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[penwrythepersonal]

CW // Personal Vent over internalized homophobia and enbyphobia within the LGBTQ+ community

I got heavily triggered last night over absolute bullshit, so strap yourself in because ahhhhhhhhHHHHHHHH-

Have you ever seen harmful discourse over labels and the invisible massive harm that everyone is doing to themselves and towards others because of the said discourse (and resulting callouts and creepy people doing account monitoring on those they deem problematic because of discourse)?

I thought we learned by now that recycling hate was never a good look in this community. But nope, it's okay for some fucking reason!

I refuse to participate in this hate. I'm nonbinary. About half a decade ago, a lot of people hated us because they didn't understand us. People got harassed to hell and back over that, even though there was literally no harm in being nonbinary. I remember that. Does anyone remember that???

It's back but in a different form! New hate! Do you love it? I fucking don't!

Sorry for the vaguing, but I don't want to get involved in the discourse. I am so tired and scared of what's happening in my country. Please don't hurt me.

Community-wide homophobia is awful. I have filtered tags and keywords for the label discourse on all my accounts, but I still see it every day. Do you have any idea what the phrase "[label redacted] people don't exist" sounds like to me?????

"Nonbinary people don't exist" was normal five/ten years ago. That's hate. That's hate to me. I heard that in my own community. Remember that people got harassed over a harmless gender label. There is no harm in being nonbinary. Want to see what it was like? I suggest watching this video: Kalvin Garrah | Dangers of Transtrender bullying

Content warning for the video: suicide attempt mention, harassment, transphobia, homophobia

That wasn't too long ago! And I still see it now. Why are we repeating this hate today over sexuality labels???

Don't dare to bring the discourse here. I want no part of it. Do not fucking hurt me. Do not. Please don't hurt me.

Some of you are twenty-something years old, young adults justifying harassment over minors, and other adults over labels you don't understand. Do you have any idea what you are doing? What you are repeating?

It's terrifying. Imagine one day someone decided that your name can't be used ever again because of problematic discourse long after you passed. But you used that name when you were alive, why it's bad now? Why?

*Explains why it's bad now*

Okay, I get that, but why it's was okay for you to use back then?! It's bad now, don't you know?

A week or two ago, I made a post that we need more LGBTQ elder representation. There's a reason why I made it. Not just that elders represent our future and past, but also that we existed far beyond this current era.

For the people who keep saying "trans/nonbinary is new" we fucking existed long before this current era.

For the people who keep saying "[label redacted] is new" take a long hardass look at that D//kes To Look Out For Comic script by Alison Bechdel that's been going around posts as of late.

Just for the record, I'm not a fan of the [label redacted]. I find it odd and contradictory, I much prefer sapphic or biflux instead. But I'm not going to recycle hate against people who use that label or support it. I refuse to do that. I don't want to be another Kalvin Garrah.

How long did it take to for us nonbinary folk to be accepted after the discourse around us ran dry? Five years? Ten?

How long until the current discourse around [label redacted] runs itself dry? Oh, the water looks a little low now, given how much I keep seeing the muted label on my timeline. Won't be long until my hesitance to accept it will look a little odd to some people. Then to a lot of people. Then to an entire community. Then to an entire generation.

I'll give it five years. Ten at the longest.

I'll be 37, and 42 for the latter. Oh, can't wait for people to look at me like I'm some outdated self-hating gay. People thought [label redacted] was bad back then, really? What were they thinking?

Yeah, what are we thinking now? What are you thinking now?? Will you be the same five/ten years from now?

Ten years ago, I thought I was straight cis woman. I was 22 and I remember praying for the lost souls of gay people because I thought they needed saving. Then I realized I was bisexual after giving a good thought about my sexual attraction (girls and guys are hot, who knew). It took me longer to realize I was also nonbinary, too. Unfortunately, I was one of those people who thought nonbinary people "doesn't exist". But now, I'm here. I am nonbinary (fuck gender)

Did you know there's an anti-bisexual community on this site? There's also an anti-pansexual community here, too. Don't forget the anti-neopronoun people still kicking around!

Odd fuckers they are. What were they thinking?

