#the community label is there for a reason actually

[sepublic]

I remember hearing that Dana was inspired by True Crime, amongst other things and people IRL, when writing Belos. And it seems that contrary to the notoriety of True Crime fans, she actually understood the assignment.

Because she opted to demystify the serial killer as this dark, unusual psychology that operates outside of societal borders and rules, disturbed by some secret reason, and instead literally pull off the mask to reveal he’s just some white manchild who hates women and minorities to a violent degree, because he feels threatened by them and their ability to say No in his entitlement. There’s nothing special or unique about his motives.

He’s no exception to the status quo, he is it unmasked of the veneer of civility, he’s the lynch mob and the cop (all of whom inherit the violence of white supremacy and colonialism) and fittingly a lot of serial killers were clocked by women and PoC as dangerous, but cops —largely white men— dismissed their claims because look at this dude, he seems like an upstanding citizen! And that’s really how he got away.

And because his victims were people the system was less likely to believe because they both operated on the same biases, you see why a lot of cops who commit brutality are drawn to an institution where they’re given violent power over brown and/or queer communities who are labeled as ‘suspicious’, because they enjoy easy targets they know the system doesn’t care about, and are enraged by body cams and accountability.

It doesn’t matter if they’re intentionally bigoted, their support of an inherently bigoted institution makes them the same; Internalized biases and “I don’t see race” and all that. You see how Philip wanted to be a witch hunter —the prototypical cop who is not exclusively violent towards women but still has a clear slant— or colonial savior so bad, because his violence could be legitimized by the authority of the state.

He leans into it hardcore when he feels threatened by the presence of an outside girl who challenges the Christian narrative of Gravesfield, to the point of violence; It’s a position that validates killing anyone who doesn’t agree with him in general, hence Caleb and the Grimwalkers, but of course his and society’s biases slant towards women and PoC. And while it ultimately doesn’t matter whether he’s intentionally racist/misogynistic, it’s worth addressing that he very much does have the intention due to his blatant Conservative backdrop.

And seeing how charming Philip is and the portrayal of him as a little kid playing games in his youth, a perception Caleb might’ve still had which led to his death, I can see the direct line to families who find out their sons are school shooters and are in disbelief because he was such a nice kid! While ignoring the obvious Red Flags because white men are allowed to express these without being immediately scrutinized by the community, by having it brushed off. On some level cops don’t suspect him because he’s the same type of guy as them.

Part of that denial comes from the fact that he’s not an “unfeeling sociopath” who’s wired differently. Philip can feel empathy and guilt like anyone else, but he’s still a hateful prick and these aren’t mutually exclusive; Not when people can be perfectly selective about who they extend these feelings towards, or even do things in spite of these feelings, because other ones —anger and pride and hatred— exist and they choose to prioritize those. There’s an assumption that empathy and guilt inherently make you a good person, but they don’t; That ultimately comes from what you do about it, not how you feel.

You could even say Dana and the other writers wrote him too well, because true to life, we have a similar issue but on a micro-scale via the abstraction of fiction regarding a very dedicated fan base who loves to romanticize him and his actions, attributing his issues to some secret trauma in childhood, a young man failed by society! While also scrubbing him of his racism and misogyny and reliance on the status quo, to make him ‘apolitical’ and you can see the same not just with fans but also in society.

Because society doesn’t want to acknowledge serial killers as just the truth behind their white sons and the system that absolved and encourages them, because that would require them to admit their guilt in how they’re structured. Rather, they’ll say these men reflect some dark truth inherent to humanity, and don’t exist within a certain sociopolitical framework.

And so he was a ‘loner’ whose problems can be pathologized via mental illness, his trauma can be traced back to a specific incident in his youth he just couldn’t get over. So you see how school shooters are made into victims, how serial killers are also made apolitical and even alien to distance them from the status quo.

And then you can lean into how unusual they are by writing characters like Dexter or Hannibal Lecter, you can not just defend the system but feed into it via the commodification of their violence as entertainment and consumption, and thus fuel the white supremacy train by letting their violence towards women and minorities be praised as something fascinating and interesting and conveniently clean of bigotry. This is the dichotomy of the hypothetical, romanticized Fantasy Serial Killer, and the banal IRL Serial Killer.

Thus we have the same cycle of white men’s violence being praised and validated by the system, and white men feeling entitled to this fame as a delusional fantasy. Because you’ve never heard of a black serial killer; Because black people are violent, that’s just the way they are, right? But if white men are violent, this is sensationalized as somehow unusual and fascinating and worth dedicating countless books and shows and movies towards. Obviously.

