#partially as a reminder to myself

[valtsv]

[imjustaf444keriguess]

"The post I was referring to was from a blog who actually said in their bio they were endo." you were using a quote that didn't have a source and i was going off of the quote u said. saying that people who use "plural culture" before a post are not always endogenic. if a specific poster was, cool, but the original post made it seem like you were reading from a general "plural culture is" blog, like... all of the plural/system culture is blogs that show up in the tags.

"And with the non-surface level things, if you're an alter, endogenic or not, how could you not not recognize yourself in the mirror? /genq" you recognize the "self" in the mirror as the body you're inhabiting? or as the collective "self" you live as to non-systems? especially endogenic systems, who don't have that disordered disconnect, they could see the mirror as "one of their bodies" or just... them, as they are in the moment.

i deal with that disconnect so i can't fully comprehend it either, but sometimes we do look in the mirror and it feels recognizable as ourselves, even if it's like... alter A looks at the clothes and sees themself in them, whereas alter B sees the haircut we have and goes "that's me!", or something.

also, the concept of a "sense of self" is very complicated. is the "self" as in the body, as a whole? i know we have a collective "self" we sometimes act as, but it's different than each alter/headmate's sense of self, as an individual being and consciousness inside the body. sometimes, these can overlap, especially with systems who see themselves as "parts of a whole" instead of separate "people" inside one body.

"No, we don't always post about the negatives of being a system, and we don't believe anyone has to in order to be valid. But only posting about the positives of it just gives people a warped view of what plurality is, since there's always negatives to every positive." i think there's definitely a lot of variation on how much negative to positive an experience can have.

especially with systems who are in recovery, in safe places, and who are able to be themself/selves in safe ways, there's gonna be way less negatives. similarly, there's going to be systems stuck in abusive and dangerous and shitty situations that might feel like life is nearly entirely negatives. for some systems, being a system/plural is more joy than pain, and for some others, it's more pain than joy.

i don't think we have to change our own experience just to "unwarp" other people's opinions on what plurality is. someone being happy as a system and not experiencing many negatives doesn't "warp someone's view of plurality", it shows one experience of plurality. similarly, someone posting negative experiences is another plural experience.

also, this is social media. outside of this blog, i avoid syscourse like the plague, and we don't post about the "negatives" of our systemhood. if we did post, we'd want to share joy and be happy. seeing sad content and focusing on the negatives online can be harmful, and can lead into spiraling or triggering other systems. i know sometimes i see people venting about their own system experiences, and it affects us, so we try to avoid those posts. social media is intended to be happy and fin (although occasionally to a too-addicting level, but that's another topic for another day)

anyway, if you're op or anyone who's read all this, remember to drink water, take any meds you need, eat food, destress from syscourse and go play video games or write or draw if needed, or maybe go focus on whatever thing you're supposed to be doing, like homework or chores. this is long and i want people to remember that syscourse mostly doesn't affect people in real life (outside of a few shitty people and bad doctors who are looking for a scapegoat for their ableism) so don't stress too much and care for yourself first!

Is it just me or do endos just post the most surface level things about plurality??

I saw a post saying "Plural culture is having to explain to your friends why you sometimes don't remember things and act different."

Like sure that's true but it's like one of the most well-known things ever, it's been said hundreds of times.

It honestly strengthens my belief that these people really don't know what plurality is beyond Tumblr and maybe a Wikipedia page or two. It just makes it seem like they didn't put much effort into learning what plurality actually is beyond the most well-known things about it.

-Charlie and Kirill

(PRO/ENDOS DO NOT INTERACT WITH THIS POST.)

[doostyaudi]

Gives this to u while my hands r shaking and by the time u look back at me im already running away

[khaire-traveler]

Today, I flirted with a guy I've like all semester, and it was a little awkward because I didn't know what to say after, "You don't have to do anything with this information, but you're really cute" (why the hell did I say it like that; that's so weird in hindsight lmao), but then he complimented ME and said he liked my hoodie (whoa). Honestly, I thought he was just gonna be like, "Lol ok," and never speak to me again, but hey, that didn't happen!

