#how to control anger and emotions

[amanchandracoach]

Take Charge: Mastering Your Anger and Emotions

We've all been there. Stuck in traffic, a frustrating conversation, a seemingly never-ending to-do list – emotions can flare up, and anger can take the wheel. But what if you could manage those emotions, respond rather than react, and stay calm even in the face of frustration? Here's the good news: you can. Learning how to control anger and emotions is a skill anyone can develop, and the benefits are vast. You'll experience less stress, build stronger relationships, and improve your overall well-being.

Understanding the Why Behind the What

Before diving into calming techniques, let's explore why we get angry. Anger is a natural human emotion, often triggered by a perceived threat or injustice. It can be a signal that something is wrong, a way to protect ourselves, or a response to feeling hurt or frustrated. However, when anger boils over, it can lead to destructive behavior, strained relationships, and even physical health problems.

The Art of Calming the Storm: How to Control Anger and Emotions

The key to managing anger lies in recognizing its warning signs before it escalates. Do your fists clench? Does your jaw tighten? Maybe your voice gets louder. Once you identify your personal triggers, you can develop a toolbox of coping mechanisms to interrupt the anger cycle. Here are a few effective strategies:

Take a Time Out: Feeling the heat rise? Step away from the situation. Take a few deep breaths, count to ten, or excuse yourself for a quick walk. This short break allows your body and mind to cool down, giving you a chance to approach the situation with a clearer head.

Breathe Deeply: Deep breathing is a simple yet powerful tool for calming your nervous system. Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of four, hold for a count of two, and exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of six. Repeat this cycle until you feel yourself relax.

Reframe Your Thoughts: Our perception shapes our emotions. When faced with a frustrating situation, challenge those negative thoughts. Maybe the slow driver isn't intentionally holding you up, perhaps they're just lost. Reframing the situation can help reduce your anger and frustration.

Express Yourself Assertively: Sometimes, bottling up your emotions can make things worse. However, there's a healthy way to express your feelings. Speak calmly and clearly, focusing on "I" statements ("I feel frustrated when...") rather than accusatory language.

Channel Your Energy: Exercise is a fantastic way to burn off built-up tension and frustration. Go for a run, hit the gym, or do some yoga – physical activity releases endorphins, natural mood-lifters that can help you feel calmer and more positive.

Building Long-Term Resilience

While these techniques can help manage anger in the moment, building long-term emotional resilience is crucial. Consider these practices:

Identify Your Triggers: What situations or people typically make you angry? Once you know your triggers, you can develop strategies to avoid them or manage your response when you can't.

Practice Relaxation Techniques: Make relaxation techniques like meditation or progressive muscle relaxation a regular part of your routine. The more you practice, the easier it will be to access these calming methods when you need them most.

Get Enough Sleep: When we're well-rested, we're better equipped to handle stress and frustration. Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep each night.

Seek Professional Help: If anger is a significant problem in your life, impacting your relationships or work, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist can teach you valuable strategies for managing anger and developing healthier coping mechanisms.

Remember, mastering your emotions is a journey, not a destination. There will be setbacks, but with practice and self-compassion, you can develop the skills to manage your anger and navigate life's challenges with greater calmness and control. You've got this!

[bixels]

Posting a sneak-peak of this now because I'm about to be In The Shit school workload-wise, so this'll take me a while to finish.

Doing some character design exploration/expression sheets for Celestia and Luna. Figuring out Celestia's weird ass anatomy while I'm at it.

[transmechanicus]

Really fucked up that two ppl can care about each other and make their best efforts to communicate and still end up hurting each other so badly they cannot stand to be in the same room.

[finndoesntwantthis]

Okay so that video was…wow

There was no sound, so we still do not have the full story. So we are still speculating about what happened for sure, but I gotta say…not looking great for Phil.

And the reason it doesn’t look good, is the body language. Not just Jack’s body language, who looked very calm by the way. But the body language of everyone else in that room.

Nobody was reacting to their conversation at all, which kind of implies that it wasn’t super heated. It certainly wasn’t a yelling match. If they were yelling at each other, physical violence would have made sense to follow (still been bad), and everyone else would have been circling trying to calm them and separate them before it got to that.

But nobody reacted to whatever they were discussing until Phil attacked Jack.

Maybe Jack insulted him, called him a name or whatever, but that doesn’t call for physical violence. If he called him a name it would not warrant violence in their work place.

Jack didn’t look mad at all. He looked like he was just explaining what he did or why he did it. Again speculation but nothing about his demeanor screams fight mode.

I never doubted who was really at fault but damn. This solidifies it for me.

