#symptoms of disregulation

[unwelcome-ozian]

[house-of-crows]

I wish all "eat less move more track everything" medical rote responses a very DIE.

[pokemonshelterstories]

Apparently, Spinda can contract cerebellar hypoplasia. My girl is extra wobbly. The vet only caught it because he works with Spinda regularly, and was able to notice something off.

The clinic I used to go to for her checkups never noticed, and I doubt anyone who isn't deeply familiar with Spinda ever would.

It's got me wondering, though; what are some diseases that are extremely difficult to notice in a pokemon unless you specialize in their care?

oh, that's fascinating...i wonder how much of an impact that has on her balance and motor function! this is why specialty vets are so important for non-exotic pokemon. the range of information about pokemon biology is so wide that no vet could ever learn it all!

there are tons of potential health issues that are harder to spot depending on the pokemon- heart disease in spoink, muscular degeneration in abra, metabolic disorders in komala and slakoth...but in my opinion the most nefarious issue is any disease where a primary symptom is disregulation of temperature in fire types. fever can be a silent killer in fire type pokemon, because trainers often don't think the check their temperature (or might not even be able to without specialized veterinary equipment!). it's rare that they get to a temperature where it would be lethal, but i have read several case studies of fire types who unfortunately passed away because their fever wasn't noticed until further symptoms developed and their illness worsened. hypothermia is less common, but it's been documented in fire type pokemon belonging to traveling trainers when they stop for a checkup at a pokemon center, all without the trainer noticing.

your spinda's case is obviously very different, because only a specialist would notice that, but this is why it's important to be familiar with the signs of common diseases in any pokemon you own- especially if the pokemon's normal behaviors or morphology may mask signs of illness!

[certifiedsexed]

How much variance should be expected between periods? I'm within the first year of having my period, and they've varied a lot. I've had some that were pretty heavy (like having to change pads every two hours) and some that were super light (like lasting 4 days and barely bleeding at all). Also at first I didn't really get cramps, but now I do (they're not bad, just mildly annoying). I've also had variance in emotions (one time I was feeling super depressed right before my period, but other times I barely feel any emotional disregulation at all). Is this normal? Will it sort itself out after a couple years?

Well, that depends! In your first couple of years having a period, variance is to be expected. Both in how regular they are, the amount of bleeding, the symptoms, etc, it's very common for that to vary a lot in at least the first year of having a period.

Often, it sorts itself out. Sometimes it doesn't though and especially if your symptoms occasionally range on the more severe side, that's a good time to get checked out!

For example, if pain from the cramping gets really bad [even if its only sometimes!] or if you start getting depressed to the point of being suicidal [even if it's occasional!], those are immediate signs you should get checked out, ask your doctor to run some tests.

But what you're talking about in of itself [as long as the occasional depression is not severe] is okay and usually regulates eventually. If it doesn't, it's always okay to get checked out just in case if you have the ability.

Hope this helps, Anon! Let me know if you have any other questions. <3

[theholidayslingerlikebadperfume]

for this disability pride month, i want to highlight a couple of things with autism and ahdhd, particularly in girls.

if your teen girl is staying up every single night until 3 am doing homework, and she's been at it since 230 pm when she got home from school... that needs to be acknowledged and addressed. thats not normal, even the insane amounts of schoolwork that a white rich school would require for students in those college level courses wouldnt require almost 12 hours of studying a night. especially if her grades don't reflect that level of attention.

if your teen girl forgets things constantly, if she makes mistakes in sending the right documents or doesnt buy what you tell her to at the store, she is not lazy, stupid or malicious. these are symptoms that need to be acknowledged and addressed, this is not normal brain behavior. there is something going on cognitively.

if your teen girl is amazing and lovely until she's explosively angry, she's not an evil person hellbent on ruining the family. this is emotional disregulation, she needs help. these are symptons that need to be acknowledged and addressed.

if your teen girl is talkative and likes being around you until she doesnt, and if she goes silent until she's allowed to go to her room and sleep off the grumpiness, she's not being hateful towards you. she is likely burnt-out socializing and needs to gain her energy back, let her be. this is a symptom that needs to be addressed and acknowledged.

