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#powerful imagery#iranian artist#raoof haghighi#how it feels to be female right now#objectified#I'm so tired#really wish I wasn't of childbearing age right now#my body feels like a target and a prison#bodily autonomy
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ok but the thing that makes Revolutionary Girl Utena so special and unique to me is that a lot of "coming-of-age stories" are about like... growing into a leadership role, or learning to put aside one's personal issues for the good of the team or society. Basically, acting like what people think of as a "mature adult". But Utena is an orphan, she's looked up to by her peers, and her life goal is already to be a leader who puts others ahead of herself. Her whole problem is that she's been forced to mature too early, the horrifying truth of which is exemplified when she ends up in a sexual relationship with a manipulative adult. Therefore, RGU's coming-of-age message emphasizes that in order to ever become adults, children have to acknowledge the ways in which they still are children.
#I could talk about how this message makes more sense with an intended female audience#rather than the assumed-male audience of many like typical action-adventure stories for teens#just based on how society treats girls and boys differently#but anyway I don't feel like trying to articulate that right now#and there are some stories for girls (e.g. sailor moon) that don't take rgu's approach#idk#ramblings#rgu#revolutionary girl utena#rgu analysis#sa mention
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revstar fans we need to put on the best talent show this towns ever seen and save ReLive!!
#revue starlight#NOT TAKING THE NEWS WELL AT ALL. MY GIRLS THEYRE TAKING MY GIRLS AWAY FROM ME!#like its been a part of my daily routine for like a year and half now... im not gonna know what to do with myself#i really cant stand all the people being like HAHA EAT SHIT AND DIE GACHA GAME#like i will not defend the gacha aspect. i wish it it did not have to be a gacha. i acknowledge gacha games as a concept suck#but like relive wasnt some souless cash grab gacha game#the writers clearly had real passion for what they were doing. they had stories to share with us in the revue starlight universe#and sadly the way things are shitty gacha game was how they were able to make it possible#and truly it had such amazing stories. like. theres no media quite like rev star. a complete cast of female characters#all of them complex and flawed and getting to have big messy feelings!! and fighting eachother with magic swords about those feelings!!#all the different relationships between them love and rivalry and friendships and sisterhoods all complicated and fleshed out#LIKE IT JUST MEANT MUCH TO HAVE THE STEADY STREAM OF COMPELLING STORIES ENTIRY FOCUSED ON GIRLS#and now its going to be gone. i know theres still all the other revstar medoa and hope they keep doing stuff with the francise#i hope we see the frontier and rinmeikan girls again someday. they honestly had the most moments that made my jaw drop#onward to the next stage#right?#anyways do you get it talent show lol cause theyre stage performers
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A female artist/celebrity: Hey, while I'm really happy for all the support you guys as my fans have shown me, can we please establish some boundaries? Some things are starting to make me uncomfortable. Again, I'm grateful but--
Said people the response was aimed towards: Oh so now she thinks she's too good for us? She's so ungrateful, letting all the fame get to her head. Doesn't she know that without us, she wouldn't be as famous? She should just suck it up!
#tell me im wrong bc you can't#this is how some are acting towards chappell roane right now and all she asked for was boundaries to be established#there's this common theme still where people will treat celebs as less than human just bc they're famous & that's so wrong#they share their talent with u as fans and can't even get any decency in response#it's also alarming how quick people are to victim blame these celebs especially female celebs/artist as if they asked to be harassed#there's always a threat of harm to women (especially if they are a woc or queer) already and getting upset with them for wanting to take#caution seems like a bad hill to die on#its also annoying when sadly something does happens and the response following is “how could this happen? we need more boundaries!” and will#then turn right back to their old ways 🙄#lowkey reminds of how there was a wave of hate towards actors (eg. penn badgerly) for saying they didn't feel comfortable doing sex scenes#(which they are within their right to set up boundaries) and yet some fans made it seem like they were in the wrong for wanting autonomy#even tho countless other celebs before that talked about how uncomfortable and evasive the treatment on sets were for them#so their concerns aren't without merit#is it really that hard to establish parasocial relationships with famous people?#chappell roan#megan thee stallion#beyonce#taylor swift
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well as you can see besides being ugly as all fuck I'm also extremely bitter so that doesn't help at all in making me appealing. but it also comes with the territory you see, being treated as a hideous freak of nature for your whole life kind of does things to your psyche.
