#queer found family

[margareturtle]

Oh are we not supposed to recommend aftg to friends??

Whoopsies 🤭

No but like hear me out…

I’m not gonna rec aftg to any random friend who wants a book rec

BUT

If you’re my friend in any or all of these three fandoms: The Raven Cycle, Six of Crows, and/or Marauders…

Then you best believe I’m getting you to read AFTG!!

You can’t escape it !!

[frndly-nbh-enbee]

queer culture is discussing how the “would you still like me if i was a worm” discourse is actually about asking “would still like me if i was a little bit useless - if i was not pretty nor productive, if all i did was exist as myself and all i had to offer you was my presence and my affection” and realising that the people in your life make you feel cherished even when all you can offer them is your company - when you can’t think of something clever to say, or something all that funny to add…when you haven’t washed your hair in too many days and didn’t wake up with enough time to brush it before leaving home…when you can’t quiet motivate yourself to get out of bed, or when your unmasked and what your saying is unpolished and imprecise and randomly gifting someone in your life the embroidery you did to let them know you reciprocate.

[halleyys-comet]

I think I found my favourite trope.

It’s found family where each of them is weird for a different reason but they share one braincell and they’re all really obsessed and dramatic about one specific thing. Most of them are queer and the main couple is friends to lovers with the strongest platonic-romantic bond.

It’s just so fascinating to see the friendship between each one of them and how they act around each other and what their character adds to the group dynamic.

I can settle for just found family but if it checks all the boxes I’m never shutting up about it.

[zavianglorywrites]

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This isn't the homecoming they were expecting... Marshall and Rowan have been waiting for their thirtieth birthday for ten years. It's the day they can finally inherit the neighboring houses where they grew up side by side, which had been left to them by their mothers after a freak accident took their lives. Kept apart almost constantly since the age of eighteen, first by college, then by their careers, both Marshall and Rowan are excited to finally stop long-distance dating and start the next stage of their lives, together. They'll finally be home.

But little do they know they'll not only be inheriting their childhood homes, but much more. Because there's a family legacy they never knew of, one filled with the magic of angels and a destiny to protect the world from a powerful demon expected to return from Hell very soon. Together, Marshall and Rowan, with the help of two Fallen angels, must learn to master their new powers to defeat demons - starting with the one who caused their mothers' fatal accident. If they can't, it won't just be their lives on the line, but the lives of everyone they've ever cared about.

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[villainspo]

Thinking supervillainy is aspirational is queer culture, because that’s where the representation was.

That’s who we could see ourselves in.

When you come from groups that are vilified, and see yourself in the person that the movie or the book wants you to think is bad, it’s only natural to question the narrative.

Were they really so bad? They’re like you. Are you bad?

Or did they merely have the temerity to break the rules of politesse that govern respectability?

You know how hard it is to stay within the lines of acceptability or even recognizability that other people draw for you.

Were they only monstrous because that was the role assigned them?

Did they actually make some rather good points?

I’m so so excited for the kids growing up now who can maybe find themselves in the heroes, too.

This comic gets growing up with villainy as the dream—and then offers an opportunity for the vilified to explore heroism.

You can tell how deep this got me, because this post is spaced out so nonsensically.

Let’s make wonderful and terrifying things from our traumas.

Source: New Mutants (2019) #32, by Charlie Jane Anders (writer), Ro Stein and Ted Brandt (line art), Tamra Bonvillain (colors), and Travis Lanham (lettering and production)

[beccacoffindaffer]

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THE BLOODY AND THE DAMNED (Spring 2025) is a YA fantasy about Val, a deadly assassin wrestling with their suppressed heart of gold, who will do anything to get their sisters back from a notorious gang of outlaws they double-crossed, even if it means teaming up with their ex-childhood-best-friend who broke their heart. It's my love letter to siblings, human connection, genre mashups, and the question of what wouldn't you do for those you love. 🗡💜

This book has been a hell of a journey. Val is both ace and grayromantic and I wrote so many pieces of my own ace identity into them years ago, without even realizing what I was doing. My very first draft of this poured out of me in 2014, and I didn't come to know and identify as ace until a few years later. Discovering it was like finally cracking a cipher to a code; so much of who I was and my experiences made sense. And Val made more sense too. I can't wait to share them with you. 🖤💜🤍

[recovering-vamp]

[bigbroadvice]

I've submitted this to a couple blogs, but it is a genuine question I have and so I'd like to get as widespread of an answer as I can get.

So I know what we talk about making found families as queer people, a lot of the time that ends up looking like a group of our peers, or a significant other, or a combination of the two.

