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What if at the beginning when the Xianle trio was young Feng Xin noticed that Mu Qing startled and pulled away whenever they touched. Like when their hands would brush together when passing each other something. And Feng Xin assumed that Mu Qing just hated him so much that even the thought of having Feng Xin touch him disgusted Mu Qing.
So Feng Xin spent 800 years thinking that Mu Qing couldn’t stand him at all. The only time Feng Xin was permitted any physical contact with Mu Qing was when they were exchanging blows. Feng Xin resigned himself to the fact that fighting was the only way he’d ever be close to Mu Qing.
At least he’d get to be close to Mu Qing in some capacity.
When the truth finally came out (maybe Mu Qing was injured and when Feng Xin went to help him, Feng Xin made an offhand comment about how he knew Mu Qing couldn’t stand his touch but that it was unavoidable so Mu Qing would just have to deal with it) Mu Qing was shocked. He didn’t have the strength to let the words onto his tongue that he had never hated Feng Xin.
That all those times he had pulled away whenever they touched was because Mu Qing wanted so much more.
And that had frightened him.
So he had pushed Feng Xin away, clinging to the terms of his cultivation as an excuse- or maybe as a punishment- for those secret desires.
Looking at Feng Xin, Mu Qing couldn’t bring himself to say it out loud.
#fengqing#feng xin#mu qing#tgcf#something about them not knowing how to love#or feeling like they don’t deserve it#so they punish themselves by only allowing themselves to be close to each other when fighting#i need to go to bed ahsjsk#got this idea when i was plotting a fic which may or may not actually get written lol
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love that, in the Odyssey, there's one suitor (Leodes) who very specifically didn’t do anything wrong. he didn’t eat too much food, he didn’t harass the staff, he didn’t plot to kill Telemachus. and when Odysseus starts killing suitors, he begs for mercy because he was always respectful and kind and even tried to stop the other suitors from being like that
and I love that Odysseus was like “you were trying to marry my wife tho” and immediately kills him
#ruthlessness is ruthless more at six#oh you don’t deserve it? I don’t care#I’m here to kill suitors and kiss Penelope and Penelope’s asleep#The Odyssey#Odysseus#Leodes#Odypen#Penelope#Epic the musical#(it’s not strictly relevant but I feel like you won’t mind)#nuclear war speaks
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The tragedy of Katara’s parentification
Sokka and Katara were both parentified, and it’s a profoundly life-changing thing for both of them. One of the saddest things in ATLA, though, is how Sokka sort of got to outgrow parentification, but Katara never did.
Sokka’s told to be the man. The provider, the protector. He’s not so good at the former (his hunting failures are a consistent source of comic relief), and he takes failures of the latter very, very hard. He doesn’t manage to save Yue, and that wrecks him. After Yue, he becomes extremely protective of Suki in a way that’s borderline offensive to her. He’s willing to do anything to protect his friends and his family, including something as irresponsible as breaking into the Boiling Rock. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that Sokka is the only one of the Gaang who unambiguously kills. The rest of them may technically have clean hands because of cartoon logic, but Combustion Man is very dead, and Sokka is the one who killed him. We don’t know how he feels about it, because the show never goes there, but I have a pet theory that Sokka is so uncharacteristically (remember he was team “leave Zuko to freeze to death”) against Katara confronting Yon Rha in The Southern Raiders because he’s the only who knows what killing feels like and wants to protect Katara from it.
But by the end of the show, Sokka’s in a place where he can start to let go of his need to protect. Objectively, all his friends are unbelievably powerful and can take care of themselves, including his sister and his girlfriend. Suki is the one who saves him in the final battle, representing not only a reversal of his initial cartoonish misogyny, but also demonstrating that he is worthy of protection. And of course, he and his friends saved the world, so there isn’t really an enemy that he has to protect them from anymore. Sokka’s loved ones create the conditions under which his parentified behaviour is no longer necessary. Sokka would still have to take the first step to stop seeing himself as the one who has to lay his life on the line, but at least it’s possible for him.
