#fuck neurotypical people actually

[mogamuncher]

bitches be like "oh no it's okay that you're autistic, we support you" until you actually show real signs of autism, after that you're "a monster" and "clearly don't love your family" I am going to kill you

[mueritos]

trying to be more accepting of the likelihood I am autistic, I feel ive been having this constant back and forth conversation with myself for the past 2 years about it. "you can go to school, be a therapist for people, run errands, win awards, and somehow fit 2 jobs into all of that" and I use that as proof that I am NOT autistic...however, realizing i lose an entire weekend for a trip? distress. fire alarm goes off in the middle of the night and leaves me trembling, crying, and forced to recover? oh boy i wonder why that happened. feeling confused and like i'm constantly missing something when people express themselves in class or in the workplace? hm, it's almost as if I struggle to not take their language literally.

i don't think i've ever been allowed to be "disabled" by whatever neurodivergency and its symptomology, like, ever. god speed any other neurodivergent children of immigrants, but i don't feel allowed to let any cluster of disturbances or schedule changes or social conundrums disable me. I mean, they can affect me privately, where I am forced to stim and cry and process all on my own. But unfortunately i cannot look like the misshapen freak I feel I am, or well, as least not appear so in a socially unacceptable way.

it's funny i carry so much shame. i am unmasking in ways i never thought i could. i am allowing myself to take things literally with people, and I am allowing myself to ask more questions. "what did you mean by that?" "why did you use that word to describe that?" "can you rephrase that?" it's funnier that I am at such a queer and neurodiverse internship; nearly all of the other clinical staff have some sort of diagnosis (usually adhd/ocd/with flavors of trauma), and we all serve a population of the queerest and most neurodiverse students. i feel SO happy when I see a student and they refuse to make eye contact with me, because I take it as an invitation to NOT look them in the eye too! i tell students during our sessions feel free to stim, here's a weighted plushie you can hold, sit where you like, would you like to pace, should I dim the lights? it is even funnier that i am a neurodivergent clinician working with neurodivergent people, and half the time I dont even follow the same advice I give my clients!

i worry about what my life will look like when i've graduated. my master's will say, "hey, this guy is a clinical social worker and is now ready to be your therapist! or caseworker! whatever they have you people do nowadays!" and I don't think i feel ready to enter any workforce. how on earth will i manage my life and wellbeing doing this 40 hours a week? like wtf? ugh.

i dunno. these r just rambles and perhaps im just seeking some sort of comfort from other autistic people, especially because it feels like i have very few autistic people in my life. i know a lot of the validation i seek will be "resolved" if i seek out an official diagnosis, but I don't have time or $ for that. nor do I think I want one for a number of reasons. I should just continue working on my own self-esteem when it comes to most likely being autistic.

oh well

[krash-8]

neurotypicals will laugh when I say 'im autistic" like bitch im not joking AND now I know you think making fun of autistic people is funny

[maynardoisfromouterspace]

TV show: look at this characters. They’re bullied bc they’re an outcast and don’t fit in.

Neurotypicals: Omg they’re so quirky and relatable. I love them.

Neurodivergents: They’re my new comfort character bc I’m and outcast and don’t fit in and am bullied bc of it.

Neurotypicals: lol eww cringe

[saturnsocoolioyep]

This is what I wrote in the feedback section for the new discord update:

I absolutely hate that the messages like group chats and DMs are in a different tab than servers now. there was absolutely nothing broken about the way that it was laid out and displayed before, so there's no reason to "fix" it!! I also am sorely missing the ability to swipe left to look at all members of a server, the having to click on the top feels clunky and visually unpleasant. I hate being taken to an entirely different screen just to see who's online! it's an entirely unnecessary extra step that helps no one. the idea of "prioritizing messaging" by putting private messages and group chats in a tab seperate from servers is completely asinine when discord as a whole is a messaging service in and of itself! also, it's a small aesthetic change but rounding the corners of the servers when swiping to look at the servers at the side is unnecessary and unwelcome and overall incredibly displeasing to look at. speaking of swiping, making it so swiping left creates a reply to a message is the most unnecessary, confusing, and almost MALICIOUS feeling change yet, especially when swiping left had an entirely different function before. please listen to your user base and stop making so many changes that absolutely NO ONE is actually asking for and actively make the user experience worse. you have a good app, it is not broken, stop trying to fix things that don't need to be changed because you've continually only made things worse.

[m-for-now]

I have this thing where I project my stuff onto fictional characters I like, so sometimes I go

What if Leo Valdez also had that thing where sometimes autistic masking and adhd procrastination are so exhausting that you consistently want to do something, but you just kinda can't and the sentence

"So, what did you do today?"

Is incredibly depressing, because the answer is "nothing much" but what is really also true is "I was trying to force myself to do literally anything at all the entire day and I kept failing the entire day so even if I factually did a thing, it doesn't count because I didn't achieve anything valuable that someone else could understand"

[blackholesun321]

Hey my fellow neurodivergents does this happen to anyone else?