also going into shit in the tags as an extreeeemely jaded individual who's been on every side of the discourse and KNOWS it all VERY PERSONALLY so I know many people will find all sorts of different reasons to hate me (if they want ig) because I'm ~politically homeless~ at this point because I'm sick and tired of everything but whatever
(also fuck I ran out of space in the tags so another post maybe idk. )
#so. i get why people are against children transitioning i really do. and i have my own nuanced complicated feelings about it#but honestly. im beginning to believe id be more well-adjusted by now even if just a bit if i had started larping as male by 15.#would it fix all of my problems? no. but it would make a lot of things in my life much smoother and easier.#but i was sooo deep into raddie/gc shit that i had this fucking. complex about not wanting to troon because its ~cheating~#and 'omg all the butches are leaving!!1 butch flight i cant be one of them!!!1'#'i MUST be a good example for all the young girls!!!1' a weird sort of almost martyr-like complex if you will.#but as i get older im like... honestly man fuuuuccckkkkk this.#barely anybody expects straight or even bi women to abstain from dating men forever For the Good of Womankind#its not seen as Expected but rather Exceptional and Wow Amazing if you do.#and anyone who Expects it is seen as a ~crazy extremist~#meanwhile lesbians and especially HSTS are almost fucking Expected to sacrifice themselves for the ~greater good~#and ngl other lesbiams perpetuate this shit too.#oh you CANT transition even if you feel it'll make your life easier because because because#[arguments that would really only apply to OSA females transitioning]#[strawman] [misinterpreted stats] [unverified reddit posts]#and if all else fails 'think of how the very act of doing so will HURT ALL OF WOMANKIND'#no fucking wonder dysphoric lesbians develop an fucking insane martyr complex and start to treat hrt/transitioning like its fucking crack#'ill give into the temptation if i see a happy trans person ohh nooo so nobody should be allowed to troon'#like thats not fucking normal! you realize thats NOT FUCKING NORMAL right?#youre acting like a deranged christian who is so afraid of sinning by wrongthink#and disclaimer no. i dont inherently hate being female or a lesbian but with the way i am physically and mentally#i would have/have had a Much easier time integrating into society as a ~man~. just because of how i am physically and mentally.#now i wont say internalized homophobia/etc. NEVER has anything to do with transition or etc. but im gonna be real#for HSTS (which are extremely rare in the first place) thats often only a very small part of it at most.#its often more about making our lives easier and integrating better without having to completely remold our entire personalities.#thats the reality.#would we not transition if society have patriarchy/gender roles/sexism? perhaps. i wont deny that possibility.#the fact of the matter is however#that it wont be happening any time soon. so we just want our lives to be easier.#'oh but youre lying to yourself' not necessarily. i dont have a ~gender identity~ and im well aware of myself and my situation.
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Okay, so. No one needs to hear me out on this. I’m just saying. One day I’m going to crack and heave out all my biting commentary about Naruto gender and clan and lineage politics through the lens of an always-a-different-sex Kakashi fic or outline, and it’s just going to… exist… out there.
No one else gets changed, it’s just Kakashi, and it’s going to be a nightmare from start to finish that’s definitely also heavily tinged by my personal perspective on being agender aro ace.
#somehow I feel like this should get its own tag…#idk#I’ll figure it out later if the idea strongly persists#ANYWAY right out of the get go#you immediately have the shift in how Sakumo interacts with Kakashi#and especially the more toxic tinges of what ‘honor’ means for female shinobi#on top of Kakashi’s existing trauma around Sakumo’s death#PRO TO OFFSET THIS CON THOUGH#MORE KUSHINA#HI KUSHINA#I LOVE YOU KUSHINA#and fuck YES I’d heavily explore how this changes the team Minato dynamics#because from Kakashi’s side you have even more struggles over fitting ‘ideal expectations’ of being a shinobi#then contrasting with Rin’s perspective on the interplay of frontline vs support roles for female members#then poor Obito who you canNOT convince me was entirely properly socialized#and puts his foot in his mouth many times with Kakashi#not just due to what he absorbs from the Uchiha clan but also as the only male member on the team now#and then the whole friend killer thing still happens YIKES#ITS EVEN WORSE NOW#because Kakashi is growing into the teenage years without Minato or Kushina’a support anymore#and it’s time for gross lineage/heir politics that Kakashi escapes from by flinging herself into ANBU#even harder than canon maybe#clan raised vs civilian raised gender morality in the context of shinobi life FIGHT
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I think that part of what like. kills me about the whole media literacy and critical thinking aspect of enjoying media these days is that people refuse to like. contextualize that
A. Bad media can still hold significant meaning to people
B. Media made for a demographic you aren’t apart of is not inherently bad media
C. Media made for and consumed by the opposite demographic is not inherently shallow or flawed nor is it above criticism for its media tropes either.
