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Suspected (and possibly self diagnosed) NPD is having a second disorder that affects your NPD, so one criteria doesn't exactly fit (ex. having high empathy), but you're unsure, so now you're constantly worrying that you're faking having NPD even though it explains a lot of your feelings and behaviors.
(PS. please let me know if this is invalid or not!)
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#thats completely valid#comorbidities will almost always have an affect on the overall presentation of symptoms#npd culture is#questioning npd culture is#npd#actually narcissistic#actually npd#narcissistic personality disorder#cluster b
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Birds of a Feather previous / next
#my art#feralnette au#birds of a feather#long tags#sorry I went apeshit in the tags#LETS SAY IT ALL TOGETHER NOW#I - M - A - G - OOOOOOOOO#its fun drawing marinette's back to Alya and having her appear stout and unstoppable and totally logical#and then you see her face and she's like two seconds from completely snapping and is keeping it together by a thread#as a note just because mari feels very certainly abt smth doesnt mean she's right. feelings can be valid and also irrational#in the throes of grief she decided it was better to be alone than to lose someone again so she started pulling away#and lila made pulling away very very very easy to do#shes also vaguely aware she's being unfair in pinning this on alya which is why she started spinning the drain on cockmoth again#legitimately all the shit that's happened to her wouldn't have been so catastrophic if he was never in the picture and she knows it#but the bitterness of her bestie choosing a fantastic liar over her at the worst of times stiiiiiings#alya's personal timing was bad but lila really took advantage of the fact that marinette had been acting off and weird#she basically clocked marinette as being unstable from SOMETHING and made up a lie about her#knowing she wouldn't have the strength to defend herself#between her social life going tachy bc of lila and losing fu in a way that felt like personhood death marinette was really put on the spot#and alya doing her thing of busting in there and assuming her bias is correct was a terrible combo#essentially marinette is highly unstable and alya is just realizing that#busting in and giving her a lecture when she's slightly hysterical and definitely delirious from exhaustion is NOT the way#to show her she's self sabotaging#cuz thats just gonna make her double down on self sabotaging. bc marinette will not accept that she is also a CHIIIIILD
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Underrated part of the newer Drizzt books is introducing a bunch of new drow groups and going "yeah everyone mass migrated and went underground because Something Really Horrible Happened!" and a trilogy before that it was like "we all went underground originally because Something Really Horrible Happened!" and they dont like super elaborate on it
but if you know like, anything about the Crown Wars youre just kinda like. Oh yeah, that time like all the elves started beating the piss out of each other and caused a concerning amount of destruction and a massive rift that never healed and it's vaguely talked around as this GIGANTIC cultural shame. Yeah I can see why you guys were all like GOODBYE WE ARE GOING DEEPER IN AND WILL NEVER COME OUT AGAIN
#Like the whole point of Generations is that 'true' history is sort of an unreachable fallible thing#because enough time has passed that the truth has been almost completely obscured#but it's still funny to look at like#older lore and be like#YEAH IM PRETTY SURE I KNOW WHAT THIS WAS#AND FRANKLY THATS A VALID RESPONSE
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thinks about how john watson and sherlock holmes find eachother in every universe. every. single. one. and they fall in love in them all.