And even going back to witch hunters, sometimes I wonder about the constant consideration of, What if witches did exist? What if they were evil? Things like The VVitch or The Conjuring series, which have some framing of the Salem Witch Trials’ IRL violence towards women as legitimate in another universe, because of Satanism’s genuine predatory threat towards women, and how evil women sacrifice theirs or others’ God-given gift of a child, and now threaten another white Christian family.

And again there’s the the demystifying of the real life witch hunter too when we have a historical reenactment declare verbatim that IRL witch hunters were motivated by economics and other banal factors, not by any genuine belief in the dangers of demons; And even in a setting where the demons were real, they were not the predatory threat IRL witch hunters made them out to be, and so their very real biases and ulterior motives still apply in cumulative insincerity.

Hence, the Titan correcting Luz by explaining Belos as someone who only cares about being the hero in his own delusion; The fascist wet dream of a hidden invader here to corrupt even young white men, an outside monster to vanquish and whose destruction justifies the state, when in reality the monster IS the state, and before he was even presented as a witch (much less the human truth), his system’s destruction was called for.

Ultimately, a lot of True Crime and similar narratives are criticized for focusing more on this apparently inevitable mystique behind the perpetrators, who warrant far more attention than their victims. So when the villain is an example of True Crime, it’s worth noting how the show is so much more focused on the ‘weirdoes’ he targets, on women and/or PoC. The lives of Luz Noceda and her friends, them getting along and their psychologies, are just so much more important, and it really isn’t about that guy, who is informed as much as he needs to be.

But again, the True Crime fans dilemma; People genuinely salty at the show for not focusing on their favorite serial killer and his troubled backstory, his tragic motives and Puritan repression. The framing of his murders and motives isolated through the lens of his violence on undeserving white men, and not on the out-group he is specifically targeting and has committed much more violence on, esp if you look at the narrative’s actual framing of his impact on our protagonists, but also other victims who are witches or demons, and even his own self-professed motives; Hence, ‘Fratricide Georg’ as a joke depoliticized of his colonial violence, a violence that is not just adjacent to but fulfilling racism.

Because he hallucinated only those white men out of guilt, but that’s his biased perspective and priorities; And so you see how this is contrasted with a refusal to empathize with people like the Collector or Luz, who are put into the same situations as his white male victims via shared cinematography, yet are just as rejected. Luz is only put into this situation as convenient to Belos’ narrative, the closest replacement to a white male human he can get, but again if this girl of color says No, he tries to murder her and even does.

Yet again, people take genuine, personal insult at the creator for finding Belos to be her least favorite character to write, while ignoring that she still found him necessary to the story she was trying to tell; She just found the framing and focus should’ve been shifted to his actual victims’ deep and meaningful lives, how they matter. So people hate that S3 cares more about Luz Noceda’s relationship with her parents of color, as well as her female mentor and demonic brother, or her queer relationship with her girlfriend, etc.

And even when they get a bone of white boy Hunter, it’s still not enough; Fans inevitably gather themselves into an almost frenzied state of personal victimization, rallying into harassment of PoC who criticize their portrayal and discussion around their colonial serial killer fave, organizing dedicated trends and months to giving their white men the focus they ‘deserved’, because this is just White fandom in general.

Look at the entitlement campaigns regarding Ben Solo or Billy Hargroves deserving better, these young white men violent to women and minorities. It’s just the same thing but on a micro-scale, at least filtered via fictional characters. But Jesus you see how internalized biases bleed into everything. You’ve never heard of a black serial killer and fandom doesn’t fight for characters of color.

[thescreamcorner]

Yeah so, one, i didnt ask. Im trying to not sound overly bitter but bringing up "doctors can be wrong and so can research" on a post about why *self diagnosing is not a good course of action in most cases* as a point to why im wrong is kinda tone deaf at best.

Two, im typically against self diagnosis at all, and at most consider myself "pro self recognition", but i also know that people often treat that as synonmous. That's not coming from a place of "trying desperately to police people" or having been privileged enough to get to see doctors early on - thats coming from having been on both sides of the coin at this point in my life.

Of having considered myself "self diagnosed" growing up and facing an ass load of problems because of it and the spaces that foster it. Of learning through professional diagnosis that, in spite of me being right about *what* was wrong, the reasons why that diagnosis was accurate were near ENTIRELY outside what I understood of any of the disorders. Of getting utter whiplash and having to reevaluate everything I knew from spaces that refuse to address misinformation.

