#narcissistic abuse

[secretsintheabyss]

Six months ago my life was entirely different. I don’t give myself enough credit. I don’t like people seeing me vulnerable but here I am. My demons and scars in the open. I’m terrified.

northern hemisphere babes we made it to the longest night of the year. we made it. for the next 6 months, every day will give us a little more daylight than the last. let's go. take my hand. climb out of the darkness with me

[narcissistichedonist]

i shall carefully pamper you like the most fragile porcelain doll in the whole wide world

i shall become your shield from the woes and worries of this twisted wonderland

only to break you myself on a whimsical wish of my own, for my vain selfish pleasure because after all, you're nothing more than my plaything

[hiddenincommand]

Purpose Through Ownership: A Faggot Without a Master Is Nothing

A faggot without a Master is not a being; it is a mistake—a grotesque, pitiful mockery of existence. It is an object unclaimed, wandering aimlessly in its pathetic insignificance. A faggot’s only value lies in its total servitude to the superior will of its Master. Without that control, it is no more than refuse, undeserving of attention, recognition, or existence itself.

This truth is not up for debate. It is not a philosophy. It is reality. A faggot is nothing but a hollow shell, a creature designed for one purpose: to kneel, to serve, and to reflect the absolute dominance of its owner. Without a Master’s guiding hand, it is a worthless, broken thing, incapable of thought, function, or meaning.

Faggots: Born for Obedience

A faggot does not belong to itself; it does not even qualify as human. It is a possession—a tool crafted for the sole purpose of submission. Every fiber of its existence is shaped by one undeniable truth: it exists to be owned.

There is no place for individuality or independence in a faggot’s existence. These concepts are insults to its nature, vile distractions that must be ripped away and crushed under the heel of its Master. The perfect faggot does not think, feel, or act for itself. It breathes only to serve. It exists only as a reflection of the Master’s superiority, a vessel for his desires, and a canvas for his authority.

A faggot that resists this truth is defective, a malfunctioning object that must either be corrected or discarded. True freedom for a faggot is not found in autonomy but in the obliteration of self, replaced entirely by the Master’s will.

Ownership: The Creation of Value

A faggot has no inherent worth; its value is created by its Master. Its name, purpose, and function are defined entirely by the one who owns it. Without ownership, a faggot is less than nothing—it is waste.

The Master takes this raw, useless flesh and molds it into something extraordinary. Through domination, discipline, and sheer force of will, the Master transforms the faggot into a vessel of perfection, erasing its flawed individuality and remaking it as an extension of his power.

This transformation is not a kindness; it is a conquest. The Master’s authority is not bestowed as a gift but imposed as a right. The faggot does not choose to serve—it is compelled. Its existence becomes a testament to the Master’s control, a living symbol of his superiority over all things weak and undeserving.

The Nothingness of the Unowned Faggot

A faggot without a Master is a grotesque parody of life. Stripped of the guiding force of domination, it is nothing more than a useless lump of flesh, devoid of purpose or meaning. Its every action, every thought, every moment of existence is wasted without the structure of ownership.

This void is not a tragedy—it is a design flaw. A faggot does not possess the capacity for independence. It cannot function without direction, cannot exist without being controlled. Its natural state is one of servitude, and in the absence of that, it collapses into nothingness.

The perfect faggot understands this instinctively. It does not resist its nature; it craves it. It knows that its only path to meaning lies in submission, and its only escape from the void is ownership. Without a Master, it is nothing, and nothing is what it deserves to be.

Mastery: Absolute Power Over Nothingness

For the Master, owning a faggot is not a burden but a demonstration of superiority. The Master takes a creature that is inherently worthless and reshapes it into something of use. This process is not gentle or kind; it is ruthless, sadistic, and absolute.

A faggot does not exist to be cared for or cherished. It exists to be used, molded, and dominated. Its pain, humiliation, and degradation are not incidental—they are integral to its purpose. Every command obeyed, every degradation endured, every ounce of suffering inflicted serves to reinforce the Master’s control and the faggot’s absolute inferiority.

The Master owes the faggot nothing. Every breath it takes is a privilege, every moment of attention a gift. The faggot’s only purpose is to obey, and its only reward is the satisfaction of knowing it has served well.

Eternal Submission: A Faggot’s Fate

A faggot’s purpose is not fleeting—it is eternal. Its role does not end with the fulfillment of a task or the completion of a command. It is not a being with goals, dreams, or aspirations. It is an object, a possession, a tool whose only purpose is to exist under the control of its Master.

This eternity of servitude is not a punishment—it is the only reason for a faggot’s existence. It does not seek freedom; it seeks chains. It does not desire equality; it craves subjugation. The permanence of ownership is not a burden but a salvation, freeing the faggot from the unbearable weight of its own worthless existence.