#sherlock holmes#john watson#johnlock#does it count as johnlock?#like honestly in some adaptations it could definitely be romantic love#and quite a few other adaptations have them platonic and thats completely valid as well#love a good relationship
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sharing this here too.... Got up to ep 47 in the my s class hunters webtoon and asked a korean friend about Sung Hyunje's way of speaking bc i noticed he seemed to talk like an old man..... MFNSMDBSNN THIS IS AMAZING 😭😭🤭
edit: apparently there's a lore reason he talks like that that neither of us knew at the time... i appreciate everyone who's holding back from telling me what it is🫡
just to be thorough i asked about -군(-gun) too which is how SHJ calls HYJ (han yoojin-gun) (in ep 46-47 at least) (i believe the jp equivalent is -kun, which more ppl r prob familiar w)
#my s class hunters#msch#tsctir#the s classes that i raised#sung hyunje#s class liveblog#talk tag#oh btw another psa#SHJ's name is spelled sung hyunje (not sung hyunJAE)...#i literally just got to him btw I STARTED READING ONLY A FEW DAYS AGO#but yea i noticed on twt everyone was misspelling his name??? and then i found out its bc#the novel mtl that everyone uses spelled it wrong.... RIP😭#the thing is ㅐ(ae) and ㅔ(e) are completely diff vowels in kr (despite being pronounced the same)#theyre not interchangeable..!#so its not a case of yoojin vs yujin or yoohyun vs yuhyeon...#the last syllable is definitely je(제) not jae(재)#hyunje and hyeonje r both valid but not hyunjae/hyeonjae...#I FEEL RLY BAD CORRECTING PPL SINCE I *JUST* GOT INTO SCLASSES BUT... i hope more ppl can correct it from now on... mcndnfd#성현제#<--thats his name
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last thing i’ll say; people aren’t owed free content but creatives aren’t owed financial compensation either
#i say all this as a cretive btw lets head that off#their bottom line was ‘we want more money to make bigger things and we cant afford to so we want more money in order to do them’#and that is a valid desire#but you cant just expect everyone to go along with that just bc you want it#watcher got where they are due to a loyal viewer base#to reject money from corporations in favour of money from that viewer base? thats skeevy#to default to a complete and absolute paywall removing all your content then pretend that you weren't going to? thats skeevy#to make a countdown to an announcement then make the announcement a somber trip down memory lane#and an ‘if only we can make more stuff like this wink wink’? thats skeevy#and its skeevy bc theyre a company and no matter how personable they are companies are not your friend#are they the rich we should be eating? no#but when your ceo drives a tesla and eats expensive food that is written off as a buisness expense#AND you have a patreon that you dont capitalise on but still brings you on average 100k a month#you cant act like youre a hard done by creative#endevouring to make more elaborate creations is a good idea#monetisation is a good idea#absolute monetisation with no thought to an alternative isnt#name one indie artist that relies entirely on paid content ill wait#coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt#watcher#shane madej#ryan bergara#steven lim#hey there demons it’s me ya boy#ghost files
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i love how werewolves are a metaphor for so many things. queerness. trauma. menstruation. chronic illness. like... its the best fictional creature for a reason
#my post#werewolves#*me saying its the best is a personal opinion youre perfectly valid in thinking otherwise lol#ive been watching a show lately called being human#i tried watching it years ago but i was too young and all the sex and presumably all the blood was too much for me back then#and one of the main characters is a werewolf and his experience. at least in the first season. was resonating with me about trauma#also. i do like the wolf forms of the werewolves in this show! not the best but DEFINITELY not the worst.#if a wolf form is *too* wolf or *too* human its an instant fail#its gotta be a healthy middle ground#the 2nd season is kinda losing me on the metaphor for plot reasons but thats ok lol#my biggest issue is that it made me completely stop liking one of the characters because of how they changed for the worse
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wanna ask how you feel about the eridan bpd headcanon/theory(?? not sure what to call it!) you're so good at your character analysis and i'd love to see your outlook on it
Since I don't have a degree or any formal training in psychology, I feel deeply uncomfortable diagnosing characters. I've made an autism joke before but only because I'm on the spectrum. He's definitely traumatized and anxious, but I mean those as descriptors of his behavior rather than capital-D Diagnoses. I try to focus on those when I can - the cause and effect of cognition, self-image, and behavior - and those factors may very well match up with DSM criteria, but I try not to touch an actual diagnosis with a ten foot pole unless the author has explicitly stated that X character has Y condition.
