#soulbonding system

[the-soulbonded-teaparty]

The soulbonding carrd!

Ahhh I finished it! Also, the history bit is just a quick summary, but since history is my passion- and the profession we're probably going into, I'll write an essay on it eventually.

[interstellarsystem]

Has this been done yet? Probably.

Tried to use language that's inclusive of alterhumans who are still human.

[sawyer-is-eepy]

>be me

>decide to change your name and pronouns

>tell your friends

>they are supportive and try their best

>a week later you suddenly dislike being called that name or the pronouns and the gender doesnt suit you anymore

>"i must be genderfluid!"

>actually, you're plural

>you idiot

>what have you done

[soularsys]

VISITOR // RESIDENT // CALLER

visitor: an alt. term for the soulbonding term 'daytripper', meaning a soulbond that comes and goes from the soulbonder

resident: an alt. term for the soulbonding term 'permanent', meaning a soulbond that is permanently resided with the soulbonder

caller: an alt. term for the soulbonding term 'telephone', meaning a soulbond that communicates telepathically with the soulbonder without being present

coined just cause im not the happiest of my old soulbonding flag designs & also just cause i like theming :) these can also be used as daytripper / permanent / telephone flags too if wanted! completely free to use, just credit me if you do plz!

[moonpool-system]

So like shoutout to soulbonds with exotrauma. To soulbonds with traumatic memories, soulbonds who're in a whole new life now and hafta figure out how to deal with that. Soulbonds in bodies with trauma and without. Soulbonds that're scared of people disbelieving our PTSD or other traumabased disorders, being called fake or roleplayers, or our trauma being treated as lesser. Soulbonds who even struggle to treat ourselves as just as important as others that were hurt. Soulbonds whose painful experiences involve fantastical elements that make it hard to talk about in a down to earth way. Soulbonds who're scared they'll "speak over" others with similar bodily trauma. Soulbonds in bodies who only have PTSD at all because of exotrauma.

What happened to us was real because we experienced it and it affects us, and that's so important. We deserve to be treated with respect and we deserve help! It's not fair that we're treated as lesser than bodily trauma. I want every soulbond with exotrauma to know that we CAN find healing one day, and it's gonna be okay. I love you and you'll find others that do too

[fromfiction]

hii!

idk if you knew this, but "soulbond" and "plural identity" are vv harmful terms

:( theyre pro endo (endogenic, aka a "system" without trauma) and endos scientifically cant exist. /info

basically, systems like ourself stem from childhood trauma. before the ages of 9-12, your brain is physically unable to create a solid identity. normally, by that age, what we call "facets" or "fragments" of identity will either:

- fuse together, creative your identity (which is ever-changing but now has a "root"); or

- disappear for any reason

but when someone goes through extreme trauma before that age, those facets are unable to develop properly and instead become identities. this results in DID/OSDD/USD, which are the only ways plurality can exist.

soulbonding is (and correct me if im wrong) the practice of creating a spiritual connection with someone or something, or bringing their soul/spirit into your body. this is similar to introjecting (having an alter form based on a real person, fictional character, etc.) but alters cannot be made intentionally as they form at the brain's subconscious and not the conscious. therefore, it isn't possible and soulbonding is purely misinformation.

likewise, "plural identity" is equally harmful if not even more so because it implies that one can just "identify" as a system or as having fragmented identity, which in turn mutes the people like me whove been through horrible things and had to suffer for it our whole life. if plurality was an identity, then 100% of real systems would identify as singlet because it really isnt fun.

please remove those from your blog... /nm /lh

I am begging you to at least think about what you're doing and saying when you come to a person and ask them to negate and deny their entire personhood and entire lived existence to make you comfortable and to conform to your worldview.

This is what you are doing when you come to a spiritual plural or a spiritual fictionkin and say "stop using those words, because I don't believe in those things".

