#im too masculine for this shit

[melsbabydaddy]

why does every abby x reader and ellie x reader have a super girly, hyper feminine reader? like it’s so similar every time I have practically made an oc to fill in the role cause I can’t imagine myself at all

“frilly little skirt”

“lace panties”

“showing off your cleavage”

“thigh high socks”

like I get if that’s the theme but it’s like 95% of the content on here. and why does the reader always have to take the strap??? let me fuck the ladies once or twice pls ppl

this is a whole other issue but making the reader innocent and virgin and almost childlike is too common. again, im not one to kink shame but it gets old seeing it again and again and again.

this is not targeted or anything and if this made u mad sorry not sorry, don’t get emotional about my stupid rant pls

[999999999inadream]

toby fox needs to add like a bit of narration in deltarune abt kris like "they themmed they/themily down the stheirs" cus i cant go on seeing them constantly get he/himmed in yt comment sections

[remma-demma]

I’m actually scared of alienating some of my followers and moots with all the trans discourse I’ve been steeping quietly in and contemplating, but… I’m trying to not let being scared shut me up about this. That, in and of itself, is erasure and silencing.

Fuck staying quiet. Trans men and mascs deserve a voice, and we, as a group, are not oppressing or invalidating anyone else by using that voice. (Obviously there are shithead exceptions!! Anyone can be an asshole.)

I really hope that if I ever speak about any of this in the future, that people recognize that it’s not ever, ever trans femininity as a concept I have an issue with. It’s people who

- try to divide the community

- are reinventing gender essentialism from the ground up but make it trans

-police other people’s identities and decide for them what oppression they must face because of a tiny set of superficial traits

- simply. Don’t understand what intersectionality means.

- disregard and invalidate anyone who doesn’t fit a very specific (binary, rich, white, abled, flawlessly passing) idea of what it means to be trans.

None of those things are specific or exclusive to one identity. There just happens to be a community of transfems who are currently espousing many of these ideas as gospel. They are understandably defensive because of real actual transmisogyny they face. But other trans people are not your enemy. Accusing anyone and everyone who tries to point these flaws out as radical transmisogynists is simply not true. Pointing out bigotry is not bigotry in itself.

I don’t want the trans community to constantly be at each other’s throats. We each have to sit down and think if we ever catch ourselves blaming an entire other marginalized group for our issues. That’s just fascism babes.

[laundromatboyfriend]

i don't care how expensive they were; don't make me do it for you.

[snortoborto]

I'm so over the victimhood complex of feminine cis women.

Gender diversity isn't a threat. Diversity in gender presentation isn't a threat.

Femininity is not equivalent to purity and innocence.

Femininity can still be harmful when enforced on people who don't want it. Women and feminine people can still do harm. Femininity can still be weaponized, especially white femininity.

[snobgoblin]

I'm gonna be so real and I don't know how to address it but fellow trans men you *have* to be more normal about other trans men being feminine. I promise this doesn't make you look like a girl. let other people express their gender differently and stop policing others, and other peoples characters, on how feminine they are allowed to be. I'm not sure where this comes from. be more normal about femininity I know it was forced onto you so I see how you would reject it. but. you've just gotta work through that I dont know what to tell you

[tiresiasbuttlicker72]

watching blood of zeus from the hospital bed and everyone is hot

[lucabyte]

🐮

[xmimikyuusx]

"women/afabs/trans mascs never have to deal with oppression related to their hair/what clothes they wear/how masculine they present" has either gotta be a really really bad psyop of a t/rf trying to make more trans separatism, or someone who is so deeply out of touch with reality it's frightening. I'm sorry but if you won't speak to a trans man about his experience at least start by talking to any person of color instead of making up false dichotomies in your own head. It might benefit you to listen to a women of color about her experience with hair and clothes and being perceived as masculine before you talk.

[transsextual]

had a really incredible moment this evening. went to my campus art market where one of my friends was selling the tank top i'm wearing - another friend bought it for me and i'm so overjoyed to have it. usually a fit that leans more Traditionally Masculine feels like a costume but tonight it just felt deeply correct and honest and warm. took the opportunity to take some indulgent little pictures because i do not think i have Ever looked more like myself. so happy.

[sorchasolas]

It’s “men can wear makeup” and “clothing isnt gendered” until a trans man wears feminine clothing and makeup and THEN its “not my fault if i misgender him” and shit

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i love transmasc/tboy dirk always and forever but the way some ppl treat transmascness vs transfemmeness in HS's narrative........kinda sucks. like the whole thing about how being transfeminine is a literal transient experience and lets the character in question (any character) truly escape the oppression of HS's narrative-as-a-character which is patriarchal and toxic (lord english, hussie-the-character to an extent. i guess. idk ive seen a lotta ppl lump SI-hussie in w/ this), which is great and does hold weight as an analytical lens esp with how hussie irl is nonbinary. but where does this leave transmasc characters. why are we treating (headcanoned) transfemme HS characters like this and then tbh gleefully dooming (headcanoned) transmasc characters to eternal narrative suffering brought by LE and then mocking them for being ''gross tboys'' full of ''icky testorerone'' so its their fault theyre in this perpetual torment really? because they ''''chose to be a man''''? dunno man its starting to feel bad. especially since some bnf's who are really into this fan theory do actually kinda treat the general idea of transmasculinity like somthing to hold with tongs at arms length away from them. as if its alien or infectous or something and then get really mad when equally dysphoric transmascs do the same with feminity. why are we dooming dirk strider to eternal toxic-masculine suffering and what does that say about how we treat real life transmasc folks both in and outside of the fandom