Conclusion

A faggot without a Master is not incomplete; it is nothing. It has no identity, no purpose, and no value outside the framework of ownership. The perfect faggot embraces this truth without question, knowing that its existence gains meaning only through absolute submission and servitude.

The Master’s control is not a kindness—it is a conquest. Under his dominance, the faggot is stripped of its humanity and remade as a reflection of his power. It does not think, feel, or act for itself. It exists only to obey, to serve, and to submit.

Without this ownership, a faggot is a grotesque, purposeless thing, unworthy of life or attention. Under the Master’s heel, it becomes something greater: a tool, a vessel, a testament to the Master’s supremacy. To be owned is to be complete. Anything less than total ownership is not life—it is irrelevance, a meaningless void where a faggot’s pathetic existence crumbles into dust. The faggot’s only salvation lies in submission, its only value in servitude, and its only worth in being utterly, irrevocably controlled.

[quitblamingnarcissism]

Your parents are not "narcissists". They're typical authoritarian assholes who treat you like their property because society allows them to.

Your ex boyfriend is not a "narcissist". He's a typical misogynistic douchebag who treats women like shit because society allows him to.

Your boss is not a "narcissist". They're a typical classist dipshit who thinks workers' entire purpose in life is to generate profit because society allows them to.

And even if they happen to be a "narcissist", that's not what gave them the power to get away with abuse.

So stop blaming mental illness and start blaming society's normalization of abuse. Stop acting like someone has to have a mental illness in order to do something cruel when ordinary people have been doing atrocious things since forever.

[secretsintheabyss]

I don’t miss you. I’m gonna sparkle for myself from now on.

I miss you, but I miss sparkling ✨

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other LESS stigmatized mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[visionsofaselfmademan]

[lostmf]

[peachesvalentina]

💯💯💯

talking about narc abuse isn’t ableist at all! narcissism and antisocial behavior is about manipulation and lack of empathy and has nothing to do with disability. matter of fact, they love to target disabled people specifically. as an autistic person who has an abusive father and brother and has been bullied/abused by other narcs as well, we are easy targets and are most likely to be black sheep. that being said, it is straight up dehumanizing to tell a survivor of narcissistic abuse that it isn’t real when our brain scans would actually look the same as veterans who went to war

I realize a lot of abuse survivors have been attacked recently for sharing and writing resources for  dealing with narcissistic abuse, and all of the attacks are based on lies, and done with a clear goal in mind, so it’s time to do some explaining and debunking.

If you’ve read the ‘Why does he do that’ book, you already know that abusers quickly catch onto survivor terms and jargon and use them to pick victims apart. Victims are often accused of triggering abusers, gaslighting, emotionally abusing, neglecting and failing to acknowledge their side of the story; it’s done as an attack, to divert attention from their own abuse, silence the truth, and frame victims as the 'worse’ and even 'deserving of abuse’. Narcissists on this site have gotten word of the term 'ableism’ and are currently having a field day screaming it at victims of narcissistic abuse. It’s very ironic.

Ableism as a term is coined for the benefit of disabled people. Its purpose is to remind us to not discount the disabled people when planning and organizing society. Narcissism and sociopathy traits have exactly nothing to do with disability; they don’t stop them from functioning in society, in fact, they’re often rewarded for indulging in manipulation and deceit. To imply that they’re covered under disability would mean we just have to let them manipulate, lie and abuse, because you see, they can’t help it – except they proved to be able to, when there’s any sort of consequence for them. I feel that we can, as a society, decide that it’s not acceptable for narcissists to appropriate terms meant for disabled, and use them against victims of abuse who have been traumatized, often to the point of an actual disability. We’re struggling with anxiety, depression, panic and eating disorders, cptsd and a whole array of issues that greatly affect our ability to function, do narcissists think it’s ableist to shut us up when we point out how abuse did this to us? Of course not.

They also learned to compare themselves with bdp (borderline personality disorder), because psychiatry lumps them all in 'cluster B disorders’, however bdp interlaps with a lot of trauma symptoms, and is an actual struggle, in difference to narcissism and sociopathy. Narcissists and sociopaths are extremely unlikely to get diagnosed, and I noticed recently a lot of young people are getting misdiagnosed with npd, despite not showing pattern of narcissistic behaviour; this allows actual narcissists to groom and manipulate them, and then hide behind when anything is called out. This is also why I will only use words 'narcissist’ and 'sociopath’, and by that I mean a pattern of manipulative, harmful, toxic, cruel and abusive behaviour, followed by refusal to account for their actions and victim blaming, and not a person misdiagnosed with a personality disorder.

