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Today hasn't been very good. Reblog to cover prev in blankets and tell them everything is going to be okay and they're loved.

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can we ask about ur family's curse

according to my great grandma it was cast on her grandma by a neighbor with the evil eye - "your daughters will marry their fathers and your sons will become them"

which is really just a fancy way of describing the cycle of abuse and therefore worked very well, generally going into effect before the kid in question turned 21

so my matrilineal family tree winds up a fractured, miserable mess, lots of young marriages and parents falling apart generation after generation, serial toxic marriages with generations of kids scattered across the whole state in foster homes - very nasty stuff

until it gets to me (firstborn in my generation of cousins) and by the time im twenty one i am 1. both daughter and son and neither 2. extremely aspec and queer

which apparently this neighbor did not conceive of when casting her eye and seems to have simply error messaged the curse into oblivion. no one born after me has had this problem. all their romantic relationships are loving (though i would never claim them perfect) and their children adored. fairytale loopholed so hard the damn thing disintegrated. its the funniest magic story i have lmao

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“ExcUSE me?!”

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i really hate coming out but still want my extended family to know, so my mother took it upon herself to invent the game “guess which one of my kids is gay.”

the rules are simple.

sit down with uncle so-and-so

he says something about gay people in passing

my mom says “there’s a gay person at this table right now. guess which of my kids it is!

he looks frantically between the three of us trying to figure out if she’s joking or not and trying desperately not to offend anyone but also she won’t continue with the conversation unless he makes a guess so he has to make a guess

we all enjoy his discomfort immensely

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Also, as much as we like to pretend a good person will magically be able to intuit that prejudice is wrong--no, no you fucking can't.

Are you uncomfortable with that homeless man on the bus? That's probably because your mother or uncle or other beloved adult, who tied your shoelaces and made yummy dinners, was ALSO uncomfortable with homeless people.

If your parents and adults loved you as a kid, then you never had a reason to question them, no matter what they said. That's a great thing! You had trustworthy people in your life! But they taught you bad shit, too (hopefully by accident), so you're accidentally repeating it.

YOU WILL NOT GET ANYWHERE BY BEING MAD AT YOURSELF THAT YOU DIDN'T CATCH THIS OR HAVEN'T FIXED IT YET.

So don't do that.

No one can tell what you're thinking until you do something. If you're not sneering and leaning away, or starting a scene? No one knows or cares. Thoughtcrime isn't a thing. You're not in trouble for, and let me emphasize this here, *believing the things you were taught as a kid*.

What you DO need to do is say this to yourself: "Hunh, I feel really uncomfortable for a shitty reason. I was taught this as a kid, and the people who taught me that probably wanted to keep me safe. They were wrong, and this person ISN'T dangerous, but my mom thinks ABBA is fashionable and my dad sometimes wears bell bottoms. Sometimes my family is dumb, so I'm going to sit back and enjoy my bus ride instead of taking Mr. Bell Bottoms entirely seriously."

And then sit back and relax.

Sometimes people teach us stupid shit. Sometimes it's bigoted shit. But you don't need to freak out about you or them being secretly evil; just saying 'wow, that's dumb, I'm ignoring it' will get you a lot farther here, because odds are, that really is all that happened. Think it through, then relax. That's all you need to do here.

Haven't figured out a politic way to word this but before saying someone/thing "makes you uncomfortable" please ask yourself this important question: is it any of your fucking business

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writing tip #3735:

write sober, edit drunk

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fanfic writers are so fucking awesome man. they write novel length fics that are sometimes even better than some published bestselling books written by professional writers. like fanfic writers are professional writers to me and they gift us their masterpieces for free. they give us something we can look forward to after a long day. something from which we can seek comfort when life is hard. something that can be our own little getaway. in a world of capitalism, despite everything, they give us all of these for free. like holy fuck. shout out to every fanfic writer. I wish all fanfic writers a very ‘I love you with all my heart and soul. I thank you from the bottom of my heart’

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I truly believe any neurodivergent person can be framed as manipulative if their doctor dislikes them. What is masking if not manipulation if you view it uncharitably enough?

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definitely one of The Pics of all time…

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A hummingbird thought a man’s orange hat was a flower [x]

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