#healthy at every size

[shaftking]

“You can’t tell someone’s health just by looking at them!!!”

As someone with “invisible” illnesses: Are you sure? Let’s try applying this to other demographics. So someone incredibly underweight is healthy until proven otherwise? Someone with a skin condition or even temporary dermatitis? Someone who is a regular cigarette smoker? Someone with severe cerebral palsy? Are you sure that there’s so visible indicators at all for peoples health and wellness?

We can tell when people are simply tired based on physical indicators, like eye bags and posture. Are you really telling me that other even clearer indicators of worse health than just a bad nights sleep just don’t exist?

This whole argument is really exhausting because it’s another case of people trying to act like the exceptions that prove the rule are actually just the rule.

[wahlpaper]

The Summer of Jordi Perez Review

The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding

CW: Parents Not Believing Their Child, Emotionally Bad Experience with a Cop, Fat-phobia, Fat-shaming, Queerphobia, Heteronormativity, Self-esteem Issues, Capitalism, Bad Parents, Unpaid Internship, Diet Talk

5/5

It's official! This is the 84th book that I have read this year, breaking my record of 83 in 2021! It was a very good choice of book to do that with. The Summer of Jordi Perez is a cute queer teen romance with a fat main character! Author, Amy Spalding, is plus sized herself, giving the book an "Own Voices" element. I, the reviewer, am also fat. Further down I will talk about my personal relationship to the book and its themes.

The Summer of Jordi Perez (and The Best Burger in Los Angeles) is about Abby Ives, a gay teen fashion blogger experiencing her first big crush. When she starts her summer internship, she's blindsided with the news that she'll be sharing it with her classmate, Jordi Perez. What's even worse is that they'll be competing for a job set to start in the fall. Instead of hating each other though, they fall for each other. Unfortunately, first relationships are hard to navigate and neither girl is as sure of themselves as they seem. They'll have to be patient if they want things to work.

This book is cute, sweet, and just the right amount of serious. Abby has had small crushes before Jordi, but over the course of the book she experiences a lot of "firsts" for crushing and then "firsts" for dating. She obsesses over Jordi, second guesses every interaction, gushes to a friend, and more. While the relationship between Abby and Jordi is cute to experience, the characters also deal with important matters. They both have parents that don't see the best in them. Abby's mom is disappointed in her weight and her lesbianism. Jordi's parents don't trust her to behave. They deal with self-esteem, heteronormativity, capitalism, mistakes, and more. I appreciate everything Spalding takes the time to tackle in The Summer of Jordi Perez.

I only disliked one part of the book, the subtitle. "And The Best Burger in Los Angeles" refers to the subplot between Abby and her new friend, a jock named Jax. However, I'm not sure it needed to be included in the title. Jax needs to rate burgers to help out with his father's new app idea. He wants to do it with Abby. It is a sweet subplot, but the burgers quickly become something they do off-page. The subtitle raises their importance, but the book ends the quest in an anticlimactic way. I don't mind how it ended, but the title would be better off without the subtitle.

As I mentioned above, Abby is a fat girl. She loves fashion and blogging about it, but she doesn't like to share photos of herself in the clothes she suggests. Over the past few months I have started working with my therapist on body image issues and my relationship with food. My journey isn't precisely the same as Abby's, but I feel we are both at the middle point of our journey and have had the same negative influences. I have spent the last week taking at least one selfie a day so that I can be more comfortable in pictures. Jordi is a photographer, so Abby is forced to face a similar challenge. We both have different things that we’re more comfortable with already and different things we need to grow towards in the future. Spalding really captures the struggle of knowing it's okay to be fat in theory, but failing to apply that to oneself.

The Summer of Jordi Perez worked its way into my life at the right time. The fat girl trying to navigate dating is exactly the kind of representation I needed. I hope that this book will speak to others as well. A little bit of fat neutrality and a little bit of fat positivity, piled on top of "Healthy At Every Size" is the perfect recipe. I highly recommend Spalding's book to all!

[timeisacephalopod]

I decided to look yoga apps up because yoga has mental health benefits and I wanted a way to stretch and work my body's muscles, improving flexibility and generally just making sure my body is moving and my muscles are working. Instead the first app I downloaded immediately asked for my height and weight, which I should have taken as the red flag it was, because after putting in the information being 5'6 and 200 pounds gave me a fuckin orange writing warning I'm obese and "might need to lose weight to be healthy."

I don't know how or why anyone would make an app where the first thing it does is insult the user and fat shame them instead of oh, I don't know, give me the simple yoga routines I was looking for but I immediately deleted that app because I'm not interested in immediately bring told my body is wrong and bad and needs to be changed! It's deeply dehumanizing, ignorant, and alienating. I don't care if you think I'm a fat piece of shit all I wanted was a way to move my body, not a needless and ignorant lecture from an app using the famously extremely accurate and not at all problematic BMI 🙄🙄🙄

[maryannauger]

You can't make assumptions about someone's healthy habits based off of how they look.

