#focus tips

[jay-avian]

ADHD Tip: Rabbit Thoughts

This is a term I coined myself back when I was tutoring this little kid. He seemed to have the same problem I had in regards to not being able to focus. We both had random thoughts "jump around" when working, so I tried to devise a way to help with this.

I read somewhere that writing things down helps you to get them out of your head. There is also a phrase that my family and I tend to use dealing with rogue thoughts: "Take every thought captive", meaning to take it and reason with it, not let it get the better of you (also helpful for intrusive thoughts). But this made me think of the concept of catching rabbits and putting them in a pen. It's a kid-friendly explanation and just a fun one too!

TL;DR: write down rogue thoughts as they come. Can categorize for later: random things, to-do tasks, urgent must-do right now

Let's say you're in an intensive work session, either studying, writing, working on a project, etc. You want to grind without losing that motivation or hyperfixation energy.

Quick and easy solution: Thought Dump. Just dump everything onto one sheet of paper. This is typically what I will do. It makes things a bit harder to look back through, in case you wrote down things you need to do later. But this is just meant to be a solution to get everything out of your head so you can focus on the task at hand. (This is also good for emptying your head before bed)

Categories:

Rabbits - A really quick to-do list. These can be things you can do during breaks or things you need to do in general that day or week. It may help to add a check box next to these so you remember to actually do these things.

Bunnies - Your average random thought. They can be anything from ideas to save for later, things you want to look up, or random repeating phrases or words. Anything that doesn't have to be dealt with right away or even later that day.

Hares - Things that must be dealt with right away or else you can't focus. These don't necessarily have to be written down at all. These can be things like getting food or water, going to the bathroom, or something urgent you forgot about that needs to be taken care of.

Now go forth and get some work done!

Note: some things may not be as urgent as you think. Your anxiety may make it seem super important when it can wait even a minute more, like calling someone back, starting to make food for dinner, etc. Remember, don't panic. Again, take every thought captive. Sit with it for a minute, breathe, and try to process it with logic and a level head. You got this!

[inky-goddess]

I have such a really stupid way of focusing on a task, and this is the only way my adhd will allow me to do a chore or study.

I open vr chat in full screen (desktop mode obviously) so I can't open anything else/am not tempted to open anything else

I go to the YTS world in a new invite only instance so there's no people to distract me (YTS is usually set to my home world because of how frequently i do this tho)

And I queue up like- 20 video essays.

then i do what i need to be focusing on

[neurospicyu]

🚨 Productivity Showdown Time! 🚨 If you've ever rolled your eyes at traditional productivity advice (looking at you, “just make a to-do list and focus”), then this post is for you! 😏

We’re pitting outdated advice against neurospicy brain hacks that actually make sense for neurodivergent brains! From quest-style to-do lists to sensory-friendly self-care breaks, we’re here to help you level up your focus and win the day! 🎮✨

Tag your favorite productivity hack in the comments—bonus points if it involves snacks! 🍫

#productivitytips #neurodivergentlife #neurospicyhacks #executivedysfunction #adhdbrains #organizationwithflair #sensoryfriendly

[lavandamichelle]

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[ironmindsetmagic]

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[ujusttry]

7 Power Tips to Sharpen Your Mental Focus: A Time Management to Meditation Guide

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[mindfulstudyquest]

my goal in life is to become the most well educated, well dressed, well mannered, most successful, most humble person you'll ever come across.

[mellosdrawings]

How do you do hands so well!?💀

I cheat lol

Ok, so that's a half truth half lie. Here's a few tuto, one about hand composition, one to teach you how to make a hand from scratch, and one to tell you that sometimes, in art, you gotta simplify your life.

First, hand composition:

Red: palm shape and fingers size

From above, the palm will look like a pentagon, a bit wider towards the fingers, with the middle finger being the peak higher than the others. You can replicate that little knuckles hill at the end of the fingers. Fingers' size depends wildly on the person, some have palms longer than their fingers, others have fingers longer than their palms. For a base ref, make palm and fingers as long as each other and move the fingers' length from there.

