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finished all of love in the big city in the span of 24 hours and oh wow. wow. like. everyone will have their own little message to take away from it. and so, personally, like. god. go young is just so lonely. so so lonely. and its such a relatable, universally felt loneliness that in particular queer adults feel. and yeah love is nice and all, and it was fleeting and a whirlwind and it came and it went. but that loneliness? stayed. and even when he is with one of the several people he loves, there are moments in the show where you just feel how lonely he is, even then. how on opposite ends he and the guy he is with are. how empty everything is. and that emptiness and loneliness stays with him, like kylie, in seoul and in bangkok. in the clubs in itaewon surrounded by strangers or in the hospital next to his dying mum. it doesn't matter where he is in the world or who he is with, that loneliness and emptiness is always there. and maybe that will never go away and won't ever leave him and he may never heal. and. i don't know. i don't know. all i know is that loneliness go young has? i understood and felt it completely.

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an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024

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I'm always taken aback when someone asks me if I have a boyfriend because I've convinced myself so much that people perceive me as a sexless entity roaming the mortal world in search of something incomprehensible that I'm surprised the people around me see me as like.... a cishet

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People said that Tumblr isn't a great place to post original art that isn't fanart, but I'm doing it anyway because I haven't got the motivation to draw anything else

Happy pride month lads! 🧡💛🤍💙

from an aroace potato :)

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Folks, friends, y’all…. esk*mo is a slur. I understand a lot of people don’t know that, I don’t want to be a dick about it, but I’ve been seeing it in fics. Wanna write “esk*mo kisses”? Just say “nuzzled noses” or something.

I’m not here to call anybody out, it’s been in multiple fics, I’m not vague posting. This is just a psa. 👍🏻

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oh hey btw, apparently tumblr mobile now has an option to report ads for having flashing lights, if you click the three dots in the top right corner it should show up. not sure how long thats been there but i dont remember it being there at least a few months back, i would venture to guess it came with the recent update but shrug. fucking ridiculous that they cant just not put flashing ads in our faces in the first place, but at least this is an option.

people who dont have issues with flashing lights are allowed and encouraged to reblog

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I hate that when I announce that I'm aro, but not ace, people are like "yes fuck nasty I respect it 😏😏" like okay girl sure I do that but do you think I don't experience longing for human connection ? You heard non/aromantic and thought "wow, you must be so good with one night stands no emotional attachment whatsoever". Like no, I still (and you're not gonna believe this guys) care about the people I may or may not sleep with ?? Hello ??

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do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

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my first favorite hobby is yapping. second is being extremely quiet and not talking ever at all ever.

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-Rumi

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“It's taboo to admit that you're lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven't left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you're not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are. A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn't transition well to adult life, that you'd fall right through the cracks. And look at you now, it's happening.”

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fun fact (not fun at all fact actually) :

aromanticism and asexuality are still treated as issues to be fixed in most therapy settings, at least in the western psychiatric institution. i cannot fucking mention my aromanticism or asexuality to a therapist or it’ll immediately become their primary concern and goal to fix. whether or not i have a partner/am trying to have a partner is actively being used as an indicator of my wellness, regardless of if i WANT one. i cannot have access to needed mental health ressources because of fear of conversion therapy. aro and/or ace conversion therapy is the norm in most psychiatric institutions and we are getting told by the rest of the queer community that our oppression isnt real and that there is no link between our struggles and theirs.

more thoughts on the medicalization of asexuality and/or aromanticism

answers to common notes

aplatonic perspective

ressources

background information

tips to avoid aro and/or ace conversion therapy

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Grimpoteuthis

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hit me up when i'm done masturdating

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I may disappear for extended periods starting today. Thank you for being with me, hope I'll be doing well when I'm away.

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so before I started reading the three body trilogy, I'd got a fair sexism warning from my favorite book tuber (willow talks books; transwoman also btw) and i gotta say; reading reviews on the 2nd book on goodreads (rage bait is so easy >_< even tho it wasn't particularly written for that purpose): fantasy or fictional words aren't immune to sexism ._. plus, women authors writing stories with majority of the characters being women isn't sexism by itself, neither is vice verca strictly but more often than not tends to be. yk cause we do live in a male centric society most of the times. only sexism is sexism. i.e prejudice and/ discrimination based on sex. it creeps up on you slowly but attains max potency in the 2nd and 3rd books. and unlike your average sexism, it's a lot more subtle and complex (i suppose cause the prejudice of an intellectual also tends to be nuanced to match their level) but ultimately rooted in the same old typification. (well nah it is quite blatant sometimes) dont get me started on the amatonormative bs, because i was trying my best to ignore it. (it grated on my nerves a LOT but in favor of the other million directions the story and its concepts stretched in, i successfully ignored it for the most part.) has anyone read the books? i'd love to hear what others thought<2