#queerplatonic aro culture

[aro-culture-is]

Aro queerplatonic culture is Lavender Haze by Taylor Swift.

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[franknfurterstriangulardinosaur]

I love being aromantic. It’s so nice to not live with the expectations of a romantic relationship. It’s nice to be my own person and be able to experience them freely. It’s nice for no one to have to be superior to anyone in my mind- to not have a hierarchy. It’s nice to have friendship. It’s nice to go out with your friends and do all those things that are supposed to be romantic but as a platonic intent. I love being aromantic. I love being the colour green. I love the flag. I love tearing down amatonormativity and social values. I love the culture. I love the tiny aromantic hints I’ve had my entire life. I love aromantic music. I love taking the romance out of love songs. I love not just viewing life as a time to fulfill romance. I love having all these hidden aromantic symbols. I love queer platonic relationships. I love other aromantic people. I love talking about being aromantic. I love being aromantic- I love being myself.

[qpr-culture-is]

qpr culture is wishing all of the aspecs in qprs a very happy ace awareness week!

[rose-reveries]

Waking up every day with you in a small cozy house, where we have a silly old orange cat that lounges around in the sunlight. We don’t feel the need to talk every day but the silence is comfortable and filled with love and admiration. I see a frog on the way to work and take a picture just for you so you can see it later. I make us a meal for dinner that reminds me of our memories together and we share it over a bottle of wine. We take walks in the park across the street everyday holding hands for the next 60 years. I love you so much, my dear and just want to be your platonic partner in life

[aroace-cat-lady]

Amatonormativity is OUT queerplatonic relationships are IN

[atertiary-culture-is]

queerplatonic repulsed culture is feeling excluded from the aro / ace community because of how queerplatonic attraction / relationships seem to be expected

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(just adding that the aro and ace community are not the same community or identity, they are distinct - and that even people who are neither aro or ace can be queerplatonic-repulsed in case other ppl misinterpret anon's wording) (and aqueerplatonic is still under aspec bc aspec is not just aro and ace, but anon does not mention orientation here only repulsion)

[disbestyx]

Make out?

Nah.

I'm saving these lips for the sweet kiss of death.

< HAPPY AROMANTIC AWARENESS WEEK PEOPLE! >

[blackrainbowblade]

Love songs for ace and aro ppl. Because f**k anyone who says we don't know how to love. We're can just be a little more complicated.

Some more info about this project:

“As an under-represented and rarely discussed part of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, this EP is an exploration of what it is to be aromantic and a celebration of love in its many diverse forms.

Five guest artists combine their stunning vocals with MaJiKer’s, dancing around his poignant, playful lyrics and adding texture & depth to the epic backing choirs.

Like sparks of light in the darkness, these vocal layers guide the listener through a deeply personal, unapologetically emotional journey from shame, guilt and uncertainty into a hopeful future shimmering with joy, liberation and pride.”

[aro-yearning-culture-is]

Aro yearning culture is actually getting into a qpp with your squish!!! 2.5 years now!!!

that's awesome!! congrats to you both :]

[aroacearchangel]

godddd I really do not enjoy being a natural flirt (whatever the fuck that means) because then people are interested and .. what the fuck am i supposed to tell u. no but it isn’t personal.?? I’d rather eat tree bark but you seem nice?? Can we just hang out and have a movie night platonically with zero expectations bc that sounds so much better.

[silverirony]

"they act soooo married, they have to be in love there's no other explanation!!" actually there are plenty of other explanations, such as:

Aromanticism

[aro-culture-is]

Me and my best friend recently got together.

I think we're both in the aro spectrum. Demi romantic Maybe.

And the way we feel isn't like, classic romance? Nothing between us has changed outside of me now teasing the hell out of him.

I always call it a secret third thing, would that count as QPR? That's the definition I gave him while we were trying to figure out what we are cause feelings are weird.

I've had crushes and a romantic (albeit toxic) relationship before and he's different.

oh that's 100% something you can call a QPR. like, absolutely classic

[identity-of-today]

Okay! For 01/05/2023 these are what feel best for me

Gender!

Metagender:To identify around or beyond a gender. Where your gender identity is almost that gender, but not quite, and also extends beyond that. Imagine that —- is you, and | is the gender identity (and identifying fully with a gender is —-|), then metagender is —- | —-

Agender: Not having a gender, or a lack of a gender

Orientation!