From the side, the palm will look like a trapeze, base wider than the top.

From the front, the palm will never be completely flat! At rest, it will curve inward slightly. Draw a lump for the general shape.

Orange: fingers

From above, fingers tend to fan out at rest.

From the side, keep following the line of the top part of your hand. The inner side of the fingers will be straighter though. Fingers are composed of three mostly equal parts (the last one might be shorter depending on the person).

Blue: thumb

People tend to forget the thumb is surprisingly mobile! Unlike fingers that can only close and spread, thumbs can move forward and backward, up and down, and make actual rotations!

The base of the thumb will take at least half of the palm's side, but extra skin to allow movement will make it look like it take more space. Just like other fingers, it's actually composed of three parts. The thumb will usually be just a tad longer than the base knuckles of the other fingers (but as said before, fingers size change depending on the person).

Brown: knuckles and wrist

For the knuckles, you can make little elongated pyramids at the top of your palm shape. They will always follow the line of the fingers.

The inner part of the wrist will be mostly straight or curved inward, but the outer side should have a bump due to the ulna bone. Sometimes I place it as a hill, sometimes as a circle.

Second, the messy tuto:

1. Movement

First you should always draw a shitty shape indicating the general position and movements of your hand. Don't bother with proportions or details, you just wanna be able to tell what you want your hand to be doing.

2. Palm shape

Start by detailing your palm. Try to highlight where the fingers and the wrist will be. Refer to the hand composition above for the general shape.

3. Fingers implantation

Separate the top of your hand in four mostly equal circles for the base of your fingers, and the side of your palm in a roughly rounded triangle for your thumb. Once more, refer to the hand composition above.

4. Fingers

Place the three parts of all your fingers more or less following the initial shape/movement you wanted to go for. Fingers should be roughly the same size as your palm, but you can vary the length as no two people have the same hands.

5. General shape

Once you have placed all your finger parts, you will be able to draw them and connect them to your palm. Don't hesitate to start making adjustments starting from this step.

6. Details

Nails are, just like fingers, very different depending on the person. Globally you can put either an oval or a rounded rectangle on top of your fingers. You can make them longer after the finger for effeminate or well kept nails.

Add pyramids at the base of your fingers to place your knuckles and a circle or a pyramid on the outer side of your wrist to place your ulna bone.

7. Finish

Add details, adjust sizes, remove extra lines, and you have a hand.

Ok. Now, that technique I just showed you? Don't use it. No, I'm serious. Don't use it for hands that are part of the main focus. Do it for background characters or doodles or training or comics panels where hands aren't that important.

For illustration and panels with a focus on your character's hands, use the following technique instead.

Third, how to make your life easier as an illustrator:

1. Reference

Yes. That's how you make good hands. You take a pic of your own hand doing the pose you want to use as reference.

2. Palm

Just as the tuto explained before, you start by finding the shape of your palm on the pic and try to replicate it. It might be a bit difficult at first to copy proportions properly, but doing it again and again will make it easier in time. (Also refer to the last part of this post*)

3. Thumb

Usually I'd go for the fingers first, but since the thumb is on the foreground I started with it here. First the implantation with the palm, then the two last parts. (As you can see I have tiny potato hands so I tend to artificially elongate the fingers compared to my reference to have prettier hands).

4. Fingers

Find the general movement of your fingers. Straight lines for fingers in tension and connected cylinders for fingers flexing.

5. Once you are able to place the general shapes, you will have an easier time copying your own hand. Doing it without the previous steps is feasible when you are used to copying, but if you are new to this I would suggest deconstructing your hand to train your brain into remembering every detail.

6. Corrections, details, add a little movement if you are into dynamic-art, keep it realistic if you are into realism.

You now have a pretty hand.

Remember : You can (and you should) use references! Normal humans aren't made to remember every single details about everything, especially when those things are as complex as hands (or Gods forbid it buildings and cars and whatever else).

If you struggle with drawing hands, take a pic of your own hand to help. Try to find the big shapes composing your own hand so it'll be easier to yolo another time.