#there's a variety of reasons for this#part of it is that im GROSSLY unqualified to be handing out diagnoses when it takes a full on PhD to do that in real life#part of it is that psychology is inchoate and we are still very much in murky waters#for example: complex ptsd isn't even IN the DSM yet#and iirc my therapist told me it was because theyre still figuring out how to classify it (attachment disorder? trauma disorder? etc.)#part of it is that (from my limited and undereducated understanding) there are diagnoses that you can assign by completing a checklist...#but some that require a hell of a lot more testing and ruling out other potential causes#and the cluster-b personalities are (IIRC) not even ones you're supposed to diagnose minors with#bc of fears of self fulfilling prophecy and because minors in general are still developing personalities In General#and like the fact that i can't say that with authority speaks to how unqualified i am to do any diagnosing right? hahaha#and part of it is just because like#unless the story is specifically About That and the author has stated so explicitly#i think diagnosing characters tends to put blinders on analysis#like if i were to seriously go 'eridan is autistic' then it would massively bias my reading and understanding of his character#and we have 0 indication that eridan was ever explicitly intended to be autistic or that the author was trying to do an autism specifically#that doesn't mean that the reading is invalid because like thats what death of the author means#all readings are technically valid including stuff the author didn't necessarily intend#but that's just not the way i like to engage with media and not the way i like to approach character analysis#because PERSONALLY it just feels kind of reductive - but also -#i'd wager MOST of us don't have degrees in psychology#so when i say 'X character has Y condition' it might mean something totally different to somebody reading my analysis#even people who have Y condition aren't exempt because a lot of mental illnesses differ from person to person#whereas if i explain “X character has Y thoughts and Z behaviors” there's no ambiguity in that#eridan struggles with noticing that people are suffering and with realizing that he should care#at least part of this is due to his horrific murder-filled upbringing which rendered empathy a detriment & so he learned to ignore it#it could be autism - but it could also be trauma -#or he might just be Like That without actually meeting the diagnostic criteria for autism#& you can't even technically be diagnosed with C-PTSD#or maybe he has a burgeoning personality disorder but you aren't supposed to DX those too early anyway#or maybe hes just 13. see what i mean hahaha. ive reached the 30 tag limit
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Yall might have to bare with me on this one I'm not great at articulating my thoughts and although I'm neurodivergent I really don't have the proper terms to explain myself here
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Okay so it's very obvious that Eli is not neurotypical. I don't want to really get into specific diagnoses because I very much do not want to fall into the serial killer = mental disorder trope. It's a shitty trope and very harmful when handled poorly, especially with Cluster B personalities. Under no circumstances am I saying that Eli's mental condition is the cause of him being a serial killer. I am in fact trying to say the opposite.
TW for discussion of abuse and ableism
Basically, the crux of my argument lies with Eli's flashbacks in Vengeful, specifically when it comes to his father.
Eli mentions that the abuse started when he was around 9 years old because his father saw "the devil" in his eyes.
Eli's age at the time is very important. 9 years old. A literal child. Eli has done nothing wrong at this point aside from exist, and yet his father sees something wrong with him. It's possible that it was intended for Eli to have truly had some "evil" inside of him from the beginning, but it is far far more likely that Eli's father saw some kind of behavior out of the norm (we see that Eli was not a very expressive child. He had to learn all of those behaviors later on) and concluded that it hinted at some "hidden evil". We see those ideas reflected in our own society all the time, with apathy or lack of expression in face or vocal tone can be misconstrued or depicted as evil or heartless.
Eli was never evil or a bad kid. He was 9 years old. There was no devil in his eyes, he simply expressed himself in a way that was considered abnormal.
There's more I could say on this but I've run out of brain power. If anyone has any insight or ways they relate to Eli that they're comfortable talking about or even criticisms, I'm very open to discussion.