if your daughter constantly needs to chew on gum, even after you berate and shame her for doing so, to the point where her jaw often hurts, this is not her being defiant. this is a symptom and needs to be addressed and acknowledged.

if your daughter walks funny, laughs funny, dances weird, cries too much at commercials that are overly dramatic, and you make her feel bad for displaying any of these traits, you're harming her. let her exist in this world without feeling the need to box in her behavior into "acceptable" mannerisms. unlearn what it means to walk, laugh, dance "funny" and examine why you feel the need to bully people who don't behave in ways you've approved beforehand.

if your daughter has had trouble making friends her entire life and if you often catch her talking to herself in rehearsing full on conversations, she is most likely exhibiting symptoms of autism and these need to be acknowledged and addressed.

if your daughter learned to do things early on and had an extensive vocabulary or skipped the crawling stage and walked immediately, or if your daughter never learned how to "play properly" i.e. she loved having toys but only to organize and line them up and refused to let anyone else touch them, your daughter is exhibiting symptoms of autism that need to be acknowledged and addressed.

if your daughter often refuses to acknowledge her tone or states that "i didnt say it like that" "i didnt say that" or "thats not what i meant" and if she repeatedly tells you "i dont understand what tone you're talking about" she is not gaslighting or manipulating you. she is not being stubborn, she is not lying. she is exhibiting signs of autism that need to be acknowledged and addressed.

if your daughter only likes to eat certain things, to the point that it affects her health, she is not a picky eater. this is a symptom that must be acknowledged and addressed.

if your daughter is black and white in her thinking, to the point where she will argue with you about things that she thinks are objectively unfair or wrong to her, she is not doing it out of spite. she is exhibiting symptoms that must be addressed and acknowledged.

if your daughter loses her shit at not being allowed to sleep in on the weekends, especially if you know she's been pulling 12 hour "study sessions" all week, she is not being spoiled and ungrateful. she is exhibiting signs of autism/adhd burn out and she biologically needs to sleep more than other people to begin with, let alone in the situation that she is currently in.

please stop demonizing the behavior of your teenage daughters and start looking at each individual situation as pieces to a larger puzzle. if your daughter shows a majority of these signs, please start looking at these behaviors as manifestions of the symptoms that are distressing your child in that moment.

autism in girls is often treated as "bad behavior" that parents often try to "discipline" out instead of symptomatic behavior of a disorder that has gone unmanaged and unaccomodated for probably over a decade and half at that point. please treat your daughters with respect, love and dignity even in their worst times because that is when they need the most.

it doesn't help when you demonize your child as being purposely spiteful and hateful towards you, especially if you feel like you've communicated with them sufficiently and they aren't listening or compromising with you at the very least, because your children *do not* want to hurt you. your children are begging to be heard and you refuse to help them.

please research autism and adhd, especially how it can differ in girls versus boys, and please start treating your teenage girls with more love, kindness, and empathy.

[fannishstuff]

I can't believe nobody has pointed this out before? (Small clarification for Robbie: he's happy in a secure romantic relationship. Wendy made him feel insecure, and he took it out on Dipper. Tambry did not, and his whole personality became healthier as a result.)

To be clear, I'm not saying all of these characters have BPD. But I'm also not surprised that a show whose main theme is "Family is Important and Being Rejected Makes You A Little Weird" has a lot of characters that Feel Rejected, and as a result Get a Little Weird. All of these characters are given the chance to form healthy relationships and grow as a result, which is really cool.

For those who don't knows, Borderline Personality Disorder is a traumatic condition that's characterized by things like:

Extreme emotional reactivity

Extreme sensitivity to rejection

A tendency toward black and white thinking

A tendency toward intense but unstable relationships

Alexithymia, or inability to feel/understand/describe one's emotions

Severe anxiety

Self-destruction

It tends to happen when one is consistently rejected or taught to suppress one's identity as a child - usually through intense bullying, abuse, et cetera. People with BPD often struggle to form healthy support networks because the emotional disregulation can make you act inappropriately (stalking, yelling, destroying property) and because there is a lot of social stigma against strong emotions even if you have your behavior well-managed. Therapy can help with the behavioral symptoms, and a strong support network can make the emotions and anxiety much more manageable. (There is no medication for BPD. Medication for comorbid conditions like depression might help.)