Asexual: Has little or no sexual attraction

Cupiromantic: One that desires a romantic relationship, but experiences little to no romantic attraction.

Pronouns: Thxy/Thxm

[qpr-culture-is]

qpr culture is having a friend come out as aro and immediately wanting to introduce them to the idea of qprs bc they (qprs that is) mean a lot to you and might be helpful to them

(ofc there are plenty aros out there that dont want nonplatonic relationships, which is totally fine, but as I said it could very well be helpful info for them!)

[altschmerzes]

i meant less the inability for people to tag their shit correctly and more the constant crush of hyper-emphasis on romantic shipping, normalized and extreme amatonormativity ('there's no platonic explanation for this' 'if you think they aren't in love you're delusional/lying/stupid/etc' 'WHO would do x for a mere FRIEND' etc), harassment of people who don't like certain ships or ships at all, harassment of people who request politely but firmly that people don't make ship based commentary on their fanworks (which i and people i know have repeatedly personally experienced), the expectation that anyone and everyone is in fandom because they enjoy and want to engage in romantic shipping, etc etc etc tbh. it's a constant and inescapable background noise of 'the main/only point of fandom is romantic shipping and if you disagree you're weird/a prude/a mood killer' and even people who are cool about it tend to constantly make 'aren't they so in love' comments about two characters who made eye contact or stood in the same room to whoever happens to be nearby. there is no consideration of whether it is the appropriate time or place for romantic commentary, and the idea of someone having boundaries around that is considered antithetical to the entirety of fandom's existence.

so like, yeah, i've enjoyed cool aspec stuff and qpr representation as well, but the problems that i deal with trying to exist in fandom spaces that prompted me to make this post are so, so much more than just inaccurate tagging (which ALSO drives me nuts, but is just one of Many problems) and aren't ameliorated by the existence of qpr fic (which i love but people make a lot of really weird amatonormative and aphobic commentary about) and 'cool aspec stuff' (see previous).

if you are aromantic and have Tried To Exist In Fandom Spaces you may be entitled to financial compensation-

[pinkrangerv]

Supernatural isn't canonically anything. They barely know that queer people exist, just enough to make homophobic jokes and do the "bury your gays" trope

So the post you're referring to is one where we're discussing queer subtext. Yes, the SPN writers did in fact know what queer people are, and probably knew about aromanticism and asexuality--those two, not by name, but queer people did not suddenly start existing in 2014. They knew. That's why Charlie was a character. She was lesbian. That was textual. They really, really knew gay people existed.

SPN writers not only understood aromanticism and asexuality, they very lovingly wrote an entire series that makes an insane amount of sense from that lens. Sure, those words are obscure to your average rando straight, but consider:

Neither Dean or Sam have a girlfriend (past Jessie). Dean never even has a girlfriend in the first place. Past Jessie's death, Dean has sex and Sam occasionally finds a girl, but for all Sam's torn about it, the 'important' relationship in life is as brothers.

Castiel doesn't sleep with Dean, nor does he date him. But Castiel says he has a profound bond with him, from early on, and he'll drop everything to go spend time with Dean and Sam.

These relationships exist in real life. They're queer relationships--aromantic and asexual ones. Castiel and Dean canonically have a queerplatonic relationship, because that's what that means: they are functioning as a married couple, but don't do the 'married' bits. Sam and Dean have a familial relationship and don't break apart for other ones; this is common with asexual or aromantic people.

Without these relationships, there's no plot. There's no Supernatural. Sure, if you'd asked the writers, they wouldn't have known the words--but these are very, very much queer themes. They're just not gay themes.

It's kind of ridiculous to say that anyone, in any part of history, doesn't understand that queer people exist. The SPN writers did not live under a rock. They may not have approved of being gay, sure, but you don't write an entire show requiring asexual relationships without having an understanding it exists. They were grown adults, not five-year-olds. Yes, they put that in on purpose, no matter what they thought the name was.

If you have gay headcanons, great, go for it. But claiming that the entire premise of the show is somehow 'not really aro\ace' because you really want gay sex? Yeah, this is not canon. It's your headcanon. That's not bad, either! Fandom involves thousands of alternate universes, and what-ifs, and all kinds of headcanons--it's a vital part of it! It's not somehow 'lesser' for your headcanon not to be canon.

But canonically, the queer themes in the text of SPN are aro\ace. Charlie is gay. But the Winchesters and Castiel are not.