References are your friends! Don't think you're any less of an artist because you need to have your own shoe on your drawing table so you can draw your character's feet!

(*For new artists : TRACE! I'm sure you've heard everywhere that tracing is diabolical and you should never do it. It's FALSE. Tracing helps with your hand-eye coordination. 80% of art is reflex! I no longer need to think about all these steps because I have been drawing for more than 15 years. I started by tracing Winx Club stickers I had one my windows! It helped me have a sense of movements, proportions, and fluid lines.

What you shouldn't do with tracing is post it as your own art! You are free to trace as training, but you should never claim it is your own art.

Other than that, please, trace. Trace your own hands pic to get used to the shape. Trace your favorite artists to understand what you like in their lines or proportions. Trace that damn building because you don't have time to create a whole background from scratch for your webcomic.)

Art is cheating. Always. Don't feel bad for making your life easier.

[aychama]

I need to keep reminding myself that im making the comic for me. That im telling this story because im a little crazy about it.

Im making all of this on my free time after work so I shouldnt feel guilty about not pumping out artwork after artwork.

I know so many people are waiting excitedly, so am I, but making a comic takes time and work. This whole thing is probably going to take so much longer than I think it will.

Nobody is pressuring me either so taking time for myself is not a bad thing. Even if people forget about my stuff and it doesnt get engagement its not the end of the world.

I am making this for myself. Just because I like it. Just because I enjoy creating.

[0ne-eyed-ghost]

god i couldnt think of anything for day 7 . DAY 7 SACRIFICE WHY ARE YOU SO HARD!!!

Most I came up with was this???? Sacrificing their own comfort and usual views to like . Swap. And view it from the others side. ???? [More of an excuse to just draw them in swapped outfits, although hearts like so . not comfortable in this attire it's so baggy on him :sob:] Also just a sort of view on how tall I perceive them to be within my own ideas o7 Imagine fitting wings through shirts man mind is not getting that shirt back its ripped 2 shreds :boom: I FORGOT TO FINISH THIS UNTIL LIKE RIGHT BEFORE I WAS ABT TO SLEEP. n then was like fuccckk if i dont finish this now ill have to do 3 more instead :[ so. enjoys :]

[ashs-nerd-den]

A basic ADHD study kit

Snacks and a bottled drink. Something like dried bananas will have a consistent texture, only need one hand so you can keep working while you eat and provide stim, are nice and has is good for your brain. Caffeine relaxes ADHD brains making it easier to study, but please be careful of your caffeine intake, caffeine overdoses are real and can be very dangerous

Stimmy stuff. Hair ties, bracelets or squishy stuff. Something to do with your free hand.

A high stim playlist (post about this with options)

An app/site blocker, where you can ban distraction sites and apps for a time period of your choosing, (I prefer freedom, but here is a Masterlist of app blockers) Coloured pens and highlighters for notes and practice qs

Exam practice questions. Active recall is great and being able to physically see what you've accomplished gives you dopamine and many exam paper books have spreadsheets where you can mark off or colour in the questions that you've done

Flashcards, so many flashcards

A study space - a clean desk, a comfy couch/bed, a library, whatever works for you

Get started

[candyheartedchy]

You’ve inspired me to make my own self ship blog (thank you for that!). I’m genuinely so bad at organising a blog so I wanted to ask if you had any tips on how you keep yours so clean?

ALSO I LOVE YOUR ART, IT’S SO CUTE AND I HOPE YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!!!!!!

I’m happy to inspire you to make a self ship blog! And I always felt my blog was a mess lol, so I’m glad it seems clean and organized!

To keep track of stuff, I mostly give my posts specific tags so I can hunt them down later. If you go to my Tag Navigation post, it’ll show how I have them set up. I also like adding emojis to them because they stand out for me and are easier to find. And in the past I had to rename tags or change emojis and had like 800 posts under one tag, so instead of renaming one after another, I used the tag replacer instead so I can replace the tag with a updated version all at once! But also making a pinned post of links from other sites you use or links to other posts with extra info about yourself and your blog or anything else about yourself that you might want to add can all go there.

