#importance of communication

[rafeandonlyrafe]

well 🧍‍♀️ as a reminder this blog is NOT a safe space for trump supporters but it IS a safe place for women, queers, trans ppl, people of color, undocumented people, and any marginalized group.

[adventures-in-poor-planning]

I rlly like the emphasis that live action one piece is putting on the fact that literally nobody else think about piracy the way luffy does. "Being a pirate is about being free and having friends :3" while every other pirate is doing legitimate career criminal shit around him.

[lavendervirgos]

Doms can ask for attention too.

Doms can be needy for attention too.

Doms can ask for reassurance too.

Doms can be clingy too.

Doms can be not in the mood too.

Doms can get jealous and insecure too.

They're not weaker or less of a dom for any of it. They're humans, too, not just Doms. And the fact that people genuinely think otherwise is kind of weird to me.

[tawnysoup]

“I’m just not used to it.”

[madohomurat]

trans women are everywhere and are so eager to be seen and heard but only if they feel safe around you. if you hardly ever have trans women interacting with you, especially online, then consider there might be a reason for that and you should address it

[strawberryraviegutz]

Here are some hotlines to call

Here are some ppl pointing out about how something not feeling right about this election

And here’s a link you can use to contact Biden about doing a recount and or revote. Spread the word on every social media platform, friends and family members.

[anticapitalistmongoose]

alright boys, girls, neither, both, and those in between we need to clear something up:

if someone says they are queer, they are queer.

no ifs, ands, buts, etc. they are queer.

and if they discover later that they're cishet, great, amazing, wonderful, i'm glad we gave them community when they were figuring themselves out and needed it.

no gatekeeping of queerness here, alright?

because when shit hits the fan queerphobes wont care whether you're a cis gay man who goes by he/him or a bigender aromantic pansexual who goes by it/its

so stop with the respectability politics.

we're a community, fucking act like it.

[realsafari]

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN AND ALL OTHER ASSORTED FAIRYTALE BEINGS, I NEED HELP WITH SOMETHING!

I have a transmasc friend who lives in an unsupportive environment, and I really want to help him out. He isn’t misgendered as female, but is told that nobody should have to use his preferred pronouns (He/They) because they aren’t used to them, and that ‘for good public image’, he should use They/Them only when he ‘must advertise his gender to the public’.

Obviously I’m pissed as FUCK, because this is exactly what I experienced (and still experience) as a young transmasc adult. I know firsthand how shitty it feels to be told that your identity doesn’t deserve respect or acknowledgement because ‘people aren’t used to seeing you that way’.

The main message of this post: ANYBODY who adds a note, whether liking, reblogging, or replying, will have their username written down in a notebook that I will send to him to show his family. If you reblog/reply with a supportive comment or tag, I’ll write that too under your username.

Please and thank you all ❤️

[ajxrn-archive]

To my mutuals or followers, or just anyone who sees this:

Please reblog the kosa bill posts from me and others. This bill is EXTREMELY dangerous to the queer community and especially queer minors. As a queer and trans minor in a bad home situation, I and many others would be in so much danger if this bill is approved. Its actually so horrific. One of the senators who introduced it, Marsha Blackburn, said that "protecting minor children from the transgender in this culture" was a top priority. As a trans minor, I find this disgusting and harmful to my existence, I'm sure many others my age feel the same way. So please: REBLOG THE KOSA BILL POSTS.

EDIT: IT WILL ALSO CENSOR THE PALESTINE GENOCIDE POSTS AND MANY MORE THINGS!!! WE WILL BE BLOCKED FROM THE TRUTH!!! Also I do not know many things about the kosa bill, this is the limit of my knowlege, so I can't answer any questions. I'm sorry!

[whirligiga]

I’ve been thinking since I watched the Hbomberguy video and it occurred to me

He said that one of the reasons he started looking into James Somerton’s stuff, is because he was being accused of plagiarism. He looked into it because he wanted to verify wether that was true, because queer people often get falsely accused of things, and harassed because of it. He wanted to make sure that wasn't happening.

In the end, his downfall was the kindness of the community that he exploited.

