I love you systems who...
- Cannot cope with alters going dormant
- Are afraid of switching out and "letting go" of front
- Are almost always blurry
- Have demonised and stereotyped alters
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you are not a system without trauma.
your system did not form for any reason other than trauma.
"non-traumagenic" isn't a thing.
"traumaendo" isn't a thing.
trauma survivors shouldn't have to clarify that they're "traumagenic" because people want to roleplay on the internet.
go fuck yourself if you think that "endos" are valid. my trauma isn't a label you can wear.
you can not be a system without trauma.
you can not be a system without trauma.
you can not be a system without trauma.
[ID: STOP! this blog is a strictly anti-endo space! pro-endos and endo neutrals, shoo! shoo shoo!]
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shoutout to systems that got so manipulated and gaslighted by their abusers that it took them years to realize what they went/go through daily was not normal at all, we're with you
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Do things for your system offline.
Being a system affects life more than just online. (contrary to endo beliefs) While having some amazing resources online to help organize and track things, there are a million reasons to have your physical life have resources set up as well.
you'll never know if an alter might not even know what a phone is yet, and gods forbid if for some reason a new alter is alone without help. Trust me, we had a new alter try to just up and leave our fiance on a vacation. We have also had alters who definitely needed a picture guide on how to use the system discord lol.
Here are some ideas we do to help ensure our system is safe, but also helps alters feel more grounded and present with themselves!
Fronting Kandii bracelets, it can really help when you can't use your phone for switches, but also good for systems with significant barriers between alters and memory, so you can see who was here last!
a physical notebook labeled in bold for "if confused/lost read this" and inside keep important information; (what is a system, what the body name is, what your job is, and how to open and use a phone just in case, and also what to do to contact a gatekeeper or what to do if they can't, such as how to call out of work or avoid the family/friends asking what's wrong.)
another notebook might be helpful for alters to have fun decorating an 'about page' but also having your system journal individually as alters is REALLY IMPORTANT TO HAVE IN CASE YOU WANT TO TALK TO A DOCTOR ABOUT GETTING DIAGNOSED. It can really help the doctor see a track of things. We started our first journal in 2017, even outside of doctors, it's good for a physical medium for alters to express in.
these next ones are focused on alters having their own space and grounding in the real world!
having a small box or basket or something like that to keep their favorite or 'personal' items. our system likes having our own individual space and items, and for us it helps not only keep the peace, but also help us ground when we have our own things like clothes, comforts, snacks on hand, personal notebooks, etc.
remember kids, if your system is affecting you irl, when no one is looking then you are not faking! no sys doubting here pookies <3
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Do people forget muscle memory exists
"Why do you and all your alters write basically the same way?"
Perchance because our hand has been writing that way since we learned how to write. Just a thought though
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Shout out to the systems with the weird ass fictives
With the niche sources
With the problematic sources
With Multisourced alters
With alters who can’t source separate
With alters who source separated immediately
With alters who hate their sources
With alters who love their sources
You’re all valid, don’t let people hate on you for something you can’t control
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hey!
u didnt deserve it.
u didnt deserve ANY of it.
none of the abuse, neglect, or anything else that made u a system
u didnt deserve that pain
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Does anyone else ever think "oh I don't experience much blackout amnesia, mostly grey-out." AND THEN you get evidence that you did indeed completely forget multiple things and you didn't notice because they were small things??
Like we have so much more blackout amnesia than we are aware of and it's trippy to think about.
-Kate
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Friendly reminder if you don’t have an inner world as a system you’re 100% still a valid system.
Even as adults we don’t have an inner world. It’s a black void with doors and those doors are rooms for each alters and even in those room are black voids with some items scattered around. That’s the closest we’ll ever get to an inner world. Others don’t have inner worlds AT ALL and guess what? They’re 100% valid as systems.
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have you ever felt so blurry and dissociative you ignore all system shit simply to exist but Simply Existing hurts because ears ringing head hurts everything is tingly nothing is real and everyone i interact with feels like a stranger and a friend at the same time to the point where people interacting with me and talking to me like they know and are close with me is weird but i also dont feel like someone else and people who dont know youre a system arent even aware you Dont Feel Real so you feel gross whenever they look at you and i feel like nothing and everything andOh hey is that the solar eclipse
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