What is the moral of this story? Do the thing you're not doing, and if you're scared to do the thing you're not doing, then do it scared because it might turn out better than you had hoped.

[holy-reference-in-a-username]

Slow and Safe

Content warning: partial nudity, suggestive

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so it turns out when you try to improve pacing you end up making comics that are 2.5x the length you expected them to be.

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the next one will be on my nsfw blog

[crypt1dcorv1dae]

I really like kafhoshi ... it good.... Ther s so much potential and so much material to work with AND YET THERES LIKE NOTHING!!!!! *Rolls up my sleeves* gotta do everything myself in this damn house...

[ninawolv3rina]

Every night she kills him

Every morning he wakes up again

All they have is each other, but she doesn't trust him. How can she, when he's the same kind of monster that killed everyone else on their ship?

Blood in the Water is a vampire gothic romance about two people stranded at sea.

You can buy a copy here

Or read it for free online here

[thelocalmuffin]

With the elections coming up - here's a gentle reminder to make sure to double check if you are registered to vote. There has been a lot of reports this year of voter suppression, so make sure to double check your status.

Make sure to check with your state's official website. It took me literally two minutes to register.

[potatobugz]

aha. fantasy high doodle dump. can you tell i have a favorite

[ellipse-society]

I know there are people out here in the discourse tags that sometimes do not so great stuff to the point of being harmful but it is important to remember we are all human beings here. Everyone in online discourse deserves respect. And that doesn't mean condone their actions just to remember there is a human being struggling behind the words they are posting. We could all be a bit nicer with how we handle things sometimes. I hope you all have an amazing weekend and take a break for your mental health if needed.

-Claire

[virtualpeople]

this new animated beard mesh my beloved

[uncanny-tranny]

Your influence in this world doesn't need to be all-encompassing and World Changing. It can be small ripples. It can be gentle and easily missed.

Let yourself do small things. So often, people have this idea that to do "good things," it must be a grand gesture that changes every little thing. Honestly, that can be so intimidating and scary. We weren't meant to carry the world by ourselves. We each contribute, often in small ways, often in ways that aren't seen by everybody. But the people you affect might just take that kindness you gave them and let it light them home. Let yourself be that in whatever way you want. You don't need to carry the world alone.

[peapod20001]

Can I have a breakdown of Steve 🥺?? I would love to see kt

Couldn’t help myself, had to color him <3

He’s fun cus he’s not super ashamed of himself like he’s very aware he’s into certain things and acts / comes off a certain way to other people, but then he’ll like bawl his eyes out cus he don’t like being left alone nor does he like how he’s built (the boys were so slender in the 20’s and he’s always been thicker rip) but like other than that he’s fine mostly

One thing about him I don’t mention all too much is like he may have been pretty much an alcoholic and that kinda killed him to death rip man was trying to spice up his life with clubs and drinks from questionable sources and he then he just died </3 that’s why he comes off as kinda airheaded sometimes even tho he’s really smart, alcohol fucked his brain

He can sometimes come off real demure (haha funny word stfu) so people assume he’s a loner or that he doesn’t enjoy going out and hanging around people, but he fucking LOVES spending time with people or partying and what not

[skitskatdacat63]

2005 Australian Grand Prix[Redux] - Giancarlo Fisichella, Rubens Barichello & Fernando Alonso(my personal post-race highlights)

[khaire-traveler]

You did nothing to deserve your chronic pain. It is not a punishment from some far off entity. It is not some form of karma. Please don't think you ever did anything to deserve this. Bad things can still happen to good people, unfortunately.

[felidaefatigue]

was harrows hair length mentioned at all before her lobotomy

im convinced she's had a close buzzcut the whole ass time cause of her mentioning she wants to shave gideon but knows she wouldnt keep it up, but also cause fandom generally has her in some form of pixie/shagish im?????????