#nonamorous aromantic

[nonamorous-culture-is]

Not a "culture is" submission but I have a question if that's okay.

I recently stumbled upon the terms "nonamorous" and "nonpartnering". Pretty much everywhere I've seen them, they are used synonymously. So I was wondering, is there a difference? Searching tumblr and LGBTQIA+ wikis didn't get me any answers.

There is a difference in the sense that someone can be nonamorous and not nonpartnering or vice versa.

Nonamorous tends to describe one's inclination towards relationships. A nonamorous individual may not feel a pull to enter relationships at all.

Nonpartnering more has to do with one's actions. A nonpartnering individual will likely not enter relationships.

So someone could be nonamorous where they don't tend to enter relationships or have a natural inclination to enter relationships, but not nonpartnering as they enter relationships.

This isn't everything, there are more nuances, but this is the simplest entry to understanding the differences.

[cosmicredcadet]

Hey... Hey if you say you support aspec people that means you also need to respect repulsed aspecs. Non-partnering aspecs. Loveless aspecs. Platonic aspecs. Other a-attraction aspecs. Old aspecs. Young aspecs. Aspecs who use labels you don't understand. Non-sam aspecs. Traumatized aspecs. Dysphoric aspecs.

You cannot only support part of the community. It's either all of us or none of us. You can't play favorites because one kind of aspec makes you feel more comfortable than others.

[neurovarious]

love the concept of <2 as an aromantic symbol/emoticon because not only is it a spin on the <3 heart (typically romantic) symbol, but it literally is written "less than 2" and idk as a non-partnering aroace that just speaks to me

[aromanticduck]

I'm non-partnering because I only commit to the bit.

[queerplatonic-sculder]

really wish that aroaces who don't want a partner of ANY kind were included more and not thrown under the bus constantly

[arodabi]

I’m a nonamorous aromantic bc if i had to wake up next to the same person every day, take them w me to all events, and had to come home to them being in my house, I’d kill

[avto29]

i wish people respected those that are nonamorous aroace.

[chemicalarospec]

y'all remember how Emma Watson said she was "self-partnered" in like, 2017, and everybody had an opinion on it. She got mocked so much. In contrast, Miley Cyrus won a Grammy this month for a song that's essentially about being self-partnered. I mean, I still know people who mock others for doing traditionally couples-exclusive things for/with themself, but there clearly has been some improvement in society overall and that's awesome to realize.

Shoutout to people who are autoromantic and people who are self-partnered or solo/autogamous for any other reason, especially those who are aro, this Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! And a related shoutout to those who are non-partnering, nonamorous, choosing to be single, and anyone else rejecting the societal expectation to partnered! <2

[mintoezz]

Nonamorous aplaroace 🍃.

[auggator]

This Valentine's Day I want aromantics to remember that, yes valuing your own friendships or other forms of love is important when there is a holiday surrounding romance, however: - there are aromantics that experience romantic attraction or in romantic relationships who should also be celebrated - and aplatonics, aqueerplatonics, etc, and those that are nonpartnering or nonamorous, are also a part of this community

Centering Valentine's Day around platonicism can be important in devaluing the pressure of romanticism, but it can also hurt others in the community in the process, so be mindful of how you act

[aromantisk-fagforening]

the word "amatonormativity" is used a lot in aromantic circles, as it should be. But how many people have actually read the book it's introduced in? (you don't have to be aro to respond to this poll, but maybe skip it if you haven't heard of the term)

[nonamorous-culture-is]

nonamorous culture is hating nuclear family type norms

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[cosmicredcadet]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

[kyanitedragon]

Of course I hate the amatonormative implications of the "Pair The Squares" trope, but there's also something so satsifying to me in almost a neurodivergent "must make charts and lists" way about pairing all the main characters into groups of two that i personally find most interesting

[aromanticduck]

Often when aromantic people express a fear of loneliness after their friends partner up and have less time for them, people's solution is to encourage us to partner too, just platonically/queerplatonically. And that works for some, but it kind of misses the point. I don't want one person to spend most of my time with. I want several people who have the amount of time for me that single friends do. Not someone to live with, but someone to meet up with for a few hours on a fairly regular basis. Someone who'll be there for me in times of trouble (and vice versa), but isn't part of my major life decisions.

I know most alloromantic people aren't jerks who completely forget their friends when they get into relationships (I have friends who are married, and they haven't ditched me), but time is a finite resource, and someone else getting more of it inevitably means you get less. I don't blame my allo friends for that - it just isn't pleasant to experience.

The fact is that some people need to balance their emotional connection between multiple people, not concentrate most of it on just one. I'm a 'one or two eggs in each basket' kind of person (polyamorous people will know what I'm on about - we're fighting the same war on different fronts).

I mean, I'm not 100% sure that platonic partnership isn't for me. Maybe it'll appeal to me more later in life, maybe not. But it's annoying to have it presented to me as the ideal aro lifestyle. It feels like Amatonormativity Lite.

[pileofpawns]

non-partnering aroaces either die with comphet or live long enough to see themselves become a third wheel