#social acceptance

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

It is seen as more socially acceptable to say I am sensitive to noise and like routine that disclose I’m autistic…

Neurodivergent_lou

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

[semperardens-juli]

Ugly things, unwanted things, things that couldn't possibly belong in the sublime white chamber of the gallery.

The Lonely City, Olivia Laing (x)

[yapoverdosed]

Overthinking should probably be a separate branch of art or subject under psychology, philosophy or literature. Because we become more stressed when we think over smth and it's not accepted by ppl (a feeling of being unfit in the society). We are afraid that it is abnormal. Bro! Even great existentialists of the 19th century faced this unrecognised condition. But see now, they'll be proud of themselves and their ideas in heaven.

[doccywhomst]

[xtrablak674]

I Have Questions.

Why are people so concerned about?

how I look

how I speak

how I walk

how I wear my hair

how I throw a ball

what clothes I wear

the timber of my voice

what my gender is

who I sleep with

who I don't sleep with

where am I from really

How do any of those things impact anybody else except me?

Why is it anybody's business?

In my formative years as an adult it seemed everyone from random strangers on the street to my grandparents were concerned with some external element about my body. Even today I am not sure how any of this is relevant to them. Maybe they wanted me to be something other than what I was.

I can clearly recall a conversation with my father who had said I was too pretty, I think at the time I was somewhere between fourteen and sixteen, and quite frankly I didn't see anything wrong with being pretty. In all my relationships I always wanted to be the pretty one. But then he said something about prison to a young teen who hadn't even had as much as a suspension. Miss me with your failing gym ass.

Was there an assumption about my future that I was unaware of? I think these kinds of judgements about the physical is something all queer young people and anyone who doesn't conform to societal norms continue to face. What is it anyone's business who I go to bed with or as?

As a person with intersectional identities, I think this is something the dominant group will always do, because I also didn't talk Black enough, but at the same was too dark-skinned and not all my interest were Black approved. I am sure if I was fucking with anyone, they would wonder why I don't fuck with anyone. Why can't I just be, as I am, unadulterated, with out any conditions?

How does it benefit you molding me into something I am not? I thought Mr. Rodgers said I was special just the way I am, when did this become no longer true? I am one of those people who have never really found their tribe, there is usually something about my personality that alienates me from the group. I literally lost a friend as an adult because I enjoyed the use of the word nigger, soft R.

Once again I am not suicidal, but when it comes time for this journey to end I am more than happy to leave as frictionless as possible, you won't find me begging for more time, wish I had done this differently or wanting to see this person one more time. I am like deuces, fuck all this! The things we say, and the things we want are always so damned incongruent it makes navigating this world all but impossible with out coming out scarred and traumatized in someway.

I don't want to come across as bitter, but disappointed. I had such high expectations for this life and was repeatedly let down by how folks always wanted you to be a part of something, even if it made no god-damned sense to you. I remember my grandmother being so adamant about me joining her church, which I never did, because it seemed like Christianity just didn't encourage critical thinking, and I had genuine questions in Sunday School that would always be brushed off, because I needed to have some blind faith, miss me with that bullshit.

Let's be clear I am no Baldwin, but I am also not dim-witted, when the math ain't mathing I am not going to partake. I am also not going to go along to get along, that has never been me. If something doesn't feel right I am going to challenge it. Maybe I set the bar too high, or maybe other people just settle for less, I have never been one to settle. If I want the best than I am going to have the best, full stop.

I am just so done with the hypocrisy of this world, what folks want in the streets doesn't line up with what they do in the sheets. Furthermore I am beyond adapting myself to someone else's ideals of who or what I should be. I think this is why I had trouble finding employment because I refused to dim my light, adjust my tone, make myself less threatening to whyte folks. If I am qualified, friendly and professional that should be all I need to work, I shouldn't have to navigate inappropriate touching, comments or constantly being othered.

What is this entry about, I am not sure, really. Its just so sad for me to see the young people today still have to put up with the bullshit I did when I was their age. When are we going to progress as a society and not be caught up in these very regressive patterns that aren't really serving us? I just want to do my time and keep it moving. I really wish this had been better. I guess there is a reason I am so attracted to science fiction, shows, books and stories that take us away from this world, that explore different ways of being and existing I guess I never really accepted that this was all there is, I always wanted more, better.