But not Katara.
Katara had to take on the mom role after their mother was murdered, which meant she was responsible for domestic labour and emotional support. Sokka says in The Runaway that her role was to keep the family together. Unlike protection, that’s always a full time job regardless of the war. We see Katara spending more screen time than anybody cooking, getting food, mending, and generally doing women’s work. We see Katara giving everyone emotional support, including strangers and her enemy. We see Katara putting aside her own discomfort and her own hurt in The Desert because if she falls apart, they all die. Nobody ever showed her that she doesn’t need to be the only one who cooks, or that somebody else can be responsible for the emotional wellbeing of her friends, or that — god forbid — someone else can actually be responsible for her emotional wellbeing.
That’s why I never cared for the Ka/taang argument of “he teaches her to be a kid again!” Putting aside the fact that Katara ends up taking care of Aang a lot more as the series goes on, the whole tragedy of parentification is that you can never again be a child. That part of your childhood, your god-given right, is robbed from you. It is extremely precious and important to still be able to be a kid, but breaking free of parentification is not about seeing yourself as a kid. It’s about breaking free of being responsible for everyone’s feelings and behaviours.
For Katara, that responsibility is not problem of perception, but of reality. Unlike Sokka, who was told and shown that his loved ones are capable of protecting themselves, Katara has zero reason to believe that her loved ones are able to feed and clothe themselves and not fall apart emotionally. Between Toph and Sokka who emphatically don’t want to do this work, it all falls on Katara. Telling a parentified child that they just need to loosen up is akin to telling an overworked mother that she needs to just relax (“happy Mother’s Day! You get a break from chores, which you will catch up on tomorrow because nobody else is doing them”). It doesn’t accomplish anything if nobody creates the circumstances under which it’s possible to let go of responsibilities. A lot of Zutara fans, spanning all the way back to the early days of the fandom, like the “Momtara and Dadko” trope where Zuko also does chores. Why? Because even without the concept and language of parentification, many fans recognized that Katara’s performance of domestic and emotional labour is inequitable and probably very taxing.
Growing out of parentification is about more than just letting go of old expectations: it’s also about finding a new way to value yourself beyond the role you grew up with. I’ve said this before, but it’s very important to acknowledge that just because a kid is parentified doesn’t mean they’re actually good at being a parent. In fact, it’s probably a given that they’re not, because they’re kids performing roles that are developmentally inappropriate! Sokka remains a shit hunter; he becomes a decent fighter but he’s still miles behind his friends. A big part of healing from his parentification is finding another area — strategy, engineering, project management (what else do you call that schedule) — where he actually excels, to which he can dedicate his time and from which he can derive satisfaction and a sense of identity. For Katara, fighting for the oppressed and combat waterbending give her that. Crucially, however, Katara does not stop being a girl when she becomes a warrior. She’s still responsible for domestic and emotional labour. Unlike Sokka, whose protector duties were more or less relieved as the series went on and he found new ways to contribute to the group, Katara continued to perform her old role in addition to her new one (which is depressingly realistic btw, look up feminist theory around the concept of the second shift). Still, it’s important that she found these new ways to value herself and her contributions…
…which disappear in her adult life. Where’s adult Katara fighting for the oppressed? Where’s adult Katara enjoying her status as a master waterbender? Where’s Mighty Katara? Where’s the Painted Lady? Where’s the person who vanquished a whole Fire Lord?
What do we know about adult Katara? She’s no longer a rabblerouser or an ecoterrorist. She did not translate her desire to help the downtrodden into a political role, like being Chief or on the United Republic Council. She’s not known as the best waterbender in the world, only the best healer, even though her combat abilities are what she took the most pride in. Even as a healer, she established no hospitals, trained no widespread acolytes (except Korra, I guess?), and made no known contributions to the field.
What Katara is known for…is being a wife and a mother. The same role she was forced to take on at age 8. One which she performed for the next 80+ years.