#there's also the argument to be made that Eli's quieter less expressive demeanor was a result of his trauma#and him having to learn how to mask by watching the kids around him could be less from neurodivergency and more from being isolated#and thats a completely valid and reasonable discussion#i feel like theres a lot of discussions that could be had about Eli#regarding ableism and religion and abuse and trauma and the dangers of predjudice and cycles of abuse#im definitely not the most qualified to talk on this#so if i get anything wrong feel free to correct me#but i am of the firm belief that there was nothing “wrong” with Eli before the abuse started#whether the reason was that Eli acted “abnormally” or that his father was just just doing what he did because he's a pos#vicious ve schwab#vengeful ve schwab#villains series#eli ever#eli cardale#vicious#vengeful
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i made a turtlesona just for fun
supposed to be a common snapping turtle but also obvs a bulbasaur thus his name is Bulba
#art#my art#turtlesona#? i guess? if thats a tag ?#i had thought abt this for a while but having the raph in my icon drawn to represent me was so validating so i wanted to make a proper sona#like id tried to draw spidersonas but its hard w a weird sense of self#but this was more fun#i hope he looks lesbian enough w the cargo shorts alkdsja;#our pact has been completed helli 🤝
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oh my god people really are using the song Ptolemaea for literally anything
#I had already heard how the warrior cats people started using it for cat murder but i finally started getting the videos recommended#Why are there so many what are you guys dOING#Ive related that song with love-related abuse I faced and a character thats personal to me for said reasons so maybe Im unreasonably mad#But also?? Idk I think its kinda valid to be uncomfortable with people using a song about love motivated violence and abuse#To draw cats killing each other not every song should be used for your cat murder#Just completely plugging your ears and ignoring the meaning of the song just so you can go oooo spooky sounds#I enjoy personal interpretations but you guys do know people write song lyrics a certain way for a reason still right?#Right????
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i feel somewhat responsible for this, even if i’m not the one saying these things. I’m genuinely so sorry.
No need to apologize! It's not one singular person doing it and truth be told I don't think it's a large majority that thinks that (albeit the ones that do are quite vocal). I didn't mean to upset anyone or anything when complaining about it, I was just letting off some steam.
Having a yap session under the cut sorry I feel like rambling under your ask anon.
Admittedly, I do think there are reasonings for people thinking this way. A lot of the focus with Clash has been on the cogs, especially after the 1.3 update. Which I can't say I blame them! Managers were something new and exciting and (from what I can tell) really separated them from the other servers. I don't blame them for wanting to put focus on that because that was their thing. Alongside other things, but majorly when you hear Clash the managers are mentioned in someway shape or form. But as we all know, toons ended up taking the short stick from this. This isn't helped by the gameplay itself, being mainly a fetch-quest deal so you often only talk to npcs once or twice unless if they're repeated ones and the taskline wasn't entirely accessible on the wiki for a while (shoutout to the wiki maintainers. The taskline script is a savior). Which I'm quite excited to see if they deal with this issue with the rewrite. I imagine they will, but anyways. Social media posts would often contain more managers than toons, which I also believe they're starting to fix. And ontop of this, I believe most of the team in the early era of the sever is gone, so there's been some stuff lost in the change. So yeah, dialogue/writing has been kind of rocky. AGAIN- I am completely aware of the rewrite going on and I am not judging them harshly based off of their current state. I'm very appreciative of the fact that they took the time to listen and are focusing on trying to fix it up. And then there's also fandom mischaracterization- especially of the cogs. Forgive me for mentioning mischaracterization because normally I wouldn't really care (I've mischaracterized characters before..especially in my younger years. I think it's just a process of learning an having fun and I hate to limit anyone because of it). With that being said, there's a lot of baby-fying and coddling of the managers. Especially with those who have more 'sympathetic' stories (Misty, Chip, Winston specifically). Don't get me wrong, I like these characters and I can appreciate the story they're trying to tell, but I feel like so many people will hear their dialogue and then misplace their anger. People get mad at Bessie for trying to protect HER lighthouse or at the Elders for trying to keep YOTT safe (lets not forget Winston was there to brainwash toons). Yes, yes technically there would've been better ways to do it but consider this: The toons are scared. Their homes, stores, lives are being taken over by a big corporation that has more resources that they do. They don't have the privilege of waiting, seeing, and gathering. And then people forget that the company has such a huge role in both toons and cogs lives. If you're mad over the mistreatment of Misty or the fact that Winston is still in the dungeon, your anger should be directed at the company who doesn't care. I may be completely wrong in saying this, but I feel like the stories with almost all of the managers is a reflection of the company. The toons are only trying to protect themself and their environments and yet this seems to go forgotten when people start bashing them. And of course, I'd consider myself a toon guy so me saying all this and complaining may come off as "I HATE the cogs and everyone who posts only about them!" and for clarification that's not true. You all know how much I like that little brain thing. The cogs are interesting, their designs are fun, I don't blame people for liking them because I do too. I just wish that the thought process behind so many of these discussions wasn't so cog focused because I believe that this anger at the toons for, RIGHTFULLY, defending themselves helps push this mischaracterization of them as a whole. That they're mean, boring, unlikeable while the opposite is true. Yes there are some, what I'd consider, "filler" dialogue from the shopkeepers. This is just because of the gameplay. But there are some funny and cute moments with them if people would just listen and read.
