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[randomfoggytiger]

Hi, anon!

If you want to learn to appreciate the episode more, I'd go to @deathsbestgirl, who loves it (and writes spectacular meta on any topic~!)

If you want to read my meta on how, perhaps, it could make sense in the larger canon-- that Scully breaks the curse inflicted on herself, Mulder, and Melissa Rydell, thus severing the "soulmate" connection between Mulder and Melissa-- you can find it here~.

If you want to read fics that make it aaaaaaaaall better, here's my fic collection post here~.

And if you want the cult who don't like it, we welcome you with open arms~. >:DD

At the end of the day, TFWID was Morgan and Wong's brainchild-- you know, the two guys who wanted Mulder and another Melissa to hook up in One Breath. They (and David Duchovny) love the ethereal concept of soulmates being separate from a one-true-love-- that groups of souls will always be connected to each other through time. It was just incredibly poorly executed. Chopping the plot way down, then giving either Morgan's or Wong's wife excessive screentime, was not... the wisest decision of their career.

I think my meta really does work with their original concept while also honoring the nature of Mulder and Scully's relationship: that both agents may or may not be soulmates, but they become greater when they purposefully choose each other.

And if all else fails, don't hesitate to go search my archives through #TFWID to find more content (meta, gifs, screenshots, fics) that might be up your alley. :DDDD

Please don't hate me, but I cannot stand the episode "the field where I died"

I don't know why I dint like it, but I can't get my bearings around it. Maybe it's because I don't truly understand its meaning and purpose. To be honest, I saw it only once and had a bad taste in my mouth. What's it truly about? Is it that Scully isn't his real soul mate but this other lady? Would he lay down his life and soul for this other woman who he is connected to by time and other past lives instead of Scully?

Please, someone, help me see why I should review my stance on this episode. What are some redeeming aspects that I am missing? Did I completely misunderstand the episode?

Note: I might dislike the episode because of what I perceive as forced acting on the lady's character with the different accents and personalities.

I would never hate you, anon. Everyone has their own opinion and that's how it should be! You're also not at all alone on this. Many people don't like the episode, myself included. I don't hate it, but it's definitely not my favorite.

Scully is his soulmate - there are wonderful meta posts about this episode. CC just seemed to want to stress that Mulder and Scully are not romantic. They were always in each other's lives. Whether as friend or family member. That is the only redeeming aspect I can think of, to be honest. Much like you, I find the acting very exhausting.

[art-is-kayos]

Checking up on his commission

[lgbtlunaverse]

Horrible thing to say but I think there's a real chance Jiang Yanli was both of her parents' least favorite child and knew it and just kinda. Had to go on with her life knowing that.

[scintillatingshortgirl19]

gee i wonder if the issue could be at all related to the fact that the current treatment plan for his chronic pain consists solely of FUCKING IBUPROFEN

[3l91]

while they’re apart iwaizumi is definitely the type who tries to date other people to get over his life ruining long term crush on his childhood friend but ends up aggravating his dates by mentioning oikawa every five seconds without thinking

“oh yeah my friend likes to order that.”

“me and that idiot oikawa used to ride bikes every now and then.”

“oikawa actually recommended us this spot-“

etc etc etc even when he’s trying not to think about him

and when a date does go well afterwards he can’t help but think about how much fun it would’ve been to do whatever it was with oikawa

all of his dates clock his crush on his childhood friend and politely turn him down on a second date offer and he’s never beaten up over it and tries to ignore the reason why he isn’t upset in the slightest

and then he texts oikawa while lying on his stomach and kicking his feet .. and because oikawa isn’t in the room with him he’s able to crack a smile when he’s teased about fumbling another date

and both of them know that they’re quietly relieved the other hasn’t run into the love of their lives yet because they want to remain the closest person to one another for just a bit longer

[cupcakeshakesnake]

Some kind of creature, mayhaps... to me...