Anyway, this is a kids' cartoon, so everyone's behavior is over-the-top and the story arcs are black-and-white by design. I still like them, though.

[master-jarrus]

It's so frustrating that people are so determined to fight each other

And like I know it's from decades of propaganda

But it's still like when I list things that I want everyone goes oh so you're on my side of the political spectrum

Not everyone's political goals align but I think if we could focus on the ones that match enough we could get some shit done

Here is some stuff that I know all sides want based on conversations

Keep national parks protected

Regulate insurance companies

Things being produced and bought locally (yes there are nuances but both sides do want it we just worry about different nuances)

Bringing back and protecting traditional skills (leather crafting, fabric making, sewing, theres way more but I know about these specifically)

Literacy (we both agree literacy is important we just argue about the books that people should be allowed to read but like lets get people able to read with actual media literacy first)

Owning livestock and gardening (we all want to be less dependent on big box stores and corporations)

The right to hunt responsibly (I have even met vegans who agree with this they just prefer the meat goes to other animals rather than humans, but that off topic)

Good and free public transportation (Everyone I have met hates having to deal with idiots on the road and would be happy with public transportation if it was on time, clean and free)

Tax breaks for local businesses rather than big corporations

Kids should be kids (crazy that this is a political topic. If you don't know schools have been pressured to do less learning through play and removing play all together from curriculum for preschoolers and kindergarteners. Which is crazy detrimental to behavior health and will lead to the kids being unable to focus and disregulated emotional outbursts that can be completely avoided with some educational play, also ipad kids are a problem)

These are just what I can think of off the top of my head. I know there's more but I just can't think of it

But this is already ten things. Ten goals we could all work towards together before we get into the things we disagree on

And what I have found is a lot of the stuff we disagree on is just symptoms of some of these issues so working on these goals could help other issues at least loosen up their tangles so we can work through it with compromise

Remember we're all in the same class and the ruling class has just full on admitted that we are an oligarchy with the 1% in charge by charging Mangione with terrorism

The only way we can defend ourselves from tyranny is working together

[angelosearch]

Okay fam, how do we think Raine died? And please let me know if it's been word-of-god'ed somewhere. I don't think I've ever seen it.

I have a thought. I wouldn't even call it a theory because I have virtually no evidence to support it. It's more like... what I would find interesting.

I'm overthinking a 25-year-old videogame again...

Lil bit of a trigger warning here... Mention of some severe impacts of mental illness.

Honestly, I hate the "died in childbirth" thing. It's just... vague. Uninteresting. I don't know, kind of lazy. Okay, maybe she did die as a side effect of having Squall, but how? There's more than one way to die in childbirth.

And I am not saying dying in childbirth is unrealistic--it definitely is realistic, unfortunately--but I kind of hate how introducing a pregnant character and then killing them is always joined with the (again VERY BROAD) concept of "dying in childbirth."

Maybe it's just because I'm a Star Wars fan and Padme's death ruined me for "died in childbirth" as a suitable end for a pregnant character. I also just get annoyed in general how frequently pregnancy and childbirth in sci-fi/fantasy media is seen as something alien or bad or the end of a character. There's so many episodes where pregnancy is used as a parasitic plot point. I could go on.

And how often a mother is just killed off with "died in childbirth" off screen... It's just lazy! It's like saying a guy died because he "went off to war." Is it realistic? Sure. But specifics, backstory, please!!

But like!! These women have already done the incredible act of carrying a child, sometimes through war zones and major stressors, or, in Raine's case, while completely alone and waiting for her husband to come back from saving her adoptive daughter. If she "had" to die (at least in the eyes of the writers) immediately after Squall is born, I want her to have a death more specific to her character and more interesting overall! Also, it would be nice if she had SOME time with our little baby Squall, no matter the circumstances... Now, the way I think about Raine's death isn't exactly a nice way to die (if there is a such thing), but I think it would be enough to lock her ghost in Winhill. And, again, I think it gives her plot a realism that I want it to have.