[murmurmurl]

I actually find gender swapping characters really interesting (what part of their expression is dictated by gender norms vs certain events in their life vs their personal preferences that wouldn't change either way, etc.) so now I wanna draw what that would look like in my ocs except I am in pain rn so I'm forced to just lie there and be plagued by visions

[ooglywooglies]

yknow on some level i feel like i should have a little more sympathy for trans guys who are seeing this man hate discourse and getting weird male guilt about it and being like "oh god is it antifeminist to be a man, am i hurting women by transitioning??" bc literally i was there like a handful of months ago but NO, you literally JUST have to stop taking it seriously and personally. theres nothing wrong with BEING a man, like most cis men dont need to hear "men are not actually inherently evil" to believe it so you shouldnt either, but i suppose in some cases you may. when women (and anyone else) say shit like men suck/are bad/should die its exaggeration/exasperation/frustration, if you can internalize that poc saying "i hate white people" as something that doesnt have implications or intentions about you as a person then you can internalize the same lesson about manhood

this doesnt tend to apply to the usual suspects thats why i feel the need to make a post about it [that no one will read, idk this is my blog i can just yap if i want] its guys who see the discourse and go "oh i see [infamous tag] is antifeminist and i am a feminist so i will disagree with it but this makes me feel conflicted about my position as a boy" and im just going to be straight up that feeling is self pity and spite. no one who says "men bad" or talks about male privilege or the responsibility men (including you) have to be a good example and in some cases be excluded from certain spaces wants you to detransition, no one (who is trans/not transphobic) thinks you would be more valuable to society as a cis woman, your identity is not something that can be altered to make other people more comfortable, and if it could its not something you should consider.

[alchemiclee]

I hate that whenever there's a gay ship, people immediately het-ify it. people are so obsessed with making one the "man" and one the "woman" when that's completely unnecessary, because they are both the man or the woman. It's extremely annoying. these people will completely mischaracterize a character to fit into their stupid little het roles they force on them.

for example, you don't need to make one man the "wife" and feminized him to the extreme and fit him in a traditional "woman" role so the other man can be the big strong masculine manly man. they can both be masculine or both be feminine or both be both at the same time! they do NOT need to be gendered opposites to fit het roles. crazy, I know! it's like no one considers it a possibility! or sees how good it can be to have them be equals without gendered nonsense.

when there's a gay relationship, you have the perfect opportunity for the couple to stand on equal ground. they get to be equals who are just as strong and just as soft as each other. there's no faulty power dynamics where one is above the other (because let's face it, society unfortunately deems masculinity > femininity). one doesn't need to protect the other. they can protect themsleves, fight aide by side as equals. one doesn't do all the housework. they share that duty equally. one isn't weak and pretty, while they other strong and manly. they both are strong and pretty, or masculine and weak at the same time.

equal relationships are amazing and need to be explored more and appreciated. there can be more understanding and working together. i'm bad at explaining what I mean, but I prefer these equal relationships over forcing them into opposite roles to mirror het relationships, which are usually extremely unbalanced and unequal. especially because these not het relationships! so why must they look like one? they can and should look different! so why does literally every shipper and writer out there make them so het coded?

I don't understand why people do this. do they actually believe all romantic relationships must mimic het ones to exist and thrive and purposely force that on them? or have they genuinely just not fathamed that they can be different and dont need to follow the expected het standards?

I wonder, it feels like no one actually knows how non-het relationships are meant to be and how they could work, since het ones are always forced down our throats since birth. it becomes The Standard that everyone thinks they must follow. maybe it's all people know since they don't see any other possibilities. their preferred dynamics for their ships are what we are taught and nothing different, because they don't know it can be different. i also think people might be obsessed with that whole "opposites attract" trope. but that opposite doesn't have to be the traditional het-fueld feminine vs masculine or wife vs husband characteristics. it can be other personality things like one is loud and one is quiet, one is dumb and one is overly smart, one is rich and one poor, etc. it doesn't have to be masculine vs feminine!

BREAK OUT OF THE HET NORMS!!!!! TEAR DOWN HETERONORMATIVITY!!!!!!!!! FREE THE GAYS

(disclaimer, not saying masculine vs feminine ships are all bad/shouldn't be done ever. but it doesn't need to be 100% of the time either 😅 can't think of one ship people dont do this with lol)

[faunandfloraas]

Left my 5 star cd in my metalhead brothers car months ago and who did I just catch singing along to youtiful of all things ???????