#seeking help when needed

[georgiasedify]

Your mental health matters

Your mental health matters

Mental health is crucial for several reasons, as it affects every aspect of our lives. Overall Well-being: Good mental health is essential for overall well-being. It influences how we think, feel, and act, impacting our daily lives and relationships. Physical Health: Mental health and physical health are closely connected. Poor mental health can lead to physical health problems, such as heart…

[inkskinned]

they want to talk about mental illness and acceptance and how everyone is a little ocd it's cute and quirky and their "intrusive thoughts" are about cutting their hair off and you say yours are about taking a razorblade to your eye and they say ew can you not and everyone is a little adhd sometimes! except if you're late it's a personality flaw and it's because you are careless and cruel (and someone else with adhd mentions they can be on time, so why can't you?) and it's not an eating disorder if it's girl dinner! it's not mania if it's girl math! what do you mean you blew all of your savings on nonrefundable plane tickets for a plane you didn't even end up taking. what do you mean that you are afraid of eating. get over it. they roll their little lips up into a sneer. can you not, like, trauma dump?

they love it on them they like to wear pieces of your suffering like jewels so that it hangs off their tongue in rapiers. they are allowed to arm-chair diagnose and cherrypick their poisons but you can't ever miss too many showers because that's, like, "fuckken gross?" so anyone mean is a narcissist. so anyone with visual tics is clearly faking it and is so cringe. but they get to scream and hit customer service employees because well, i got overwhelmed.

you keep seeing these posts about how people pleasers are "inherently manipulative" and how it's totally unfair behavior. but you are a people pleaser, you have an ingrained fawn response. in the comments, you have typed and deleted the words just because it is technically true does not make it an empathetic or kind reading of the reaction about one million times. it is technically accurate, after all. you think of catholic guilt, how sometimes you feel bad when doing a good deed because the sense of pride you get from acting kind - that pride is a sin. the word "manipulation" is not without bias or stigma attached to it. many people with the fawn response are direct victims of someone who was malignantly manipulative. calling the victims manipulative too is an unfair and unkind reading of the situation. it would be better and more empathetic to say it is safety-seeking or connection-seeking behavior. yes, it can be toxic. no, in general it is not intended to be toxic. there is no reason to make mentally ill people feel worse for what we undergo.

you type why is everyone so quick to turn on someone showing clear signs of trauma but you already know the fucking answer, so what's the point of bothering. you kind of hate those this is what anxiety looks like! infographics because at this point you're so good at white-knuckling through a severe panic attack that people just think you're stoic. even people who know the situation sometimes comment you just don't seem depressed. and you're not a 9 year old white kid so there's no way you're on the spectrum, you're not obsessed with trains and you were never a good mathematician. okay then.

mental illness is trending. in 2012 tumblr said don't romanticize our symptoms but to be fair tiktok didn't exist yet. there's these series of videos where someone pretends to be "the most boring person on earth" and is just being a normal fucking person, which makes your skin crawl, because that probably means you are boring. your friend reads aloud a profile from tinder - no depressed bitches i fucking hate that mental illness crap. your father says that medication never actually works.

you still haven't told your grandmother that you're in therapy. despite everything (and the fact it's helping): you just don't want her to see you differently.

[bread-wizards]

I'm just saying, Orym knows something about being stuck on the death of your first love. Of being constantly reminded of them and their death, seeing signs of them every day, making it that much harder to get over them.

But now he has found a new love, and despite the seeing Will several times, being reminded of him every time he looks at the moons or swings his sword, he is ready to move forward. "It's pretty great, living a lifetime." He wants to try again.

If anyone would have some wise words for Keyleth to help her get through this, it would be him.

[brown-little-robin]

I think I'm in the "conscious incompetence" stage of being a social animal in the real world and it sucks so majorly. bro what do you do after you realize you're bad at socializing and then in-person interaction gets harder because you know you're failing at it now.

[fruit-colored-ninja]

I feel like we don’t talk about the fact that in canon the reason ghosts are destroyed by water is because water is constantly changing and never confined to one form, while ghosts are the opposite: unable to change, always remaining the way they were when they died. Genuinely one of ninjago’s best worldbuilding moments imo and also a fantastic way to look at ghosts. Of course you’re going to be angry if you’ve died and can’t move on from the moment of your death and the very thing that’s able to destroy you being the embodiment of change… A++ concept

[fictionadventurer]

A Biltmore Christmas may be the first Hallmark movie to drive me to fanfic.