[baldurs-gate-official]

Seeing Astarion and thinking

[odetojupiter]

there’s something so heartbreaking about andrew going to the roof to remind himself how to feel. because the only feeling he can voluntarily access is fear, and that’s something he finds comfort in. you could argue the comfort stems from the reminder that is capable of feeling despite what people say - and despite his genuine apathy to most things - but what if the comfort comes from the familiarity of the feeling? it’s common for people with trauma to find comfort in anxiety-inducing environments (which is why a lot of people with ptsd enjoy horror - it creates an environment where panic can be digested and compartmentalised) - so what if he’s invoking fear in himself because he experienced so much of it in his childhood, but now it’s something he’s in control of, it’s something he dictates when and when he can feel it by choosing when or when not to go to the roof. which is something he never had as a kid - control. maybe that’s why he seems more outwardly affected by flying (though it could be that flying is WAY higher than the roof, with more chance for error) - it takes the control back out of the feeling.

and then, of course, neil goes missing. and he feels that fear deep down to his core. and the feeling washes over him so completely and suddenly and uncontrollably that for a moment he’s 12 years old again wondering if someone’s going to be going to his room at night. but no, it’s not him at risk this time, he’s feeling fear for someone else. someone out of his sight, someone he can’t get his hands on. it’s something he can’t control, again. considering that, it’s not really surprising he puts his hands on kevin when he realises kevin knows something: he’s so desperate for a way to control the situation, control his fear, that it comes out as anger against kevin.

[amrv-5]

Going to walk into the fucking water 🙏👍🚶➡️🌊

[carnivalls]

good morning. thinking again of juve and her dog

[sampilled]

just remembered how hard life is for omegas

[brionysea]

the importance of "we make our own rules" just clicked

[designernishiki]

for real tho? especially if you consider tachibana kiryu’s equivalent to makoto in majima’s side of the story, i really believe something in kiryu snapped when tachibana died just as much as something did in majima later on when makoto got shot– if not more. the mad dog persona was a conscious choice that didn’t come about the second majima snapped and fought everyone tojo hq, but kiryu was straight up ready to kill a man by the time he was fighting shibusawa, no persona or anything to blame it on. arguably he went off the rails way sooner and held it together for way less time than majima managed to.

[wildfairies]

isn't it interesting which characters/ocs you fixate on based on what you're going through...

[isekyaaa]

The closest character to Kokomi in terms of similarities is Alhaitham. They both want to essentially do what interests them the most (read) and be left alone. Both are quite intuitive about understanding and predicting situations and people. The difference is that Kokomi feels a higher level of responsibility over her environment then Alhaitham. She feels more obligated to do what she doesn’t want to do while Alhaitham just cannot be bothered.

[novadreii]

Every day, I meditate on my anger and bitterness. I reflect on my seemingly bottomless need to ruminate on all the people who have abused and traumatized me starting from a young age. The unfairness of it all. The senselessness. I grieve for myself as a little girl who desperately wanted to be love and be loved, and whose desperation was like blood in water to sharks.

I send quiet internal prayers out to the universe and ask it to lessen my anger, because I truly don't think I need it anymore. I'm safe from harmful people for arguably the first time in my entire life. I have friends and family whom I love. I have cultivated a sense of self-love so all-encompassing that no other person will likely ever be able to rival it. I am safe. I'm okay. I'm happy. I don't need my anger anymore.

I reflect on how to this day my mother, who I had to cut off for my own sanity, is a bitter, miserable woman now in her 60s. How eerily my personality and potential echo hers. Her and I both were deeply wounded over and over, starting at young ages by our mothers. We both jump to rage when we are hurt, we both ruminate endlessly about those who hurt us, replaying the painful mental movies over and over again, hurting ourselves long after the harmful people have gone.

I see her in me, and I see what I have the potential to become if I don't release my resentment. It's hard to let go of something that has kept you safe in the past. My anger has time and time again scared off abusers, once they realize it makes me too unstable, unpredictable, and therefore difficult to control.

But I don't need it right now. It's best to internally send well wishes to all who have hurt me, because it takes someone equally hurt and dysfunctional to mistreat others. The only way I don't end up as one of them, to not end up a carbon copy of my mother, is to let the resentment go.

I've undertaken several self/life improvement projects that will hopefully bear fruit in early 2025. Not jinxing anything by talking about it yet, but I'm excited. I'm ready to look towards the future and leave my past where it belongs, and I do this with love and acceptance.

[scanlinesymphony]

The rational part of me saying, "Okay, we need to closely discuss with ordnance, city, and state councils to organize public transit efforts. Not only should there be more sufficiently paced and funded construction & planning efforts, but we should also focus on incorporating education about public infrastructure at early education to open up interests and career opportunities for the next generation."

The very emotionally charged part of me in a strait jacket yelling, "For DECADES we have let oil, automobile, and insurance companies force feed us the idea that our society can ONLY function with this singular form of transport. As a society, we have gone far too long casually accepting the fact that HUNDREDS of BILLIONS of taxpayer / consumer dollars are constantly burned away in vain efforts to make this work. We have accepted that TENS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE are worth getting killed every year just so we can get stuck in delays for hours, design cities that put pedestrians in harm's way, and disproportionately CRUSH the lifestyle and health of marginalized communities."

[ever-go-on]

im such a complex person. there is so much to me. and thats really cool