[canis-rex-lupus]

KOSA AFFECTS US ALL

there will be no room to call for a free palestine, congo, sudan, or yemen when imperialists control what stays on the internet.

there will be no room for sharing queer joy, safe binding and tucking guides, or tutorials on how to safely navigate kink when queerphobes and puritans decide what kinda of relationships and identities are "acceptable".

there will be no room for anticapitalism, protest organizing, pirating, or sharing anti-establishment resources when the establishment can erase whatever ideas are too threatening to them to stay.

there will be no room to be someone who doesn't conform.

DOWNLOAD ALL THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU. CALL YOUR REPRESENTATIVES. PROTEST AS LOUDLY AS POSSIBLE. SIGN PETITIONS. BUILD ALTERNATIVE COMMUNICATIONS FOR YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS. AND DO IT NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.

[creelarke]

Feminism is never and has never been about hating men by the way.

Don’t call yourself a feminist if you dismiss victims of SA or abuse just because they’re men whose abusers are women.

[hxnyshifting]

idk who needs to hear this but

DO NOT KILL YOURSELF TO "HELP YOU SHIFT"

like are people really promoting fucking suicide? there are many impressional MINORS in this community and you should not be telling them to KILL THEMSELVES BECAUSE IT WILL MAKE THEM SHIFT

STOP PROMOTING SUICIDE

[angelsaxis]

LOLA STILL NEEDS HELP! NEW PINNED!

She can't stay in Abuja because it ended up not being the safest place for her. She needs FOOD, HRT, AND HOUSING. She's at risk of facing violence every day.

This is an old campaign but it's still valid. If you can't donate yourself, please reblog! Spread this wherever you can. She's been having so much trouble for so long that I'd hate to see her give up on survival now.

She's @/Afrrau_Deity on Twitter.

If I had money I'd definitely give it to her too but I'm almost in the red myself.

5,674/15,000 USD

[balsee]

what i loved about the latest episode of dandadan is the way okarun communicates with momo. he's usually so reserved and passive about voicing his feelings, but this time he makes the active choice to tell momo that he needs her to tell him how she feels. he's not a mind reader, and if something is bothering her, he wants to do his best to clear things up. it's such a nice little step in character development, especially since momo pointed out earlier in the season that okarun makes assumptions about how people see him and runs with it instead of actually figuring out if his assumptions are correct or not.

not only that, but when okarun tells momo what he needs from her, there's a sort of reassurance hidden there, too. by insisting that he wants to make sure she's completely clear about everything between them, okarun is saying that it's safe for her to be honest and vulnerable with him. we can already see that okarun and momo have great chemistry, but this moment really elevates their friendship into something more human, more healthy, and it's cute as heck.

[captainjonnitkessler]

I chair my union's Women's Committee, and every once in a great while someone will make a half-joking comment about how "imagine if I suggested we have a Men's Committee though", and it's so frustrating because I would fucking love for us to have a Men's Committee!

Construction workers have sky-high rates of suicide, addiction, and overdoses, and I pin a large part of that on a culture that encourages machismo and masculine posturing. I think a lot of construction workers have lowkey trauma about the dangerous conditions they work in, but the culture insists that anyone who cares about safety isn't a real man. People accept that this job will break your body down and cause medical issues down the line, but if you take steps to protect your body - like using team lifts instead of insisting you'll carry 100 pounds of pipe up three flights of stairs by yourself - you're a wimp. Hazing the new guys often crosses into outright abuse, very often focused on ridiculing the masculinity of the victim, but if you stand up for yourself you're a pussy who can't handle a few jokes. Men in the trades are often invested in feeling like they are the provider and protector of their families, but this can make them feel like their self-worth is tied up entirely in what they can provide and not who they are as a person. Guys who have hobbies that aren't masculine enough are mocked relentlessly, because Real Men only like drinking and hunting.

Our Women's Committee focuses on issues that impact women the most, but the membership and the help we offer is open to anyone in the union regardless of gender. I would love to see a Men's Committee that works under the same idea, addressing these issues! But on the one hand, yes, I do think our business manager might reject the idea as appearing sexist or pointless. And on the other hand, I don't think the men who make those comments to me would actually be interested in a Men's Committee if we did have one, they just wanted to take jabs at me because they feel like I'm getting special treatment just for being a woman (never mind that this committee is essentially a part-time unpaid job for me).

The one guy that actually DID care about reaching out to and helping young men eventually left the union to focus on running a city-wide initiative instead, because he wasn't getting any support from his union brothers. It's fucking hard to help people who won't meet you halfway.