#feminist lies

[blk-chauvinist]

Dumb b*tch logic is the gift that keeps on giving.

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

If you make your political ideas a fundamental part of who you are, it makes them so much harder to change.

When your beliefs are built into your community, your work, your lifestyle, and how you identify; when you’ve quite literally bought and worn the t-shirt, changing such opinions is much like changing your skin.

It’s difficult.

One of these stubborn ideas is the antiquated notion of domestic violence being a “gendered crime”, and that ‘the vast majority of victims are women’; with male survivors a mere rounding error.

Such an idea is not reflected in the data – which continually proves that women and men are equally violent in relationships.

Straus, Dutton, Gelles, Desmarais, Steinmetz, Whitaker, Fiebert… the world’s leading researchers line up to show us the reality of domestic violence, and we wave them away. Why? Because our sassy mug, garish t-shirt, or that savage tweet says differently.

Paper after paper, survey after survey; each is slid across the table, to show equal rates of abuse, and each is rejected like a petulant child splitting out their vegetables.

Dozens, hundreds, thousands of studies, each showing gender symmetry, have been ignored, erased or denied for decades; so as to protect the egos and livelihood of the misinformed and the malicious.

And so the truth of the domestic violence industry becomes clear…

The mission is not really to protect abuse victims, it is to protect a divisive and outdated feminist ideology, and to save face, at the cost of lives.

So how high does the mountain of evidence have to grow before we accept the uncomfortable truths it unveils?

How many sources, studies and surveys do you need?

How many lives will such people sacrifice for their own pride?

How many times will the toddler stamp its feet, whinge and whine, before quietly chewing upon what the data tells us?

The ugly but uncontroversial truth – that women can do anything a man can, and that includes being abusive.

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Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) Project: https://domesticviolenceresearch.org

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As we already know, evidence can help correct a misinterpretation, a misunderstanding, a misconception.

But there is no amount of evidence that will address a belief based on faith and ideology, because they did not come to the belief based on evidence.

Faith is not a virtue. Neither is dishonesty.

[arcenciel-par-une-larme]

you can’t even “tell a trusted adult” because you cannot begin to articulate the thousands of small transgressions you’ve experienced building to the horror of knowing your peers would like you dead.

But this ain't the only reason. It's also because "soft" bullies such as the ones you describe thrive on maximising deniability and preparing a Poow Opwessed Victim façade to have in handy if they are ever in danger of being held accountable.

The result is that daring to reach out to a Responsible Adult carries a very real danger of having your problems dismissed out of hand because "Who? Connie?? Nooooo, she would NEVER do that! It's probably all in your head" -- or even worse, the bully might well spin the story in such a way that they DARVO their way out of it and you end up in trouble instead.

What's worse, even in institutions which pride themselves on their safeguarding and ethics excellence (*cough*ChurchOfEngland*cough -- *cough*HRdepartments*cough*), the safeguarding codes in place are mainly geared against "dumb brute" kinds of abuse, i.e. very direct and difficult to conceal, and the "soft" bully not only is not threatened by any of the rules in place, but can easily leverage the system to their own advantage -- their real action is their target's reaction.

no piece of teen media has ever accurately depicted the quiet psychological warfare of bullying. bullies on TV are always dumb brutes and not the evil geniuses of emotional manipulation that they are in real life. being given a wedgie and having your lunch money stolen is nothing in comparison to a classmate quietly creating a taboo against speaking to you that they intend to enforce against all the other kids. it’s nothing like continuous cutting comments from people you thought were being nice to you. that way that the work of one kid can make you feel like every person on earth silently hates you and that you are dirty, disgusting, worthless, creepy and useless. that you can have friends but many of them will not speak to you at school for fear of the social consequences on their end. how that damage lasts in any social setting for the rest of your life

[mariejordans]

jordan being like hmmm who should i punch first and then picking the girl who betrayed emma’s trust and made her a laughingstock………..hot.

[ayaahh00]

The West often claims to lead the way in women’s empowerment, but when it comes to education, especially in STEM, the Global South is leading in that sense. In Algeria, over 50% of engineering students are women, while in Egypt, women frequently pursue higher education in fields like medicine and engineering, often surpassing men. In Palestine, even amid genocide, women remain highly educated, using their knowledge as a form of resistance. Education is deeply valued across the Middle East, where literacy rates are among the highest globally. Iran stands out with a huge percentage of women in engineering, including female leaders in university departments, even under the constraints of the Islamic regime . Meanwhile, while Western women do pursue education, a huge gender gap in STEM remains, raising questions about the progressiveness of a society that often discourages women from entering these fields. In contrast, in the Global South, families prioritize higher education for their daughters. So, why does the West continue to disregard the achievements of women in these regions?

