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LOL there is already an acronym for the trans inclusive radical feminist, it's libfem. You'll be proud and glad to know that it includes everyone, no one is excluded in this group. Rapist, pedocriminals, men in general are also included with love and obedience from the libfem. The libfem group is for the not all men and I'm not like other girls. 🥰

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Jenny Bloomfield. Cats in the Meadow.

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Men that claim they don't watch porn are exactly the same that claim they never raped.

In their mind :

porn = extreme violent sexual torture. What is not porn = erotic movies, lesbians, teens categories etc. So obviously if they only consumed teen, step father/daughter, lesbians porn etc in their mind they are not watching porn and they don't belong to the category of ''bad'' guy that does that.

Rape = a stranger, in a street, at night, holding a knife on the throat of their victims. So obviously every other scenario are not rape through their rapist sick head.

So obviously as they are not doing that, they are good guys, not rapist and not watching porn.

So please, every time a man says he is not a rapist, or he doesn't watch porn, remember that it is ALWAYS a lie.

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I hate, I hate, I hate with my whole body how it is so normalised, common and seen as something completely fine and Banal how grown men can have access to teenage girls. They are sexual predators, pedocriminals, groomers and yet no one bat an eye at how they behave and their targets.

At first I was about to precise in my country, but unfortunately, this worldwide, not just in my country, even tho my country is known to offering asylum and protection to pedocriminals and groomers (Allen, Polanski, Depardieu etc).

I hate how it is absolutely accepted by everyone! Like not just the culture or government, but the people too.

No one. Not a single person, adult, caregivers, caretakers, family members, anyone, told me about it when I was a child, a teenager or a young adult. No one. No one warned me about older men, about men and boys in general I would even say. But it's more than that, I wasn't told that if someone older wants to touch me it's not okay, I mean I wasn't even told that no one have a right over my body, it was quite the opposite actually. But what I mean is that, when I was 19 I was groomed by a +33 years old man, my mum tried to warn me about possible physical violence (he was a bodybuilder) but she never mentioned anything about his age. And even after I managed to escape from his abuse, she kept inviting him to her/our house so he could do physical task for her as my abusive step father never did anything. At that time I managed to convinced her to finally dump him and she did ! That was a win ! He was abusing her and me since I was 4 ! But my groomer was THAT old that he thought my mum was having an affair with him!

The parents of my best friend loved him too, they didn't even said anything about his age too. But is it really surprising regarding how they did nothing for my best friend? Absolutely not. When I met her, she was 14-15 years old (I was 15-16), and her first love was a boy named David, it's been a year or two since they were together. I was shocked to learn that this boy was actually a grown ass man of 36 years old !! And that the parents knew him and didn't see anything wrong with the relationship (including sexual acts) of their 12-13 years old daughter with a dude of 34 years old !!! No one in the entire family see anything wrong with that !!

And those are typical parents, I mean not really, they were less abusive than the average parents. That tells a lot about how the pedocriminal culture we're drowning in is massive and normalised.

This is making me sick !! Like literally sick to my stomach!

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Yep ! You summarise perfectly what men and boys are.

Men who hate cats in preference of dogs often use this argument: "If you die in your house, your dog loves you so much that he'll lay down and die with you out of depression. If you die in your house with cats, they'll just eat your dead body."

This is so telling of men's psychology. First of all, I don't know if any of this is true about cats or dogs, but if it's true then I say GOOD FOR CATS. That shows to me a strong survival instinct, and what do I care if they eat my body after I'm dead? What kind of person who loves their animal friends would prefer that they lay down and die just because their guardian died?

Men feel this way because just like with women, they believe that their animal companions have no purpose or identity outside of their service to them. Look at the old Hindu practice where women used to have to burn themselves alive on their deceased husband's funeral pyre; the wife's very existence was considered null and void if her husband was gone. She may as well just die! Look at the way a woman's identity exists within her father's identity before marriage, then she's handed over to her husband and is swallowed up into HIS identity, and then look at the stigma that divorced women (unattached to any male) have compared to divorced men...not to mention women who are considered unfit to be of service at all to a man, like those they deem unattractive.

To men, this is all one. "Everything exists to serve me. Those who won't bow to me (cats and unruly women) are worth less than nothing, and any animal that would not just choose to cease to exist after my death is inferior to one who would."

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Wonder Woman my Icon ⚔️

Justice League Unlimited, Hawk and Dove (S01E04)

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take me to the moooon 🐄👽🛸

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And yet, my entire life doctors told me :

- It's normal for you to faint every day, to be weak, it's in girls nature to be this way.

Then it was :

- It's normal for you to faint every day, to be weak, it's in teenage girls nature to be this way, you just can't handle the hormones that's it.

And then :

- It's normal for you to faint every day, to be weak, it's in women's nature to be this way.

I was fainting multiple times a day EVERY DAY. Not a single doctor, nurse etc ever considered that I could have a health issues even tho I was the only girl in school to be ''this way''. Turned out I have multiple disabilities that made me passed out, loses consciousness or even fall into a coma.

Yeah you read correctly, I was told it's fine and normal for a girl to fall regularly into a coma because girls are weak. 💀

But the irony in this is that, yes now, I'm very weak (I permanently lost +80% of the ability to use my muscle) but I was so strong my entire life. Every month I was having the same or worse apparently, contractions than in labour but it didn't last 24 to 48 hours, it was an entire week. Every single months for years. I'm autistic in a miserable allistics world, and I had to pretend that I wasn't autistic or disabled because it made abled people uncomfortable etc. And having to hide your struggles, to hide your pain, having to perform every day is fucking tiring and demanding. You can't do that if you're not strong.