#Self-proclaimed feminists who don’t see Katara’s trajectory as a tragedy…I want to know what you’re on because I’d like to use it to cope#Katara deserved better#anti kataang#as always my anti kataang posts are more#anti Bryke#very mild#zutara#pro Katara#pro Sokka#water sibs#They just give me so many feels#my meta#Katara parentification discourse
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#somari funny moments.#reblog for sample size ignore if you hate women this too is yuri etc etc idk#I don’t have the followers for this but idc. this is stupid. this whole situation is stupid. my fellow queens deserve better than this#predstrogen#transgender#actually I’m adding tags I feel like this could do numbers
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It’s ok to be disabled and happy. Being disabled does not mean you have to constantly suffer.
#disability#disability positivity#disability rights#disability justice#it’s also ok to NOT be happy#like you don’t have to perform happiness for other people’s comfort#but if you’re disabled and feeling good about yourself?#that’s really ok#you deserve happiness and people expecting you to be unhappy because you’re disabled#are shitheads#you do not have to be miserable to be disabled#and you don’t have to be happy to exist in society#two things existing at once#♥️#tw: animal#tw: bird
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2am post jumpscare
#found this and wanted to clean it up rq lol#these guys don’t deserve it ✌️😔#well probably idk#idk anything abt dream just that ppl either make him super effeminate or a horrible person a lot#<- tapping on the door of sans peoples club#do you guys even like him or#/j#except for sunny he seems nice :*)#but man when it comes to the others it 100% feels like ‘well this story/fic/comic needs a villain sooo’#like. I’m not a shooter for sf sans at all but like. ppl don’t even bother making him a sans most of the time it’s like they just turn him#into some anime villain or smth. what to hell#and do NOT even get me started on uf Papyrus Chara and Flowey I will chew through concrete#snow and hail#undertale#underfell#swapfell#undertale dream#is his AU just called dreamtale I genuinely don’t know#I think so#underfell papyrus#flowey#chara#undertale chara#undertale flowey#swapfell sans#god I am NOT used to tagging so many characters#bye
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oh ok so its the usual no-homo bullshit you always hear, good to know.
#wwdits#what we do in the shadows#guillermo de la cruz#nandor the relentless#nandermo#look im a reasonable guy#i dont get worked up easily and ive been around writers rooms and understand the pressures of writing a big show like wwdits#hell i even liked season 4#but this has got to be one of the most offensive bs ive read that wasnt from 2015#‘its only a small (but vocal) amount of people that actually want to see them together’#‘their love isnt ~s*xual~ they dont need to kiss its more ~profound~ than that’#‘you don’t REALLY want to see them together! (thats gross!)’#also ‘the power dynamic is ~problematic~’??? are you kidding me???#jfc its like someone literally got this out of the queerbating handbook from 2010#and like yeah i know wwdits isnt queerbating but its queerness feels more performative when it treats an actual central relationship#like its a gross kinkything only a few freaks on the internet want#instead of a legitimate plausible story that deserves exploration#nandermo should be a triumph - a victory for the characters and something the writers should be pleased with writing#not…this.#like it’s some problem pressured reluctantly upon them that needs to be carefully defused#this has left a bad taste in my mouth