[mzminola]

This is not a perfect analogy but I am making it anyway to try to convey what being online has been like for me lately.

Seeing people say "Oh, Jews are fine, I just hate zionists!" is like seeing "Oh, women are fine, I just hate feminists!"

Zionism and feminism are both very broad socio-political movements that have changed focus over time, that ostensibly have some very basic core tenets but you really need to ask the specific person you're talking to how they personally define it to be sure.

Both have been subject to legitimate criticism, and hostile reactionary bullshit. Had waves, sub-movements, splinters, people with damn near opposite views sharing the term and people with seemingly identical views rejecting it.

You can give working, broad definitions like these:

Feminism is the belief that all people should be treated equally regardless of gender, with a focus on women's rights due to systemic oppression.

Zionism is the belief that all peoples have the right to self determination and safety, with a focus on Jewish people finding it in Israel.

You can also give different definitions! Many people give different definitions! Many people also hold these beliefs but use different names for them for various reasons.

There are self-described zionists who are jingoistic, racist, etc, and who attribute those attitudes to their zionism. Just as there are feminists who are misandrist, bio-essentialist, transphobic, homophobic, and so on, who attribute those attitudes to their feminism.

There are also incredibly selfless, compassionate activists working for positive change in the world who consider themselves zionists and feminists.

It has been very jarring to see people, who I respect, uncritically reblogging posts or headlines that use "zionists" as a stand in for "bad people", just as jarring as it would be to see them sharing things that use "feminists" that way. Especially when those posts contain easily debunked conspiracy theories that I know you'd have seen right through if the OP said "Jews" but because they said "zionists" you swallowed it whole.

I am not asking anyone to stop sharing important information, petitions, news articles, resources, and so on. I am asking you to slow down and stop spreading inflammatory language that paints a broad socio-political movement for Jewish self-determination as inherently bad. The same way I would ask you not to spread inflammatory language that paints gender equality & women's liberation as inherently bad.

If the information is important, please look for other, more neutrally worded posts. Or verify the links yourself and make a fresh post! There is no situation online in which the only way to share information must be to spread such language.

[blk-chauvinist]

...and now, another exciting episode of, "Adventures in Dumb B*tch Logic."

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Unsurprisingly, I see a lot of conversation about the infamous ‘gender pay gap’.

A lot of opinions, and strongly held believes, and plenty of information that is not accurate, or at least… not anymore.

For the nature and shape of the pay gap has changed. And so out of the outrage, garbled conjecture, and political agendas; must come a new conversation that once again asks, ‘why are women paid less?’

Because the truth is, it’s not ‘women’ who are getting paid less, but rather ‘women with children’.

Mothers who are out of work, either full or part time, whose lower income drags the average down - they are a large piece of the conversation, too often missing.

No. Women are not paid less than men, and such slogans belong in the museum, not upon the placards of today.

Now it’s time to talk about parenthood.

To honestly discuss why mothers are paid less than fathers, and ask if this is a result of societal expectations… or women’s own free choices?

Do women want to be part time parents?

Do men? Who wants to work full time at a job they don’t even like anyway?

Do you?

We rightly talk about the price of motherhood on women; but what is the price of barely seeing your child at all?

What is the price of the late nights at work, or early morning shifts; or the second job, to make ends meet?

Also if mothers are to get equal pay, are they willing to share their parental leave with fathers in order to get it?

These are better questions.

And one’s I don’t see asked.

Instead I find the pay gap conversation to be a broken record; that redirects energy from logic and reason, into outrage and anger instead.

Yet another stick to hit ‘men’ with, another patriarchal poster child, and sermon preached from the pulpit.

It is a gap that is never closed, because it is never truly discussed.

So tell me, what’s in the gap?