Here is where I launch into some pretty reaching headcanons so... buckle up.

So Squall, we can all agree, exhibits signs of depression. He's able to push through it, because lots of us depressed people adapt to do that, but he definitely does. From what I know about therapy and psychology, I'd also say he has C-PTSD but that's another story.

But I'd like to propose that Squall is not just depressed, but potentially even bipolar.

Now, the DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for bipolar disorder requires at least one manic episode followed by a depressive episode or hypomania. I don't believe Squall has ever experienced mania... But the thing about bipolar disorder is that a lot of times, it presents as depression until it isn't anymore. And for some individuals, that moment doesn't come until their late 20s or older. Hell, treating depression is sometimes what reveals the underlying disorder: Sometimes SSRIs trigger mania in bipolar patients.

I could see him experiencing hypomania, though. Accidentally training for 12 hours straight, racing thoughts, extreme agitation.

What we do see in the game is risk-taking behaviors, racing thoughts, anxiety, disregulated mood, feelings of worthlessness, difficulty sleeping, isolation... These are symptoms of C-PTSD, but ALSO bipolar disorder.

(which, his history of trauma makes him more vulnerable to bipolar disorder as well)

I will admit, I hc Squall this way because I see myself in him, and I was a high-functioning depressed person who had my first manic episode in my late 20s. But what I figure is, while he was probably never written to be bipolar, there's nothing in the game that completely refutes it.

ANYWAY, bipolar disorder is hereditary. It's not only hereditary, but it plays a part.

So here we go, this is the end I have in mind for Raine, and it's not a happy end, but I think it's realistic and I think it's worth representing in media. Trigger warning.

I think Raine was bipolar. We don't see enough of her in the game to know, but if Squall is (in my head) she might be too. I think she had a complicated pregnancy and that Ellone being kidnapped and Laguna leaving (reasonably) put her under a lot of stress. Any symptoms she had under control with medication/therapy/etc. probably flared. Who knows if she had her same access to resources, seeing that Laguna was gone.

I think, maybe, she suffered from postpartum psychosis. She might have had a few good days, weeks with Squall until things got bad. It would have been terrifying for her, and the people of Winhill, the delusions, the hallucinations. I can't imagine there is a doctor in Winhill that can help with that. And maybe, one of those hallucinations led her to her end.

Such a terrible death likely would have traumatized the people of Winhill, who we know cared deeply about her. Maybe they sent Ellone away so she'd never know; maybe they sent Squall away because he was too much of a reminder.

Thus ends my very sad Raine's death head canon.

My next long project may involve tackling this kind of stuff. I love writing/researching mental health!!

[itsaspectrumcomic]

Hi! I'm rlly tired and typing is very taxing for me (cuz OCD) so this is gonna be disorganized, but I really need some help with smth. I'm a selfdiagnosed autistic and ADHD a long with the proffessionally diagnosed OCD, andmy parents keep lecturing me on reacting "in the normal range of reactions" when it comes to anything and I don't think they understand that sometimes I physically cannot. how do I explain this? also I would not end up in a good place if I ended up telling them I think I'm autistic and ADHD. also lately I've been unmasking bcuz I'm in Argentina and its actually a way better place for nuerodivergent people its awesome anyway I'm going back to the us and I'm really scared cuz I don't know if I can rebuild my mask in time to no be judged. and my support needs are fluctuating a lot and I'm kinda scared about if I fully lose control what do I do. anyway sorry bye ill do another ask about argentina later cuz I think it would interest you anyway thx bye.

- 🐏 🐑 anon

(I rlly like sheep that's why btw)

Hi! Emotional disregulation (which is what it sounds like you're struggling with) is associated with OCD as well as autism and ADHD, so you could explain it as part of OCD if you'd prefer to avoid bringing up autism or ADHD. Here's a study about it you could use to back you up if you're explaining to your parents:

"Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is associated with emotion regulation impairments...Additionally, these patients exhibit elevated stress levels. Since stress exposure affects emotion regulation abilities, stress might influence the relationship between obsessive-compulsive symptoms and emotion regulation." from Stress Influences the Effect of Obsessive-Compulsive Symptoms on Emotion Regulation

And here's an article about why autistic people can struggle with their emotions and reactions:

I'm sorry to hear you're anxious about returning to the US - I'm not in the US myself so I don't really know what support is out there but I'm sure there are groups and organisations that could help. Can any of my other followers give advice or make suggestions?