Why do we keep recycling hate?

[princessefemmelesbian]

Transandrophobia truthers are so damn racist and white oh my fucking god y'all actually piss me the fuck off every time you tokenize Black and brown men for your stupid as fuck "mra but make it trans-inclusive" ideology created by a creepy guy with a corrective rape fetish(something I'll never let up on for as long as I live, btw). If I ever see another one of y'all say "Black and brown men face discrimination because they're seen as overly masculine and that's why masculinity in men is oppressed in this society" I will literally kill myself. Stop using Black and brown men as brownie points for your bullshit arguments about misandry being real when you don't have the slightest idea how racialized oppression works. White boys are so annoying and dumb istfg.

@punkeropercyjackson @punknicodiangelo @pinkpinkstarlet

[idontmindifuforgetme]

the criticism imo comes from how 'girl' phrases reinforce patriarchal views of gender. terms like 'girl math' and 'girl dinner' are appending girl as shorthand for 'i don't know better due to my youth and gender' similar to how 'boys with be boys' uses boys. and all these phrases really translate to 'my actions are in line with societal expectations of my gender'.

Yes and I get that. I can completely get behind being against the “girl dinner” “girl math” trend. But I feel like a lot of criticism about girlhood has gone beyond that, to the point where it’s automatically assumed that girlhood holds negative connotations.

When people refer to Luigi Mangione as a boy and a kid, they don’t do it from a place of “he’s just a boy.” They do it from a place of “he’s a rising star in the tech industry, but let’s not forget that he’s just a kid so he’s free to make mistakes too.” Everyone is literally obsessed w him rn so I really don’t think what’s happening is anything beyond people allowing a man to be young well into his late 20s and 30s.

There will always be other scenarios where girl/boy hold negative connotations, and I respect that and think it’s a worthy conversation. But there’s no denying that no one would be calling a 26 year old woman a kid who’s also a rising star in tech like they would not be embracing her youth in this manner and I think that’s a worthy conversation too

[alpacacare-archive]

inside you there are two wolfs

[skitskatdacat63]

And now my art has been reposted on tiktok, have I finally made it as a creator? 🥺 But like seriously my god, I didn't think I had to say but don't repost??????? I think I've been pretty safe from it cause I normally just draw AU art but ahh making relevant art, it's a dangerous game....I just yeah, don't necessarily know what to do about it, but yeah just don't please?

[blue-jos10]

though the same colour, katelyn has a lighter shade of hair than neil

when andrew and aaron have an argument but katelyn agrees with neil, she dyes her hair neil’s shade and doesn’t say anything.

when andrew and aaron have an argument and neil agrees with aaron, he dyes his hair katelyn’s shade and doesn’t say anything.

it makes the twins violently mad and they make up in their own way under record time.

[loveandthings11]

He is so funny and real and sweet and still true to himself 🩷

[childrenofthesun77]

I know mahiru is often seen as not smart (his official stats from the guidebook give him a 2 out of 10 for tactics and I think the mental stat is more about mental stability?) and sure he's not a tactical genius like mikuni or touma (both have 10/10 in tactics) but mahiru is extremely socially/emotionally intelligent, which is an intelligence often overlooked in favour of "classic" intelligence (like being good at math or things like chess).

But unlike other characters mahiru knows when to stand his ground and when to lay low and change a person's view slowly over time.

Misono wasn't on his side in the beginning, even saying mahiru could be his servant when mahiru agreed to work with him, but mahiru quickly picked up on the fact that misono was lonely and offered to be his friend. Now misono trusts him completely and recognizes that mahiru's strength lies in gaining allies.

Shuhei openly hated vampires and treated them as things and mahiru responded by humanizing them, listing examples of vampires acting just like normal people, laying the first stone for shuhei to stop wanting to kill all vampires.

He was the one who proposed the idea that tsubaki would come to rescue lilac because tsubaki sees his subclass as family and he was right.

Neither lawless nor licht were overly impressed by him when they first met him, but by the time he asks them to rescue tsurugi especially lawless is one of his biggest supporters.