My point isnt about "you need to meet MY criteria >:(", its that, speaking from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, self diagnosis - let alone when it comes alongside trying to find a space to 'belong' - can and will open the door to problems for the person doing it if not handled with care.

First and foremost, the goal should be to heal and cope as best as can be expected, regardless of what disorder the person has. And if mental health spaces fixate on validity culture and spread anti recovery, anti psychiatry rhetoric, then it will continue to create a dangerous echo chamber and turn actual mental disorders into quirky community labels and people who actively need help will turn away from seeking it.

Additionally..... the solution to "some professionals can be wrong" is to seek a second opinion, not to double down and reject healthcare altogether.

Gentle reminder that the only reason you should ever "self diagnose" is when you have done thorough research about the diagnostic criteria, you are facing uncontrollable/long term limitations to accessing proper healthcare, AND are only using that to try to better understand your health or be better understood by people in your personal life.

Self diagnosis in many cases will be incorrect due to your own personal biases and interpretations of the medical text. It should not be a means of inserting yourself into online spaces as "one of them", it should not be a replacement for medical care, it is not an excuse to ignore or avoid available resources, it does not validate spreading anti-recovery rhetoric that pushes disordered individuals away from seeking the help they need, and it should never be a technique to bypass putting in the time, energy and work to find a proper yet affordable doctor.

Diagnosis-- let alone accurate diagnosis-- takes time, getting a care team that listens takes self advocacy, and you will inevitably meet at least one doctor during your journey who is dismissive or even bigoted. That's the unfortunate nature of living in a society that does not properly accommodate the people within it. But that doesn't mean that every good and reasonable doctor is locked behind a classist/ableist paywall, it just means you need to be patient with yourself, take slow steps forward and work on what you can do to get to one in the meantime.

[and-his-hands-were-24-crows]

NOT. TALKING.

Three seasons, three variations on everybody's favorite renewal joke. Thank you everybody who joined me today. It's been a normal one.

[alevens]

zolu is maybe one of the easiest ships i've ever liked. they're dating, except when they're not, they're best friends even when they're kissing and they're still captain and first mate when they aren't. they hold hands, they hug. they have sex. they don't.

Luffy can hold Zoro's katanas and Zoro can hold Luffy's strawhat and no one bats an eye. one says "You're so cool!" and the other says "You're strong" and it's just another way to say "I see you, this is why I follow you/this is why I trust you". it's not seeing each other for a long time and still knowing how the other's steps sound like against wood and sand. the captain runs and the first mate follows. it's always "Zoro and the others" and "Where's Luffy?"

if they're just friends, if they're something more, if they don't have a label for it, at its core, it's just about how they get each other. they understand how the other's mind works. however you view them, it doesn't erase they fact that they love each other in a way they don't love other people.

[flufflecat]

happy pride month, im so glad to see people doing fun new varieties of ace discourse this year -_-

[daddyd0nt]

Again, its not okay to put unlabeled kink on an art/aesthetic blog any more than it is okay for a man to whip out his cock on a bus. You are literally the e-equivalent of a flasher/public masterbator. And I DID pick what was on my feed, I did not follow a kink blog so I should not be seeing kink content. Again, the only reason to not separate that kind of content into an 18+ blog is because you get off on exposing people who dont want to see that shit to your kink. Its literally exhibitionism.

"You not hearing that traditional patriarchal sex roles make my giney tingle makes it harder for actual victims" actually openly fetishizing rape makes it harder for women to report because it spreads the idea that the woman wanted it/that the man "misunderstood" and "thought it was a kink scenario".

You didnt post challenging/provocative art/literature you are not some persecuted cutting edge artist you are a common gooner who does not know the time and place for their sexual fantasies.

Again I have no problem with your fantasies, my problem is with you feeling entitled to shove your kink in the face of trauma survivors and minors and other nonconsenting parties. THAT is entitlement. Stop projecting the fact that you are humiliated for being called out on your unacceptable behavior and just be a responsible adult for like literally the minute and a half it takes to create a throwaway. Unless part of your kink is showing people who do not consent to interacting with that kind of content, there is literally no excuse to not just put it on an appropriate blog for people who want to interact with those posts. At the very least you could tag it "nsfw" or "kink" or something like you dont get to do zero work to consume and share that content in an acceptable forum and then act indignant when people rightfully point out that you are not behaving like decent member of the community. Again im literally a writer specializing in extreme horror often revolving around the topics of SA/CSA, its very upsetting adult content and a lot of people get angry/offended about it but guess what? I sequester that shit to a place where people who want to interract with it can, and people who dont can avoid it. Because im a responsible adult with courtesy for my community.