#unimportant thoughts#i dont feel like dropping specifics in post but like. people online drive me legitimately insane#good example is Ready Player One. its an okay book but people LOVE to hate on it for being a shallow nostalgia grab for old male demographic#and like. yeah. but also comsider that it Was written earnestly by a man in that demographic? and that people enjoyed it???#and maybe im soft hearted but my Dad was a nerd in the 80’s so both of us reading that book and comparing our experiences with it and#learning about his childhood from him. it was awesome yk??? was the book groudbreaking or particularly moving? no#are there a lot of fair criticisms you can make about the book regarding its poorly written female characters and painfully male tone#throughout? absolutely. its not the most vile piece of media its barely mediocre and its not the best thing since sliced bread either#and it kills me because instead of being able to have conversations like thay#people just attack and attack and attack and ATTACK#I don’t know i think the rise of this booktook wattpad level romance smut is another big part of this#are those books incredible? no. definitely not. are they decent? yeah theyre fine enough#are their characters shallow; do they follow tropes; are the characters clearly romanticized objects for us to googoo eye over? yeah#so fucking what??? they arent winning pulitzer prizes theyre just popular online and easily accesible#people love consumbable media thats not an inherently bad thing#and i think its hypocritical for people to defend one and attack the other or even to attack both#media doesnt exist to be appropriately Deep and Meaningful before people are allowed to consume and enjoy it#like. i think theres a LOT of levels of undestanding compassion and respect that people need to reach before these conversations are worth#anything. because right now it really feels like girls and boys arguing back and forth on the playground over whos show is better#anyways. i could go on but i wont.#bottom line i suggest you take a deep look at how ‘realistic’ and ‘meaningful’ the media you enjoy actually fucking is before you start#critizing other media for being too shallow or unrealistic depictions of something#hate to break it to you guys but 90% of fictional characters are fictional and dont act like people irl ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I think I may need to stop taking his classes
#shit’s kind of hitting the fan right now#and I think his wife knows we’ve been texting#I just feel like an absolute monster#people keep telling me that while yes I did respond and may have flirted with him#he’s still the grown married man here#but I don’t really know how to feel about that#I think I need to get away from him but I really really don’t want to#but I’ve been kind of uncomfortable around him and texting him so idk#any insight would be awesome#male teacher crush#teacher crush#teacher crush community#male teacher x female student#teacher and student#teacher x student#male tc#s#teacher confessions#student x teacher#male teacher#crush on teacher#teacher crush blog#tc blog#tcc#tc community#tc crush
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my household got one of the randomly assigned transportation surveys and this is a minor thing to be :) about but with all The Other Shit going on in the world, it's nice to see the ontario government not only keeping this up, but having really good phrasing :')
#it's so so so minor but feels Good to see#MTO said ''ok trans rights''#jj stuff#i remember the first times i saw something other than m/f/don't want to say#or when they added the ability to have your sex changed on ID#you can change it to X for free with literally no hoops to jump through#just show up and ask for it and it's done#i'm still so nervous of putting anything in the 'other' category unless it's explicitly a queer-run/related survey#bc i'm worried they'll have some kinda internal ''ok they picked a weird one throw out the results''#like that time ubisoft cancelled a survey if you put woman#or how my work engagement surveys secretly throw out yours if you answer too negatively#or that time bungie sent me a d2 related email and when i put female/higher education i got sent to the#''ok thank's the quiz is done now'' after TWO QUESTIONS
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ur post about queerbaiting and the dismissal of people in fandom to critical analysis is so incredibly true thank you. i feel like marcille's writing in the anime has been super misogynistic a lot of the time and every time i bring this up all anyone wants to say is "well maybe this isn't for you! and you shouldn't watch the show!" like. i don't think this is about taste lmao, i am analyzing the text in front of me and coming to conclusions about the craft of it.
[This is in reference to this post]
YES!!! THANK YOU!!!!!
It is so so frustrating!!!!
It's like being at a restaurant and being served a bunch of delicious appetizers, but then one of the bread appetizers is literally just a plate of crumbs; and then when you're like, "Hey, uhh, why are we being served literal crumbs?", a bunch of the other folks eating at the restaurant are like,
"WELL HOW ABOUT YOU JUST DON'T EAT HERE THEN??!? YOU MUST NOT BE THAT HUNGRY, SO JUST FIND ANOTHER RESTAURANT AND DON'T EAT WITH US!!"
