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Neurodivergent is an umbrella term for ANY neurological ways of functioning differently than the norm. It's very very wide. It's include psychology, neurology, neurodevelopmentals disorders, brain damage ... I get it, once we got one, yes we are more tend to have others as they usually are comorbid to eachother. BUT there is absolutely NOT A SINGLE THING that can be called a neurodivergent trait, symptoms or anything. IT. DOES. NOT. EXIST.

There is no ND friendly or whatsoever. This is not even possible within the TND community because both the needs for autism and ADHD contradict eachother! Something that is friendly for one will be unfriendly to the other!

Even I, who got a lot of different types of those disabilities (autism, ADHD, dys disorders, ocd, cptsd, osdd, epilepsy, brain damage du to stroke to name a few) I can't even imagine or think to refer to my disabilities as just this crappy new trendy word. It's the ''i'm not like other girl'' type of word. And if I need to say that I'm disabled without wanting to elaborate on what disabilities I actually have/am, I would just say that I'm disabled. It's enough and it's more taken seriously.

I'm negative towards the word itself, I hate how it's commonly use. Oh and this also include the term neurotypical. I think I hate this one even more!!

I'm so sick of the people referring to ND when they actually just refer to autism and consider the two as synonym. 🙄 And specifically when they use autistic Vs neurotypical when they actually meant allistics which is not the same word and doesn't target the same group of population!

Neurotypical is the new ''cishet'' ''whitecishet'' while neurodivergent is the new Q-slur word trendy in the libfem and trans community.

I'm not kidding, I've seen a lot of teenagers who choose to identify themselves as ND because they feel quirky. They usually also identify as Q-slur, it usually goes hand in hands.

for people with a permanent neurological/neurodevelopmental disorder: how do you feel about the term "neurodivergent"? bonus, would love to hear other reasons for disliking/liking it and what you consider to fall under neurodivergent

*no additional options pls <3

-positive, use for myself

-positive, but don't use for myself

-neutral, okay with using

-neutral, prefer not to use

-negative, it's too vague

-negative, dislike the neurodivergency paradigm/framing

-negative, both of the above or for some other reason

-something else/nuance

Sorry I know you said no additional options but I have to add "I don't have one"

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[selkie-on-land]

Another day, another "unforseen" abuse against women.

Cambridge gave a village in northern India a bunch of drones and spy cams to watch wild life. And surprise, surprise: men immediately used it to film women using the bathroom in the forest and sharing it online. They buzz them with the drones while they're gathering lumber and food and it intimidates them out of singing and communicating. This leaves them more vulnerable to animal attack and is literally getting these women killed.

There's no neutral item that can't be turned into a weapon when men have hate in their hearts.

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Yes multiple applies that I can put in two different categories.

First I got Anorexia then Bulimia and then hyperphagia (the last two were tight together). I'm glad that I've recovered from those but there is the other one that I have since birth and will still be/have until I die which are Oral feeding disorders. I have arfid because of my autism and Swallowing disorder because of my hypermobile elher Danlos disorder and those are also classified as eating disorders.

Do you currently, or have you in the past, struggled with an eating disorder? Yes, restrictive eating/dieting Yes, binging/overeating Yes, something different No, never

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Men want womankind to suffer from collective stockholm syndrome. A woman with stockholm syndrome is what men consider a "good woman".

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Life is good… by sosni

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Self diagnosis is okay. We all have heard about self diagnosis autism but for weird reasons, well no let's be fair, for ableist reasons it's only when it's about autism that it's not okay. Especially from allistics.

The allistics that screams and cry a river if an autistic person is not professionally diagnosed but they don't have a problem if they do it too. If they are the one doing it, it's perfectly fine and not even seen as self diagnosis!

Example : everyone is self diagnosing themselves a cold, Flu, gastroenteritis etc.

When allistics does this, it's not even considered to be something significant enough to have a name or label on it.

But if an autistic person does this then they are evil attention seeker.

This is typical ableism, autismophobia, misogyny and classism.

It's because we as humans recognise what we are going through, and that what we are going actually is something significant enough to be named that we can and do seek help from other. It's not a bad thing, and also it'd literally a human trait. It's thanks to this natural behaviour that we continue to exist and adapt as a species. And not just human, it's something that ALL the living being are doing.

If you don't understand why this speech of ''self diagnosis autism is not and never valid'' is deeply harmful and discriminatory (I'm guessing you're not a radical feminist if you believe this) I will develop it :

It's ableist and autismophobic because the only exception where it's apparently fundamentally wrong and evil to do so it's when it's an autistic person doing it.

