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snekdood · 11 days ago

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giving men a space in feminism doesnt mean letting them step on your toes. if you feel like your toes are being stepped on, you need to say something and tell that person to stop instead of try to get them fucking exiled essentially.

#i really do truly think peoples inability to socialize and do conflict resolution is a huge part of the problem here. they jump straight to #ostracizing someone from the community bc they're essentially too scared to actually have a conversation and tell that person to stop?#they're gonna say its trauma or w/e but if its a guy you dont know whos not traumatizing you you cant really... claim that.#no. be honest. you dont know how to communicate effectively. so its easier to just have people leave than try to fix anything #the same type of person to reject going to therapy with someone to try to fix things and just kinda jumps to saying 'fuck it'#but the whole point of therapy isnt to make you guys stay together anyways- its to resolve conflicts. you might decide you're better off #w/o eachother but need to at least know the other person whole perspective first before jumping to conclusions #therapy with others also! teaches you how to resolve conflicts and communicate more effectively. so even if things dont work out #now you have tools in your belt later on if you need to work on a different relationship.#im not saying go to therapy w some random dude who might be stepping on your toes in some way but you Do need to learn #how to communicate better so you can at least tell him how you're being negatively effected w/o... trying to advocate for his ejection #and it'd be even more helpful if you have an unbiased emotionally mature friend who understands communication well nearby to help #you guys resolve your conflict... doesnt have to be a therapist specifically lol #tho a therapist or counselor or w/e is usually the best option bc they're the least likely to be biased.#unless you can find an over qualified stranger... which... how would u even know theyre over qualified then... idk sdjhfshj #if it is like a community thing maybe (hopefully. ideally) the organizer can be the unbiased party? idk.

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