I hope your parents are willing to listen and understand, but if they don't, please know that that's on them and not you. You don't deserve to be lectured constantly just because you don't show emotions in the way they expect you to ❤️

Also please do send me an ask about Argentina! I'd love to know what it's like for neurodivergent people there! :)

Please enjoy this herd of sheep -> 🐏🐑🐏🐑🐏🐑

[aplpaca]

not to be petty about a person on Instagram but like if you make a post titled "ADHD Book Recs", and then, instead of sharing books that actually have MCs with adhd or books written by authors with adhd, you just list books (mostly by nt/non-adhd authors about nt/non-adhd characters) that Vibe Aesthetically with a list of "symptoms" (many of which are not actually adhd symptoms. "A sense of impending doom" is not an adhd thing. Also a book being apocalyptic does not make it relevant to adhd emotional disregulation catastrophizing. The same way a book being set in space does not make it relevant to the symptom of "spacing out".), I'm coming to burn your crops and set a plague upon your house. I don't care if you say you have adhd yourself. Give me some actual adhd recs instead of whatever this shallow aesthetic nonsense is. Like I know I'm disproportionately annoyed by this stupid post but like. fuck bro, aren't u tired?

[drachenengel]

Symptoms are an aspect of emotional disregulation....

[psychotic-system-culture-is]

What makes one psychotic? /genq

From our understanding (and please know that we are not a professional), psychosis deals with and relates to a disconnect from reality.

Whether it's hallucinations, delusions, or other things that prevent someone from knowing what is "real" and "not real".

There are many causes, such as having a schizo-spec disorder, stress, substance use, ect, with some being temporary or long-term.

There's often other symptoms, such as cognitive impairment (disjointed thoughts, "word salad", ect) and emotional disregulation.

It's less a specific condition and more a collection of symptoms associated with several conditions.

We hope this helped, and of course, if anyone has more information or we misunderstood something, please let us know!

[arsenicandvanilla]

Just a little reminder that you can't be an ally to neurodivergent people while stigmatizing cluster b disorders.

1. You don't get to pick and choose which disabilities you think are valid and deserving of respect.

2. Many of the symptoms of cluster b disorders are seen in other neurodivergencies (ex. Low empathy, emotional disregulation, sensitivity to criticism or rejection, poor impulse control, etc...). Demonizing theese symptoms negatively impacts everyone who has them.

3. Every disabled person deserves respect, accommodations, and medical care! Many medical professionals refuse to treat people with cluster b disorders because of the stigma you are helping to re-inforce.

(TL;DR) Cluster B disorders are just as valid as any other neurodivergence and you should show them the same support you give to the rest of the community.

[mama-vaggie]

Hi! Please feel free to ignore this, I am not trying to hate at all! Just curious!/gen Why do you tak care of Rhea but not other vent littles?/lh /gen /curious I know your mental health isn't the best, so I now that could be reason, I just thought that if it was, you would take a step back form Rhea too. Again no hate what so ever!/gen sending lots of love Sorry if this came off as rude or offensive!/gen

Dear Anon

I am Mod E, I dont normally answer asks in anyway on Vaggie's blog. Im just here to monitor the inbox, make special announcements, and block problematic blogs, however, Mod Ocean (aka Vaggie) and I agreed that its probably best that I handle your ask in particular in order to allow you to help you get a better understanding of what actually is going on here.

We know you meant nothing offensive in your ask and that you are genuinely concerned about Mod Ocean and her mental health. However 'stepping back' from Rhea is not possible. This is because Mod Ocean and Rhea are the same person. 