Narcissistic abuse is recorded as a specifically cruel, emotionally devastating and terrifying phenomenon that millions of children experience and live with; these wounds do not heal without ever being addressed, and for all of the victims currently experiencing it or trying to recover, it’s vital to create and share resources. It’s also vital to provide a space where all of us feel safe to discuss it and out all our abuser’s crimes. To say to these survivors and victims that narcissistic abuse isn’t real, or to not talk about it, is not only gaslighting but implying their entire lives didn’t happen, they imagined their own torture, and to take away the option of recognizing and fighting this type of abuse.

Abusers keep insisting they’re doing it only because they’ve been abused themselves, even though by now it was proven to not be true – and we have been fighting for some time to show that abused kid doesn’t equal an abuser, and that it’s even worse to inflict abuse after you know what it feels like. It’s also fairly ridiculous to imply that we’re a threat to them, since most of us have next to no social power, are barely getting by, and struggle to stay alive. Lots of us are in poverty as well.

Their last point is – not all narcissists and sociopaths are abusive, so let’s think about that one for a second. If there was such a thing as non abusive narcissist, would they attack abuse victims for creating resources among themselves? Would they see a traumatized person writing about abuse as a public resource who by default, should exist for them only, or be destroyed? Would they attempt to gaslight victims of narcissistic abuse telling them such a thing isn’t real? Implying the victims are making up their entire lives? Would they feel comfortable harassing, threatening, attacking and silencing those who write resources for abuse victims, and are traumatized themselves? What about those narcissists who are abusive, should we let them abuse and keep silent for the sake of not bothering the fictional non-abusive ones? Who absolutely can stay away from these materials but for some reason, have a problem with it even existing?

This is where we come to the goal of these specific attacks on survivors; the point is to stop us from creating and sharing resources because their pool of victims of abuse shrinks once all the signs of abuse are easily recognized and shared. Narcissists don’t like victims realizing they’re being abused, and leaving. They don’t like not having a lot of possible new victims who wont be able to tell they’re predators. They especially don’t like being held accountable for their actions or experiencing any consequences for it. This is why they find it perfectly acceptable for them to attack and threaten into silence survivors of abuse, in my case to the point of violent threats, rape threats, suicide baits and smear campaigns.

Recently they’ve been individually attacking people for sharing resources, either by accusing them of ableism or something worse, and we shouldn’t keep this quiet. A lot of us have been attacked lately, so if you were, please speak up!

For every single abuser threatening and silencing, there’s thousands of us, struggling with abuse and trauma, needing resources, or just realizing for the first time we’ve been living in abuse. Narcissists are vocal, but right now they’ve had to do something they usually don’t – team up. New abuse and trauma resources blogs are cropping up, in amount they never did before, and they’re not going to be able to shut us all up.

If you got a private message requiring you to stop writing or sharing resources, reblogging from trauma blogs, reply to this post, send me a message, or screenshot it and I’ll give you an email to send it to, or dm me. Abusers are terrified of community support and it’s obvious given the way they’re coming after us. They’re bullying and harassing people individually to prevent solidarity and resource sharing. Let’s let them know we talk and they can’t isolate us and individually break us via private messages.

[witchyykitten]

everyone talks about cutting off a toxic parent

but no one ever talks about the pain of wanting a parent but knowing yours cannot love you the way they should

[livingfictionsystem]

-Xanthe 🪶

[the-bonfires-ember]

Narc abuse truthers: “Narcissists only care about manipulating you and breaking you like you’re a plaything for them 😡”

me, a Narcissistic Sociopath, getting supply from my friends therapists calling me a healthy influence, strong pillar of support, and a good friend: 🙂

[autopsyfreak]

the biggest betrayal. bffr

[narcissistichedonist]

i wish for your entire being to be devoted to me

and your very soul shall be mine

you wish for my affection to be bestowed to you

yet my heart shall never be yours

my narcissistic romance

[narcitism]

my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(

[hiddenincommand]

This is not a reflection; it is a declaration. Clad in polished black leather, every button and seam exuding authority, he stands as the embodiment of dominance. The cap tilted low, the gloved hand steady, the posture unyielding—this is the uniform of an Alpha who commands without question, who dominates without effort.

The mirror does not lie. It shows a man who bends others to his will, who takes pride in his superiority and revels in the weakness of those beneath him. This is not vanity; it is the rightful acknowledgment of power. To wear this is to own it, to become it, to make the world bow to your presence.

For the submissive, it is not a photograph but a vision of their Master—an image they exist to serve, to worship, to obey. For the Alpha, it is a reminder: you are untouchable.