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well 🧍♀️ as a reminder this blog is NOT a safe space for trump supporters but it IS a safe place for women, queers, trans ppl, people of color, undocumented people, and any marginalized group.
#if youre feeling upset or disillusioned i am right there with you#but now more than ever#i want to remind you of the importance of community#check in on your friends#advocate for your friends#protect your friends#protect your community and who you love and care about#and we will get through this#my dms and inbox are always open#even if you just want to vent#im also so sad right now but we have to be strong and stick together right now#(also if youre not american pls understand this affects us all and to not invalidate the feelings of americans)
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I genuinely cannot feel strongly for men so if I react less interested / completely disinterested when I see a guy I can’t project into it’s not me trying to make my lesbian statement I GENUINELY just *cannot* care.
#i get it how people want to see more men in gacha game with 90% women but unless he’s a character i can kin then i….#i cant bring myself to care. genuinely.#which is why i do not try to advocate to see more men in r99#i dont mind if people do but i personally want to see more women AND ENBIES HELLO…???#im not idgaf bc i hate men im idgaf bc i idgaf abt men simple as that#mochats#if we get more male characters ‘Thats Cool’ but also ‘I Dont Care. Goodbye.’#just like how irl i remove myself from the conversation whenever my girl friends talk about dudes#i need lesbian friends fuck#IM NOT YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE
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#literally this#extremely sad how adhd isn’t recognized n severely underdiagnosed in women#only got diagnosed w it n other things as an adult#n now it’s much harder to develop coping mechanisms but#we move lol#a win is a win#so if u guys are ever wondering why kiki rambles about bs that nobody cares about#n then over thinks n deletes all posts#or is v sensitive#n takes forever to yield any fic bc never satisfied w work#✨adhd brain✨#also friends#gentle reminder to pls advocate for yourself#like you know your body and mind more than anyone#and if you feel like something is lacking or you need help#pls push for it#bc sometimes the healthcare system is#yk#but yeah#it’s super scary but there’s also so much relief in receiving a diagnosis#like you made it this far without knowing#the only thing that changes once you receive the diagnosis is that you have more access to tools than you’ve ever had maybe#yeah#anyways#love you all#n i hope you’re happy and healthy#n i hope you have a support system#and if you don’t currently you will in the future#if you ever need to talk or anything#im here
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Jacob – Couples Therapy podcast (Hosts: Naomi Ekperigin and Andy Beckerman)
Bring a friend to a date?
Did he mean it like a throuple/threesome or did he meant "date a friend instead of starting again with your ex"?! 🤨 The hosts kinda sucked on this one. They didn't even let him explain himself 😒 I can't believe it didn't cross any of their minds to ask if he meant it like in a open relationship/polyamorous relationship way or another thing 🤦♀️
Anyway, I don’t even think jacob himself realised yet what he have going on with his bestie Sam.
And then right after, naomi says “i think we kinda know, so it’s fine” just unprovoked and him not saying anything… lol everybody got u and ur little workplace friend business
source: lovesjar
Also around 1:26:04 (i think is even for the same question/advice from the video above):
#jam reiderson#i will not tag the actors bc i dont know how safe it is in here with shipping/rpf#anyway the replies/quotes on the tw link are really funny like#He is giving advices based on his own experience 😭#How do you even decipher this information properly without going to them#not beating the allegations ... im starting to believe he's trying to tell us something 👁👄👁#coworker situationship so good you dont even know what dating is like anymore#having an emotional support friend you share your romantic experiences with... accidentally advocating for ethical non-monogamy is a likely#the way they both immediately start mocking him too 😭😭
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this is a Bad party comp. G'raha is wholly encouraged by Y'shtola to stand in six overlapping AOEs and Urianger will just watch and say "alas"
#ffxiv#Frog getting mauled to death by sloths because no one present is advocating restraint and care#absolute death wish amongst my so-called friends#the fact they're just figments of your imagination makes it worse :P#Frog knows this is what would happen if they teamed up
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ur heds post made me go search for the criteria and im getting really scared.... my ankles click all the time (besides the other criteria) but my docs always like oh its bc ur lazy and fat like hmmmm.. maybe not!