Now its a little hard for me to explain. Im going to be using terms generally used by systems (I myself am part of a system) but I want to make it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR:

MOD OCEAN DOES NOT HAVE DID AND IS NOT A SYSTEM NOR IS SHE CLAIMING TO BE A SYSTEM!

IT IS JUST EASIER FOR MYSELF (MOD E, A MEDICALLY RECOGNIZED SYSTEM) TO EXPLAIN THIS USING SYSTEM TERMINOLOGIES!

Mod Ocean has a diagnosis of BPD. One of the effects of BPD is (quote taken from the NHS website) "disturbed patterns of thinking or perception – "cognitive distortions" or "perceptual distortions" " I personally dont like the use of the term 'disturbed' here but that is straight from this website: https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/

There isnt a lot of research into BPD and how these distortions manifest in individuals but for Mod Ocean, it manifests in almost alter-like personalities that have taken on an appearance and have histories all their own. They tend to 'come to front' to help Mod Ocean process the extreme emotional disregulation that comes with BPD.

Mod Ocean is my best friend, she has been a massive support in my own journey of discovering that im part of a system and encouraging me to speak to a therapist. Rhea is real. She has her own thoughts and feelings that can be hurt. I can always tell there is a massive difference when im talking to Ocean vs when Im talking to Rhea or Jadie vs when im talking to Vaggie. 

So your ask was sent with good intentions, yes. But you also sent it under an incorrect assumption. Vaggie cannot take a step back from Rhea. 

This is also part of the reason why Mod Ocean isnt always comfortable handling other vent regressors. They are always welcome to reach out to her, vent and cry and that but when they start getting violent/aggressive towards themselves or her is when she has to step back. 

I hope this makes sense and helps explain the situation a bit better. If you have any further questions please reach out to me on my blog @the-hellion-collective and ill answer any questions you may have to the best of my ability.

~Mod E 👾

[pom-seedss]

Good news:

My gallbladder was indeed hella inflamed. I am glad they got it found and removed.

Bad news:

My doctor is basically leaving me with the temperature disregulation to deal with on my own because she can't think of anything. I tried to offer her leads, like could it be a nerve or blood vessel damage because of the chiro appointment that happened just prior to the symptoms starting.

She blamed it on stress. Which...wasn't.... really that much of a thing. Things were going WELL in august, I had big things I was looking forward to, things were going pretty good, I had plans for the future.

And now just.... nothing.

So this is a crock of shit.

If i can't figure this out on my own I will be like this until I die, or kill myself. (which yes, would also be dying, but more actively).

[urlocalsupermarketofendocrinosis]

my therapist wants me to bring up seeking an adhd diagnosis with my parents

i’ve exhibited symptoms of adhd my whole life, and my therapist has said a few times that she suspects i have it. Friends i’ve known my whole life with diagnosis say that i probably have it. I’ve looked up criteria, read articles, and educated myself on symptoms and all the jazz that normally comes with researching a neurodivergence that could be affecting you.

so what’s the problem

i don’t know how to bring it up to my parents

i’ve talked to them before about feeling frustration and disconnect from peers and difficulty focusing and getting to start on things i like and need to do but they always play it off as me being dramatic attention seeking or looking for excuses.

i have sever time blindness and the symptoms of rejection sensitivity disorder put words on a type of emotional disregulation that i’ve struggled my whole life.

i’ve interrupted people in conversation been unable to not fidget unable to be quiet to be normal to be the kid i was supposed to be since day one. my good grades and so called gifted status kept me just as the annoying kid that was doing fine.

but i’m breaking and it’s affecting my school and social life and that’s why my therapist thinks seeking diagnosis is the right route.

how do i bring up seeking an evaluation with my parents in a way that doesn’t come off to them as me just trying to be ✨qUiRkY✨ (i don’t fucking agree with saying people are just trying to be that being different and weird is isolating and heartbreaking so much of the time)

also i’m terrified i don’t. what if i am just lazy. what if i am just weak or stupid. what if this is just me and i’m normal and i can’t figure it out right. what if i am lying for attention. what if i am making excuses. what if this is how it is for everyone and i’m just unable to handle it. what if i’m lying for attention. what if i’m just failing.