#low-empathy

[gengernoway]

✦、LOW-EMPATHY：PD-02

A flag for those that have low or little to no empathy. I didn't like the ones that existed so i put my own spin on it. : )

✦、TAGGING：@radiomogai

[ PT : low empathy: pd-02, a flag for those that have low or little to no empathy. I didn't like the ones that existed so i put my own spin on it. tagging: radiomogai. check our iwc, oomf. End of PT ]

[ thanks to webby-mogai for helping us with the frilly dividers ID ]

[rory-moment]

me ranting L man i am PISSED. we are talking about empathy in class right now. I am autistic and on the lower empathy side. I can feel it, but only in certain situations, and I have to be close to the person. otherwise its not there much at all, i'd say. teacher said "raise your hand if you think you have empathy" and i didn't. everyone except me and a few others raised their hands. teacher says something, and then she says "what about our friends who don't have empathy? what kind of friend is that?" and i am so mad. people with low empathy are not lesser or monsters or ANYTHING. we can be good friends. we are not bad people.

[incyray]

Just a low-empathy ramble vent

That low-empathy experience of absolutely hating history class growing up not because you found it boring, or have a low tolerance for violence and fucked up shit, but actually because you struggle to feel the correct emotions. When hearing about horrifying things you feel noting and instead make judgements about how much to hate the perpetrators of atrocities based on rational evaluations of the facts.

But that's not what normal people do. Normal people feel EMPATHY- emotional empathy; they feel the feelings of others and experience emotional contagion. when they see another person crying it makes them sad too. Their entire system of morality is based on feeling for other people.

But I cannot do that. I am immune to emotional contagion. I do not feel what you feel. and so it is harder for me know what feeling, what reaction- is appropriate when I learn of the horrors of old. Or see an ad for sick child. And so on.

They spark no emotion in me. They are just information, nothing profound.

And so I become very stressed out when I have to learn about those things, because I have to try extra hard to calculate how to react right; and if I don't, the consequences tend to suck pretty bad. Doesn't help that low-empathy is often conflated with evil.

Yet somehow in my absence of favoritism-breeding empathy I am somehow among the more compassionate of the people I know. I don't care because the target makes me feel, or I've known them for a long time. I care because I know what evil is, and want it die, and I know what evil is not.

Still doesn't change that such situations wherein an empathic response is expected but I don't have one and instead have to fake stress me out, though

[asonr]

Autistic spaces are getting so much more hostile towards people with low empathy, and it sucks

There was a subreddit I really liked, people were chill, and then there was a sudden influx of people making posts like ‘Autistic people have empathy! Saying we don’t makes us seem like monsters! Thats not a symptom!’ And people making posts explaining that no, actually, some of us do have low empathy got attacked and told they were wrong or ableist? And it sucks, because its just so hard to find a place to exist where you can be seen as not evil? I don’t know, it just hurts a lot to be told that

[apollos-boyfriend]

they hated him for his low-empathy autism swag

[youlookkindadead]

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

[lureithleon]

this bothers me a lot as someone with a low empathy score:

no, you cannot learn empathy. empathy is when you feel and share the emotions of the other person. your friend is sad? you feel sad.

you can learn to be understanding, and compassionate, and how to react when you don't feel those things, but you cannot learn to experience a sensation that you do not.

[orangegloom]

im curious. also please reblog for a larger sample size blah blah blah youve heard it before

[ps1demodisk]

Sorry I'm not low empathy autistic in the "mysterious loner boy who secretly cares about his friends and talks in a monotone voice" way and I'm actually just completely indifferent to the suffering of people I don't know personally and help strangers out of a sense of "this is the right thing to do" and not "I feel so bad for this person" or guilt.

I sit and listen to my friends even though I don't really care about hearing about their problems because I know they'll be upset if I don't, and despite the fact I honestly can't genuinely care about the issue itself, I care about the impact it's having on my friends and that's enough to make me want to help them through it.

Did you know that's actually an expression of empathy all of its own?

It will absolutely happen again I literally am not even sorry

[infiniteorangethethird]

I don't know where this "if you don't feel love/empathy you're evil" idea comes from like if you can only be decent towards people if you love them/feel empathy towards them then I'm pretty sure I'm not the one mistreating more people of the two of us

[mstrchu]

he has the juice

[rory-moment]

i am not a monster for my low-empathy. i am not lesser than you. i am not sub-human. i am not a bad person. i am not evil. i am not a serial killer. i am not a freak.

I AM NOT A MONSTER.

[literallyagod]

Btw it's not cool to hate on people without empathy..

I don't care what your reasons are,, just cause I don't feel sad when you're sad doesn't mean in suddenly gonna murder your whole family or something

[titan-god-helios]

people who are good and kind and uplifting and say and do nice things for other people, solely for the purpose of gaining attention or upholding your reputation, i love you, and you still are good people.

i don't care if you're seething with anger or jealousy or hatred inside whilst you do the nice things. you're still a good person. i don't care if you're constantly criticising the other person in your head whilst you do nice things. you're still a good person. i don't care if the entire time you help someone or say something nice you're constantly thinking about yourself or how much you want them to say something nice back or only doing the good thing to get praise or for your own sense of achievement. you're still a good person. i don't care if you're messy or find it extremely hard to do nice things for others and in general. you're. still. a. good. person.

[incognitopolls]

As a reminder: empathy is not a measure of someone's morals, their actions, or whether they're a good or bad person. It's one part of how someone relates to other people. This is not the place to comment about how you think evil or cruel actions are because of low empathy.

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[catgirl-catboy]

I'm taking away the word empathy from the NTs until they discover it isn't a synonym for "giving a shit about people"