FOR REAL my doc says that too. it can be really hard to get diagnosed with anything related to joint pain etc when fat because doctors love blaming the first thing they see and then not ever doing any tests or straiught up ignoring test results
#its good 2 learn skills for self advocating at the doctor#if u have a thin friend with you that can back you up/be support at appts your doc will usually suddenly grow a conscience/ get polite#every 1 remember the time my doctor said that i should stop snacking and think about eating a veggie UNPROMPTED#she did not ask about my diet before assuming what she assumed. i was there for an antidepressant prescription
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everyone who says cluster b instead of personality disorders to refer to base pd symptoms and clearly doesnt give a shit about pw hpd or aspd die in a fire forever ok
#bpd#aspd#hpd#npd#avpd#ocpd#dpd#stpd#ppd#pdnos#pdts#szpd#im tired of being nice about it#its a complicated issue and like none of us have it good but like at least people with bpd have resources#all pd groups are either only for bpd because thats the only one that exists or its only for ’cluster b’ but they just mean bpd#anytime i tell people about a pd that isnt bpd they have no fucking idea what im talking about#including people with bpd#people woth bpd shouldnt be demonized or called manipulative and need better support#but same with everyone with a pd#advocate for your peers too#learn about other pds#make friends with people who have other pds#stop using cluster labels
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i have to wonder what super hardcore militant vegans think should be done about obligate carnivore animals, because in all my painfully-rapidly-approaching-30-years i've literally never actually seen anyone give a clear consistent much less halfway feasible answer on that
#mostly i've just seen like “how dare you ask questions you just want an excuse to murder you're sealioning ect”#or worse some vague and wildly improbable nonsense about like. fake robot animals covered in beyond meat or something equally convoluted#which is a thing i did see someone suggest as a serious answer#i mean i already know they think i'm a genetically inferior hateful vampire that should starve to death for the greater good#because my exact combination of health conditions make meat basically the only semi-safe way i can get close to enough nutrients#i know this because they have repeatedly told me that i'm either evil or should be sacrificed or both#and yelled at me for asking questions by bringing up the whole disabled thing and then they're like#“a lot of vegans i know are advocates for disability!” as if that ever means jack shit in the society that results from anything#no matter what you do a vast majority of people in any given society will *not* be advocates for the disabled. i'm sorry they just won't.#and what do you think public perception of people who physically can't survive like that is going to skew towards#in a society founded on the belief that non-vegan diets are evil?#at absolute best we're looking at being a heavily marginalized class generally seen as something like vampires and our existences taboo.#(as if these type's own insistence that they should be allowed to harass and shame people doesn't disprove their assertion that we won't be#thinking it could possibly go any better than that is a fucking fairy tale. human nature doesn't work that way.#you simply cannot eliminate the human desire to designate and abuse a class of have-nots. the absolute best you can do is mitigate damage.#take it from someone who's been multiple kinds of disabled and chronically ill all my life. people will not “just”. ever.#i get this even from people who are otherwise very aware of and VERY GOOD at avoiding this sort of thinking#“i'm a disability advocate!” no you are not. you are a poster. my experience has taught me that what people advocate for in their free time#means precisely jack shit for how they will actually act when faced with the situations they make otherwise rational posts about#and the fact of the matter is even if you somehow really are the perfect disability advocate a majority of people WILL NOT BE YOU.#a majority of people in society will be margrat from accounting who clutches her pearls when she sees the gays and thinks autism isnt real#and who has never had a nuanced thought in her life and actively does not want to#a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will not be you and your friends who march with wheelchair users and volunteer at the shelte#a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will be jenny who starved 8 cats to death on broccoli because she can't be bothered#and who thinks that “carnivores” are actual nazis and don't deserve healthcare because she saw someone say that online.#ALWAYS assume your society will be made up mostly of the worst kind of person it can because it WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE and you can't change it#most people seek the low-effort option. and evil is most often banal and low-effort.#i'm just so fucking tired of every single even vaguely lefty-adjacent political movement simultaneously acting like i don't fucking exist#and at the same time that i need to be sacrificed to achieve Utopia. god. at least conservative whackjobs are upfront and honest about#how they think that i'm a burden on society that needs to be Eugenics'd . rather than trying to morally gaslight me about it.