When you say "DID/OSDD/USD, are the only ways plurality can exist" to someone who has lived the past 30 years of their life as a spiritual plural system you are saying "you don't exist, and I want you to deny your own existence for my comfort."

You are literally coming to me and telling me my soul doesn't exist.

You don't think that's a fucked up thing to say to someone, even if you believe it?

[uniquely-plural]

As a part of the new tumblr beta feature Communities, we've been approved for one of our very own - And I would love your help building this Fully Inclusive Plural Community with me! 💜

The infrastructure is still being developed, so there's some bugs and built in restrictions - We can only invite about 20 more people in right now, only main blogs, no sideblogs, sorry. This also means I'll be posting there from my main @afaintcloudyhaze :)

If you're interested in joining, please let me know in a reply to this post from your main blog. The only requirement is that you feel a connection to plurality and you want to contribute to the conversation about it.

[trenchcoat-of-hats]

as a system who's been writing their whole life, I think some writers should consider that they're plural with the way they talk about their characters- because characters aren't actually supposed to take over the story, at least not in our experience, unless they're literally autonomous because they're a headmate/soulbond/whatever. if you're a good writer you keep your characters in-character so they would do whatever's in-character but the character shouldn't be deciding to do that, you're deciding that. there's a difference between knowing what a character will do because you know them well and having the character choose what to do themselves, you know?

[livseses]

Fictive Dysphoria

When you feel dysphoric because you're a fictive and this body or life just isn't what it's supposed to be. This can overlap with other kinds of dysphoria, such as gender or species. It can be tied into your system's body and how it diverges from your own body. It can also be tied to how you may have lost skills or abilities, or how you may have different skills or abilities here. It can relate to how your mind works differently too.

I'm inclined to include outside factors as well (im not your supervisor so i can't stop you from including it anyways). Perhaps the life you were accustomed to was radically different. Or you miss lived ones. You might have held deep passionate interests or hobbies that just aren't a thing here. Maybe you had a job you really liked that's just not available to you anymore.

There are countless ways that fictive dysphoria can hit. The uniting thing is that there's dysphoria caused by an incongruence between your identity as a fictive and the life you now have.

(We use fictive here, but this can happen for factives, SoulBonds, tulpas, and I'm sure many others)

Is this a thing already and we missed it? I'm sure it's a thing a lot of systems struggle with.

[webdrivertorzo]

DEAR NETIZENS OF TUMBLR

I am working on my iceberg of queer-and-other-vaguely-related-topics! please give me some more ideas! any fringe beliefs that either YOU believe in or that you have witnessed personally online. Any related events are also accepted, as well as communities, discourse, apps, and media. please help i want to make this ridiculously long

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for soulbonds and soulbonders!

Soulbonds and soulbonders are important and cherished members of the plural community. Their insights and experiences are quite welcome here! This post is for all the soulbonds and soulbonders out there!

🧡 Shoutout to those who are learning more about soulbonding with hopes to become a soulbonder someday!

🏵 Shoutout to systems with permanent headmates from soulbonding!

💜 Shoutout to systems whose soulbonding has led them to become a gateway system!

🎶 Shoutout to systems with soulbonds who visit from different worlds or universes!

🧡 Shoutout to systems who had to work hard and practice in order to forge and maintain their soulbond connections!

🏵 Shoutout to systems with “daytripper” soulbonds who go back and forth between their soulbonder and their own universe!

💜 Shoutout to systems who became soulbonders unconsciously, or with little to no effort at all!

🎶 Shoutout to soulbonds who foster relationships and nurturing connections with their soulbonders!

🧡 Shoutout to systems whose soulbonds are OCs or characters from their soulbonder’s original creative works!

🏵 Shoutout to soulbond systems who wish there was more information, education, or general chatter about soulbonding in the plural community!

🎶 Shoutout to systems whose relationship to soulbonding is spiritual, psychological, metaphysical, or something else!