But the way I've always looked at families is that they're not just made up of people your age. They're made up of so many different ages, they're made up of the grandmothers, the aunts, the uncles, the cousins, the mothers, the fathers, and I think that's something that I find harder to replicate in a found family then finding people my age I can make connections with.

So my question is, how do you go about creating and joining the larger communities/found family of queer people. Where do you find the older queers who can take on the roles of grandparents, and, uncles, cousins, surrogate parents, how do you go about connecting with younger queer people who you can take under your wing as surrogate brothers, sisters, and siblings.

Because I think it's entirely possible, or it should be entirely possible. I just don't know how you actually go about making those connections and finding those communities rather than just connecting to people your age and within your sphere.

And this could go for online communities, this could go for in real life communities. Honestly knowing how to find connections and make connections in both of those spheres would be helpful. But yeah I was hoping that even if you yourself don't actually necessarily have an answer to this, that by sharing it maybe someone else will have more of an answer.

This is an excellent question!

The cultural norm now-a-days seems to be for people to only really interact with people their own age and our communities, both large and small scale, are suffering for it. The only way to overcome this barrier is to be intentionally counter cultural.

Keep an eye out for queer people older and younger than you and be intentional about talking to and forming connections with them. Go talk to that queer teacher or coworker or neighbor when you’ve got something going on and could use some advice instead of just googling it. Look out for the queer kids, invite them into your friend group, and offer a hand when it looks like they’re having a hard time.

Hang out in places with people of different ages, both in person and online. Find a community program where you can get to know people. It might feel kind of awekward at first because we’re all used to staying in our own self contained little age group bubbles, but most of us really do want to talk to eachother. You’ve just gotta reach out and keep leaning into those connections.

That’s the whole point of what I’m trying to do with this blog.

[myleeehhhhh]

I don't get it when people say "they don't want to be the part of the crowd" or "they are unique"...

They don't know It's a bliss, to have a community that relates with your experiences, to have a community that tells you that you are not alone and whatever you are feeling is not weird. It's relieving to have people who can laugh and cringe with you on the similar mistakes they made and incidents they had. Take it from a queer adult who is still trying to find a community to finally belong to, to finally relate to.

[kajaono]

Me watching BBC wreck: I don’t even like horror 😭

The thing I do for Thaddea Graham, honestly!

And now I would do everything for the queer found family in this show

A mlm couple, a wlw couple and a trans woman with a straight cis man, who is an idiot but he is her idiot

[somesemblanceofnormal]

when i say this story has the “found family” trope in it, this is what i’m talking about!!! these kids go through hell and back together and come out better for having made those bonds with each other thru out the story <33

they’d all go to the ends of the earth for one another, doing whatever it takes for everyone to survive AND thrive in a world that doesnt like any of them.

im making this its own post actually

found family is "i have endured the fucking horrors with these guys. i would both kill and die for them. i would rip my own bones out to make splints to heal theirs. there is no name for the bond we share"

found family is NOT "this guy is so dad-coded and these guys are so sibling-like and—"

[sandalwoodbox]

Fandom: 酷盖爸爸 | Papa & Daddy

Rating: Teen And Up Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Damian / Jie Li Characters: Damian, Jie Li, Kai Kai, Ensemble Additional Tags: Found Family, Fanvid, Subtitles, Queer Found Family, Pride, Parenting, Gay Parents, Biological family joins found family Summary:

A place by the fire for everyone.

AO3

[sagechan]

it's always "eroticize the sacred" until "the sacred" is a queer found family

[shyjusticewarrior]

Damian Living On Tim's Murder Boat AU: Part 2 Electric Boogaloo

Jason: *enters, wearing shades and coffees in hand* Hey Timmy, I'm having a mental break-

[Kitchen is on fire, Damian and Tim are screaming]

Jason: ... You seem busy, I'll come back later. *leaves*

Bernard: So why'd your mom pick "Head" as her fake surname?

Damian: Presumably because my grandfather, her father, was called the demon's head.

Bernard: Her name when estranged from her dad had a reference to him? Metal as hell, maybe I should do that.

Damian: You're estranged from your father?

Bernard: Both my parents. They don't really... approve of me dating Tim.

Damian: While I agree you're above Drake, there are worse men you could date.

Bernard: That's the thing. They, uh, don't like that he's a guy.

Damian: ... I see. *unsheathes sword* And where do they live again?

Bernard: I appreciate the thought, really, but please don't.

[aunmenosheteroenespanol]

2.12 Chimney Begins - 2.09 Hen Begins - 2.16 Bobby Begins Again - 7.04 Buck, Bothered and Bewildered

Tommy's family arc

[recovering-vamp]