In C3 he understood that he wasn't going to be able to move if he opposed them and joined them instead, allowing him and the other eves to meet. He also correctly concluded that getting tsurugi on their side was key because he was central to C3's/touma's plans and in the end it saved his life and allowed him to stop touma.

Mahiru consistently trying to protect tsubaki's subclass might also come in handy soon. They might not like C3, but both lilac and sakuya can vouch for mahiru as a person they can trust not to kill them and to aid them in stopping tsubaki from destroying himself.

And stopping tsubaki by convincing him to stop is perfectly logical. A servamp can't be killed as far as we know. Combat only gets you so far. If C3 want to create a lasting co-existence between vampires and humans getting both sides to stop killing each other and to learn to forgive is the only way.

Trying to solve this conflict through conversation and not violence is neither shortsighted nor childish, it's the only reasonable solution.

[basalting]

the first time batman got really hurt after robin started patrolling with him...

dickie pressing his hands to bruces wounds and sobbing, begging him not to die, apologising for letting him get hurt. bruce covering dicks hands with his own, 'its alright sweetheart, im gonna be alright. you didnt do anything wrong'

dick in his blood stained robin outfit curled up like a puppy in the chair next to bruces bed watching him rest. bruce waking up to dick slumped over asleep next to him and carefully tugging him onto the bed.

dick crying into bruces arms when he wakes up and bruce kissing his hair and murmuring "im sorry dickie, that was scary but im here. im still here. you kept me safe"

[the--firevenus]

Honest to god if your entire criticism to aang and his final decision to spare ozai is "it's boring!" then I think you should stop watching ATLA and better yet stop talking about aang character in general.

Because I know you'd whole argument just miserable to listen to, your whole point of view to the world is miserable, lack of whimsical and joy, may one day you found that again for now, shut up.

[shalom-iamcominghome]

Becoming jewish because being a lawyer is too much work

[ctl-yuejie]

the projected results for germany are fucking dismal

[fitzrove]

[shaking and biting] but what does it MEAN. what does it SAY what is the THEME

[carefulfears]

thinking about scully as a woman so close to death that she’s almost comforted by it, that she understands longing for it, finding peace in it. but who is the adoring first mate of a man who already chases too many ghosts, so when she’s on the edge of death herself, she’s afraid. she holds him and she writes about forgiveness, about fear that he’ll lose course, about leaving him alone.

she’s trapped in an endless-line cycle and there is no escape, in that she’s held there by love. and so she starts to understand, starts to ask, how you could possibly have too much life? what about love?

when she’s handed the answer; bruckman's tender quip passed along in fellig's burden. immortality as greek tragedy, tithonus and his woods.

spirits take up tenancy in her living room. she chases more, with her obsessive seeker, who can't see them. she takes a tape recorder and camera, and bears witness to the corporeal bodies she deconstructs.

it's almost purposefully evasive, the way this particular snake eats its tail. to be so surrounded by and dedicated to a resolution you'll never have.

[suffarustuffaru]

Reading your tags about how people miss the very obvious "there's some fucked up shit boiling underneath" regarding Otto, just gave me a sudden realization. Otto is the only character I know in fiction where they act all innocent and drive up the "clumsy", "just in the side-lines" and "straight-man (heh)" persona. When. Like no one's in the EMT camp is buying it. They know he's way more capable than he let's on. Meanwhile, the tomfoolery is completely brought on by the Western audience.

Like Otto is failing miserably to make other characters believe that he's not up to mischief, Roswaal even thinks it can bring his downfall. But the audience, who even sometimes *sees* his fucked up thought process, is buying it.