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Addressing Ableism In The Submas Fandom And Its Impact Again
The fact that I know multiple neurodivergent people who have bad feelings arise from seeing any content, including official, of Warden Ingo due to an influx people turning the Submas fandom into an ableist playground in the wake of PLA speaks volumes.
Before I continue, I want to stress: I am not calling anyone in particular out.
Unknowingly making ableist content does not make you a bad person. Everyone still has things to learn, everyone has room for change and growth. Self-education and critical thinking are very important here (and everywhere). A desire to correct a mistake, change, and grow from it is better all around than digging your heels in and refusing to budge or listen.
I am not responsible for bad faith interpretations or other potential misinterpretations of me addressing these issues that have personally affected friends, acquaintances, and myself, should people choose to make these interpretations.
I am also not responsible for the reading comprehension or critical thinking skills of others. If you don’t read the entire post and choose to be reactionary towards it, including making assumptions about what was said or putting words in my mouth, I am not at fault.
Bl*nkshippers are not welcome on my content.
I can't begin to forgive the contingency of the fandom that made neurodivergent people feel unwelcome and alienated in their own space, and made them wonder if other Submas fans, or even people in general, even see them as human.
Given that it’s widely accepted that Ingo and Emmet are autistic-coded characters, the fandom could have been a safer and enjoyable space for neurodivergent (but especially autistic) people. It could have even been a refuge for people upset by the uncertainty we were left with due to PLA being incomplete. Instead, a large contingency of fans took one look at Submas and went "how sad/unhinged/angsty can I make the train blorbos?" and decided disability, trauma, and mental illness were acceptable to use as props.
To the people who have been doing things along these lines (but with especially Emmet!); this tells neurodivergent people that you think they're unhinged, will hurt others if given an opening to do so, and portraying Ingo and/or Emmet as never having been human, turned into something nonhuman (as in Submas is singled out as nonhuman, and NOT in something like a Pokemon Mystery Dungeon AU or other AU where everyone is not human), or otherwise being not in control of their own actions is telling neurodivergent people that you don't even see them as human. And yes, you can be sending this message even if you yourself are neurodivergent!
Because of all this, I now know multiple people who do not want to see any content involving Warden Ingo, or PLA at all due to the negative association from the fandom, and even some who have stopped engaging with Submas in varying degrees.
I've made it very clear in other posts that I don't like how fandom is on tumblr for many reasons and that I do not consider myself part of the Submas fandom. But the Submas fandom has further turned me off to fandom as a whole, and I currently do not wish to engage with PLA content outside of making reassurance posts compiling evidence Ingo will or has gone home.
My roommate barely posts Submas art anymore because the pervasive ableism got to be too much. This is saying something considering she’s the author of the Submas primer many people, probably including many of those making ableist content, reblogged. She’s also the author of a post detailing Submas as autistic-coded characters. She’s been alienated from a community that she had provided a ton of research for! Please think about that for a second.
Other people don’t want to see Submas interacting with certain characters ever again (namely Volo), because of the ableist content created around their interactions, or even ships.
And if you’ve been around since at least PLA, you may have noticed that there are a few people who frequently posted about Submas as well as the ableism, who haven’t engaged with Submas content in a long time.
Fandom shouldn’t become an alienating or even hostile space for people who just want wholesome or comforting content, or simply want to see characters they like or even find representation in NOT being treated as ableist puppets or being so ooc with angst and ableism they’ve essentially become the artist or writer’s OCs. But unfortunately that's the track the Submas fandom seems to frequently head down in the wake of PLA.
If you’d like more info about the ableism that has been going on in Submas fan content, there is a list of posts here, but this is by no means exhaustive.
This is a post I previously referenced in one of my posts about the ableism about the issue of making Emmet violent and traumatized for entertainment purposes and why it’s problematic to use trauma as a prop.
And here is a post I made (with my roommate’s addition) addressing the issue of people thinking ableist portrayals aren’t harmful or don’t have an impact on real people.
And if you’re going to continue to make ableist content of Submas (or any other fandom) without any regard as to how your work impacts others, then there isn’t much anyone can do. But don’t be surprised if people choose not to engage with you or your content.
Thank you for your consideration.