Nobody is asking you to not share or indulge in kink content, you are literally being asked to label those type of posts to avoid exposing nonconsenting people to it and you are throwing a big fat toddler tantrum "Waaah I want to goon in public"

Sequestering shit to a kink blog is one thing but why TF are there multiple people on my timeline sharing rape-fetish text posts I hate it heal your fucking selves or at least contain it somewhere private if i follow you for fandom art i dont need to read how you want somebody to spank your clit while you pretend to be committing incest channel it into art or keep it separate

[steakout-05]

(quick clarification: this post is specifically about neurodivergent transmeds refusing to use people's neos out of an apparent disrespect and using their neurodivergence as an excuse to legitimately be mean. feel free to add more stuff onto this in the replies!)

hey guys don't mean to be queer on main but i think people using their neurodivergency as an excuse to misgender people isn't ok actually.

i've seen stories of quite a few people who use the fact that they have ADHD (or some other condition that may cause memory issues) and can't remember things well as an excuse to "forget" someone's neopronouns, even after being asked by that person multiple times to refer to them with those pronouns. this isn't ok on so many levels.

first of all, i think it's incredibly guilt-trippy to make someone feel bad about accidentally being ableist by expressing themselves, when in reality, they haven't done anything wrong at all. using funky and obscure pronouns is not ableist in any way just because some people might have issues remembering them, and i think the take that neopronouns are ableist, especially for that reason, is an incredibly ridiculous and purely situational excuse to be mean.

that's like if someone told you their name, and then you got mad at them for using that name because you struggle to remember it and you demanded them to use a name that's easier and more convenient for you to use, rather than the name that the other person feels comfortable with. that's not an accommodation, that's just being an asshole.

second of all, some neurodivergent people (such as autistic people for example) struggle with change and complex concepts like language and pronouns. it's hard to get used to using neopronouns or someone changing their pronouns sometimes, especially when it happens for the first time because you're so used to it. however. finding change hard is NOT an excuse to misgender someone for your own comfort. someone's deeply personal identity should not be the cost of your own convenience, and refusing to acknowledge and respect that identity by not doing the bare minimum that is using their pronouns is incredibly close-minded and harmful.

third of all, the way someone chooses to express themselves is literally none of your business. someone uses pronouns that are confusing and seem grammatically incorrect to you? none of your business. someone's using "stereotypical" pronouns that "make the queer/autistic community look silly"? not your problem. we're all a little silly.

if you're neurodivergent and you find neopronouns, or any pronouns, difficult to remember or understand, here are some tips you can try instead of being mean:

make a fun little chart of people's names, their pronouns and how to pronounce them (ex. Name | Pronouns | Pronounce)! colour code them, use stickers and drawings, anything that will help you remember which pronouns someone uses. stuff like whiteboards and docs can work well for people who frequently change their pronouns or have a lot of them. making the chart fun, personalised and memorable can help a lot with memory issues for a lot of people.

try practising saying or typing their pronouns, whether that's in the mirror or in group chats. there's some really good pronoun dressing room websites that help illustrate how to use more obscure pronouns in conversation.

feel free to ask people! if you can, ask them what their pronouns are and how to pronounce them. i'm sure they will not be mad and will gladly help you learn :) (though please remember to not out someone and their pronouns if they are in an unsafe place. make sure they feel comfortable first before asking/telling someone about their pronouns because some spaces can be really bigoted and unsafe unfortunately.)

make a character that has neopronouns! making an OC that you get attached to can help you familiarise yourself with the concept and referring to that character frequently with their pronouns!

hopefully this is helpful. if you end up seeing anyone in the neurodivergent community use their neurodivergence and an excuse to misgender someone, please block them and don't start an argument. bigotry will not be tolerated in this community or on my blog.

disclaimer: this post is NOT saying that having memory issues/issues with change makes you a bad person, nor does it make you intentionally ignorant and rude. this post is specifically about people who willfully refuse to respect and use someone's correct pronouns on the basis that they're neurodivergent and find them confusing, and choose to intentionally misgender people for their own comfort/convenience.

edit: also!! i should add that this post isn't saying that nd people who legitimately find neopronouns as a concept difficult to grasp (such as people with learning disabilities) are bad people either! that was something i didn't think of when writing this because this post is more about neurodivergent transmeds/transphobes i've seen in the queer and nd communities specifically, but yeah!! i think accommodations absolutely should be made if a neurodivergent person finds themselves having communication difficulties related to neopronouns because some disabled people actually cannot use them. for extra clarification i have added a disclaimer at the beginning of this post. (thanks to @zolf for pointing this out in the notes)

[transgendercastiel]

There have been studies done that show how many autistics, even if not aware of their autism, know that there is something different about them from a young age.

