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rafeandonlyrafe · 3 months ago

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well 🧍‍♀️ as a reminder this blog is NOT a safe space for trump supporters but it IS a safe place for women, queers, trans ppl, people of color, undocumented people, and any marginalized group.

#if youre feeling upset or disillusioned i am right there with you #but now more than ever #i want to remind you of the importance of community #check in on your friends #advocate for your friends #protect your friends #protect your community and who you love and care about #and we will get through this #my dms and inbox are always open #even if you just want to vent #im also so sad right now but we have to be strong and stick together right now #(also if youre not american pls understand this affects us all and to not invalidate the feelings of americans)

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anonymocha · 3 months ago

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I genuinely cannot feel strongly for men so if I react less interested / completely disinterested when I see a guy I can’t project into it’s not me trying to make my lesbian statement I GENUINELY just *cannot* care.

#i get it how people want to see more men in gacha game with 90% women but unless he’s a character i can kin then i….#i cant bring myself to care. genuinely.#which is why i do not try to advocate to see more men in r99 #i dont mind if people do but i personally want to see more women AND ENBIES HELLO…???#im not idgaf bc i hate men im idgaf bc i idgaf abt men simple as that #mochats #if we get more male characters ‘Thats Cool’ but also ‘I Dont Care. Goodbye.’#just like how irl i remove myself from the conversation whenever my girl friends talk about dudes #i need lesbian friends fuck #IM NOT YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE

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chryblossomjjk · 1 year ago

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#literally this #extremely sad how adhd isn’t recognized n severely underdiagnosed in women #only got diagnosed w it n other things as an adult #n now it’s much harder to develop coping mechanisms but #we move lol #a win is a win #so if u guys are ever wondering why kiki rambles about bs that nobody cares about #n then over thinks n deletes all posts #or is v sensitive #n takes forever to yield any fic bc never satisfied w work #✨adhd brain✨#also friends #gentle reminder to pls advocate for yourself #like you know your body and mind more than anyone #and if you feel like something is lacking or you need help #pls push for it #bc sometimes the healthcare system is #yk #but yeah #it’s super scary but there’s also so much relief in receiving a diagnosis #like you made it this far without knowing #the only thing that changes once you receive the diagnosis is that you have more access to tools than you’ve ever had maybe #yeah #anyways #love you all #n i hope you’re happy and healthy #n i hope you have a support system #and if you don’t currently you will in the future #if you ever need to talk or anything #im here

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hyohaehyuk · 4 months ago

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Jacob – Couples Therapy podcast (Hosts: Naomi Ekperigin and Andy Beckerman)

Bring a friend to a date?

Did he mean it like a throuple/threesome or did he meant "date a friend instead of starting again with your ex"?! 🤨 The hosts kinda sucked on this one. They didn't even let him explain himself 😒 I can't believe it didn't cross any of their minds to ask if he meant it like in a open relationship/polyamorous relationship way or another thing 🤦‍♀️

Anyway, I don’t even think jacob himself realised yet what he have going on with his bestie Sam.

And then right after, naomi says “i think we kinda know, so it’s fine” just unprovoked and him not saying anything… lol everybody got u and ur little workplace friend business

source: lovesjar

Also around 1:26:04 (i think is even for the same question/advice from the video above):

#jam reiderson #i will not tag the actors bc i dont know how safe it is in here with shipping/rpf #anyway the replies/quotes on the tw link are really funny like #He is giving advices based on his own experience 😭#How do you even decipher this information properly without going to them #not beating the allegations ... im starting to believe he's trying to tell us something 👁👄👁#coworker situationship so good you dont even know what dating is like anymore #having an emotional support friend you share your romantic experiences with... accidentally advocating for ethical non-monogamy is a likely #the way they both immediately start mocking him too 😭😭

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lucidowl · 22 days ago

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Casual reminder from an adoptee who's been loved by and cared for by adoptive parents since birth:

If they aren't willing to act like family to you, they're not family to you.

I think a lot of people forget that. You, likely biospawn (not adopted), still have a choice- lots of choices, actually- in the matter, and no one has an immutable right to stay in your life. If the relationship is not equal, you have no obligation to continue to serve them well. Though everyone deserves love and care, it does not have to come from you.

The goal is to have folks who want- not just tolerate having to, but WANT- to give you love and care that is fulfilling to you and who see your own love and care towards them as fulfilling. Both of these; never one without the other. And there are a whole lot of different ways that can happen, but it does happen.