*head in hands*

no u bring up so many good points bc ive been really thinking about this for a while T^T its such an interesting phenomenon in the difference in perception otto has between the japanese speaking half of the fandom vs the english speaking half which can be explained by—yeah. media illiteracy mainly. im also putting my head in my hands anon T^T

because—okay sorry wkdndn im gonna get into meta again but hear me out bc this pattern of the fandom underestimating otto is interesting bc i kind of sort of i cracked the code maybe??? o.o i think the nature of otto is a character is that youre SUPPOSED to underestimate him at first, just like what happens sometimes in universe. i mean wayyy back then i definitely wasnt expecting him to get more depth added to him in arc 4–which was a pleasant surprise—which is also the reaction the vast majority of people have to reading/watching arc 4, along with the other vast majority reaction which is being a bit endeared to ottosubas friendship and respecting otto for being a good friend. and then its easy to underestimate otto bc of 1. all the chaos going on in rezero at any given moment and 2. hes almost always overshadowed by other characters doing worse shit or being more insane than he is and 3. otto of course damn well knows hes easy to underestimate and counts on that. thats what he did against roswaal in arc 4. plus—i mean even aesthetics-wise hes 100% DESIGNED to be easy to underestimate. his outfit and physical features make him look either friendly or frazzled or soft. so i think that the point is that we were supposed to be kind of fooled—at first.

because yeah, we’re endeared to otto. we respect him for helping subaru the way he did. we think that hes a nice person and we now support his actions especially after feeling sympathetic towards him after learning his backstory. (or at least the average audience member will think this wjdndn.) but like—you dont even NEED to look at any side content at all for it to dawn on you that theres something Wrong. with him. like all you need is main route arcs 3-8 aka ottos entire screentime thus far, because at arc 4 its so easy to overlook otto unless youre thinking a bit deeper (for example—he gets violent with subaru. like yeah its entertaining, its played for laughs a bit, yeah subaru needed to be snapped out of his own head, but was it 100% necessary??? why did otto have this response??? bc if you just look at the main timeline otto really decided to beat up subaru first. and bc this tendency is now Less Funny in arc 8).

but even if youre just looking at rezero face value, when you get to arc 5 its starting to get even more clear that ottos weird in the head. like we already saw him being very good at scheming and planning in arc 4–in arc 5, we find out about otto hiding the tome for a year. we find out WHY hes been hiding the tome for a year. the tome then leads the witch cult into priestella, so like—in the sense, otto is RESPONSIBLE for arc 5. but theres STILL a tendency sometimes for the audience to continue underestimating him even though by this point we’re getting more clues and many characters around otto, like you said anon, KNOW hes very capable. i keep wondering why this is, but arc 5 is, again, FULL of chaos and different storylines happening at once, so its so easy to almost kind of forget otto there in the background until he occasionally pops up again. plus otto serves an additional role as comedic relief sometimes—he spends all of arc 5 being bitchy and whiny (i say this affectionately HAH) about his camp being full of disasters, for example, so i think the natural response from the audience tends to be “aw otto!! what a silly guy!!” sometimes. you know? so its like. i think at this point some people tend to be like “yeah fair that otto was wary of roswaal and thats why he saved the tome…. anyway ooooh whats going on with these other plot points” wobsbss. its so fascinating bc—ok this might be my own personal experience but anyone reading this pls tell me if you agree or not—i dont think ive seen a lot of people actually even MENTION otto bringing the tome into priestella attracting witch cultists. and the english speaking fandom LOVES to go into certain characters’ wrongdoings so why gloss over otto????

the only explanation i have for this is that from arcs 3-4 underestimating otto is. kind of the point of his character UNTIL you get to arc 5 and the clues in the main story start seeping in even more. and also the western audience DOES have media illiteracy a lot. theres that too. just look at rezero content on youtube or reddit or fanfic sites or other things of that sort T^T but no yeah i think ottos nature as a character exacerbates it. youre supposed to start asking questions about him. youre supposed to start connecting the dots and then SUDDENLY its now EXTREMELY obvious in arc 7-8 and even while theres so much chaos going on its basically shoved in your face. arc 7-8 is just delivering on all the leadup that was arcs 3-5.

and i think that youve gotta be media illiterate for sure to NOT get that otto is not squeaky clean and innocent BY ARC 8. i think that ottos the deconstruction of the loyal best friend trope, and also a mirror into what subaru couldve been like if he decided to be more ruthless instead of jumping right to forgiveness and saving everyone, except sometimes that flies right over the audience’s head wkdndnd. it confuses me bc ive seen some people completely miss the point or completely agree with otto and overlook the Bad Parts of it or, you know, STILL think ottos perfectly sane—like T^T please.

