#npd culture

[thatnarcissisticfeel]

I think that a lot of people without NPD have a really poor understanding of "narc supply" or the specific type of positive attention that pwNPD crave. Even the egotypicals who are allies, the ones denounce narc abuse and anti-NPD ableism, don't fully grasp it.

There's this false idea that NPDs like to be worshipped and showered with compliments all of the time, and I mean, yeah, most of us would eat that shit up, but I know that for myself and a lot of other pwNPD it's deeper and much more, I guess, personal?

I don't really know how to describe it, so I'll give an example: As a kid, no one really paid attention to my creative endeavors, my accomplishments, my feelings, etc. And if they DID pay attention, the attention was negative. I could always do better, I could always be smarter, stronger, etc. This came from peers and adults alike. So I developed a coping mechanism where I would tell myself that everyone else was wrong, that I'm actually the best person around, etc. I don't have to explain what disorder I ended up with as an adult as a result of all of that. :P

But anyway - the wound of constantly being ignored at best and insulted at worst is still there. You know how when you're in a group chat or a conversation with multiple people and no one ever pays attention to your comments, while paying attention to everyone else? Yeah, that shit hurts EVERYONE, but especially pwNPD. Even the smallest acknowledgment can be "narc supply."

You know how when you achieve something really cool and everyone ignores you - but the people who ignore you will be quick to praise OTHER people?

You know how when you post art/edits online and everyone ignores you - but the people who ignore you compliment someone else's post in the exact same thread?

You know how when you ask your friend to read your favorite book or listen to your favorite artist or whatever because of how much it means to you, and they never do it, but then they read/listen to everyone else's favorite thing at everyone else's recommendation, and how much it pisses you off? (Hurts even more if you have the SAME favorite book/artist and someone reads/listens to it at the other person's recommendation and not at yours.)

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I could go on and on. That shit would bother anyone, us narcissists aren't alone in being hurt by that, but my G-d, it impacts pwNPD in such a specific way.

But let me flip it around to the positive!

A narcissist doesn't necessarily get their "supply" from someone telling them that they're the coolest person in the world and that they're a god. (Though if you do want to say that to us we probably won't complain!) Sometimes they get their "supply" from something as simple as someone acknowledging their achievements, and giving specific praise on what the achievement was. ("It's so cool that you won a prize in the music recital. The song you played sounds like it was really difficult and I loved your stage presence.")

Being told, "Wow, you did such a great job on your artwork, I love the colors!" goes a very very long way for a narc, especially when said narc is used to being IGNORED for their art.

Hearing, "it's so cool that you like that book, I'll have to read it and tell you my thoughts!" can help a narcissist's interests feel acknowledged.

You might be reading this and thinking, "well, isn't it just basic human interaction to compliment your friends or try out their interests"? And, well, maybe it is, but the whole point of NPD is that most of us grew up without receiving that type of attention, so now we're very very desperate for it - and very, very, VERY sensitive to when it doesn't happen, or is even perceived to not have happened. Something as small as being talked over in a group chat can set us off, but something as small as a simple, "hey, it's so cool that you did this, I love it." can win us over.

And to be completely fair, most of the time us being "ignored" isn't completely intentional. Like, I get it, yeah, sometimes timing just doesn't work out for person A to read my favorite book at my own rec, but by the time person B is in their life, person A can read it, and it's not anything personal. Sometimes the content I make just isn't someone's ~style~ and they support me, they really do, they just don't know what to say. Sometimes someone forgets to respond, or doesn't get a notification when I send them something I made or tell them about something I did. (There is less excuse for being ignored in face-to-face/offline convos though.) But because of the trauma of us constantly being ignored as kids/teens, the smallest little thing hurts and as a result we seek and crave attention EVERYWHERE.

So now, to give in to narc stereotypes of begging for attention: If you're a person without NPD and you genuinely want to help the narcissists you have in your life, the second best thing you can do for us is checking in to make sure we're not overlooked. Try to be sure you're not ignoring us, and if we do something cool, try to compliment it, even if it's something you don't fully "understand." Ask us about what we've been up to lately, what we're proud of about ourselves, and agree with us that what we've done is pretty cool. I mean, you'd do that for any friend, right? It's really not all outlandish for a narc to want that.

(If you're curious what the FIRST best thing you can do for a narcissist is, it's giving us a million dollars unlearning your anti-NPD ableism and calling people out who use narcissist as an insult as a synonym for abuser. Even in "offline" spaces, even when we're not around, even doctors/therapists. Even "narc" abuse survivors.)

[narcpocalypse]

I want to be charismatic and hot and sexy but I'm so awkward that idk how to take compliments. I could be like "oh thank you darling ♥️" but I'm like "hehe :3" man what the FUUUUCK! Narcissism work HARDERRRRRRRR!!!!!

[npdpersonalitydisorder-culture]

npd culture is genuinely forgetting that everyone who isn't an ep/chp is still. an actual person with thoughts and feelings. walking down the street like damn. i thought you guys existed for my side quests and background details. wdym if i talked to you i could get an entire life story?? the devs really worked hard on the npc lore huh

NPD culture is..

[heartthatfed]

Born to say “you’re so fucking stupid can you like actually kys” forced to say “wow that’s really interesting i’ve never thought of that before”

[clusterb-pd]

bpd + npd culture is splitting on friends cause theyre hanging with ur friends wo u and thinking you hate them and dont need them but then need keep them around for the supply tho u hate them... sigh

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[the-npd-culture-is]

Questioning NPD culture is am i really a narcissist or just finding cheap execuses to my bad habits? Am i too nice to be a narcissist? Does my superiority comes from narcissism or i am just a really egocentrical person? Did i ever had a narc crash or narc high? Did my possible narcissism even affect my life or am attention seeking? Questions i'll never have the answer

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[puppynarc]

NPD culture is being convinced that you’re the main character and that other people are just pawns,leading to struggling with lots of derealization and depersonalization because nothing is real.

I AM the main character of this story.

[narcitism]

AAAAAAAAAAAA

OH MY GOD???!!!

[godkin-culture-is]

deitykin + NPD culture is how dare you look at me and try and talk to me as if youre better than me? ants should only be able to look at me if its with plans of worship. and feeling the same way about my FP (and knowing it makes me sound like a complete cunt)

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[thatnarcissisticfeel]

"narcissists think they're better than everyone" no, no, that's not true. i don't THINK i'm better than everyone. i KNOW i'm better than everyone.

[selfdxculture]

prof dx autism + questioning self dx npd culture is not being sure whether you feel lonely because you feel smarter than other people because you might have npd or if thats just an autistic trait

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[npdpersonalitydisorder-culture]

NPD culture is crashing because your friend said you were in the wrong in a situation where you were in the wrong

NPD Culture Is..

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

unfortunately for the both of us, i really like you

[clusterb-pd]

Npd culture is group projects being a nightmare. Other people not putting in the work? They're sabotaging you, why are you always stuck with idiots. They participate a lot? They're not Following Your Vision and so so obviously wrong and everyone is going to think it's your idea and that's unacceptable.

🦚🫀

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[evilsystemm]

uhh???

[the-npd-culture-is]

NPD + Autism culture is "Of course I have a head cannon that one of my favorite characters has NPD. Have you SEEN how they act? Just like me!"

Vaguely gestures to Chishiya from Alice in Borderland for example.

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