#max says things tag #also this applies to more regions than just family of course #also for the record i am not advocating for dropping everyone no warning if you're unsatisfied with your whole life. chances are some of #all that can be salvaged and you communicating your needs and making it clear that you want to know others' needs is huuuge.#i'm still working on communication. i try to convey to friends that i don't want hostages i want to offer comfort and enjoyment #and my own needs. i take care of myself but loved ones want to know if they can help you! (me!)#today i had a nice emotional talk with my mom and i'm going fishing with my dad later this week. i want a healthy family and i'm going to #have one. it's Mine and i'm Keeping It.

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elizabethrobertajones · 6 months ago

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this is a Bad party comp. G'raha is wholly encouraged by Y'shtola to stand in six overlapping AOEs and Urianger will just watch and say "alas"

#ffxiv #Frog getting mauled to death by sloths because no one present is advocating restraint and care #absolute death wish amongst my so-called friends #the fact they're just figments of your imagination makes it worse :P #Frog knows this is what would happen if they teamed up

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plumbewb · 10 days ago

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am i not allowed to talk about myself on my blog? you sound silly af, just thought people should know who they are interacting with since you wanna label people a bigot over nothing? simply stating the stuff i’ve advocated for 💕

“tell all these losers off these next couple days” this is what i mean yall are childish and stuck with a high school mentality. to want to continue dragging this for what??? cause i said my peace and that made you upset? truly please grow tf up lmao

#plum.txt #must have your friends stalking my blog cause i already blocked you weirdos and moved on #i’m a white puerto rican that spends their spare time advocating for things i care about? sorry if that bothers you #pls change your name to dookiesim i know everyone will love it <3 #i’ve now had your posts sent to me multiple times cause you just keep going 🤣🤣 did you not take your nap yet

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daftpatience · 5 months ago

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ur heds post made me go search for the criteria and im getting really scared.... my ankles click all the time (besides the other criteria) but my docs always like oh its bc ur lazy and fat like hmmmm.. maybe not!

FOR REAL my doc says that too. it can be really hard to get diagnosed with anything related to joint pain etc when fat because doctors love blaming the first thing they see and then not ever doing any tests or straiught up ignoring test results

#its good 2 learn skills for self advocating at the doctor #if u have a thin friend with you that can back you up/be support at appts your doc will usually suddenly grow a conscience/ get polite #every 1 remember the time my doctor said that i should stop snacking and think about eating a veggie UNPROMPTED #she did not ask about my diet before assuming what she assumed. i was there for an antidepressant prescription

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lutravurr · 6 months ago

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everyone who says cluster b instead of personality disorders to refer to base pd symptoms and clearly doesnt give a shit about pw hpd or aspd die in a fire forever ok

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here-there-were-dragons · 7 months ago

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i have to wonder what super hardcore militant vegans think should be done about obligate carnivore animals, because in all my painfully-rapidly-approaching-30-years i've literally never actually seen anyone give a clear consistent much less halfway feasible answer on that