[yardsards]

im like the lorax when it comes to women's body hair. we should let it grow.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Bestie Deficiency

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[beedreamscape]

I'm pretty much the worst person to even weigh in on this topic because I've been partial to Suvi since day one, but in my opinion there wasn't ever a need to explain or justify Suvi's choices/reactions.

Not because she's perfect, never wrong (though in my heart I know...) but because I'm very certain that the people that keep on hammering on her mistakes/shortcomings/tendencies are people that already dislike Suvi (or don't like Aabria very much, I wish this wasn't a topic of consideration but even 30+ eps in there's still people like that around) for whatever reason and gather excuses to justify their bias against her and no amount of explanation will turn their hearts in her favour.

It really feels like a parallel to the way Suvi herself tries to be understood by her friends and yet she fails time and time again.

And people insist on forgetting that Suvi is not the Citadel, she's just one young wizard of the Citadel.

And it's gut-wrenching how much I relate to that feeling of alienation before every corner she tries to fit in: amongst her citadel peers she's othered by her position and privilege, and now by her friendship to a witch and a spirit; between her friends she's the odd-one-out because of her Citadel connections and the nature of her power; and now amongst the witches she stands out by being the face of the "enemy".

I don't blame her for clinging to the little corner of the world that has not made her feel foreign despite the very nature of her presence: in Steel's family whom she's not related to by blood, yet completely by heart.

And it'll never be a fair game. The girls especially are very young and with new-found independence, they're given colossal decisions to make, and that before beings older than three generations of them combined and incomprehensively more powerful and less empathic.

As much as Mirara wants there to be a good witch and bad witch, there's no such thing as black and white, there are decisions and consequences, what one does with the power they're given. There is no right or wrong in a fight filled with so much heart, there was never a world where a fight between Ame and Suvi would be clean.

[thedeafprophet]

"people in the past were really incestous" factoid actually just a statistical error. While there were of course situational factors that impact the past, Royal Family Georg, who's family tree is a circle, is a statistical outlier and should not have been counted.

[pinkinsect]

they should let me cite my tumblr mutuals on academic papers

[sinful-karateka]

I'll bite and talk about something that doesn't get enough spotlight in general, which are Demetri's and Eli's family life. So obviously several fic authors have their own twists and flavors to this, but if I may sell you something for a sec.

So far into the series, what we've got are these facts:

Demetri's Mom is the only family member to be mentioned in the show.

Eli's parents were mentioned a couple of times.

That should be enough context to deduce two things:

Demetri could be an only child to a single mother, and;

Eli's parents involve themselves in the stuff that he does — including karate, who knows — though they tend to be tone deaf with his actual needs.

There's strong evidence to why the boys act the way they act (brain functions notwithstanding, but this isn't the post for that), which is why I think these deductions make sense. How their hypothetical upbringing is part and parcel to how characters behave in this series. Of course societal influence comes in second because obviously you've got a show that encourages learning karate as defense against bullies, but this show is also about generational chains and traumas! So why wouldn't their home life inform the way it informs the LaRusso's, Lawrence's, and Nichols'? But I digress.

In the span of the entire series, I've held onto this headcanon that Demetri's neuroticism and ability to anticipate his actions carefully stem from a household that needs these systems in place, much more for someone who likes to be on top of things. Since he's just a student, the only authoritative figure who can make executive decisions... is his mom. Add to the fact that she may be a working mom, so when Demetri tells Daniel about certain restrictions in learning karate, what could have made her decide to just write a letter instead vs. taking the time out to go with his son herself? I know I know it's narrative writing but like do you seeeee where I'm at here

Eli's family life is by far gave us early indications of his dynamic with his mother — but not so a father — in earlier seasons. It's possible that his mom is a stay-at-home one, but if I were to push the bounds of this box even further, I'd even speculate that she's retired early if it meant that Eli's dad is the one making most of the living. Like of course they'd get mad at Hawk for getting a tattoo at his age, I think any parent would! But the way he tells Aisha to exclude him from her stories tells us that there's not a lot that his parents know about the life he lives as Hawk. At this point we all know the kind of effort it takes to successfully carry it out because he has to go home every night. It's either he a) puts in a lot of effort into concealing this identity once he gets home, or b) his parents are rarely ever home, which again, feeds into another assumption that maybe Mrs. Moskowitz works certain hours.