It's misogynistic because of the medical misogyny where the female body is not study or even considered worth to be included in all the medical and health industry, studies, fields. The average age for autistic girls to be diagnosed is in their fourties at most. And not because they are finally by some sort of miracle considered as human beings but because their boys/sons are diagnosed and it's suggested to be ''tested'' because it's genetic. While the average age for boys to be diagnosed is before the age of 7. And autism is a neurodevelopmental and hereditary disorder. Meaning it's there since the beginning of the formation of the nervous system and the formation of the brain. It's already autistic before even being a baby. A lot of autistic women are even diagnosed in their GERIATRIC YEAR! When a lot of autistic men are diagnosed AS BABIES !!! And as the usual, like for ALL the medical conditions, the only trait, aspects, symptoms etc that are teached, studies etc are the one of the male bodies. That's why girls and women are dismissed in medical care, why girls and women are dying of late stages cancer because it's labelled as stress or female condition instead of cancer, that's why we are having heart attacks and stroke also dismissed and even denied because we don't experience similar symptoms and because we are just seen as dolls so we obviously don't have a physiological body.

Also because in my country (France) the ARC (Autism Resource Center), there is one in every state, you can't go to a center from a state you don't live in, there are here to assess autistic person, they are supposed to be the most updated about autism. There are the main specialists, and there are part of the institutions (not sure it's the proper way of saying it, we have universal health care and it's similar to the hospital, it's included). And you know what? More than half of them are denying access for girls and women. MORE THAN HALF OF THEM FORBID THE ENTRANCE OF THE CENTER TO GIRLS AND WOMEN. They also are not updated and have knowledge as if they were still stuck in at least the 1990's for the most updated ones.

It's classist because it coats A LOT of money and ressources. If you can't go to an ARC, there is still the liberal psychiatrist and psychologist, but same shit. They are deeply misogynistic, classist, elitist, ableist as hell. The psycho have more knowledge, they are usually the one that would have formation about autism but since they are not doctors they cannot diagnosed, so they are the one that are doing the assessment and tests, they then does the pre diagnosis (if there is one) and then you have to find a doctor that recognises autism as something real (yes this is where we are in France, Belgium and Switzerland), if you are lucky enough to find one, after some time maybe, the doctor can confirm the analysis of the psychologist and it's then called a diagnosis. Even though most the time they don't even have the slightest formation about autism they have no idea of what is written in the analysis. And ALL of this process is extremely expensive. Only the psychiatrist are covered by our health care system and even if you are covered and don't need to pay, as +85% of them are bourgeois and rich, they are not accepting the insurance you have and will force you to pay them 4 times or even more what you were supposed to pay. And this is IF they tolerate that you are poor and grant you an appointment, which is also extremely rare as more than half of them turn you down the minute they learn about your health insurance covered by the government because you are too poor to have one otherwise. This is just the appointment, all the multiple tests and analysis can coast thousands of euros each appointment. And since we are already disabled we are extremely poor and vulnerable (unless born rich).

So yeah, unless you're extremely wealthy and a boy, having an ''official'' diagnosis is almost impossible.

So the only option left is self diagnosis. And thanks to this we can accommodate ourselves and stop damaging our brains trying to force ourselves to be something we are not. Because yes, being forced to mask, being abuse your entire life for what you are at your core, and sexually abused if you're a girl, cause brain damage. PERMANENT brain damage.

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take "valid" to mean that the person can speak on their experiences as an autistic person, speak on accessibility as a disabled person, etc., with the weight that someone professionally diagnosed can. And that they otherwise should be treated the same way as someone with a diagnosis when possible (accommodations).

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[selkie-on-land]

This is real!!

When we are talking about how consent can be bought, bend etc and that we should talk about desire instead, we all suddenly understand the meaning of the matter but when we have to apply it to specific context suddenly all the feminist theories that we are supposed to all know, are gone. Like the conversation never existed before.

Example: Lesbians are like every other females, they can consent to anything, as consent is not desire. There are not just straight or able women and girls who are trafficked or in pornoprostitution.

I don't know the etymology of the word in English but in french, the definition of consent is literally coercition, and yet it's praised by everyone and especially ''feminist''. And it's sickening. Like it's not even a hidden meaning or some sort that require a long analysis process.

Consent :

Definition : agreement given during a legal act, giving in under pression, free act of thought by which one fully commits to accepting or accomplishing something, not offering resistance

Synonyms : give in, submit, deign, condescend to, resign yourself, resolve, tolerate, surrender, capitulate, conform, let yourself be done, accede to

Antonyms : defend, resist, protest, oppose

Usually the verb consent is only used in legal contracts, consent in this definition is an absolute and total acceptance of the terms agreed in the contract.