I resonate with this personally, as I always felt a sense of alienation from my peers (if you can call them that), whether this was enforced by other’s actions or their reactions to my own. I believed that there was something different about me, dreamt that in reality I was some alien put on this earth by accident, and would be swept away into space to meet a species that finally understood me. As I got older, and those my age became more exclusionary and judgemental towards me, the belief that I was different changed from a neutral fact to something with wholly negative connotations. I wasn’t ‘different’, I was wrong. Over time, these beliefs were ingrained into how I interacted with the world. By the time I found out I was autistic it was already too late.

While I of course understand the perspective of those parents who wish not to label their children, I honestly believe that they will end up labelling themselves anyway. It’s just that instead of ‘autistic’, it will end up being ‘weirdo’, or ‘broken’, or ‘mistake’.

[punkalope]

Man I really hate not knowing what to do with my art. I want to share and post it but I feel like only my fanart is worthwhile and I don't really draw that much anymore. I do sometimes, but even then I'm like eh...

Yes this is another I Miss Having Art Sites Post. Because I didn't have this issue when I used B*zzly and Sheezy lol. I posted a ton of my art in bulk and knew someone would see it and enjoy it and I actually got quite a few compliments on my pinups (which is my favourite art of mine but I can't post anywhere because I can't filter it from any younger people...)

[faaun]

hi! this is unrelated to the situationship but i’ve been going through a crisis about whether i’m bi or a lesbian for like six months now lmao and iirc i think you went through something similar once, so i was just wondering if you had any tips or advice about how you figured it out? tysm!

hiii i did ! i went thru this crisis like 3 times b4 i figured out i was bi, it can genuinely rly be difficult to figure it out it :)

i'd say keep in mind that it's not important to have a label rn - just keep urself open to exploring new feelings ! but also if u want to figure it out faster, spending more time w both men and women - esp those u think you might find more attractive - might help ! for me it was having guy friends, going to clubs, dating, etc, but it can truly be anything :) since starting a hinge profile i've been seeing quite a few men that i found super pretty which confirmed things even further for me (if you go down this route remember that dating app algorithms take a while to adjust)

also remember that ur standards for men may be different, and you may have an intense preference for women which wouldn't make you any less bi ! similarly, if you genuinely cannot imagine a future or conceive of any romantic/sexual attraction between u and a man, then you may be a lesbian ! the point is that u can date ppl and find out !! ♡ also labels can change as u learn abt urself over time so it's all good if you can't land on one definitive label rn forever, it takes time and life reveals new things to us all the time 🩷

while i like knowing that men are like...within my dating pool now, since realising i'm bi basically nothing has changed for me bc i still find women so so much more attractive, so it's good to remember there truly is no rush ! take ur time experiment have fun x

[pepprs]

prefacing this by saying im fine and its whatever and im mostly numb to it. but it kinda fucking sucks that being gaslit about my own sexuality leads to… doubting my own sexuality lol!

[hag-lad]

Holy fuck, all of your takes about homosexuality are DOGSHIT today, kiddos. Has “queer” in-fighting fully circled back around to become pure homophobia? It’s more likely than you think!

[hypnosiacon-archived]

OTGodear: An umbrella term centered around music created by One True God, it's vibes and themes.

[elytrafemme]

a few days ago i had the epiphany of like, okay, i’m not kidding anybody here and the only people disagreeing with me are figments of past people who float around in my head. i have BPD. and it would take a major fucking overhaul of my entire life and the way that i have operated for seventeen years to say any different. so instead of me saying BPD with fifteen asterisks specifying i am not technically sure and this is medically recognized but not professionally diagnosed etc etc let me just say i have it.

and then now i’m like oh God but what if i don’t have it

[enobariasdistrict2]

listen it's great that cory has such intense feelings for topanga and they are truly childhood friends to lovers excellence but it's like.... you're both a little young for "i love you" lmao. topanga had a point about the relationship going too fast

[anendoandfriendo]

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