#policing identity

[ottostoast]

playing around with some spider-KID designs

[pirateprincessjess]

Fuck you and your “girlfriend.” Neither of you can experience trans misogyny because you aren’t normal transwoman. Stop being so weird with your fucking puppy pronouns. You are the reason my mom hates me, and people like her hate all of us.

Woah.

There is a lot going on here, but I can’t get past the bit about how you think your mom hates you because I’m a puppygirl.

[vaspider]

How are you a lesbian if you go by “he?” Lesbians are exclusively women

Assuming you are asking this in good faith - which doesn't make it appropriate, but we'll get to that in a minute:

1. No, lesbians are not exclusively women, and this has never been the case. A great deal of lesbian writing going back decades upon decades posits lesbian as a separate gender - certainly we are not nor have ever been seen by society at large as "proper and correct women."

1a. My gender is butch lesbian. The end.

2. Pronouns aren't gender. Also, see above.

2a. He/Him, They/Them and neopronouns as pronouns for butch lesbians (who consider themselves women or any other gender) has at least a hundred years of history behind it, as does butch lesbians referring to themselves as Husband or Daddy.

2b. Have you read Stone Butch Blues? Like, ever? Leslie Feinberg (z''l) was not a woman. Zie made that very clear over decades.

3. And this is the most important, so I need you to listen very very closely:

ACAB INCLUDES POLICING OTHER PEOPLE'S IDENTITIES.

I hope that clears things up for you, as other people's identities are not matters for debate or for you to police. I am setting a firm end to this conversation; I will not engage further with you on it. If you would like to request more information from someone on gender theory and lesbianism to clear up your very clearly lacking education, including me, ask about the theory and don't involve the other person's identity.

Once you've read Stone Butch Blues - which is free online by the terms of the author's last wishes - if you'd like to return and discuss the long history of gender variance and gender freedom within the lesbian community, you may do so. But - and I'm totally serious - I'm not talking with you about this again until you've read at least that one totally free book and killed the cop in your head that makes you think you can come into someone's inbox and ... do this.

Would you walk up to someone on the street and say this? If so, who raised you? If not, why do you think it's okay to do to someone online?

[lgbtqtext]

Requested by small-bug-in-the-woods

[honeydreamzz]

are you truly a queer ally if you exclude or don't support the following?

queer people of color

queer women / feminine queers

queer men / masculine queers

amab queers

afab queers

intersex individuals

transgender individuals

non-binary indidviduals

any kind of non-conformity (pronoun, gender, label, etc.)

queer alterhumans

neopronominal / varipronominal / multipronominal / apapronominal / alterpronominal / nullpronominal / crosspronoun individuals

xenogenders

aro- / ace- / aroace-spec individuals

disabled queers

queer people who don't confirm with certain stereotypes of their identities or of queer people in general

the answer is, no, you really aren't. you're an exclusionist.

[xmimikyuusx]

whenever I hear the shit like "trans men can't say tranny that belongs to trans women" "trans men using transandrophobia are just stealing language from trans women/trying to copy them for attention" "trans men can't use the egg cracking analogy because that belongs to trans women" "trans men are trying to appropriate trans women culture" (whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean) it reminds me of being 12 and changing schools, and being a child in the 2010's, I was obsessed with using the word coolio. However, the kids were very quick to inform me that there was Already another kid who was saying coolio and that word belonged to them/was their catch phrase, so I couldn't say it. Even though to me, I'd been using that long since I showed up there. I'd been saying dumb shit like that forever.

So like. Infantile shit. To try and say that certain words belong to your specific identity and anyone who might even remotely relate to you is doing it to steal your thunder. I promise if someone from a different identity uses a term that you use for yourself it literally doesn't affect anything other than your ego.

a note*: the above doesn't apply to indigenous/POC who have had their language essentially colonized, very much a different situation

[bruciemilf]

The most embarrassing moment of Jason’s life is calling Bruce to bail him out for underage drinking

[kaitokitty19]

(from @witchhakuba it won't let me switch accs) we've seen saguru and tiny kaito. but what about kaito and tiny saguru? 👀

Ahhhh thank you for the ask and sorry I took so long to reply (I was sick 🤒)

Buttttt god, thank you for giving me the excuse to draw tiny Saguru 😘😘😘

Imo, if Saguru were to be drugged with APTX4689, it would be because he stumbled upon the Black Org at a heist and stepped in as they were about to harm Kaito. Kaito brought him home and they work together to find the antidote (and pandora). Now, instead of chasing after KID, Hakuba is put into a position where he has to cover up KID’s trail against other detectives (which he will have moral crisises about) and fend off the Black Org.