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Sources:

The Economist, Motherhood Penalty: https://www.economist.com/graphic-detail/2019/01/28/how-big-is-the-wage-penalty-for-mothers

US Census Bureau: https://towardsdatascience.com/is-the-difference-in-work-hours-the-real-reason-for-the-gender-wage-gap-interactive-infographic-6051dff3a041?gi=2dc24b441466

Denmark Study: https://www.aeaweb.org/articles?id=10.1257/app.20180010

The Pay Gap Explained, full video: https://youtu.be/hP8dLUxBfsU

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What's in the gap is different choices and different priorities. It's sexist to act like men's choices are the default, correct ones, and if men and women make different choices and get different outcomes, there's a problem that needs to be solved.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18179326/

Abstract Previous research suggested that sex differences in personality traits are larger in prosperous, healthy, and egalitarian cultures in which women have more opportunities equal with those of men. In this article, the authors report cross-cultural findings in which this unintuitive result was replicated across samples from 55 nations (N = 17,637). On responses to the Big Five Inventory, women reported higher levels of neuroticism, extraversion, agreeableness, and conscientiousness than did men across most nations. These findings converge with previous studies in which different Big Five measures and more limited samples of nations were used. Overall, higher levels of human development--including long and healthy life, equal access to knowledge and education, and economic wealth--were the main nation-level predictors of larger sex differences in personality. Changes in men's personality traits appeared to be the primary cause of sex difference variation across cultures. It is proposed that heightened levels of sexual dimorphism result from personality traits of men and women being less constrained and more able to naturally diverge in developed nations. In less fortunate social and economic conditions, innate personality differences between men and women may be attenuated.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27000535/

Abstract Men's and women's personalities appear to differ in several respects. Social role theories of development assume gender differences result primarily from perceived gender roles, gender socialization and sociostructural power differentials. As a consequence, social role theorists expect gender differences in personality to be smaller in cultures with more gender egalitarianism. Several large cross-cultural studies have generated sufficient data for evaluating these global personality predictions. Empirically, evidence suggests gender differences in most aspects of personality-Big Five traits, Dark Triad traits, self-esteem, subjective well-being, depression and values-are conspicuously larger in cultures with more egalitarian gender roles, gender socialization and sociopolitical gender equity. Similar patterns are evident when examining objectively measured attributes such as tested cognitive abilities and physical traits such as height and blood pressure. Social role theory appears inadequate for explaining some of the observed cultural variations in men's and women's personalities. Evolutionary theories regarding ecologically-evoked gender differences are described that may prove more useful in explaining global variation in human personality.

[radicalmommyxx]

Idk man…I’ve literally never heard of men shaving bc their leg hair is ‘itchy’ or the hairy feeling is ‘uncomfortable’. Somehow I doubt that it’s a feeling only affects females.

[uter-us]

radfem help !!

2 of my little cousins (14yrs and 15yrs) are both girls dating boys right now, and together we are coming up with a "dealbreaker list" of things they will never put up with from their bfs! and also we are including positives, like so they aren't just looking for the absence of bad things, but actual positive things

what do yall think are the most important things to add? (i put extra info in tags)

Thank you so much!!!

[bitchthefuck1]

Rewatching succession it really is wild to see Kendall and Shiv convince themselves over and over again that they can "fix ATN/Waystar from the inside" only to completely abandon their morals the minute it gives them a strategic advantage.

When they're on the outside it's an endless diatribe about how evil and rotten the company is to its core, but the second they get the slightest whiff of power they suddenly decide the problems are actually really manageable and that with the right leadership it could be a force for good, and like...the saddest part is that they genuinely seem to believe that.

[communistkenobi]

whenever you open an academic article about gender and the author only uses the word queer and never mentions trans people specifically it’s gonna be a shit fucking article

[zishuge]

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[isawthismeme]

[selkie-on-land]

I realised something today about the wonderful gender oppression forced on girls. 🥰.

I have never been told that lying is morally wrong.

I was told lies are ugly on a girl, it's not pretty to see a girl lying, you're a girl it makes you ugly if you lie, etc.

I shouldn't lie not because it's wrong (except if you are trying to survive), I should not lie because it makes me a girl ugly, and obviously my whole purpose as a girl in the world is to be pretty.

My grandma used to tell I don't like liar girls while looking at me. In random moments, I knew it was for me to suddenly came out ALL the lies she imagined I've done but it never worked because I never quite understood what she meant, why she said those things. After a few, I realised it wasn't just her, just every allistics are ''communicating'' like that. If you can call that communication.

Now that I'm thinking about this, she said those things when I wasn't behaving like the perfect servant in pink bows that I was supposed to be. And apparently, my ''boyish'' behaviour were the signs that I did something bad so I was hiding it and lying. I was just trying to survive a an autistic in a allistic world and as a girl in a boy and man's world.

The worst thing is she's also autistic but had internalised so much of the oppressor that she became one.

She changed through years, now she's a complete different person but still.

[blk-chauvinist]

"Women don't need men?" Too bad women don't think beyond their beliefs to see the Big Picture. Let's look at how much men "aren't needed...."