Which also brings me into another point: people skip the dialogue. I've caught myself doing this before (on my first account. I have 4 accounts total, so I reread the dialogue on like 3 of them). But people will complain about lack of toon personalities while doing this. It's like reading through a comic book, only looking at the drawings, and then complaining because there "isn't a storyline". Luckily, there's been efforts to keep track of the dialogue on the wiki but I doubt a lot of people are going through and reading the entire script. It just feels very disingenuous to criticize the dialogue when you haven't even read it. Likewise, people don't seem to read the blogposts either. This is both from a dialogue aspect and from an update aspect (people continuously asking about hammerspace/mix-and-match under unrelated posts).
#clemask#clemramble#I think I hit some sort of word limit because it wont let me add anymore so im continuing in tags#It kind of feels like people want the toon resistance to be the perfect victim and then get mad when they act accordingly#Fear. Nervousness. Sadness. Helplessness. Anger. etc etc are all valid reactions to their situation#Not every toon needs to be heroic and whimsical. they're scared. their situation is scary if you think about it#they're at the risk of losing their environment and homes.#Obviously the cogs also have their own issues but I always see this brought up when talking about them but the same context#isnt given to the toons when thinking about their characters and communities as a whole#It's kind of weird to me because I feel like even pre-rewrite I know that I can still understand them and justify their actions#and yet people act like clashes (pre rewrite) writing is justifying the cogs when in reality its not#its just showing that cog society (reflection of workplace enviroment) has its own issues. i never saw it as a justification#even with misty. like I never once hated bessie? my opinion of her never changed even after mistys dialogue#bessie did what she had to do because she was scared and wanted to protect herself and others.#id do something similar if a cog (known for taking over towns) suddenly came up to me#PLUS bessie leaves misty alone afterwards. ppl act like she took a shotgun and shot misty dead and it makes me laugh#ANYWAYS SORRY ANON. NO NEED TO APOLOGIZE.#realistically if youre not saying it then i doubt youre contributing#I would say “i wasnt mad” or anything but to be completely transparent with you guys i was Not-Happy when writing that one post#but it's not directed at any single person but rather the idea itself. I'm sure after the rewrite people will chill out#ITS NEVER THIS SERIOUS im beefing over characters named pretty princess sparkles. im aware of how silly this all sounds ok#the clash fandom isnt the only instance of this. ive seen stuff like this in sw before so like. I know this isnt an uncommon thing either#normally id just keep this on a priv or between friends but something kinda snapped yesterday#i think its bc I just KEEP seeing posts like it with those “hot take” posts or whatever and ppl are always so mean about it#i also think some ppl just already dont like toons and look for every. little. thing. to go after them for#like the “youve been drafted line” i refuse to believe people took that line 100% seriously#or maybe this is all wrong and im just a huge toon fan. and in that case i will die on this hill#you will have to pry them out of my cold dead hands before you catch me genuinely bashing them#ok thats clems giant critques and complaints out of the way
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wow some of y’all really dont even want to give bit city a try huh :/
#i can understand favoring some parts more than others#or thinking it will only get better from here#those are all subjective opinions and thats valid#but to write off bit city completely after One episode is…..#not gonna tag this properly bc this is more of a rant/reaction
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I think Emet-Selch should meet Ardyn JUST BECAUSE of how deeply unimpressed he would be. It would be healing for me, specifically.