Thin people can have unhealthy habits and fat people can have unhealthy habits.

Just like thin people can have healthy habits and fat people can have healthy habits.

Let's stop making assumptions based off of other people's appearances

* I use fat here as a neutral descriptor. Just like tall, short, and thin. Being fat is not bad!

[girlthativealwaysbeen]

anyway im going to the gynac tomorrow and i don't know what i want the result to be

[rantithesis]

I wish less people would focus on talking about fat people not being inherently unhealthy (technically true, but frankly not applicable to the vast majority of cases) and instead focus on how someone’s health is a) their own fucking business b) NOT GROUNDS FOR A TOTAL LOSS OF BASIC DIGNITY

[cuntwrap--supreme]

My dog has been having senior moments, such as randomly forgetting what she's doing or trying to walk into a street, and I've been calling her "Mr. President" when it happens.

Like, "No, Mr. President, we can't walk into oncoming traffic. That's how we get killed!"

[headphonemouse]

Nothing in my life has ever tasted as good as how I imagine cartoon meat that looks like this tastes

[handsomewitch]

apropos of nothing. if you have nipple piercings and they just won't heal, it's counter intuitive but try increasing your jewellery to like, 14/12g (incrementally obviously)

[liddlediddy]

I just had a "conversation" (I use that word VERY lightly) with my mom about fatphobia that can be boiled down to:

Me (fat): "I feel bad for my friend (also fat) because no matter how much she diets & exercises (which is a lot) she's never gonna look like how she wants to look (skinny) because she's not built like that. It sucks that society demonizes fat people & prioritizes weight over health & that the healthiest person I know (friend) believes she's worthless"

Mom (fat as well and also fatphobic): "so you think that if I went to the doctor right now they'd tell me I was healthy?" (huh??????)

[eclipsecrowned]

pivot. but.

thinking about for all that his elder brother gets about being a pretty boy, laerion is cut from a different cloth. he's a throwback to his dear grandmother's family -- 100% natural born BARAthe0n. over 6' and built strong once timeskip kicks in. solid as a warship, that boy.

like he's still indisputably gorgeous, but definitely more of a hunk than his brother. this is the real reason i tend to write laerion never has a family or lineage. it isn't just canon compliance to how things are meant to play out. if this man had married and had kids the v*laryons would have been unimaginable chads and overthrown their cousins for the throne in gran gran's memory --

[phoenixdown-and-fairydust]

Things my neighbours hear through the walls:

-MIAAAAAAAAHHHHRRRRT!

-No.

- Mrrrrowt?!

-You don't like middling quality cheese.

-MREEOW-ERrmR-REYET!

-I told you, you don't want it. Your taste is either expensive or trash, and this neither.

-MRREEeeeeooorRRreOOOOOoowRrrrrrOOowAAAHHOOOOW!!!!

-IMPERSONATING AN AIRRAID SIREN WILL NOT SUCCESSFULLY ALCHEMICALLY TRANSFIGURE SO-SO SWISS INTO FANCY GOAT BRIE, NOR CASTASTROPHICALLY FAIL AND TRANSFORM IT INTO OVER PROCESSED NEON SLICES!!!

*Silent Hill noises continuing and intensifying*

[handcat]

instagram should be set aflame

[shiroselia]

TLDR on the new model creator so far

The models are Incredibly bottom heavy, the forearms literally never change size and the neck barely does either and it creates a Bit of a weird effect, I like the models, I think they’re good, but they definitely look a Little off because of how much more the thigh area changes between sizes compared to the torso and Especially the arms

[maryannauger]

I used to set rigid rules with my self-care like:

Write in your gratitude journal single night before bed

Workout 5 times a week

Foam roll 2 times a week

Do some mobility exercises every morning

…

There was no flexibility, and the goals were unrealistic. It would have been another full time job following that list

Instead of setting rules, I schedule some things I know I would prefer not skipping like preparing some meals for the week on Sunday. If I need to, I can prep on Saturday or Monday, but I know that skipping my prep will mean I won’t be eating or finding meals to eat quickly will stress me out

As for most of my self-care, I do things when I need them. For example, I know that even if I schedule mobility exercises, I won’t do them and it’ll make me feel guilty. So I just do mobility exercises when my body needs it. (I don’t have mobility exercises prescribed by a physio, that would be different!)

Or I go for walks when my body needs extra movement and I have extra time. And sometimes what I need is to cuddle up with a blanket and watch netflix

Having less strict rules, and more check-ins with myself to do what works best for me in the moment has been a life changer!

What works for you when it comes to self-care? Does a schedule work better for you?

[wisterianwoman]

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