[sunfloweraro]

I feel bad for Ravio in your pink bunny au bc the poor guy's bestie comes home, is doing kinda awful, gives up on life and becomes a bunny and then one day just. Is gone. Like.

Ravio's probably freaking out because Legend's been in this slow decline for a while and Ravio has been trying to pull him out of it but just can't and then he vanishes.

Oh yeah it is super rough for poor Ravio! Don’t get me wrong, Link is doing terribly too, but Ravio shoulders it all by himself and wont ask for help, which only makes matters worse for both of them. And then he snaps. And Link runs away. And doesn’t come back for months. Yeah… Ravio very much blames himself for everything—Link not getting better, and Link leaving him. He can sense he’s still out there and alive (they’re intertwined after all, two sides of the same coin) but he thinks Link doesn’t want to be found. He doesn’t want to come home. And now Ravio has deteriorated too.

I’m the author and I feel terrible for Ravio T.T their reunion in a few months will be very cathartic to write.

To help us all feel better, here’s a snippet of Ravio finally getting some comfort!

(and of course, my obligatory @thatonecrazysidekick tag!)

(and thank you for the ask!!!!)

***

Fierce squawking. Ravio flinched when Sheerow landed on his head, panicked chirps escaping her. Why had she even bothered to come back? Didn’t she know he was awful and broken?

“Leave me alone,” he rasped, his voice strained and wet with tears. “Let me rot.”

“Absolutely not.”

Ravio’s head snapped up at the new voice. He sat up quickly, scrubbing at his eyes when he saw who it was, her royal purple hair braided down her back and her eyes narrowed—in annoyance? Concern? Ravio couldn’t tell when his vision was blurry. Her hands rested over her hips. “Hilda! I—erm…”

Hilda’s face softened. She made her way over to join him on the bed. Ravio turned away, his cheeks burning darkly. “No wonder Sheerow came to get me,” Hilda said, her voice much gentler than he deserved. Ravio sniffled, couldn’t look at her as shame burned bright within. “What’s going on, Bun? You look terrible. And where’s Link? Why isn’t he helping you?”

Her words, so soft, so concerned, made Ravio’s breath hitch all over again. And then he was dissolving into sobs once more, burying his face in his hands to hide himself away from her and wishing she would just leave him alone.

A noise of concern escaped Hilda and she shifted closer. “Oh, Bun…” She curled an arm around his shoulders, and Ravio… Ravio couldn’t help himself. He didn’t deserve the comfort, but he turned and latched onto her like she was the only thing holding him up in this sea of loneliness and misery; a light in the ever-persistent darkness that had become his life.

Hilda began to run a hand up and down his back, slow and sure. Her other arm squeezed him closer, holding him together as he shuddered and broke to pieces in her arms. “Just let it out, Bun. I’m here.”

[bacchuschucklefuck]

love thinking kipperlilly spends her afterlife looking for lucy in a familiar forest

[camels-pen]

the difference between zosopp and sanuso (romantic OR platonic) is that Usopp is Zoro's specialest little guy and Zoro is someone Usopp hangs out with and looks up to and hides behind when things get scary, but Sanji and Usopp are best friends. They horse around, they beat each other up, they confide their worst fears trying to one up each other. Usopp hides behind Sanji sometimes, sure, but idk, Sanji's weaknesses are more obvious (bugs, fighting women, etc) so there are times when Usopp has to stand in front of Sanji too, yknow?

Like, how do I say this, all the crewmates are equal- Usopp and Zoro are equals- but with Sanji it feels like more... comradery? Zoro's a rock in a terrible storm- even rocks tend to get weathered and chipped and worn down, but they overall stay strong and steady. He has trouble being vulnerable and there are times when the burden he's placed on himself to keep the crew safe is crushing his chest. Usopp would help with that and be very understanding, but the point I'm trying to get with that is that those moments are few and far between. So I feel like Usopp, especially after Water 7, would take Zoro's lead on something like that, and keep most of his worries to himself or only talk about them sparingly unless they're really bad and/or he can't hide them.

Sanji is like a tree in a storm; he can be strong, yes, but it feels like he bends and sways with the storm, and has more obvious breaking points. He can relate more to Usopp's struggles rather than resorting to blunt honesty that might border on callous like Zoro. And while, with Zosopp, I tend to think of scenarios with Zoro being blunt like that as a good thing- because sometimes when you're spiraling, it's nice to have someone say exactly what's great about you and shoot down all your worries with straight facts that you can't argue with- I can also see this as being a bad thing. Anxiety can really twist up your brain sometimes, you know? And despite the words, the tone could still mess someone up if they're already feeling like a burden on others in some way.