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used to daydream about fairytale reconciliations after pretty much every platonic or romantic fallout i ever had, but sometimes it’s healthier to just accept that someone will never own up bc they don’t think you’re worth the trouble. anyone who truly cares would move mountains just to make sure that they communicate w you if they truly want to rectify the situation. but sometimes it’s their ego getting in the way, sometimes they have a narrative of you in their head they’re determined not to break, and sometimes they just don’t care enough about you to even consider it. they don’t have respect for the friendship or relationship in its posthumous state bc it was nothing to them, or at the very least it doesn’t eclipse their pride or their desire to appear correct in a situation or just outright the need to be done w the situation rather than be a good person. still guilty of this but i’ve been getting better at just nipping the delusion in the bud and just being okay w accepting that someone truly does not care. until they prove they do that is the assumption i go w every time. and it is saving me a lot of heartache
#i held out on my ex for MONTHS after we broke up thinking he’d hit me up and be like yo sorry#u did not deserve the way that went down. i should’ve gone about it better#i should’ve taken ur feelings into consideration bc if nothing else the time spent together meant something#even if in the present moment it’s done and i don’t see us going back#i think i owe u that. at the very least in honor of what we had#but did he say any of those things#NO#i’m fine#i’ve had this happen w friendships too like people are just ruthless sometimes and they justify it or just don’t care enough to be better#trying to microdose on delusion less and accept things for what they are#these tags are a roller coaster but i’m keeping them in anyway bc i need something to look back at this weekend#p
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#this one is very easy to get strange angles with. because it's just got so many weird shapes on it#porygon#bald#even the original front-facing angle was strange and you could barely tell it's front-facing#hell‚ this angle you can at least tell what it's supposed to be#if you remember the realpokemon post. you remember#this thing also got like banned from the anime or some shit because of an episode that featured it giving kids seizures#fucking did i almost just type “seasures”?? hello?? where am i#even though it was pikachu who initiated the explosion that caused the seizures. and iirc it wasn't even that many seizures#it was like the galaxy note7. where only like 20 or so phones actually exploded but it still got banned from planes#or maybe i'm remembering Every tidbit of information here incorrectly!#y'see folks. this is why i am not a reliable source of information#because i will not be fact checking any of this and instead i'll end off the post with “but idk lol”#edit: it was a lot of seizures. and yes this justifies taking the episode off the air but i don’t feel like the pokémon itself#deserves to be banned from the anime is my point. plenty of folks still like this pokémon#hmm. i wonder if i maybe shouldn’t be spreading middle school rumors on the middle school rumors website
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It’s hard to believe I deserve anything good when I’ve been subjected to so much cruelty.
#ryan.txt#cptsd#ptsd#trauma#traumatized#like I know I have to believe I’m good enough#but I truly don’t feel like I am#I feel inadequate#I feel worthless#I feel like a failure#it feels like all I deserve is abuse
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I have been working on a computer with 8 GB of memory for 5 years. It’s moments like this where I ask myself, do I hate myself
#bevfoolery#guys don’t ignore a problem because u feel like you don’t deserve to fix it!! Improve your life NOW
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Prompt 252
“Sir, we’ve… There’s been an encounter with a Reaper class entity.”
There were several classifications for ecto-entities. Several ways the Ghost Investigation Ward classified each. Several common ones that they could easily destroy, easily study. Others however… others were dangerous. Incredibly dangerous.
There’d only been two other Reaper-class entities confirmed before- both contained but barely. RP-1, a large knight-like entity seemingly made from shadows, and RP-2, a child-like creature that could near perfectly mimic a human.
And now, there was a third. A third entity that could- and judging from the reports coming in had- killed. Had done so several times even. Which meant it needed to be contained yesterday.
“Send out the teams- I want this thing in Site X Now!”