Soulbonders and their soulbonds have always been and will always be integral and valued members of the plural community! You deserve comfort, peace, and happiness in your lives, and we truly hope that you will be able to achieve that. Regardless of what your identity as a soulbond system looks like, know that we appreciate y’all and are honored to be able to share this space with you! Thank you so much for reading, and have an amazing day!

[the-soulbonded-teaparty]

We were recently re-introduced to this fun little piece of soulbonding history! The soulbonding code, which is like the multiple code but for soulbonders specifically. We might make an updated version of it :3

We decided to try it out so here's ours along with the explanation under the cut!

SBC N++ G (bO sO+&/F+) O.cS+ eAaf&+/C+/Va+f Sp.O+/F#/S/Su+/A+/Dr~+/Un+/Sh+ i++ S+ A+ W

We have around 30-40 soulbonds.

We're collectively non binary and have a majority of other/non-binary soulbonds with a few female ones as well.

We have soulbonds from original stories; several anime/cartoon characters from alternate universes, fan characters, and a crossover univrse; more than one from comic books/manga; more than one from alternative universes of video games and one fan character.

We have several bonds of other species. The bonder is a fairy, and they have a ghost bond, more than one supernatural bond, more than one alien, dragons that are different from common ideas, undead bonds, and shapeshifters.

Our bonds have a pretty active role in our life.

We decided to skip the fandom bits in the code- partially because our opinion of roleplaying is too complicated for what the code offers and because we're a bit more interested in the soulbonding specific stuff. We did do the last two things though, which were art and writing!

We do art quite a bit and post it, and we occasionally write stories- we mostly daydream them though.

[interstellarsystem]

(*13 and under for the sake of this poll! If they're older than 13 now, they still count, this only refers to their initial age upon joining/creation.)

We don't see much talk of this in the plural community, but it's something that should be talked about more. In-system pregnancy is often talked about as a tabboo most of the times we see it mentioned, and in-system children are to some degree as well. But there's so many systems out there with children in-sys that we thought we'd make a poll about it.

[cynicalundead]

started unpacking source trauma yesterday, after a year in this body continuing to repress it all, and damn, they do not prepare you for how relentlessly those memories and symptoms hit. I've been fine for so long with it repressed and now suddenly it's all I can think about. I can't do anything at all without a reminder. it's rough, especially knowing this intense PTSD is from another life and I can't seek help from half our support system.

that being said. shoutout to other soulbonds from extremely traumatizing sources and bodies, especially to those who have started putting effort into healing in this body. you are so unfathomably strong. this shit is terrifying and confusing and invalidating. you're doing amazing and I'm proud of you <3

- Vivienne 💥

[soularsys]

soulbond ask game !!

an ask game for soulbonders of all kind !! make sure to practice reblog karma , everyone deserves a chance to gush about their stuffs !!

🖐️ how many soulbonds do you / your collective have?

✍️ how would you describe your soulbonding experience? i.e spiritual, psychological, etc etc!

🌠 do you voluntarily soulbond, or does it happen by chance /accidentally / etc?

🫂 what's the relationship dynamic between you and your soulbond(s)? feel free to answer for as many as you'd like!

🗣️ how do you and your soulbond(s) communicate with one another?

🪂 what do you and your soulbond(s) do together when hanging out?

💬 what are some fun facts about your soulbond(s)? feel free to answer for as many as you'd like!

🙅 do your soulbond(s) diverge from what's typically considered "canon"? in what way? feel free to answer for as many as you'd like!

☀️ how does being a soulbonder influence your daily life?

🃏 wild card! asker gets to ask whatever question they'd like!

[moonpool-system]

Shoutout to after-lifers! Whether you're of a spiritual origin or not, it can be rough to have died in your previous life/source and then be dropped into the system. Maybe the system feels like your afterlife, your inbetween, or your second chance. You get to decide what this all means to you - what your death means to you, what your memories mean to you. After-lifers are wonderful and strong and versatile! Your existence has worth and only you get to choose where things go after your death.