#mostly i've just seen like “how dare you ask questions you just want an excuse to murder you're sealioning ect”#or worse some vague and wildly improbable nonsense about like. fake robot animals covered in beyond meat or something equally convoluted #which is a thing i did see someone suggest as a serious answer #i mean i already know they think i'm a genetically inferior hateful vampire that should starve to death for the greater good #because my exact combination of health conditions make meat basically the only semi-safe way i can get close to enough nutrients #i know this because they have repeatedly told me that i'm either evil or should be sacrificed or both #and yelled at me for asking questions by bringing up the whole disabled thing and then they're like #“a lot of vegans i know are advocates for disability!” as if that ever means jack shit in the society that results from anything #no matter what you do a vast majority of people in any given society will *not* be advocates for the disabled. i'm sorry they just won't.#and what do you think public perception of people who physically can't survive like that is going to skew towards #in a society founded on the belief that non-vegan diets are evil?#at absolute best we're looking at being a heavily marginalized class generally seen as something like vampires and our existences taboo.#(as if these type's own insistence that they should be allowed to harass and shame people doesn't disprove their assertion that we won't be #thinking it could possibly go any better than that is a fucking fairy tale. human nature doesn't work that way.#you simply cannot eliminate the human desire to designate and abuse a class of have-nots. the absolute best you can do is mitigate damage.#take it from someone who's been multiple kinds of disabled and chronically ill all my life. people will not “just”. ever.#i get this even from people who are otherwise very aware of and VERY GOOD at avoiding this sort of thinking #“i'm a disability advocate!” no you are not. you are a poster. my experience has taught me that what people advocate for in their free time #means precisely jack shit for how they will actually act when faced with the situations they make otherwise rational posts about #and the fact of the matter is even if you somehow really are the perfect disability advocate a majority of people WILL NOT BE YOU.#a majority of people in society will be margrat from accounting who clutches her pearls when she sees the gays and thinks autism isnt real #and who has never had a nuanced thought in her life and actively does not want to #a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will not be you and your friends who march with wheelchair users and volunteer at the shelte #a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will be jenny who starved 8 cats to death on broccoli because she can't be bothered #and who thinks that “carnivores” are actual nazis and don't deserve healthcare because she saw someone say that online.#ALWAYS assume your society will be made up mostly of the worst kind of person it can because it WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE and you can't change it #most people seek the low-effort option. and evil is most often banal and low-effort.#i'm just so fucking tired of every single even vaguely lefty-adjacent political movement simultaneously acting like i don't fucking exist #and at the same time that i need to be sacrificed to achieve Utopia. god. at least conservative whackjobs are upfront and honest about #how they think that i'm a burden on society that needs to be Eugenics'd . rather than trying to morally gaslight me about it.

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sukibenders · 7 months ago

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Listen, and I say this as a Rhaenicent fan, but seeing some on Twitter going "Alicent would never hurt Rhaenyra like that," or "But if she were with Alicent..." really has me shaking my head because, really? That's what you thought coming out of this episode?

#house of the dragon #hotd #as rhaenicent fan i will wholeheartedly admit that alicent has hurt rhaenyra like im not going to sugarcoat it #from humiliating her after joffery's birth to literally slicing her arm open to etc #i can still ship them & admit that! it's okay to admit that they both hurt each other bc (unless its some au) ignoring that takes a lot awa #for both of their characters and the ship itself (best friends to strangers to friends to enemies is what makes them interesting! leave it!#and this isn't me ignoring how daemon hurts rhae either bc seeing him act so aggressive towards her & her flinching hurt me so bad #but i also don't think that moment or even the episode where he does choke her is the right time to go advocating for your ship especially #when harm has been present within said ship too #the only ships with rhae where she probably was not harmed by her partners are rhaewin and laenyra #top two (+ laenor platonically) that i can think of #and again i say this as a rhaenicent fan so don't come at me saying im not #there's just a lot of nuance to them that im not going to ignore #alicent hightower #shes messy let her be messy #rhaenrya targaryen #deserves so much better and i will stand by that statement #hotd critical

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mainfaggot · 22 days ago

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how do you cut someone off

#like without drifting apart gradually bc tbh i dont wanna be close friends anymore #i feel constantly misunderstood and perpetually weighed down in this person's presence #we're close friends but i dont even like her anymore #and i feel BAD about it but i just cant stand their ass! everything feels like a competition with them. everything feels miserable.#it's definitely partially my own fault bc i do a lot of comparing due to our laundry list of similarities #but it's partially their fault bc shes always adding fuel to the fire #like we can never just agree on things #and whenever i try to balance myself and stop being so competitive here she comes with her damn #need to make even more comparisons between us #also like. they cannot just shut up about how hard life is #Trust me i know! i take 3 pills daily for psychological issues. i have been since i was 18 #like they always have to talk about how haaaaard having ADHD is how difficult their life is like #it's one thing to open up to your friends and vent every so often and another to make your illness your entire personality #i rant about all my issues in depth on tumblr BECAUSE i know better than to dump all that onto my friends who are already struggling #im not saying it's Trauma Dumping to talk abt ur problems but holy shit in moderation #like i dont have the mental or emotional capacity for this!!!!#that might sound really mean and god forbid extremely individualistic but it's truly because #im trying to HEAL im trying to RECOVER #and with someone constantly messaging me about their ailments and symptoms and struggles! well it makes me feel like we're both bound to be #stuck foreverrrr #also apart from that i dont enjoy their company. they used to be interesting and now they're just negative half the time if not more and #constantly playing the devils advocate for seemingly no real reason #im not perfect either in fact i can be a real asshole in friendship im aware. but this one particular friend has been pissing me off for #over a year and that has to mean something #like why now and why for this long?#if it really is a Me Problem then okay! like i fucking suck im horrible or whatever lets not be friends so that she can be happier!#idgaf anymore maybe im the bad guy but either way we're better off apart #z.post

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snekdood · 1 month ago

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giving men a space in feminism doesnt mean letting them step on your toes. if you feel like your toes are being stepped on, you need to say something and tell that person to stop instead of try to get them fucking exiled essentially.