As I did my yoga something I heard on my playlist kept resonating in my head, 'we all had a bad time in twenty-twenty'. That didn't feel at all true to me, albeit I was taking care of a grandparent I never really liked, I was also working for the first time in six years, even with all the challenges it was exciting to have so many balls in the air. I think I am figuring out what truly may be my issue, I naturally thrive in a catastrophe, and most of my life has been not apocalyptic. I know I have my head a little too much into those fantasy-worlds, but I think I would be perfectly suited to a post-apocalyptic world.

The characters in these stories that resonate the most with me are usually average people who are good at thinking creatively to solve their solutions and I think that is something I am perfectly apt to do. Even with all the tragedies and challenges throughout my life I was always able to keep a calm head and navigate complicated situations, making sensible and logical decisions. There's a reason I am NOVID, a person who never got the Rona. I was able to maintain practicality throughout all the adversity of a global pandemic to a point that I was barely phased by it all.

This is something I think is true of all of us misfit toys on this island called earth, I think we were born into a place not ready or appropriate for us, maybe some of us belonged on indigenous lands, as a tribal oracle or conflict resolver. Or maybe in a side-universe where everyone was fabulous all the time. Perhaps somewhere deep in outer-space where basic survival was more of a priority than any of these other extraneous things that us earthbound folks seem to think are so damned important.

If there was one thing I could do I would wish that there was indeed next-lives and all the people disappointed or treated harshly in this one for attempting to live their truth openly and proudly, that they have a life where all the things they are are overtly and publicly accepted, appreciated and valued. I saw something where there were a bunch of babies waiting to be born, waiting to choose their parents and their new lives. Bump that, I would have told all my fellow babies who weren't ever going to fit in to miss me with all that being born ish and lets get the fuck up out of here and do our own thing. Because we shouldn't have to live in a world where we are questioned for who or what we are, but we should be the answer the world was always waiting and hoping for.

[Photo by Brown Estate]

[shamelesslyimpurrfect]

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[radicalrocko234]

Every human deserves respect, PERIOD.

[cynicalclassicist]

Babies need to be fed like everyone else. It would be better to be accepting of breastfeeding in public.

The argument is this damn stupid

[bigfatbreak]

Birds of a Feather previous / next

[imsosocold]

Realized there’s a difference between social awareness and social acceptance and a lot of the former has occurred through the last two to three decades but the latter is more influxive. ◞ ̑̑

[collophora]

I resurrected my tumblr just to post this

[semperardens-juli]

Andy was the chief psychiatrist. It's the typical psychiatrist's situation: on the couch, you begin to be totally yourself, hide nothing, this person won't react, just listen to you. Andy was such an open psychiatrist with all those sad, confused people. They used to come and feel at home. There was this person who never disapproved of them --- 'Nice, nice, good, oh, beautiful.' They felt very much received, accepted. [...] Also they felt that when Andy put them in front of the camera, they could do and be themselves, thinking that this is what they can contribute, now I'm doing my thing.

The Lonely City, Olivia Laing (x)

[random-bookquotes]

Do you know that the difference between social acceptance and social disgrace can be measured by what pair of knives and forks you use, or where you put your glass after taking a sip of wine? And don’t even think about the princes from other countries–all second sons–who keep bringing you wild animals because they’ve heard you love hunting....

Christopher G. Nuttall, Schooled in Magic #1

[fyeaheddiemunson]

[theabigailthorn]

British producers be like: THEM: "We love this! Let us put our heads together and get back to you early next week!" SIX MONTHS LATER UNPAID INTERN FOR THAT COMPANY: "Everyone you spoke to has been sacked, we hate you fuck off."

American producers be like:

THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON YOU'VE EVER MET: Hey kiddo do you wanna meet The Rock? Do you wanna meet Margot Robbie? Do you want to fuck my wife? I can't give you a job but gosh darn it you've got moxxy, let me put you in touch with Doug Bigcheese, the biggest producer in Hollywood! DOUG BIGCHEESE, EMAILING YOU BACK WITHIN 20 MINUTES: Hey kiddo, that guy said you're awesome! Lemme ask round town and in the meantime you can live in my house borrow my car and by the way have you met my wife?!