#heteronormative

[cessmaga]

fandom hot take but people who say "fans who need to realize the difference between romantic and friendship 🙄🙄🙄🙄" when they're a queer ship probably translates to " I hate fans always put lgbt in everything and it's icky and I can't be ignore that they exist anymore"

these are the same people who demand the creators when the main boy and girls characters to be as a couple

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

This is - hopefully obviously - parody, but it's worth a moment.

When people insist that describing reality accurately is some kind of bigotry and that you're an istaphobe of some variety, what they're really saying is that they and their beliefs are disconnected from the real world, and they object to the imposition of reality into their fantasy world.

It's the same thing as when Xians call you "mean" or accuse you of "hating god" for pointing out the bible's complete and obvious lack of coherence with reality.

It doesn't matter if they don't like it, if it's true.

[niobiumao3]

Cishet relationships involving Black women are not heteronormative, especially mixed race relationships with non-white men, because Black women are NOT normalized in our media's depiction of relationships. That's really all there is to it.

It's right there in the name: 'normative'. For that to happen women of color in general have to be more prevalent in media. They're simply not.

If you think a cishet relationship which involves a woman of color, especially a black woman, is the same as one in which the woman is white, you really need to read up on racialized misogyny and do some self examination. These kinds of claims harm black women in their representation. Until they're seen as readily as any other woman in a relationship, them being depicted in a cishet relationship--especially a mixed race relationship and double extra if the man isn't white--is a far cry from the heteronormativity of a cis white straight couple.

No one says you have to like it. But claiming a relationship is something it's not to justify your dislike is harmful and unnecessary.

[kit10phish]

ALL Taylor Swift Private Muse Timelines in one Place [Updated 7/3/24]

https://kit10phish-explains-it-all-45637244.hubspotpagebuilder.com/raw-my-uncensored-thoughts-and-opinions/combo-masters-taylor-swift-timeline

[genuinelygrenade]

grenade why do you have homophobia in your eyes

Actually, both my eyes are b—

[tjeromebaker]

Home Girls, 40th Anniversary Edition: A Black Feminist Anthology

Home Girls, the pioneering anthology of Black feminist thought, features writing by Black feminist and lesbian activists on topics both provocative and profound. Since its initial publication in 1983, it has become essential text on Black women's lives.

Home Girls, the pioneering anthology of Black feminist thought, features writing by Black feminist and lesbian activists on topics both provocative and profound. Since its initial publication in 1983, it has become an essential text on Black women’s lives and contains work by many of feminism’s foremost thinkers. This edition features an updated list of contributor biographies and an all-new…

[no-phrogs-in-hats]

Friendly reminder that just because someone struggles to talk to you doesn’t mean they don’t like you. It is damaging to you both if you assume someone hates you and talks shit about you just because they’re not responding how you want them to. There are plenty of other reasons as to why someone is quiet and doesn’t talk much. And usually that reason is NOT because they hate you and talk shit about you. And if you can’t come to terms with that and still think the only possibility they’re not talking to you is because they have something against you, then idk what to say except, that’s a you problem and you should get a therapist for that anxiety.

[helly-watermelonsmellinfellon]

Sorry to hit y'all with my annoyance out of nowhere but once again the 'his or her' thing is pissing me off simply because it's so unnecessary most of the time!

Like, in Genshin you can choose either twin to be the MC. And on a video discussing buried lore bombs, someone in the comments made a single paragraph much longer than it had to be because they used 'his or her/he or she' in reference to the MC, 11 times while trying to get their point across!

They could have said 'Traveler', like all in-game characters do. They could have used 'They' to shorten in. Hell, even 'MC' is a good substitute! OR, just use the name of the MC they chose.

^I used THEY for example because IDK the gender of the person talking and IDC all that much either. THEY works just fine.

Who wants to sit there typing even more words than they need to?

[topoet]

Treacherous  coming out admitting to myself to the world that I was gay  queer  homo same-sex-loving was supposedly a step to being authentic to realizing my real self <> instead it became a treacherous bog of gender politics of sexuality correctness where being out was not enough  where one was now defined was acknowledged as authentic  by conflicting contradictory rules of…

[rumade]

“Barefoot and pregnant”: Where the saying came from.