AND THANK YOU 💗

[simandy]

I may be sick with various things at the same time right now! BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE IS SICK????????!!!!

OWNING @pralinesims VIPER EARRINGS IN REAL LIFE!!!!!!!! YEAH!!!!!!

[asherlockstudy]

A moment for the ages x

[satans-knitwear]

This set is too cute 🌺

Treat me ~ Tip me ~ More of me

[istar-gzng]

𝑻𝑰𝑴𝑬 𝑻𝑶 𝑺𝑻𝑶𝑷 𝑮𝑰𝑽𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑭*𝑪𝑲𝑺 𝑨𝑵𝑫 𝑺𝑻𝑨𝑹𝑻 𝑳𝑰𝑽𝑰𝑵𝑮

𝑙𝑒𝑡'𝑠 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙: 𝑀𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑢𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑡𝑜𝑜 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑢𝑠 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑦. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑤𝑒'𝑟𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑎𝑚𝑚𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑟𝑦 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒'𝑠 𝑜𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠, 𝑓𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑜𝑤 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑝𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑢𝑝 𝑡𝑜 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 "𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅" 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑠𝑜𝑐𝑖𝑒𝑡𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑠 𝑎𝑡 𝑢𝑠. 𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 ℎ𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓,

𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑦? 𝑂𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑡 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑒𝑥ℎ𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔?

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑔𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎 𝑓*𝑐𝑘 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟

𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓, 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔.

1. 𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑾𝑨𝑺𝑻𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑬𝑵𝑬𝑹𝑮𝒀 𝑶𝑵 𝑻𝑯𝑰𝑵𝑮𝑺 𝑻𝑯𝑨𝑻 𝑫𝑶𝑵'𝑻 𝑴𝑨𝑻𝑻𝑬𝑹?

𝐴𝑠𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠: "𝐷𝑜 𝐼 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠, 𝑜𝑟 𝑑𝑜 𝐼 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝐼'𝑚 𝑠𝑢𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜?" 𝐶ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒, ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑏𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟.

𝐷𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑗𝑢𝑚𝑝 𝑜𝑛 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑑, 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑜𝑟 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑦𝑜 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑢𝑝? 𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑦 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟. 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑠𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑠𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒'𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑙𝑒𝑓𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

2. 𝑷𝑬𝑹𝑭𝑬𝑪𝑻𝑰𝑶𝑵? 𝑹𝑬𝑨𝑳𝑳𝒀? 𝑾𝑯𝑶 𝑪𝑨𝑹𝑬𝑺?

𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑡𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘, 𝑎𝑐𝑡, 𝑜𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑙𝑦? 𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒'𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑡ℎ: 𝑛𝑜 𝑜𝑛𝑒'𝑠 𝑝𝑎𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑠 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘. 𝑃𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑎 𝑚𝑦𝑡ℎ, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑏𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒. 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑡: 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒, 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑓𝑙𝑎𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑖𝑚𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑗𝑒𝑐𝑡. 𝑇𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑎 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑡𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒--𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡.

3. 𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑳𝑬𝑻𝑻𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑶𝑻𝑯𝑬𝑹𝑺 𝑪𝑶𝑵𝑻𝑹𝑶𝑳 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑳𝑰𝑭𝑬?

𝐷𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑜 ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟, 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑜𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒'𝑠 𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡? 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓, 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡'𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑡? 𝑇𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒, 𝑚𝑒𝑒𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠, 𝑜𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑏𝑦 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒'𝑠 𝑟𝑢𝑙𝑒𝑠 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑚𝑝𝑡𝑦. 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑠𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑠𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓: "𝑊ℎ𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑎𝑚 𝐼 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒?" 𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢, 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒.

4. 𝑺𝑻𝑶𝑷 𝑨𝑷𝑶𝑳𝑶𝑮𝑰𝒁𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑨𝑳𝑳 𝑻𝑯𝑬 𝑻𝑰𝑴𝑬. 𝑱𝑼𝑺𝑻 𝑺𝑨𝒀 "𝑵𝑶"

𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡, 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑎𝑦 "𝑺𝒐𝒓𝒓𝒚" 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓. 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑡: 𝐷𝑜𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑠𝑎𝑦 𝑛𝑜? 𝑵𝒐. 𝑆𝑜 𝑤ℎ𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑏𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑤𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑛'𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑡 𝑎 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢? 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑠𝑎𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑜 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑔𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑡, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑎𝑝𝑜𝑙𝑜𝑔𝑖𝑧𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠. 𝑌𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒'𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡.