#DCxDP#DPxDC#Prompts#Why yes the Reaper entity is Jason#The other two are Fright Knight & Danny#There’s only 1 higher level of threat/rarity for ghosts#King Class is what CW & Pariah are classed as & the GIW are very relieved they seemingly can’t leave the Zone#Y’know I’m just realizing this feels very SCP-esque#Look it’s called the Ghost Investigation Ward#They definitely don’t care about dissecting things like blob ghosts (or common ghosts they’re sure there’s thousands of)#But it’s similar to an endangered predatory species for the rarer ones#They just also don’t like release the ghosts after relocating them#Why Yes Jason DOES have the All-blades#And yes they’re all three in the same place because the site is the only one they know can hold them#Shadow Core Fright Knight#Space Core Danny#Star Core Jason#Jason is… displeased by the entire situation he’s found himself in#Also very pissed by the Tiny sickly child huddled under the growling shadow-fire being#FK deserves to be more eldritch I’ll be honest#Halfa Jason#Potentially#guys in white#de aged danny#technically he just had his accident earlier
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Tier List of how good Re:Zero characters are at killing Subaru
#There is a reasonable argument to be made that Subaru has killed himself enough times in arcs 7 and 8 to also get into S tier#But I feel like Todd and Olbart deserve to be in a tier above everyone else#Also the Lye one might not be accurate I don’t know how many times he specifically killed Subaru in the arc 6 loops#re:zero#rezero#tier list#todd fang#Olbart Dunkelkenn#ram rezero#rem rezero#subaru natsuki#elsa granhiert#re zero puck#sirius romanee conti#shuala#meili portroute#sphinx#regulus corneas#petelgeuse romanee conti#otto suwen#garfiel tinsel#ferris argyle#felix argyle#julius juukulius#roswaal l mathers#reinhard van astrea#louis arneb#lye batenkaitos#roy alphard#There’s some more characters I haven’t tagged maybe I’ll add them later
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Oh, betty
#bitches be like there’s no way a cartoon chatacter can make you feel so seen#and then it’s fucking simon petrikov#oh simon petrikov#the things i’d do to you#i don’t think i’ve ever felt so identified by a chatacter in my life#jesus i love this man#ouch just ouch#now back to working on the bsd animatic just had to draw this#i dont like how it turned out but i also spent a total of 0 seconds thinking about it so#well deserved#shitpost#art#my art#adventure time#at#simon petrikov#simon adventure time#winter king#ice king#fionna and cake#simon and betty
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I love doing lineart with this pen so of course I draw boobs with it ☺️
#I swing between wanting to kick this dude in the face and wanting to be choked out like a Simpsons chicken by his arms#which is I feel like the most common reaction to Gil everyone has upon knowing him#I don’t really have a lot to say about this one#I just really enjoyed lining this it’s a good kind of texture :)#I was actually trying to draw him as a mechanic but I feel like jumpsuits like this are always meant to be orange#he’s in jail now#prison even#deserved#my art#digital art#fanart#hetalia#hws prussia#hetalia fanart#aph prussia#gilbert beilschmidt
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Shockingly underrated thing about Leo is that he’s legitimately charming when he wants to be?
He’s the Faceman! He’s persuasive! That’s not just some random title he gave himself with no backing to it. People will listen to him. Even if they think he’s being annoying or if they’re upset at him, people listen to him anyway! There’s a reason his bros push him out front to talk to people, and when this happens, that talking nearly always works.
Moreover, Leo knows people. He looks at them and takes into account how they act and what they’re like as he makes his way through the conversations. It’s easy to forget this aspect of Leo’s character because he only brings it out when he really needs (read: wants) to, but it really is a notable part of him that always love to see.
And I say charm in particular because he has a knack for not only getting people to pay attention, but for getting people to stay and listen to what he has to say.
#rottmnt#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles#rottmnt leo#rise leo#I feel like people equate Leo to a lot of loud gross boy behavior instead of looking at his actual accomplishments#which fair enough#he IS a loud gross boy a lot of the time#but his charisma really deserves a mention for how much it comes in clutch#that one cut animatic of the other people in the resistance wanting Leo to join them for karaoke like#and yes those inspiring speeches he gives his fam are also an example of charm#bro has! charisma! he can have his loser moments and at the same time show off how to manipulate through words#Leo knows people and if he really wants to he can talk them up#but yeah like - I see people calling him the face man a lot but not so much taking into account what that entails#he’s got a pretty face! and he’ll do the talking a lot! but that’s not all a face man is#another thing that is SHOCKINGLY underrated in fandom is Raph loving fighting???#I have no idea why but I feel like I don’t see this mentioned enough#he adores wrestling and roughhousing and training and just FIGHTING in general plz let my boy punch something#I have more I wanna say but it’ll have to wait until later it is very late haaa#anyway my main point behind this post is that Leo knows people and in turn knows what they WANT#it is this same perception that makes him REALLY GOOD at getting under people’s skin too#people skills and adaptability really make sense when you take into account the fact that he’s a red eared slider#it really is cool to see how much this part of Leo is addressed throughout the series#nearly always in very lowkey ways
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