This is literally the opposite of a relationship born from a free and enlightened mutual desire.

So for all the so called radical feminist who claimed that if a woman consent to something she actually desires and wanted this to happen to her, any form of abuse, you will have to deal with your internalised misogyny. Because this is just victim blaming AND this is also the classical liberal feminism rhetoric. This is literally the argument of choice and individual Vs systemic oppression. You cannot be a radfem if you think and believe those things.

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Curious to know how many radfems answering these polls are autistic?

Professionally diagnosed as autistic

Self diagnosed as autistic

Not diagnosed but suspect I am (planning to get a diagnosis)

Not diagnosed but suspect I am (not planning to get a diagnosis)

Not autistic

Not a radfem/results

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Yeah that's also what I responded to her that it was linked to the drag fetishisms porn images of female. (Chappel Roan)

Wow 😳 I've absolutely NO IDEA! I never seen any of those in all the research for pictures I've looked into ! This is disgusting ! 😩

Not gonna lie every time I’ve seen this woman she seems to have a motive to make herself the biggest object of the male gaze possible. The thing is, young girls are following and listening to her. Shameful.

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Please start on Chappel Roan! It's not talked about enough!

Not gonna lie every time I’ve seen this woman she seems to have a motive to make herself the biggest object of the male gaze possible. The thing is, young girls are following and listening to her. Shameful.

[selkie-on-land]

@ichverdurstehier what do you mean ? like as she's a lesbian she don't validate male so she performe pornography for them ? Because if it's that I don't think so. First, any girls or women exposed to pornography, no matter her sexuality, tend to adopt this behaviour, it's part of the grooming. Like for example, Sabrina is straight and she's doing it too. It's a different type of grooming, more pedocriminal culture but still grooming and pornography. And second, I'm not sure of the ''validate male or to please them'' because both of them have a majority of female audience and fans. Thirdly, I think it might be because of her tights to the drag community. As we know that there are just fetishising the pornography representation of women and girls. And this is what she's doing too.

But maybe that wasn't what you meant, and maybe it did answered your questions. Let me know :)

Not gonna lie every time I’ve seen this woman she seems to have a motive to make herself the biggest object of the male gaze possible. The thing is, young girls are following and listening to her. Shameful.

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@vvitchscvm-deactivated0666 I'm sorry I'm confused, I'm not sure how to understand your last reblog. Especially the last part, Are you saying that it's something that is only said ivl and would never happen irl ? What I was told from lesbians (both non gold star and gold star) was said to me both irl and ivl and from different age or social class or country.

i have goldstar in my bio because i am tired of everyone making fun of that word and of lesbians who use it as if it was a crime not to have had sex with a man, but at the end of the day i do not believe that only goldstar lesbians are real lesbians and i never will. you people need to start wondering why you believe that straight and bi women can be coerced into sex/relationships by men even though they aren't attracted to them/don't want to be with them and have sex with them but don't believe that it can happen to lesbians too. we're not immune to male violence or sexual assault, we're not immune to rape by coercion, we're not immune to abuse - especially given the homophobic society we live in that will do everything to push us in men's arms. you people have to wonder why you understand that prostitutes do not consent to the sex they're having with sex buyers and do not enjoy it (even when they pretended to at the time) but don't understand that a lesbian who has been with a man did not consent to the sex she's had (or did so because of homophobia which isn’t real consent) and did not enjoy it (even when they pretended to at the time). you people have to wonder why you understand that homophobia, internalized homophobia and a homophobic society can lead people to be dysphoric, to identify as someone of the opposite sex, to go through life changing surgeries and hormones and so on, but don't understand that homophobia can lead lesbians to try to be with men. i could go on forever because there are many examples, but i think my point is clear. you people have to wonder why you do not treat lesbians the way you treat other women.

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This is controversial within gold star lesbian circles, but I actually do believe lesbians can be bullied and coerced into acts with males, but they cannot be bullied or coerced into actually having attraction or actively wanting to get with males. Obviously I’m talking about young girls and women who are in the stage of their life where peer pressure is highest here. Peer pressure cannot change innate sexuality, but it can force people to do things they don’t want to. I’ve noticed this is one thing that many fellow gold star lesbians don’t take into account, not all young women and girls may have the strength to cope with the bullying or coercion we face from peers, and may feel like they had no other choice to try and stop the bullying and harassment, but they do not, and never had or will have, any attraction to males. This is different from women and girls who got with men to just “give it a go” or “try it to find out”, such is obvious bisexuality. The difference is did you actually want to? Or were you coerced/pressured?