#Submas#Ingo#Emmet#Ingo Pokemon#Emmet Pokemon#Warden Ingo#cw: ableism#I am really worried about tagging this as always but the issue is still prevalent#And I'm tired of friends feeling like they can't engage with content they would normally want to#And it especially bothers me that friends have told me they feel dehumanized by fan works for Submas that isn't right for anyone AT ALL#and just in case someone wants to attack me over this? you'll be blocked and messages or replies etc deleted#also I'm by NO MEANS an authority on Submas or ableism here...I can advocate but do not ask me to vet your work for you#you need to do your own research with multiple sources vs asking one person to vet your work
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tonight has been absolute hell im going to fucking bed
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42,000 people. 42,000 people with full lives and memories and family and a culture that is being erased. 42,000 people. My mind can’t even comprehend that number. Innocents. Infants. That’s a larger number than people who live in my city.
42,000 people are dead. Israel is committing genocide. This is an ethnic cleansing. It’s not only been going on for a year but for A HUNDRED years.
Read “The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine” by Ilan Pappe, an Israeli historian. Learn the history. Educate yourself.
Call your representatives. Advocate for a ceasefire. Free Palestine. 🇵🇸🇵🇸
#as a year since the start of a genocide that would take 42k lives has passed#I’m taking the time to read and learn more#and it’s only fueled my grief and rage#I found out someone I called a friend for over two years#is denying that this is a genocide#and reblogging Islamophobic content#And saying that Israel is ‘just defending itself.’#which is a well-documented smoke screen for a 100-year long genocide#(again do your reading)#I’m disgusted that someone who calls themself a leftist would say that#we haven’t been friends in a while cuz they were very cruel to me and ppl I care abt#but this is still totally shaking me#42k people are dead.#but they’re going around saying this isn’t a genocide#no one will see this I have no internet presence#but for the love of god please educate yourself on Israel’s actions#many innocent people live there#they are not their government#but the government is committing an ethnic cleansing#and we can’t stop talking about it and we can’t deny it#idk where I’m going w this#the Palestinian people matter#their stories matter and their culture matters#their LIVES matter#the least we can do is continue to advocate for them and learn about them#and understand the genocide committed against them#because that’s what it is#a genocide#and we should call it that
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there’s never been a more complex and nuanced relationship than the one between me and this girl I went to high school with but now share classes with…… none
#raii talks a lot#I’m sooooo awkward just in general and we were never friends or in the same circles#when i was a junior I had a shutdown in a class and her friend was rude to me and she just kind of. scowled and whatnot so I was scared#but idk everyone else here is older by some so it’s just. “oh uhh. how was your summer”#she got a haircut and it looks nice so there is that. and she was a good lab partner. so maybe it’s fine#my mother is the biggest advocate of this “did you get her number” I’ll be honest I thought she wanted me dead mom
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so you guys wanna explain whats going on here or is this just another we'll let this fade into obscurity with no explanation whatsover at all
#alternatively man gets a little hot because his crush was a little strict with him in public#despite it being play-acting#in other news i saw a cool bird on my walk that was awesome#lundy you need to cool it a bit#young blood and all that but please keep it your pants#for all of our sakes PLEASE KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS#luosty you are absolutely aware of all these things but please stop playing devils advocate#mikksy is in the absolute right for reacting the way he does when these two exist in each others orbit#like why do WE need to be involved#also imagine your coworker/friend youve known since you were 20 starts flirting with your little brother in front of you#and your little brother enthusiastically starts flirting back#do you understand how absolutely appalling that whole nightmare scenario is?#thats what mikksys living everyday do you understand why he is the way he is do you get it
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I live somewhere I could likely get hurt. I am chronically ill, so need to take care of myself. I have been attacked by a man who thought he was a woman. He turned a whole group of people against me when I said I hold strong feminist values. I have decidedly leftist, progressive political beliefs, & have been a lifelong ally of LGBT people. I can’t wait until this delusional phase is over & I may feel safe again among friends, some of whom are now trans ideologues.
it is such an unfortunate fact that we live in a reality where people will still demonize and attack women for feminist beliefs. anon, I'm so sorry that happened to you. it also is quite a sad thing that especially in leftist spaces, despite the importance that people put on acceptance, compassion, and speaking your mind, there is still such a heavy level of scrutiny and a focus more and more on the optics of your politics and how they fit in with the crowd versus what kind of actual, tangible allyship you act on. furthermore, it's so so tough in progressive and leftist spaces to know that the friends you've made might completely drop you if you disagree specifically on this one issue of gender, just because all analysis and critique of gender ideology is likened to irredeemable hate, even when there are real issues in the ideology and community that should be pointed out for the betterment of everyone!
