#npd abuse isn’t real

[sacrifical-lamb-core]

Narcissists absolutely rock. Hope you guys are ok and have a wonderful life. Sending love and high fives. Don’t let the stupid ableism get you down, you are all special and matter

[puppynarc]

NPD culture is being convinced that you’re the main character and that other people are just pawns,leading to struggling with lots of derealization and depersonalization because nothing is real.

I AM the main character of this story.

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

“actually narc abuse is real bc I’M cluster b and it actually DID make me abusive!”

um. that’s sounds like a you problem ngl…

[narcitism]

my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(

[canadianlucifer]

June 1st is narcissistic abuse awareness day, which is why I'm here to say:

That's not a thing, just call it what it actually is.

"narcissistic abuse" is just abuse. It can be emotional, physical, any kind really, but defining it by the abuser's (potential) mental state is not only ableist and causes more harm than good, but doesn't accurately describe what happened and doesn't hold the abuser properly accountable. What is described as narcissistic abuse can be done by literally anybody, not just people with NPD. Please think about the words you're using.

Also, please stop calling random self-absorbed assholes narcissists, you are not their therapist. You cannot diagnose random tiktokers chasing clout with a complex personality disorder because they were rude.

[necroticcadaver]

I love talking about myself.

You ask me questions about myself? I could spend literal hours happily talking about me.

[ocpder]

Dear Narc Abuse Believers,

You aren't going to heal from your traumas until you stop blaming everybody's actions on narcissism and stop using NPD as a scapegoat. NPD has nothing to do with abuse, it is just a mental disability that you dislike the traits of.

Once you admit that your abuser abused you because they are abusive, you will start the healing process. You cannot blame abusive behavior on anything except for the abusive person, because they are the abuser, they have hurt you, a mental disorder did not. You are only hindering your healing from abuse when you blame it on things that are completely separate from it.

NPD is not the excuse. NPD is not the explanation. Abusers abuse because they are abusive.

[cat-doggy]

Stop saying narcissistic when you mean abusive

[franknfurterstriangulardinosaur]

The thing is that if there was any positive resources for Personality Disorders, we would be able to get better. Instead, if we look up “narcissist help”, articles come up with “how to destroy a narcissist” and “they’re self absorbed, entitled and manipulative”. You look up your disorder and you just get things that articles on how other people can destroy your mental health, just because you have your condition, because of the trauma that caused you to have this personality disorder. It’s like they don’t want us to get better, they just want us to know how we’re horrible. They need people to demonise us, they want us to be destroyed. They make sure that everything hurts us. They expect us to recover then stigmatise the things we are trying to fix. That doesn’t convince us to get better, that convinces us to become the worst version of ourselves.

[purrfectdollie]

I taught my grandma about npd and now she won’t use the word “narcissist” as an insult anymore !!

[normystical]

pwNPD — What's your opinion on "NPD is the mental disorder and narcissist is to describe selfish people"? I tried pointing out the casual ableism in someone's sentence on Reddit but I got downvoted and told that it wasn't actually ableist for that reason.

[ghxst-system]

Abusive things we do as a system with NPD / As a narcissist

- Eat 3 meals a day, with snacks inbetween sometimes

-Play guitar pretty well

-Drink coffee cus its yummy

- If you cannot tell by this point, this post is a joke

NPD and narcissism do not create abuse. If someone is abusive, it is not for the reason of then being a narcissist. Narcissistic abuse is not a real thing- what people mean is: psychological abuse, emotional abuse, manipulation, etc.

If you looked at this post as someone who believes in narcissistic abuse, and then got disappointed that we are not a "self aware NPD sufferer" and instead are just some dudes in a brain... I hope you have the shitty day you deserve

[the-fallen-collective]

Daily reminder that people with npd aren’t bad. They aren’t abusive. Narcissistic abuse isn’t real. Narcissistic/narcissist is not a synonym for bad/abusive/stubborn/etc.

Can pwnpd be bad and abusive? Yes, everyone can. Is it because of the npd? NO!! “Narcissistic abuse” is fake, call it what is, emotional abuse!

I am so sick and tired of seeing it. I am tired of seeing narcism used as a synonym for bad/abusive people. I’m tired of seeing people in abusive situations default to calling their abuser a narcissist simply because they’re an abuser. Like sorry you’re going through that but also shut the fuck up with your stupid armchair diagnosis.

The next person I see who’s at all ableist towards anyone with npd I’m bashing their fucking head in with a rock and I deserve to because I am so much better than them in every way imaginable

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

Psychological abuse and emotional abuse are two words that have existed for forever to describe non-physical abuse. If you’re sooo convinced that you must label your abuse based on your partner valuing themself over you (which is like. present in nearly all types of abuse), even ‘self-centered abuse’ would be a better alternative. Y’all have so many options and yet you’re still confused when you get called ableist for choosing the ableist one.

[narcitism]

reblog to kiss a narcissist on the mouth (with passion)

[neoglowratz]

man when i see all those posts about how to manipulate and hurt narcissists and such all i can think of is:

damn

yall need to stop abusing your narcissists, if theyre actual narcs they just want attention, go give them a kiss instead duh