5. 𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑫𝑶 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑪𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝑺𝑶 𝑴𝑼𝑪𝑯 𝑨𝑩𝑶𝑼𝑻 𝑷𝑬𝑶𝑷𝑳𝑬 𝑾𝑯𝑶 𝑫𝑶𝑵'𝑻 𝑪𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝑨𝑩𝑶𝑼𝑻 𝒀𝑶𝑼?

𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑡𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒: 𝑖𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒, 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦'𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑖𝑡. 𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑦 𝑜𝑛 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑔𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑎 𝑓𝑢𝑐𝑘 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢? 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑡𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒, 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠, 𝑜𝑟 𝑤𝑖𝑛 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑤𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑛'𝑡 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑢𝑝 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑖𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑠. 𝐿𝑖𝑓𝑒'𝑠 𝑡𝑜𝑜 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑟𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑡 𝑜𝑛 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑔𝑒𝑛𝑢𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒. 𝐶𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑑 𝑤𝑒𝑖𝑔ℎ, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑙𝑙 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑒𝑟.

6.𝑾𝑯𝒀 𝑨𝑹𝑬𝑵'𝑻 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑫𝑶𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑾𝑯𝑨𝑻 𝑨𝑪𝑻𝑼𝑨𝑳𝑳𝒀 𝑴𝑨𝑲𝑬𝑺 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑯𝑨𝑷𝑷𝒀?

𝐵𝑒 ℎ𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑡: 𝐻𝑜𝑤 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑖𝑔𝑛𝑜𝑟𝑒𝑑 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑓𝑒𝑎𝑟, 𝑗𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑜𝑟 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒'𝑠 𝑜𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠? 𝐻𝑜𝑤 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑢𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑜𝑛 ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑? 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 "𝑪𝒐𝒐𝒍" 𝑜𝑟 "𝑭𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏". 𝑁𝑜 𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑠! 𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜'𝑠 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑢𝑡ℎ 𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑡 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑡 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑖𝑛'𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑜𝑤 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

7. 𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑨𝑪𝑻𝑼𝑨𝑳𝑳𝒀 𝑳𝑰𝑽𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑨𝑼𝑻𝑯𝑬𝑵𝑻𝑰𝑪𝑨𝑳𝑳𝒀, 𝑶𝑹 𝑱𝑼𝑺𝑻 𝑷𝑹𝑬𝑻𝑬𝑵𝑫𝑰𝑵𝑮?

𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑝𝑢𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑢𝑝 𝑎 𝑓��𝑜𝑛𝑡? 𝑇𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑒𝑥ℎ𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑛𝑒𝑤𝑠 𝑓𝑙𝑎𝑠ℎ: 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑠𝑒𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ 𝑖𝑡. 𝐸𝑚𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑟𝑘𝑠, 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑒𝑖𝑟𝑑𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑖𝑓𝑓𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡. 𝑃𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑎𝑢𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑛 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑓𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝐿𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑠 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙. 𝑆𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 ℎ𝑖𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑖𝑡.

𝑭𝑰𝑵𝑨𝑳 𝑻𝑯𝑶𝑼𝑮𝑯𝑻𝑺: 𝑳𝑬𝑻 𝑮𝑶 𝑶𝑹 𝑲𝑬𝑬𝑷 𝑫𝑹𝑶𝑾𝑵𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑰𝑵 𝑰𝑹𝑹𝑬𝑳𝑬𝑽𝑨𝑵𝑪𝑬.

𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒔𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇: "𝑰𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒉 𝒎𝒚 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆?" 𝑰𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐, 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝒈𝒐. 𝑺𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒆𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒇*𝒄𝒌𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒕𝒄𝒉 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒓𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖'𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒈𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒐𝒄𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒔- 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇.

𝑺𝒕𝒐𝒑 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒑 𝒂𝒑𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒊𝒛𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒕.