#narc abuse is not real

[the-save-star-anomaly]

I wanna go to the inbox of every pwNPD to spread positivity to them because we deserve it. The world is full of stupid trash and we have to deal with them just because we exist? Nahhh, fuck that. You are all cool people

[slumber-spirals]

“b-but!! if we don’t call abusers narcissists they’ll use it against us by saying we can’t call them out!!!” actually, you can call them out. by calling them ABUSERS. ARE YOU GENUINELY THIS FAR UP YOUR OWN ASS.

[telltale-apologist]

NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL NARC ABUSE IS NOT REAL

[howhow326]

Unfriendly reminder that "dark empath Narc abuse truther, slayer of all pwnpd" are not welcomed on my blog, actually.

[deandraxon]

Eugh I saw your exchange w/ that person defending narcissistic abuse. My boyfriend has NPD. It sucks how people refuse to get it through their heads that narc abuse is a farce that causes more harm than it ever will good. Because it’s just hurt people hurting hurt people and perpetuating a cycle of cruelty that they stubbornly refuse to change. If “narcissistic abuse” exists according to these people then what about “autistic abuse” or “ADHD abuse?” Because those things don’t exist, so “narcissistic abuse” doesn’t either. Taking all my willpower not to rage at that asshat LMAO

I wouldn’t exactly call it an exchange when they blocked me without giving me a response lol

Unfortunately some people would rather continue to harm people than acknowledge that narcissism is also a mental disorder.

Personally, my abuser has ADHD and Bipolar Disorder. I wouldn’t call her abuse “Bipolar abuse”, because I also have both of those disorders and I don’t abuse people.

I absolutely hate people who bring up every disorder they have to try and justify their ableism somehow. Especially when, conveniently, they don’t actually even have the disorder they’re openly shitting on.

People like them simply lack empathy and refuse to listen to other people because gods forbid they be wrong.

From a fellow personality disorder haver, I wish you and your boyfriend the best. Your disorder does not make you inherently evil or cruel. You are a beautiful human, and I love you.

[angelkittycore]

i'll take 500 for things that never happened, alex

crazy to me that gently stating that, hey, this post is coming off as ableist, maybe self reflect on that, is now apparently trying to dictate how others should feel and what they post on their blog. (i got annoyed really quickly because they got defensive which like.. ?? hello? i was trying to help.)

news flash but you do not get to post ableist shit that makes other borderlines and narcissists feel bad about their own disorder being stigmatized and demonized in the tags and then act like you have the freedom of speech to do so willy nilly just because it's your own blog. freedom of speech protects you from the government, not the angelkitty. (jokes aside, what they originally posted could be interpreted as subtle hate speech for disability/mental illness!)

[solitaryschizoid]

neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist

[autopsyfreak]

Homicidal Ideation

homicidal ideation is the term for having active thoughts about murdering others. these thoughts can be intrusive, however they can also often be voluntary.

misconceptions:

‘people who have these thoughts either have killed someone or will kill someone in the future’ - this is false. most people who have these thoughts usually have disordered behaviours (most commonly as a result of personality disorders) and struggle to find healthy ways to cope with their emotions, therefore provocation and stress can easily cause thoughts of inflicting harm onto others. this doesn’t inherently mean these people are dangerous, nor does it mean that they’re going to act upon these thoughts. most people who experience homicidal ideation never act on it and use it more as a way to process their distress/frustration internally.

‘having these thoughts about people in your life means you can’t possibly care for them’ - also false. caring for someone doesn’t make them an exception to mental illness and it doesn’t stop your mental illnesses from existing. to think that someone’s love for you is only valid as long as they’re not displaying traits of mental illness is unfair and is hugely misinformed. to love and be loved by someone who is mentally ill is to accept that they will display symptoms of their mental illness. you are not the exception and they do not love you any less by showing traits of being unwell.

‘so you endorse murder’ - no. that’s not at all what this means and if you seriously think this then your grasp of severe mental health issues is too limited to be commenting on such topics.

‘you’re evil’ - for being unwell? don’t be a cunt. if you seriously think that having a disordered manner of processing emotions internally makes someone ‘evil’ then that sounds more like an issue with you being too sensitive and having a lack of understanding, not an issue with the mentally ill person experiencing these thoughts. don’t make your inability to understand mental illness into someone else’s problem.

as someone who does experience homicidal ideation, it’s also important to not make the mistake of assuming everyone who is mentally ill experiences these thoughts either. i had an anonymous ask earlier today that directly associated the fact i’m mentally unwell with murder and homicidal thoughts, to immediately make this assumption just because someone is mentally ill is disgusting.

[ink-asunder]

Those "how to defeat a narcissist" articles are so stupid because if people didn't have a general conscious of narcissists being Bad People, these articles would just be abuse tactics.

"How to destroy your partner." "How to break down your girlfriend's self esteem." "How to collapse your boyfriend's ego." "How to break your partner so they stop being so disrespectful, know their place, and know their own worth in comparison to yours, as an alpha gamer."

Literally sigma male podcast shit.

[narcitism]

my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(

[the-save-star-anomaly]

Maybe controversial opinion

Putting the blame of someone being an abuser on disorders is hurting both survivors of abuse and the people with those disorders.

If someone was abusive, that was on them. I say that as a survival of years of ongoing abuse. I wasn't abused because my dad is ""crazy"". Stop trying to get the blame off him fucker. Stop being ableist you fucking. Person. I am crazy, prideful, and I don't abuse people because of that. If I abuse people, that is on me, not on my disorders.

Serious time over, time to be goofy again my cat is on ragdoll mode on my lap and that's adorable and I love her she is too precious for this world

[slumber-spirals]

me watching narc abuse truthers act exactly like how they describe people with npd

[cruelbrutality]

I have no empathy, remorse, guilt or compassion.

That is how I experience things, as a result of my personality disorders.

If you are going to support personality disorders then you also must include people with these symptoms as well and not just the glorified version the media attempts to convey.

[witch-of-the-creek]

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

[hellhoundzzz]

WHY DOEA IT MAKE IT AOUND LIKE WE'RE SOME FINAL BOSS IN A VIDEO GAME 😭😭

lmao the scary narc you have to defeat to get the special item !1!1!!!1!

I can't take this shit seriously bcs WHAT THE FUCK 😭😭😭😭😭

[angelkittycore]

stealing this from furious "narc abuse" goldfish

How to spot a smear campaign:

Victims “crimes” will be enlarged, and even if they’re small missteps, they will be treated as if only the worst person on the planet would do such a thing

Accusations against the victim will always be a reach, aka, they did ‘this little thing’ but it actually means they’re a racist/murderer/genocide supporter/fascist/have blood on their hands, even when the person’s actions never conformed to those crimes

All and any actions of the victims will be misinterpreted in the worst possible way, anything the person does will be taken as an offense and intentions will be read as hostile and manipulative, regardless of how clear they are

All victim’s actions will be taken out of context; i.e., victim said something cruel to someone, but they take out the context of the victim being abused, threatened, tortured, forced into defense mode and finally attacking out of desperation to defend themselves and get free

The victim will commonly get provoked into giving a bad reaction, (anyone gets defensive if they’re accused of the crimes they never did, or simply triggering insults until they snap), and the reaction will become the new ‘proof’ that the victim is in fact, evil and guilty

A lot of pressure will be put on you to react ‘correctly’ to the smear campaign; if you don’t accept to demonize this person at once, you’re getting scrutinized, shamed for your lack of morality, told that you support all these horrid things and that you are just as despicable

You will notice a trend of people ganging together based on their demonization of the victim; they will set a standard where you’re accepted and welcome if only you also will demonize and hate this person, and if you don’t, you’re blocked, cast out, and accused of causing harm

It will feel very easy to accept to demonize this person, and going against it will feel risky, like going against the grain, doubting the word of the many and risking being demonized yourself.

The smear campaign continues all the way until the victim is chased out of the community and denied a voice, even if the victim commits no further crimes, awful things will be said about them, their past ‘misdeeds’ continually brought up, until the victim is commonly believed to be worthless, and becomes completely isolated, scared of society and alone

There will be no limit to what is considered okay to do to the victim of a smear campaign; even if the victim is accused of minor bad behavior, it will become okay to threaten, insult, shout slurs, trigger, provoke, humiliate, manipulate, and repeat any kind of abusive behavior to the victim, all because 'they’re bad so they deserve it’.

People leading the smear campaign will switch between being 'extremely grossed out and enraged’ to showing absolute joy and satisfaction when they find a new reason to demonize and smear the victim. People truly horrified of someone’s actions do not get a leap of joy when a new disaster happens, they’re not beside themselves to abuse the perpetrator all over again.

It will never, ever be acceptable to show any mercy to the victim. Forgiveness is out of the question, trying to understand them is out of the question. Even reading or listening to what this person is saying will be banned and forbidden, unless it’s for humiliating purposes. They will be shown as absolutely irredeemable, and associating yourself with them as evil and unforgivable. You will be instructed to block or unfollow or report the person based on what you’re told, without any significant proof.

Do not fall for smear campaigns. If a large amount of people all agree that a person is the worst, but their story is exaggerated, out of context, sounds fictional, and doesn’t show any proof, and the people switch from being enraged to eager, doubt it. Participating in a smear campaign will help the abusers isolate and abuse someone, and you do not want to be a part of it. They will also smear anyone who stands up to their abuse, so you’re helping the abusers to create a place where pointing out abuse gets you cast out of the community.