#help support me

[warringsaint]

This is my first album, made with a lot of love and effort; come take a listen and enjoy video game-inspired tunes from the beginning of my music making to the present day! An album turned time machine that can be yours for a reasonable price; Come check it out! ^^ :3 ^w^

Listen/purchase: Enter The Raccoon by WarringSaint

[filibusterfrog]

types of wizards :)

[milesofstars]

dont worry about it jason...

[aur0raaura]

Yknow what- you're so right...

[anna-scribbles]

emma dupain cheng on the brain😽🎀

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[quartztwst]

Ahmed and his family are almost to their goal! Please help them get to their goal so they can leave and build their future!!

€79,285/€100,000

Please donate to their GoFundMe!

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[nenoname]

always thinking about mabel causing high fives to be invented 100 years early which meant the stan twins got to use high sixes as kids....

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[toleen-hassouna]

I need your donations so that I can provide milk 🍼 and diapers to my little daughter. I am no longer able to provide the basic requirements for my family members due to the extremely high prices

Please don't skip my message. I really need you. I ask you to stand by me in these difficult circumstances that I and my daughters are experiencing

@nevert-the-guy @heritageposts @90-ghost

@craftykittyscientist @strawbearyhoney @fairuzstuff @gazavetters @ashwantsafreepalestine @el-shabazzgifted @sar-soor @vakarians @ear-motif @kordeliiius

@commissions4aid-international @brutaliakhoa

[captain-of-the-roses]

Some of the Palestinian Gofundmes I've been beckoned to share and ask that you do as well:

@falesten-iw vetted here - post - gofundme

@malhindi post - gofundme

@save-salam-family vetted here - post - gofundme

@fadifamily post - gofundme

@dodoomar12345 vetted here - post - gofundme

@sarazidan post - gofundme

@ahmedhelllis vetted here - post - gofundme

@motaz225 vetted here - post - gofundme

@osama-family-ps vetted here - post - gofundme

@ghadabanat and @mohammedamsha vetted here - post - gofundme

@dima96yousef vetted here - post - gofundme

@mazenmanal vetted here - post - gofundme

@weamfanona vetted here - post - gofundme

@ahmedpalestine vetted here - post - gofundme

@mahmoud-sharif vetted here - post - gofundme

@amna-merwan vetted here - post - gofundme

@ahmadelser vetted here - post - gofundme

@shadowyavenuetaco post - gofundme

@asmaamajed2 vetted here - post - gofundme

@yasermohammad vetted here - post - gofundme

@safaamo vetted here - post - gofundme

@noorabd1992 vetted here - post - gofundme

@hsalem-2 vetted here - post - gofundme

@olamuhanna123 vetted here - post - gofundme

@tahanibaby vetted here - post - gofundme

@farahmoo2 vetted here - post - gofundme

@drhusam31989 vetted here - post - gofundme

@mahmoudkhalafff vetted here - post - gofundme

@children-gaza vetted here - post - gofundme

@freepaleatine95 vetted here - post - gofundme

@lina-gaza vetted here - post - gofundme

@atalah-mohammed vetted here - post - gofundme

@aya2mohammed vetted here - post - gofundme

@rolaisam vetted here - post - gofundme

Please do Share; Donate if you can, and Click for Palestine if you cannot

Part Two Here

[momenalmdhoun]

🍉🍉🍉 We are currently at €684 out of €5000 first goal - please consider donating to my Ezzdeen and helping us reach our goal as quickly as possible‼️

✅Vetted by @gazavetters, my number verified on the list is ( #291 )✅

I want you to know that my ezzdeen is very picky in his food, and now he is suffering from huge weight loss, because of the crazy expensive prices for the food, so that we can't afford to buy what he accepts, without you ezz will not regain his health.

We needs your support more than ever, the daily costs of living, the expensive treatments, I hope that through your support I can reach safety with my family.

Please Take Action Now‼️

GFM Donations Link Here 🍉🇵🇸

[varian-ross-horror-author]

"Disabled people should be allowed to be as independent as we can be" and "disabled people should not be pressured to be hyper-independent in order to not wind up in nursing homes against our will" are two thoughts that can, and should, exist at the same time.

[mahmoudfamily7]

Hey friends!!

WE ARE URGENTLY ASK FOR YOUR SUPPORT!!

In this post I explain the last update about my family situation;

No flour,

no food,

no water,

no basic things available.

When it’s available the prices is so much higher than any normal price; More than 8000% the prices and even more!!!

Its impossible to get daily basic things!!!!

It's a dream to get the basic things!!!

Please you’re support and your help make really a-lot of difference!!!

Any support mean life !!!

Please support us to save our children!!

Any support mean a lot to my family during this difficult time !!!!

We have reached 5,052 CAD / 7500 CAD as first term goal!

Vetted campaign #3 on @/gaza-evacuation-funds vetted list here, vetted by bilal-salah0, and vetted by association!

Please help us!!! Support us!!!

To match the first goal as soon as possible !!

 @unrememberedskies @unlivedtenderness @meshugenist@magnus-rhymes-with-swagness@imaginaryaureate

@cakemadeofbacon @crowleyaj @dyspunktional-leviathan @treeen @kiirodora

@mavigator @lacecap @vakarians-babe @socalgal @mustikkaotso

@valid-wof-weapons @hametsukaishi @slashermilf @zigcarnivorous @moonssugar

@sundung @sunclownsblog @fiqrr @irhabiya @sharingresourcesforpalestine

@genusniebla @thetrickyjokester @dirhwangdaseul @shadowinthetrees @oursapphirestars

@thesadnessrabbit  @marthamaxing

@scarlet-curls @bloobluebloo @cheshiure @ruharchive @elyserie

@masterofindecision @shady-mc-muffin @vague-humanoid @neverstopblowingup @b-0-ngripper

@nnnnnnnnnnnnnnsposts @kaijubluu @fleshdyk3 @innovatorbunny @truffleskies @not-a-hawk

@indignantdessertbirds @theelkmaiden

[doesromandoart]

LETS GO SPRING BREAK I BELIEVE IN YOU

[dreamdripdistance]

goodbye, goodbye. our time together has been cut short.

[mahmoudna]

Help My Displaced Family

I hope this message finds you well. This is Mahmoud, reaching out in the difficult circumstances we are facing as a displaced family from Gaza. Unfortunately, my GoFundMe campaign has not yet exceeded one percent, which increases our daily worries and stress.

The rising prices here make it challenging to secure my family's basic needs. I truly need your support and assistance at this critical moment. Any help or sharing of the link would greatly contribute to improving our situation.

I look forward to your support and news.

With all my love,

Mahmoud

@wellwaterhysteria @el-shab-hussein @irhabiya @nabulsi @appsa @buttercuparry @stuckinapril @ayeshjourney