With Sanuso it's a lot more understanding and thoughtful words. It's distractions and comfort food and patience- the kind reserved for Usopp- until Usopp talks about whatever's troubling him. Compared to Zosopp, it doesn't take as long for Usopp to open up, since he's done the same thing to Sanji at times and it's more familiar to him to talk and commiserate with Sanji about his worries and doubts and such. However, there are times stuff like this has absolutely no effect and Sanji will end up at a loss, no idea what to do or how to help over the course of several days with Usopp being quiet and keeping his distance, and he'll end up working himself up about it which will only serve to make Usopp feel worse and. yeah. bit of a vicious cycle with them.

So it's like. Usopp can be weak with both of them, but since I see Sanji as the type of guy who'd be more open with his worries (at least compared to Zoro), there's less of a need to 'perform' and be his best self around him. He's comfortable around Zoro, yes, but he is constantly wanting to show that he won't be a problem to him. On the other hand, while he's more open with Sanji, and Sanji with him, they tend to relate a bit too much with each other and they both have issues with causing trouble for others and being 'deserving of love' so failed attempts at consoling one hurts the other and creates an unpleasant cycle of misery and avoidance before some other crewmate (Zoro) tells them to quit being stupid and just fucking talk to each other.

[nattousan]

when

whe you, when You were just trying to put i n some extra effort to try adn improve yoursel f and it got misinterpreted as malicious n u get yell ed at

[happyk44]

You know, children of Hades/Pluto and Thanatos/Mors with a propensity to develop SZPD or AVPD would also work. Their fathers are entwined with death, the dead, which makes connecting to the living hard for them.

It could be partly because of rejection when their parentage is discovered by demigods, possible unease mortals may feel around them due to their aura or whatever, and then partly because of their own innate nature, meaning even in the friendliest of circumstances they struggle to connect with the other person.

[pigeonstab]

Tumblr is messing with my head, I should take a break. I won't but like... I should.

[sysig]

Let him dad her!! (Patreon)

[autisticbiologistmess]

.

[dogswest]

This was on my main blog which is where I keep art only which is why I'm reposting here.

This entire thing feels like you're twisting my words and targeting everyone who is mentally ill and I honestly think that is what pisses me off the most about this. Yeah I've said shit like "seek therapy" and other things along those lines to an extreme, but you're saying that as if I'm saying that to people who aren't actively ECOURAGING other people with mental illness to se/f h4rm, saying to others that inc3st is okay, saying to others that p3doph1ilia is okay, saying being attracted to ACTUAL ANIMALS is ok because they'd (a) "Never do that irl" or (b) "in fiction". Mental illness isn't an excuse for the fucked up shit you do and show; it's a reason, sure, but that doesn't mean everyone should turn a blind eye because you have something going on. I'm mentally ill, I've surrounded myself with people who hurt me and I've surrounded myself with people who I hurt, but I never learned that what I was doing was horrible until a professional actually told me. However it wasn't a therapist I hired, it was a random ass counselor who saw a kid who needed SERIOUS help and encouraged them to get it. People NEED to hear it from a professional, no matter where its from, to understand that shit they're doing is dangerous. I'm not calling people with mental illness a danger, I'm telling people that the shit they are doing is dangerous.

Secondly, I GET IT. I know what its like to have to fight for mental healthcare. I've had shitty therapists, I've had points in my life where I didn't think I needed therapy, I've had points in my life where I was denied therapy, I've surrounded myself with people who encouraged me to continue these bad things, and its not easy to just pick up even if you apply yourself. But if people are willing to help you actually get the shit you need. People don't always know they can actually get help if they ask the right people. ENCOURAGING OTHERS to do the shit that you're AWARE isn't healthy and can be dangerous for others; THAT is dangerous. THAT is inexcusable.

And quit acting like I'm stupid and spend my time being mad online. I'm actively fighting for and against shit that is going on in the real world. I'm going to protests, I'm helping friends in need, I'm contributing where I know I can. But just because because there's "better things to worry about" doesn't mean I'm gonna turn a blind eye towards people who are actively causing harm and taking advantage of minors, other mentally ill people who need that help, or anyone else who ends up being vulnerable to manipulation. That's what people who are PROUD OF being a prosh1tter are encouraging and doing. I don't give a FUCK if its "the internet, get used to it" because it's not something that should be normal or glorified because of the shit it can do to a person.