(Kaito becomes very protective of Tiny-guru because he felt guilty Hakuba’s drugged because of him).

Hakuba’s alias would be something like Arthur LeBlanc (Arthur Conan Doyle and Maurice LeBlanc - author of Arsene Lupin and Blanc means white, which Saguru took quite an offense to, but hey, Kaito’s the one forging documents here 🤷🏻‍♀️)

Unlike Conan, I don’t think Hakuba would let his parents know about his predicament. He doesn’t seem to be close with his parents and wouldn’t want to bother/endanger them. Each of his parents just thought he was staying with the other one. At most, he tells Bayaa.

Arthur enrolled into the same primary school as Conan, and immediately arose suspicion when the Detective Boys arrived at a murder scene only to be informed that the crime has already been solved by another first grader. Ai Haibara, especially, did not trust him and avoid Arthur at all costs. Conan further suspect him when Arthur shows up at every heist.

Ahhhhh please feed me more ideas! This was fun. I’d likely draw more atpx!Hakuba in the future!

Click here for the mini comic I made for this AU 🫶🏻

[pluviatrix]

dooble of botw link entertaining a little girl to celebrate totk SOON !!!!! !! !

[h0dge-p0dge]

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[weatheredcopper]

my second gender take of the day is that nobody has the exact same gender. that isnt to say that for example trans men and cis men are not both men, but rather that ALL men are a slightly different type of man, its just useful as a way of categorizing the broad strokes of your identity. this is the same for women and ESPECIALLY genderqueer/nonbinary people because that represents everything not covered in two strict categories

[our-lesboy-experience]

hey shoutout to lesboys who identify as such for ANY reason

to lesboys who are tomboys

to lesboys who use the term as an expression of masculinity

to lesboys who enjoy being called terms like boy, man, etc. whose gender still isn't man

to lesboys who's system uses it as a collective identity

to lesboys who are butch and/or transmasc

to lesboys who are genderfluid, bigender, multigender, and loves using the term to express both their orientation and multigender identity

to lesboys who are ftm

to lesboys who are trans men and still feel connected to lesbian identity

to lesboys who are openly and unashamedly men

you shouldn't have to change yourself or become more palatable to people who only conditionally accept you. you deserve to present yourself however you like and it doesn't matter if other people feel offended by it. a bigoted person feeling hurt about you expressing yourself in a way they don't like is not a tangible form of hurt

[mihai-florescu]

...are u a proshipper?

I post about my opinions on shipping culture every other week so im going to share one of the latest ones, but tldr is i find both terms of pro and antishipping reductive and meaningless in the grand scheme of media analysis outside fandom infighting, which in itself is not very meaningful either. Sorry if this is an annoying or pretentious take but it's been my opinion for a long time. I find it a fascinating topic how fiction can affect reality through the messages and ideas inbedded by the author but not only, also the power of the fans who can change the perception of the work. I'll try to get back on track to the original question... there can be patterns indicative of an individual's personality and morals through the media they frequently engage with and by extension ships they like, and if you mainly engage with loli incest because you consider it hot then like. Thats offputting and i will be avoiding that personally. But i dont agree with policing what type of media can exist and which relationships are okay to explore and push to get an interesting character or story, or what certain relationships can mean to individuals. I will never stop people from engaging with things in a way i dont personally agree with, so nowadays i subscribe to the age old "dont like dont look" mindset, but i also question why im uncomfortable with certain depictions when i encounter them to better understand myself and maybe even the other person.

I hope this made sense? It's a topic i think there can be a lot said and im afraid i cant give a yes/no answer when i find both sides are limiting compared to my actual beliefs about engaging with media (i hate calling it media, i wish to call it art, but i fear thatll make me sound more pretentious if i refer to the games or shows i like as art considering their reputation...) I end up making fun of the labels especially when theyre used as character descriptors when theyre very situational... i dont think someone in a fantasy world would have the same mental framework about relationships as an internet user engaged in shipping wars. Thats what my post was about, since i think this ask was a result of that tag, just poking fun at fandom culture as i tend to do^_^

[unimatrix-420]

[thatonegaybrit]

; the sentences " micro labels are valid and can be helpful and validating to people " and " people don't have to specify every part of their identity to you to be valid, and can use broad terms even if their actual experience is more specific " can and should coexist.

[roman-roy-apologist]

yeah ok i get it you don’t think transandrophobia exists but you do realize that it’s still bad to be shitty to transmascs right? you get that right?