So there’s this thing right we’re I’ll meet and talk to someone some stranger some person I’ve never met before and will probably never meet again and I go through the whole song and dance of play polite and ask and listen when they talk and it’s a conversation and maybe I had a good talk and maybe I’ll have a good time or maybe not but I’ll then just move on with my life not to be callous but it was one conversation in a million nothing special maybe some small talk and I’ll think of it fondly as some chatting or as a thank god that’s over but mostly just run of the mill everyday talking.

And then my mom or a friend and a fellow student will be like hey remember Sam? And I’ll be like mom I barely remember what I had for breakfast please be more specific and then she’ll show me a picture and still nothing and I’ll shake my head and she’ll go as if wrote oh well from last (put any social gathering name here.) she had an amazing conversation with you and wanted to say hi and maybe talk again. And I’ll be like vague memory of talking about knives or culinary art of hunter gatherers with person that kinda looked like the person in the photo I think, woah why?

Because as rude as it is, I barely remember that person, barely remember the conversation and really have no pull to continue contact with them because I have no idea who they are on like a personal level to know if we’re compatible as people who can get along out of small talk.

But still why? My behavior wasn’t anything special, I didn’t do anything that I normally wouldn’t do? I’m not particularly interesting?Nor is the small talk? So why does this keep happening! It’s literally a pattern that every social event I attend if end up talking to some they talk as if we had a transcendental conversation with me and want to talk again? And I feel super shitty because I barely remember them or the conversation or really anything. So Why?

Does this happen to anyone else who is neurodivergent? Because that’s the only factor I can think of because my dad who is also autistic also has this happen to him! And he finds it just as confounding.

[demonic-shadowlucifer]

hey just a small psa: stop telling autistic folks what symbols they should and shouldn't use.

if an autistic individual wants to use the infinity symbol, let them. if an autistic individual wants to reclaim the puzzle piece, let them. hell, if an autistic individual wants to use both, LET THEM. thank you, and happy autism acceptance month.

[punkrockisafulltimejob]

For those who are unsure of whether or not they really have the "sensitivity to cold" symptom of fibromyalgia, because you think that it's just you not being able to handle colder temperatures like other people, that's one way of putting it. The other way is, when it's winter and the temperatures start dropping, do you feel your pain more intensely? Do you feel like you have more problems with your joints? Is your partner always commenting how cold your fingers and toes are, but it somehow gets more frequent in winter? Those are other ways to consider being sensitive to the cold.

[pygmeys]

this goes hand in hand with the social media pop psychology "x is actually a trauma response" shit bc not everything is a sign of mental illness, but i also really think we should stop acting like theres a hard line between being neurotypical and neurodivergent

like we really do ourselves a disservice when we forget that the human brain is an incredibly complex thing, moreso when put in the context of societal functions, roles and expectations (and who could forget capitalism). most of the time we understand that behavior and symptoms can vary even within the same diagnosis, so why cant it be the other way around too?

i just see sometimes people act like neurotypicals are a monolith with perfect mental health who never really struggle with functioning in society Like Us, when the truth is a lot of them do. society has a lot of very damaging rules for everyone involved. and even beyond that, neurotypical ppl can and do experience things like panic attacks, depression, difficulty with social interactions, trauma, sensory issues, hyperfixations, self destructive behavior, they can even go through psicotic breaks or suicidal ideation given the right conditions. it doesn't necessarily mean theyve actually been neurodivergent all along

idk i dont say all of this to ignore the fact that we do live in a world that is largely very hostile to neurodivergent and mentally ill people, and neurotypicals can be extremely cruel about what we go through. but i really dont think we benefit anyone when we act like we are divided in Those Who Are Like Us and a diametrically opposed "normal" other who's experience is so different they couldn't possibly understand us.

[gigifluidcat]

How neurotypicals feel going onto slime/stim toy businesses and commenting "Your landfill will thank you for the pollution!":

[unnecessarily-neurodivergent]

"How come you're write poetry if you have shallow feelings"

Oh sorry I forgot people with aspd are just emotionless monsters with no interest except in global destruction and hatred, apparently, I'm completely unable to react emotionally to my struggles and try to express that in a way that doesn't require me to forcibly present myself as an inhumane creature

[fenrichaita]

criticisms of "anti-recovery" sentiments are deeply ableist because this sort of rhetoric defines recovery by "neurotypical" and able-bodied standards and also assumes that recovery by these parameters are both always accessible and possible to achieve, and are always desirable. In reality, these sentiments come from a deep resentment of those who are disabled, mentally ill, and neurodivergent, and a discomfort at seeing those who are labeled this way being comfortable with their own existence.

The next time you complain about the "romanticization" of mental illness or similar concepts, seriously consider whether you are aiming your grievances at the right people. Are you punching down at those who aren't suitably performing their misery for you, or are you criticizing something actually harmful such as the fetishization of mental illness by those who do not have it/are not stigmatized by labels they were not given?

[stop-ugly]

English is not my native language so I learn slang only by the context and every time i see the word "acoustic" it always looks like "autistic" in a very offensive way so

What the fuck is going on with this ableism trend of yours

[avpdpossum]

ah, the neverending cycle of disappointment of finding a person who makes good autistic content only to find out that one of their most popular posts talks about how evil narcissists are, my beloathed

[tinygayemo]

Real talk tho I'm tired of accommodating bitches who aren't willing to accommodate me