I get that I'm an asshole for how aggressive I am, I get that I shouldn't be calling mentally ill people dangerous and I'm sorry for that. I should understand that calling people dangerous when they're clearly going through horrible shit is just bad and I shouldn't let my emotions on the situation make me hurt people who don't mean to hurt others. I don't always know the full story and I can't always tell if they're aware or not. Which is why I will be doing what you said, which is just blocking and reporting those people and not trying to further involve myself. But the reason I'm so aggressive and say shit like that is because majority of you people are AWARE of the shit you're doing and that's what I cannot stand. I'm targeting the group of people who are encouraging people to selfh4rm and/or circle jerk themselves by saying that everything they do is fine while aware of what they're doing. NOTHING EXCUSES ENDANGERING OTHER PEOPLE, certain things can be a reason and it can add a lot to the equation, but NEVER an excuse.

Lastly, you coming into my ask just to tell me I'm being childish by saying shit like "waa waa" to mock me is just as hypocritical as I am for going into people's asks and telling them they need therapy. The only difference is, there's a CHANCE I can actually do something productive. There's a chance someone will look at that and be like "maybe I should do that" or even "oh yeah I should continue doing that". Just like how you're hoping there's a chance I'll change my mind, which I did to the smallest degree and that's by not digging into peoples personal lives and just doing what I know I can (reporting and blocking), but it feels like one of us wants to both of us to go up while the other wants both of us to go down and that's why I think that you're so obviously more in the wrong.

Listen, idgaf what you do typically when it comes to weird shit just as long as everyone's an adult, aren't related, can conscious, and are able to verbally consent. Idgaf if you think it's hot to stab your s/o in a roleplay, Idgaf if you think it's cute or aesthetic to be blown up or act like a puppy or consent to whatever, but encouraging and exposing that shit to people who are vulnerable and don't know that it's dangerous makes you dangerous, doesn't matter what you have or what you are. Keep that shit in private and legal.

If you want to continue arguing this, then do it in my DMs, because you're right about one thing: I'm gonna respect my DNIs for my own mental health by just reporting and blocking. I'm not gonna try to attract more stink bugs by squashing one.

[rouge-fauna]

when tommy was talking about people from his pov that treated him badly that he used to be friends with and how he empathized with them for a long time, jack said it was about a lot of people not just dream which makes me think it was about wilbur as well and in that song tommy made theres lots of text on it and one of the text was "i cant watch my old videos anymore because all the people in them were not the people I thought they were" as well as messages about dependency. but just because tommys going through a lot doesn't mean he can treat dream horribly or blame what wilbur did to him onto dream. Same goes with tommy saying that he only made digs at dream to cope with his stress from dream as in "you can either laugh or cry." which is.... As for other mentors, Iirc logan paul was one at some point?, his mom he gets a lot of advice from and philza, schlatt. Other mentors maybe mr beast at a point, george, maybe everyone that has ever given him advice was a mentor to him

I’ll disagree with you that everyone who gives advice is a mentor. I don’t think that’s how mentors work. In my opinion, a mentor is not just someone who gives you advice but someone who helps you with your future but also has a deep relationship with you. A mentor is almost like someone who isn’t your parent, but has a parentish dynamic with you. Anyone can give someone advice but a mentor is someone who is supportive and helpful along with advice. If that makes sense. Wilbur is probably the main culprit here, Schlatt I think is more so his idol but perhaps falls under “people who were not who I thought they were” I think perhaps Logan Paul was an idol too, but I do side with Dream here that Logan Paul has been known to be problematic for a long time even before Tommy interacted with him so did Tommy really have a better perception of him? Not sure about Mr Beast I don’t think they interacted much, but I could be wrong. Generally, I can’t imagine what it must feel like to have so many videos with your mentor who died from cancel and your other mentor who was outed to be physically abusive. That has to be really hard, and maybe Tommy’s brain has categorized Dream as a mentor therefore - as dead to him/a bad guy. Because it’s easier to put everyone in the same box even when it doesn’t fit. Maybe too he’s trying to distance himself from the dsmp because of how painful it is and Dream is just an active reminder. Not that any of that justifies his behavior, talk about who needs to go to therapy. The fact that he felt like he had to stay with Dream and make digs to laugh instead of cry instead of just not being his friend, I think still highlights that behavior of using Dream for clout. Even if at the end of the day Dream did hurt Tommy it a) doesn’t excuse the shit he’s pulled and b) highlights even further his disingenuous Tommy is to only put up with Dream for the clout.