I was disabled, but I was so strong. And yet I believed them when they kept repeating me that I was born to be weak because I was a girl and then a woman. I did not believed in myself. I should have.

They truly hate us.

Seeing the female body associated with weakness and fragility is so weird. Only a bit of research will show you that women have better endurance, greater agility, and not only have longer lifespans than men, but are also more likely to survive in extreme conditions like famines and epidemics. Women are built for survival, endurance, and longevity, and there's nothing weak or fragile about that.

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Aww 🥰 she's having so much fun 🥹

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I always saw this quote ''trauma it's your fault but it's your responsibility to heal '' used to blame victims of male violence, especially in the militant/new generations. It goes usually with this bs ''if you don't work on healing you're just a an abuser and a predator exactly like men are ''. But it's the same rhetoric and literally same sentence that ''if you don't report/press charge on this abuser, you're just a an abuser and a predator exactly like men are. And if they abuse someone else, this on you not on them. '' and they usually goes hand in hand. Like every time I've seen someone said/wrote one, they always have already said the other one too. And it's always said in response to a woman testifying/open up on her abuse.

It goes hand in hands with this one too ''you're an abuser to share your abuse like that. You're literally traumatising and abusing everyone who is going to read you. You're not a feminist/victim you're just like any man. You should be ashamed of yourself and fix it before damaging every woman that you speak to. This is just trauma dumping and this is very wrong, this is an abuser tactic. ''

Until now, I was too emotional/triggered to think about that in an analysis process because I have a lot of cptsd from those types of response when I tried to talk about some of my abuse. And it deeply traumatized me to the point where I'm now unable to open up about any of my abuse except if the subject is already opened up. Even in therapy btw, because I'm deeply convinced that if I do I'm going to abuse my therapist.

To the point where I'm wondering if all three are not actually the same thing or part of the same thing. Maybe that thing has a name, but I can't find it. If you do, please, I would gladly know it!

I think that this is victim blaming but in a very specific manner, that seems to be different than the one usually spread, and maybe silencing victims voice but I don't know it feels like I'm missing something ? I thought about DARVO ? But darvo is used by an abuser on his victims not from an external source, right? Or maybe I don't know enough about it.

I received this type of comments/abuse from younger and my own generation (90s), never from an older one. And I mostly received this in space made for speaking out your abuse, like Call for testimonies for this or that violence, in every single ''feminist'' space ivl as irl.

Even now, here, I'm not comfortable with writing this down because I was always also assaulted when I was calling out this type of behaviour so it's very sensitive for me. It's been half an hour since I'm spiraling into anxiety to post or to delete everything. I know I shouldn't feel that way. I know that this is wrong. I'm wrong I know. But it's eating me from the inside. Why ? Why am I struggling like this, usually I don't, I don't even care of what people might think of what I wrote. But here I'm just freezing because I know, statically, it's absolutely certain that I'm going to be assaulted and abused if I click on the reblog button and I don't want to be assaulted or abused. So the only way to be sure I won't is to not post this. I hate myself for just such pity like I feel like I'm exactly what they refer to when they talk about victim personality that self pity etc. Oh fuck off Anna and post it anyway!

Edit : it lasted 4 hours. I had to put in private because I was (and still am) in a big anxiety attack and autistic meltdown due to the pressure and anxiety of waiting to see when the assault I'm waiting is going to happen. (Also waiting mode from my autism). I hope I will be able to let it that way and won't have to delete it. Also wish I could just let it be as all my other post. But obviously I'm too traumatized by women in ''feminist'' space for that.

crazy how trauma isn't your fault but it's your responsibility to heal.

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dumblrweed is so right for this !

HEAL BY EXPRESSING YOUR RAGE ! 🥰

What @unsentimentaltranslator said Reminded me of this : are you depressed/having PTSD or are you suffering from a systemic oppression in a cruel world dominated by your oppressors ?

Like for example that being autistic in an allistics world is inherently traumatising. There are actually scientific studies about that but I wonder why there are no studies about how it is inherently traumatising to be a girl and a woman in this man's world. 🙄

crazy how trauma isn't your fault but it's your responsibility to heal.

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THIS 👆 I hate the passive voice made to protect men and never hold them accountable for their crimes!!

Reminder that it's not just something that was far away in the past, this is actually the lives of our grandmothers ! We are the first generation of women ''able'' to own something that belongs only to ourselves. First to buy an apartment or a house without having a male name on the paper first. Even it's still a huge struggle since they prefer couples where there is a man because he has a more steady job and a higher budget since they are still the dominant. But still we are the first generation of women to grasp this autonomy since thousands of years! I don't think people realise that.

“women used to marry young and have a lot of children” VS “men used to marry women when they were still little girls and force them to be pregnant and give birth their whole life”.

“in the past women didn’t get education” VS “in the past, men stopped women from getting education and excluded them from all cultural spheres”.

“muslim women must wear hijab” VS “muslim men force muslim women wear hijab”.

“in this country, abortion is illegal” VS “men in this country made women getting abortion illegal”.

women’s oppression doesn’t happen by itself. women’s oppression isn’t passive. there is an oppressor class that actively chooses to oppress women, and the oppressor class is MEN.

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This is exactly the type of cats that @jun-hug draw

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This drawing made me realise that actually I love the comfort zone and I would like to go back into it. Also that I must draw more tigers.