if it's any help, I would recommend that you always make sure you prioritize your own safety. it's obviously very important to stand by your beliefs and morals, and generally it's a good idea to be truthful to your friends. but sometimes, strategic lying is just kind of necessary to keep yourself safe! don't feel pressured to ever put yourself at risk because of your beliefs, and it's also okay to not be totally honest with friends and people in your social support network if you know they're mistakenly going to generalize what you say, especially if it could put you in danger. plus, as a woman, people are much harsher on any perceived "lapses" in a performance of agreeability, so from my perspective, I think it's good to keep a little distance from people who would care too much over "gender thought crimes" and don't let them get you into a vulnerable place with your beliefs.
there's an advantage in holding some part of your mind in private, and it sucks so much that in these spaces it can be hard to be yourself and trust people who should care about you and support you as a friend, but yeah, sometimes all you can do is protect yourself and wait it out until the popular opinions shift. of course, it's also good if you can find some outlet for your real beliefs and even find some semblance of community where you can engage in them, or whatever works for you (this is what this blog is for me !! essentially a coping mechanism for the fact I can't endlessly blab about my grievances with gender ideology in real life)
and just overall, anon, I hope you do find friends that will support you first and foremost and not be swayed by the pushing of popular ideology! I wish all the best for you and hope no more danger or harm comes your way. and of course, thank you for visiting my inbox, I believe in hearing people's testimonials, and finding a space to vent your frustrations is incredibly important as well. I can't promise to always have an amazing/enlightening/etc. response to every ask, I've always been just a little bit shit at comforting people in a rough spot because I myself can get quite cynical about the world, but I will try my best to offer some advice, or at least just a listening ear for anyone who wants to speak ♡♡♡
#responding to asks.#myo is rambling.#radical feminism#today myo advocates for lying to your friends...#look#as someone who has frankly spent way too long living as a doormat for others who don't give nearly the same efforts back to me I've learned#live for yourself. lie and be wary if it's something you need to survive.#it gets lonely#but it will pass#and you'll be a stronger person at the end of it all without compromising your beliefs or being hurt because of them
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suddenly racked with a pang of severe annoyance at persona 3 getting its second remake/updated version with new content and improved gameplay while persona 1 and 2 can't even get the psp versions ported to steam
#GUYS WHY NOT#P3P IS ON STEAM#WHAT DID WE DO#for the recond i would never advocate for someone spending money on a video game i just mean#it would help. with reach. okay#can you imagine it now.. if p2 was on steam.. it oes onsale for like 5 bucks. you should pick up p2. its on sale right now#your friend who doesn't want to learn how to emulate stuff now has no excuse
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Listen, and I say this as a Rhaenicent fan, but seeing some on Twitter going "Alicent would never hurt Rhaenyra like that," or "But if she were with Alicent..." really has me shaking my head because, really? That's what you thought coming out of this episode?
#house of the dragon#hotd#as rhaenicent fan i will wholeheartedly admit that alicent has hurt rhaenyra like im not going to sugarcoat it#from humiliating her after joffery's birth to literally slicing her arm open to etc#i can still ship them & admit that! it's okay to admit that they both hurt each other bc (unless its some au) ignoring that takes a lot awa#for both of their characters and the ship itself (best friends to strangers to friends to enemies is what makes them interesting! leave it!#and this isn't me ignoring how daemon hurts rhae either bc seeing him act so aggressive towards her & her flinching hurt me so bad#but i also don't think that moment or even the episode where he does choke her is the right time to go advocating for your ship especially#when harm has been present within said ship too#the only ships with rhae where she probably was not harmed by her partners are rhaewin and laenyra#top two (+ laenor platonically) that i can think of#and again i say this as a rhaenicent fan so don't come at me saying im not#there's just a lot of nuance to them that im not going to ignore#alicent hightower#shes messy let her be messy#rhaenrya targaryen#deserves so much better and i will stand by that statement#hotd critical
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