that there's a world where we don't figure out that we're more than job-doing creatures. Where we turn 60, 65, 70, and don't know how to put down the burden we've been carrying since our 20s. I like work very much (for my sins) but I think considering it the only measure of worth is wildly inappropriate. A violation, really; a surrendering of something inimitable and incalculable. In some slantwise way, I pity my father for getting a glimpse of sunlight and choosing to head back into the cave.

(I keep thinking about that story---for years, a draft horse was put into a harness and taught to walk in circles around a central post. I think it was to power a laundry, or maybe a mill? Anyway, for years, the horse walked in circles, endless circles. Then when they put him out to pasture, the horse picked a random bit of earth and went on walking in circles. He didn't know what else to do.)

As a species, we're silly, useless creatures who are fascinated by taxonomies, weather, poetry, beads, colored thread, history, plants, and computer code. If we spend so much time at a desk or wearing a uniform that we forget this? I think it's very hard to get back.

[melancholyfleurs]

orgasming just from the feeling of my clit brushing against my strap combined with the overwhelming rush that came from pleasing and taking in the naked form of one of the most gorgeous people i ever met underneath me will forever top the list of most mind blowing and pleasurable things i have experienced in this lifetime

[cosmicdreamgrl]

iconic bouncy era looks: @cordiallyfuturedwight edition

[intermundia]

i recently passed the five year anniversary of the first time i wrote fiction, back in april of 2020, during the pandemic and the release of the seventh season of the clone wars. it's remarkable how much and how little my life has changed since i first copy-pasted plato into a word document and turned it into porn, the things i've been through and survived, the things obikin as a community has been through too. when i started writing fic, there were 4k obikin stories in the tag, and i'd read a significant portion of them. there are over 10k now, and the community has grown past and around me in ways that i am genuinely proud to have been part of. back in 2020 the idea of a kenobi show was silly to even imagine, getting new footage of obi-wan and vader interacting on screen seemed an impossible dream, and yet we had the remarkable experience of the impossible coming true. the summer of 2022 was one of the best and worst of my life, the struggle of dealing with recurrent cancer, but making so many new friends through obikin, bonding over the almost religious experience of those episodes dropping and the community frothing with excitement and ideas. i'm still astonished that i've managed to write 765k words and over 50 stories over the years, and i've been very proud that my stories have resonated with people. it means so much that people are still finding them to this day and finding joy reading them. it's given meaning to my life in very dark times, like in a very real way fandom has kept me alive in every way that matters. i appreciate everyone's patience and kindness as i deal with significant problems that have interrupted my creativity offline. thank you all so much, the community has given more to me than i could ever say, and i look forward to many more years to come <3

[queenofnots]

it's always so obvious when a "leftist" was raised in a conservative religious household. they just traded one black and white rigid way of thinking for another. puritans with blue hair and pronouns. we get it, you're mad at your republican parents.

[hvackisser]

Guess who just purchased Date Everything

[hibiscus-intern]

YOOOOO DAISUKE! congrats on the internship, tho how the heck did you end up in the freighter business??? didn't think that was ur thing... or that they did internships over there in the first place LOL. how's it been so far?

Maybe this is where I find my thing! Boss has me doing so much reading that my eyes are starting to huuurt. I've got to learn something!

Slight elaboration on the second panel in tags!!

[revolutionsingingintherainnn]

honestly, i'd rather have lando (and the other drivers who get so much unnecessary hate) to just go off the grid when its not race weekends, and give us absolutely nothing about their personal lives, than have people or "fans" film them every second theyre out of the house and call every move they make as a pr stunt or whatever.

[idontmindifuforgetme]

Proud to say I’m at a place where I’m very ambitious w my goals, but still very content w where I currently am. No matter my financial or academic or just any personal aspirations at all, I’m so in love w my life as it is and realize that it will be no objectively better when I do attain all the tangible things I want to attain. Legitimately so happy to just be here, surrounded by love and books and privileged to be studying and gaining knowledge. At the end of the day this really is all that matters to me. And this is a feeling no amount of money can buy

[crippy-tangerine]

More silly memes we have made today for you 😵‍💫. Apologies for the poor editing, we are tired.

If we do not joke about these things, we will throw stuff!!!

Yes, that is our actual eye 😅. Lighting is not very good in the photos but hopefully it shows the “blue” well enough hahah.

Sort of ramble + information below!

“Blue” sclera can actually be a grey, blue or purple-ish colour! It’s basically when the white part (sclera!) in your eye thins out/becomes more translucent, and you start to see the blood vessels and uvea more clearly. It is usually caused by the collagen (which helps make up your sclerae!) being affected. It can be caused by multiple things, including iron deficiency, certain medications, and genetic connective tissue disorders like osteogenesis imperfecta, Marfan syndrome, Elhers Danlos syndromes + other disorders that cause hyperpigmentation of the uvea and general eye area 🤍. It is really interesting to learn about actually, would recommend looking into it! (/genuine but not forcing tone.)

Anyways, we are still on our diagnosis journey, but we’ve been told that we likely have (h?)EDS, MCAS, POTS, CFS/ME by our specialist. Goodness me what a collection… Now it is just a waiting game + probably a lot of testing too 🫡. It’s good to have potential answers though! Much better than the past medical gaslighting!! (/genuine but slightly bitter tone.)

[tynkrst]

[plushie-lovey]

FINALLY!! At long last, I've gotten my hands on a Pumpkin Kitty, after a whole year of wanting and waiting.

Her name is Latte! (Short for Miss Pumpkin Spice Latte) You can also call her Miss Spice!

[coffeexxcigarettes]

And What a Privilege

-

And you bleed into everything I am,

Everything I do,

Like ink bleeds on the surface

Of a still water

Somewhere within me.

There are no storms,

Yet the screams from the night

Seems to rest somewhere beneath its surface.

As if a primal cry could tether you back,

Rewind the clock,

As if love isn't violence

In the end.

In the end,

We all fall like the leaves

We used to catch from that old oak tree.

But no amount of wishes on the wind,

Digging through leaves and mud,

Screaming-

Could ever bring you back.

My soul is stained with you,

In a way that is heavy.

In a way I'd never be able to undo.

In a way that is my price

For how much I love-

How much I loved you.

x

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.. @nosebleedclub April 19th; lamentations/dirge