[cessmaga]

I don't trust people who genderbend one of the character in the mlm or wlw ships

[fathersonholygore]

Queered Witchery & Patriarchal Wounds in HUESERA: THE BONE WOMAN

Huesera: The Bone Woman (2023) Directed by Michelle Garza Cervera Screenplay by Cervera & Abia Castillo Starring Natalia Solián, Alfonso Dosal, Mayra Batalla, Mercedes Hernández, & Sonia Couoh. Drama / Horror ★★★★ (out of ★★★★★) Michelle Garza Cervera’s new film, Huesera: The Bone Woman, is a body horror tale about a soon-to-be mother who experiences terror beyond her wildest nightmares. Valeria…

[errorid-mt7lt7k7unfr9ttfua5]

when two queer people have sex it literally can't be straight sorry i don't make the rules

[kit10phish]

Self Disclosure and Taylor Swift's Mastermind

Maybe, just maybe Taylor is feeling people out, carefully testing the waters, and making a decision to update her public persona based on the reactions she receives. I think it would be beneficial for people to relax on the “straightest woman in the world” narrative, so she doesn’t get locked in a box (gold cage?!). Even if she is straight, does it need defending? Straight, is the majority, the…

[shiverandqueeef]

if you aren't best friends with your lover and a little bit in love with all your friends than what's the fucking point

[squishy-min-mochi]

It’s important to recognise that Barbie (2023) criticises both the patriarchy AND the matriarchy. Yes, the Ken’s are just accessories to the Barbies. Yes, they don’t have any say in the government they live under. That’s the point, you’re supposed to feel awful, you’re supposed to want the Kens to have their own agency, you’re supposed to want equality. The Barbie movie explicitly states that the way Barbie treats Ken is wrong, so much so that once he finds a safe space for his masculinity and individual identity he’s so excited to share it with the other Kens.

But they go overboard and replace a matriarchy with a patriarchy and now the same issue exists but in reverse. That’s the POINT!! THATS THE POINT!!! Barbie is not anti-men it’s pro equality PLEASE understand this

13th Aug 2023 UPDATE:

Heeeeey howdy!!

Due to the IMMENSE comments and discussion on this post (thanks ya’ll!!) I’ve decided to update my post with my recent opinions and hopefully clearer explanations!!

First, my original post only considers a very small and very vague analysis of the film!!

Since making this I've read all your comments and learned quite a bit about the matriarchy as it appears in human civilisation. Originally, I was pitting the patriarchy and the matriarchy against each other as though the results of their implementation were equal in the film.

They were not!! Below is the definition of matriarchy I’ll be working off of.

Matriarchy Simple Definition;

Matriarchy is a social system in which women hold the primary power positions in roles of authority. In a broader sense it can also extend to moral authority, social privilege and control of property.

There's a lot to talk about in the Barbie film that would fit better in an essay, so I'll try and condense it into this;

To me, Barbie (2023) is a film about the female experience and the shared connection between women that persists through childhood and adulthood, support and harassment, suffering and joy, mother and daughter.

It uses Barbie as its figurehead because of the immense societal and political impact the doll has had on women, both good and bad (as explained in the film).

The male experience as seen in Barbie (2023) is not the sole focus of the film- rather, it's an accessory (as the Kens are) to Barbie's story, and a necessary aspect of exploration to truly highlight the importance of individualism and healthy personal exploration.

I want to make clear that I in no way think the treatment of the Kens was just as bad as the treatment of the Barbies. I also still agree that the matriarchy fostered by the Barbies wasn’t good for the Kens.

Additionally, I’m aware that this take on Barbie (2023) works strictly within the assumed heteronormative boundaries of gender. There is a lot of nuance in the Barbie film and I don’t think everything can be covered or explained in on Tumblr post— but I hope this clarification helps!!

I hope you're all coming to your own conclusions and analysis of the film in a way that makes sense to you. And for those of you engaging in online conversations and discourse about it, I hope you're keeping yourself and others happy and safe!!!

Much love to you all!! < 3