#ffxiv#'oh my. you took a nap for 2000 years. how unfortunate.'#chrost I dislike ardyn. every moment i am seeing him is odious.#if u dislike emet-selch thats completely valid but it could be so much worse
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they could never EVER neverrrrrr ever ever do this even ryan condal would never cede such an “iconic” setpiece & “memorable” dialogue and even if he wanted to HBO simply would not allow it but in my minds eye ideal hotd adaptation of the battle of the gods eye completely discards EVERYTHING supposedly recounted/editorialized in fire and blood no anime dialogue no ultra choreographed fight scene no cinematic beautiful shots of the dragons dancing no leaping from dragon to dragon its actually like incredibly fast and loud and incomprehensible to the audience just beasts colliding and ripping each other apart dirt and blood and horrific and disgusting and ultimately super SUPER pathetic ❤️ daemon and aemond dont get to make any epic last stands theres no glorious blaze out, no chilling last words, no grand narrative, in the end it really is just two men thudding to the bottom of a lake and getting eaten by fish. make the craziest climax in the world an anticlimax. ultimate antimoment
#of course. this can only be in my dreams#hotd#my greatest idea is daemon doesnt even get his sword in the eye grand leap moment#cause like. Well physically that would be completely insane#they both get thrown together when their dragons collide and theyre both already dead from blunt force trauma#and the sword just kind of accidentally impales aemond lol#i just hate to see a character like daemon get somehow validated by the narrative as super cool and awesome and sexy etc#like for what? hes just a maaannn it’s just what you do. hes a human man at the end of it#cant ascend to godhood good buddy. better luck in ur next life. u sucked at this one#L + you have erectile dysfunction you cannot be legolas jumping on floating dragon scales. lame!#even if he did sink that sword in… its so pointless JDGDKSH. U ARE BOTH GOING TO DIE ANYWAY….#i love crazy awesome action setpieces i love good cool action directing i dont think it necessarily would even be bad#but i think it does cede some of its own point. i guess thats the whole ‘you cant make an anti war film’ thing again#daemons whole fucking deal is just so boring to me unless it’s undermined and subverted. i love when hes a whiny pathetic mess.#and NOT a slay dom daddy. aemond i cant even discuss he does not do anything for me.
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What if I just rambled in the tags rn?
#personal stuff don’t mind me#just musings about sex and relationships#am I ace or aro? am I just opposed to the idea of a relationship cause I feel like I could never trust anyone on that level?#am I ace? sex sounds fun enough but it also doesn’t feel necessary? and I can’t imagine ever wanting to sleep with anyone#I literally never considered this until one of my friends complained to me about being sexually frustrated and I was like ???#??? THATS A REAL THING ???#I THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE#where am I going with this#I’ve had 4 crushes in my life (excluding fictional characters cause I don’t think that’s the same)#I’m definitely bisexual#and yet am I? am I even attracted to anyone?#maybe I’m just on the ace spectrum somewhere?#and does it even really matter? why should I feel like I have to label it?#maybe it’s cause I feel like I have to label it to be valid#otherwise people view you as a loser#it’s frustrating#people talk about the concept of virginity being meaningless#and I usually see people talk about it in the sense of like#having lots of sex and sleeping with lots of people doesn’t make you impure#(which is true!!!)#but I feel like some people who say that still look down on people who don’t have sex#and view them as no fun or prudes or whatever#and the double standards piss me off#lol sorry for all of this I just need to ramble somewhere#ollie rambles#adding on#like the fact that I’m ashamed to admit even in the tags here that I’ve not had sex before is ridiculous!!!#it shouldn’t be this way!!!!#it’s something completely neutral!!!!!#it should be on the same level as admitting I’ve never tried melon or never been rollerblading!!!!
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