All we know is they're never around a whole lot for these boys, which is sad! and also again, very Indicative of their classification as awkward nerds pre- and early karate. When I read along certain fics that consider and include how the rest of their characters besides the found families they've formed, it gives much more depth and potency to writing them, their flaws, and how they think.

For all we know, Mrs. Alexopoulos could be a lesbian making fun of her son for not slinging pussy like she does being rizzless unlike her, but don't let me explain that when we have @demetriandelibinaryboyfriends!

[silusvesuius]

n*loth not being able to bag anyone over the (human term) age of 25-30 at most is the only logical and real conclusion to me because it can be just explained away as him wanting to prove and control everything and anyone (Cus he's a man!) but being stuck in that demographic because his unbearable and vile personality is a force that nobody can look past once they've outgrown the possible fear and idolization period of anyone but also n*loth in particular.

[zealsoughtsequesterustanxiedemon]

Rewatching Durarara with a friend of mine and we hit the Shizuo episode and I remembered wow he's my favorite character in this.

A character who id defined by violence: the strongest man in town, super-human even, uncontrollable, and easily irritable. But I love the episode we get for him because it really re-frames how his life led up to this.

He's had issues with anger and control since he was a kid. He's been in a cycle of getting angry, harming himself through wanton destruction, getting hospitalized, and healing his broken bones on-and-on until his body just actually got strong enough to stop getting hurt. A cycle he doesn't much like, causing him pain, property destruction, and sometimes hurting those he cares about. He loses jobs because of it and its obviously not very good socially. P neurodivergent imo.

But you know what he's also known for. That damn bartender outfit. The ones his brother gave him to encourage him keeping one of his many jobs. Of course, world isn't nice, he loses that job same way as the others. Now he's working as a bodyguard for a debt collector, one where his strength and infamy can decently benefit him. But he still wears the bartender outfit because of how many of them his brother got for him. So it's really cute how although he's still known for his anger, he's identified by something that came out of love, and from one of his favorite people.

He REALLY loves his brother. One of the people who's not afraid of him AND can actually calm him down. The other core one is Celty. He definitely has other friends, but those two are, like, THE people he can just really relax around. Show that his true nature isn't violence or wrath. He'd prefer being able to just chill, his brain just won't let him.

So besides his struggles, what I really like about Shizuo is that he can just exist. Despite his problems, he has a support system, he has a stable job now, he has friends, he has people who can stop him, and he can just live even if a lot of that life has to be angry. Heck, the police don't even apprehend him because his fits happen so much. Such a destructive person is okay to just be there. Problems will arise, and that's okay.

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

tbh i think family tv habits growing up (one analogue tv until i was nearly 14 and then we got the digital one that was slightly bigger; you turned the tv on to watch a specific programme and when it was done you turned it off again, very little "background noise" tv going on) do shape my adult tv habits like no i do not in fact "have" a "tv",

[uncanny-tranny]

In discussions about mental health, I am so tired of the only voices mattering being other people or other people who do not deal with a condition/disorder or a specific situation.

"Here's how I deal with loved ones with [x] condition!"

"If you do [y] because of [x mental health reason], you're selfish and everybody who loves you is having their lives made harder by you!"

"If your symptoms are [z], you're gross, and you deserve no sympathy for struggling"

I understand to an extent why people do this, but holy hell, as somebody who struggles and struggles often, the last thing any of us need to be told is that we're a burden that others have to carry. And it's terrible how everybody else's feelings but ours matter - even if we are the ones most affected by our condition or situation.

If you are dealing with issues surrounding your mental health and well-being, know that everything above isn't true; you are worthy of patience, understanding, kindness, and love. You are worthy of being listened to without judgment. You don't have to apologize or "make up" for who you are or what you struggle with.