#i really do truly think peoples inability to socialize and do conflict resolution is a huge part of the problem here. they jump straight to #ostracizing someone from the community bc they're essentially too scared to actually have a conversation and tell that person to stop?#they're gonna say its trauma or w/e but if its a guy you dont know whos not traumatizing you you cant really... claim that.#no. be honest. you dont know how to communicate effectively. so its easier to just have people leave than try to fix anything #the same type of person to reject going to therapy with someone to try to fix things and just kinda jumps to saying 'fuck it'#but the whole point of therapy isnt to make you guys stay together anyways- its to resolve conflicts. you might decide you're better off #w/o eachother but need to at least know the other person whole perspective first before jumping to conclusions #therapy with others also! teaches you how to resolve conflicts and communicate more effectively. so even if things dont work out #now you have tools in your belt later on if you need to work on a different relationship.#im not saying go to therapy w some random dude who might be stepping on your toes in some way but you Do need to learn #how to communicate better so you can at least tell him how you're being negatively effected w/o... trying to advocate for his ejection #and it'd be even more helpful if you have an unbiased emotionally mature friend who understands communication well nearby to help #you guys resolve your conflict... doesnt have to be a therapist specifically lol #tho a therapist or counselor or w/e is usually the best option bc they're the least likely to be biased.#unless you can find an over qualified stranger... which... how would u even know theyre over qualified then... idk sdjhfshj #if it is like a community thing maybe (hopefully. ideally) the organizer can be the unbiased party? idk.

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adderallbastard · 3 months ago

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tonight has been absolute hell im going to fucking bed

#when one of you best friends decides to play devils advocate and choose the side youre literally trying to get away from

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thealternatemind · 4 months ago

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42,000 people. 42,000 people with full lives and memories and family and a culture that is being erased. 42,000 people. My mind can’t even comprehend that number. Innocents. Infants. That’s a larger number than people who live in my city.

42,000 people are dead. Israel is committing genocide. This is an ethnic cleansing. It’s not only been going on for a year but for A HUNDRED years.

Read “The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine” by Ilan Pappe, an Israeli historian. Learn the history. Educate yourself.

Call your representatives. Advocate for a ceasefire. Free Palestine. 🇵🇸🇵🇸

#as a year since the start of a genocide that would take 42k lives has passed #I’m taking the time to read and learn more #and it’s only fueled my grief and rage #I found out someone I called a friend for over two years #is denying that this is a genocide #and reblogging Islamophobic content #And saying that Israel is ‘just defending itself.’#which is a well-documented smoke screen for a 100-year long genocide #(again do your reading)#I’m disgusted that someone who calls themself a leftist would say that #we haven’t been friends in a while cuz they were very cruel to me and ppl I care abt #but this is still totally shaking me #42k people are dead.#but they’re going around saying this isn’t a genocide #no one will see this I have no internet presence #but for the love of god please educate yourself on Israel’s actions #many innocent people live there #they are not their government #but the government is committing an ethnic cleansing #and we can’t stop talking about it and we can’t deny it #idk where I’m going w this #the Palestinian people matter #their stories matter and their culture matters #their LIVES matter #the least we can do is continue to advocate for them and learn about them #and understand the genocide committed against them #because that’s what it is #a genocide #and we should call it that

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nazumichi · 5 months ago

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there’s never been a more complex and nuanced relationship than the one between me and this girl I went to high school with but now share classes with…… none

#raii talks a lot #I’m sooooo awkward just in general and we were never friends or in the same circles #when i was a junior I had a shutdown in a class and her friend was rude to me and she just kind of. scowled and whatnot so I was scared #but idk everyone else here is older by some so it’s just. “oh uhh. how was your summer”#she got a haircut and it looks nice so there is that. and she was a good lab partner. so maybe it’s fine #my mother is the biggest advocate of this “did you get her number” I’ll be honest I thought she wanted me dead mom

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