And maybe they say it politely, but "Aw, sorry, maybe this restaurant just isn't for you 💖" is just trading out an aggressive dismissive tone for a patronizing dismissive tone. It's the same message.
And it's like! I was honestly happy to move on from the crumbs once my complaint was acknowledged because the meal overall is still delicious, but then all these folks got SUPER WEIRD AND DEFENSIVE ABOUT IT, so now I find myself double-checking all the other dishes -- and, actually, you know what those eggs DO look a Iittle misogynistic undercooked!!!!
#original#queerbaiting#dunmeshi#dungeon meshi#falin x marcille#marcille x falin#marcille donato#delicious in dungeon#dungeon meshi marcille#listen i like marcille but u r right she is basically there to be a wet blanket a LOT of the time and that is a sexist trope#i think the bar is super super low for female characters in adventure anime and the lack of constant ogling maybe makes the female#characters feel better written than they are. i mean falin basically has no personality. she's got an innocent heart but that's nothing.#and i think these conversations are worth having bc no piece of media is perfect and this is how we learn to do better#also like. I've seen media criticisms that make me go 'oh you straight up should reserve commentary bc you#haven't watched the show and you're wrong' or 'i see what you're saying but you are simply incorrect' but like#i don't think I'd tell someone to just NOT watch Hazbin Hotel bc they have a bad take - and certainly not bc they have accurately#pinpointed a real flaw about the show (of which there are more than a few but frankly not what became the biggest subject of Disc Horse)#Angel is actually an amazing character & i think people mistook a criticism on the way abuse is glamourized as actually glamourizing abuse#like his song about abuse is called Poison and he's trapped in an abusive performance contract - bringing to mind Britney Spears#i think it is a wildly triggering and painful scene but i think a lot of people took the pain it gave them to mean it was bad art#but tbh they are still allowed to eat at the table if they so choose!!!#sorry i got sidetracked - as an abuse survivor Angel just matters a lot to me. i have a couple serious criticisms of vivziepop's work but#Angel is very much not one of them#also in regards to the actual subject of this post i think the most audacity of the responses i got was the one that said#that by complaining about queerbaiting I was 'de-incentivizing writers to write any interaction b/t women that could look even a little gay#and I'm just like. good. I hope they stop writing entirely. if the takeaway from 'please don't sell me bread and then serve me crumbs' is#'WELL NOW I JUST WON'T BAKE ANY BREAD PRODUCT' then that person is a bad chef. they should find a different job.#or at least do a whole lot of work on themselves. but either way i wouldn't be too broken up to know i won't be getting any food from them.#'just leave then' is so obviously a gut reaction defense mechanism & it implies media criticism should only be for things you don't like
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Okayyy sorry I know this has probably been talked to death but I'm still going for it. Very very sick of how often transphobia/transphobic tropes are utilized for the sake of "relatable bisexual le memes" or w/e. There still exists to many people the idea of trans people as "the best of both worlds", a kind of fetishized "half man, half woman", presented often as some kind of Ideal Bisexual Fantasy. Bisexual people aren't the only people who do it, obviously, many straight men's fixation on "femboys" or "traps", feminine-presenting people with quote unquote "male" genitals, is an obvious example, but to some degree so is the perception of trans men as Just Really Butch Women, masculine-presenting people with quote unquote "female" genitals, among some lesbians and even straight men. However, there is something Really notable about how often "trans people are Like The Best Of Both Worlds" is presented as trans-positive, #relatable bisexual content. And I know that people do this In Real Life all the time but in the context of what I'm talking about it's fiction! It's memes! You can just Choose not to present the insinuation that a person who "looks like a girl" but "is actually a boy" (read: has what cis society positions as "male genitals") is like The Bisexual Dream #relatable. Idk this is a messy post but u get the idea I think
#open mick night#lgbt#bisexuality#gender#tbh i could also probably say smth abt how this trope reinforces the idea that like if bisexual people are not getting#a constant influx of equal amounts of Male Sex and Female Sex they're not being 'fulfilled'#but idk it feels more relevant to focus on the trans thing right now
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what do you mean that rgu, the show everyone claims is so much more feminist than torture porn male gazey pmmm, which is bad bc it was directed by a man which means its for men apparently so none of its messages abt misogyny are worth taking seriously…….. was also written by a man.