and yeah so back to what you said about otto Not being underestimated In Universe—its such an interesting detail bc hes ALWAYS been simultaneously pathetic and Very Competent wjdndnd. but yeah no all of his friends have seen various hints and clues and evidence of what hes capable of. like even though he hid the tome from them successfully and even though hes hiding info now its INEVITABLE that its gonna blow up in his face one day. like you got characters like garfiel who literally saw otto punch the wall and break his hand in an unhinged fit of rage, julius who got snapped at by otto and while julius is a Bit naive definitely knows somethings off there, anastasia whos smart as hell and definitely knows not to underestimate otto, and roswaal who, like you said anon, literally went out of his way to stop otto from breaking his hand in another unhinged fit of rage and warned otto that he will literally be destroying himself if he keeps going on like this. its this fascinating dichotomy bc otto is NOT fooling anyone around him but at the same time his current schemes are mostly unnoticed—for now—which yeah i havent seen that in a lot of media!!! its an interesting balancing act bc people around him realistically know hes competent after seeing the Proof of that for the past couple arcs, but otto is still finding ways to try and Win…

which—again, the anger and violence is an extension of arc 4 otto!! this is the same guy!! hes always been like this!! ottos kind of stayed the same, deep down, this whole time and as an audience its ONLY shoved in our face with a big gigantic spotlight on it FOUR ARCS LATER, but it was hinted to all this time. and like you said anon—we LITERALLY see ottos fucked up thought processes. literally what sane person thinks any of that shit. its spelled right out for the reader HAH T^T which—yeah. media illiteracy…. and also this whole ask was a longer way of just saying that otto is VERY easy to see at surface level if youre media illiterate. but at the same time it should be very easy to figure out otto is A Bit Fucked Up bc tappei underlines it in bright red print!!! i think people sometimes just hang onto soft awkward silly otto and forget about the rest T^T either that or they dont think he cares about subaru at all. which. that phenomenon of thinking characters that do care about subaru Dont Care is also interesting to me bc why????? we’re at arc 8 and you STILL dont get it??? o.ooooo

but yeah apart from that….. i said this earlier but yeah sometimes some people agree with ottos realism in arc 8 which is. understandable, but the whole point is that he is EXTREME. with it. hes Not in the right here, but the same crowd that wants wanton revenge in rezero is gonna agree with that kind of stuff T^T ottos been lurking in the background so much so that tappei made it meta by doing the whole “walking in darkness” part of his character, so i guess people just. dont see ottos ACTUAL worst traits and instead think he would ditch subaru at the first opportunity or something. but at the point we are now, arc 8 ottos problem isnt that hed ditch subaru. his problem is that he would sacrifice the world for subaru. his problem is that he gets extremely angry at subaru for trying to do good. his problem is that hes trying to micromanage everything around him and is willing to sacrifice anything necessary to get what he wants. but sometimes people dont get that bc otto doesnt look sound or seem like a character thatd do that. the Underestimation part of his character is doing too well on. certain audiences. please T^T the soft and awkward and silly parts ARE part of his character just like all the Darker parts are!!!

additionally im also wondering if western audience perception of otto is also clouded by the fact that otto looks and sounds more feminine / androgynous and he doesnt have the appeal of Overt Power either……. he cant Really be waifu-ified… and he cant be used as a weird self insert like subaru…. and you Have to look at him closer to understand him…. and for some reason people dont tend to hate on him so aggressively, if anything people cant even see his actual canonical flaws half the time wkdndn so if youre not paying attention otto CANT be aggressively hated on bc theres nothing there if ur not looking at it….. and if youre not paying attention otto seems more “boring” compared to the others…… (not that people arent allowed to not have otto as a favorite character bc thats totally fair but im talking about the tendency to think hes Saner than he actually is.) but yeah these are just my guesses. i have no clue the western fandom is a little T^T some people unfortunately cannot read.

anyway. big thank you to the japanese fanbase for understanding ottos character more and making so much wonderful fancontent for him T^T also i think that we as a collective fanbase should stop underestimating otto in general bc its exactly what he wouldnt want and i think itd be really hilarious. <3333 make him explode with rage please

[sysig]

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