#LIIIIIKE. THE WAY PPL TALKED ABT RGU I WAS LIKE#‘’oh ok this must be a lot better in how it handles irs themes or it goes over better w ppl bc it was written by a woman then right?#like they want me to check out a female led show? totally understandable’’#BUT NO!!!!!!!! RGU IS ALSO CREATED BY A MAN!!!!!#like ik urobuchi has a rep hes cringe i get it but if we are only going by the metric that hes a guy…#im not saying its a bad thing either of these shows criticizing misogyny are made by men#but mannnnnnn does this whole thing feel a lot more ridiculous now. youre telling me you werent actually#advocating for more attention on a woman-led show.#echoed voice#have to emphasize that i dont think this is an L for either show ftr#its just…. ridiculous
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gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)
#leologisms#smthn smthn gender and sexuality labels are social constructs that exist within the assumption of a 'normal' experience#and a) i have no idea what EXACTLY that experience is supposed to be like b) im not fully convinced it actually EXISTS#youre telling me 'normal' people all experience attraction/gender in this ONE particular way? for real? youve gotta be lying to me#even ''''''normal'''''' (allo cishet) people talk about how their experiences with romance dont align with how its commonly talked about#how am i (transgay autist) supposed to know exactly what a 'normal' experience is in order to categorise myself in relation to it#more and more i find myself attracted to ambiguous identities because i have no way of defining myself more precisely that feels right#not male or female or even nonbinary but simply transgender. if 'gay' didnt carry the meaning 'homosexual' id probably identify more#strongly with it too (rather than bi)#for a while ive been wondering about ace identities but ive been reluctant to actually explore them too deeply because a) im afraid of#stepping on toes (for some reason. i dont know why.) b) im sure these labels ARE useful for lots of people but man. considering right now i#in a sort of. 'dont look at it too hard' space wrt my identities i dont actually think id even feel very comfortable w any of them anyway#do i experience attraction in a normal way? maybe. define normal.
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downside to centaur clan structure: much harder to come up with lesbian situationships
#all the care guide says is 'biomass'#i know there ARE unrelated females in clans#but also its not clear HOW they get there#as in like. male dispersal and bachelor groups are already a thing yeah#but the default for female centaurs seems to be to stay in the birth clan#so it feels a little. difficult to come up with reasons that a female centaur would leave their birth clan#right now i have a smaller clan getting absorbed by a larger clan after a lot of deaths including the death of their matriarch#but im. not wholly happy with it.#alas. gotta focus on the lesbian situationships.
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no mothposting tonight, my stomach decided that today was the day i should die :(
#hush n shush wifi#not brainrot#oh how i despise the lunar blood ritual sometimes i really hate being born a female#i'm feeling better now but this morning! wow!#genuinely some of the worst cramps i've had EVER#i'm alright now just very tired and lightheaded etc etc#i need MOTH CUDDLES RIGHT NOW
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Okay... So I am Genderqueer.
Sometimes, I am female
Oftentimes, I'm male
Most times, I'm N/A
Occasionally, I'm both or all of the above
I was feeling kinda female today right?
Well, when I'm female, I usually feel disgusting, and it's songs like this one that really hammer it home. I'm not comfortable being female because I always feel pressured to perform a certain way. I always feel ogled, and it just makes me feel gross, and I hate it.
There's a post I saw about menstruation and the stains and stigma that come along with it.
I love dresses and skirts and the color pink, but I don't feel girl enough or pretty enough or skinny enough to perform as Girl... I don't like being so far removed from my AGAB, I don't hate being female.
I hate how it feels to be female.
#but tbf#i hate how it feels to be Other#and I want to celebrate me and all of me.... and I can't#amd thats what I hate#luke bryan#is disgusting#and I mean it with all I have#im sick of it#gender#genderqueer#female#male#nonbinary#transgender#feelings#i really wanna get some transfems opinions on feeling female#i also want cisfems feelings#because its so complicated l#it shouldn't be like this#it shouldnt be this complicated#females shouldnt have to perform#i shouldnt have to scroll through comments from nasty incels telling people they need to lose weight when they themselves weigh more#we shouldnt have to be subjected to people manipulating photos of us in order for us to be more 'attractive'#fuck sakes#gods bless#transfems#seriously... yall are really carrying a heavy load#i know theres an opposite side to this coin involving all the bullshit men and transmen deal with but#not right now#im just reporting what I see
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