#sex based oppression

[erebusvincent]

[labrysdyke]

i cannot for the LIFE of me fathom supporting islam. even in judaism and christianity, while tainted by misogyny, the religions have evolved to "modernise", and i can see why a woman may not feel oppressed identifying under either. but nearly ALL muslims are so extreme. forced modesty. forced hijab. no touching men. ALL of this is enforced at the base level of islam! disgusting, and i hope all women oppressed under these conditions can escape and begin to heal.

[kayunscripted]

Y’all love to say that “trans people have always existed!” “there’s historical evidence of trans people!”

Okay, that’s fantastic, I love that. But if that’s the case can you stop making women in history trans?

Hatshepsut*, Joan of Arc, etc.

And every time it’s simply because they wore “men’s clothing”. Do y’all not realize how that’s, like, misogynistic and promoting gender roles? Or do you just not care? And do you not care that you’re ignoring the REASON for them wearing male clothing?

And with that, stop making it seem like trans people are the main ones who gave/fought for LGB rights.

Stop “transing” people and events in history and instead talk about trans people who did things for the trans community, trans people who made contributions in history and have accomplished amazing things.

[theangryman]

One person was banned almost immediately.

The other person was not banned until they made another post revealing that they were posting videos of their partner.

One person was harassed and bullied and told that they were lying.

One person was given advice, told about how they could improve their situation.

This is why kink is not safe. There is more compassion and kindness for someone who admits to wanting to kick their partner in the face than there is for someone who has received that treatment.

[crestiliafem]

Something that I've seen some radfems say about men's behavior is that they believe it's in their nature (as males) to behave as viciously as they do. This is said to explain that males can't be rehabilitated.

I believe this is wrong, using this logic we can say it's male nature to hurt, to rape, to murder, and to feel no remorse, they can't help themselves. Is that a feminist take?

Is it feminist to say that men can't help but hurt? That it's in their biology to hurt? Then why do we get mad at them for doing it? Why is it bad for them to do if it's just in their biology to be remorseless killing machines?

If it really is in their nature, why don't they hurt other men to the extent that they hurt women? If it really is in their nature, why aren't men raped and murdered by other men as much as women are?

Males and females do have biological differences, a lot, but we don't have different brains. Certain parts of our brains have evolved to function differently due to a history of men and women having different responsibilities and expectations, but we don't have different brains, we don't have different instincts.

Men kill, rape, and hurt, to feel power and to assert dominance in their own sick way, they humiliate with intent to humiliate, and it absolutely is not in their nature to do so, to imply otherwise is un-feminist. Men are as human as us, they are capable of experiencing the same empathy, the same love, the same care, they don't because of socialization and an active choice not to, say it how it is.

You can believe men can't be rehabilitated, but do not for one second believe that men are naturally violent and vicious, this does nothing but justify their horrid and inhumane behavior towards women.

[she-is-ovarit]

"Allowing girls as young as nine to marry", The Standard can fuck off with the phrasing of this headline.

Iraq passes law allowing men to legally marry and rape girls as young as nine.

Under Muslim and male supremacist rule women and girls in Afghanistan and Iran completely lost all of their human rights, and this is currently happening in Iraq.

[mikasasrippedtoenail]

Profanity and Misogyny

"Motherfucker", "cunt" , "bitch", "Whore" etc. are words that are so commonly used in colloquial language that one almost forgets the nuance attached to them. In almost every language there exist a myriad of swear words that refer to the degradation of the female vagina. A woman's sex is seen as her badge of shame and if she has control over her it then she has become astray from the path of the virtue.

"To insult a man, you insult his woman". I remember awkwardly shuffling in my seat, getting very uncomfortable when male peers would call each other "motherfucker" or "cunts" so casually. A woman much older than them was reduced to her sex, a tool to insult their friends. My sex- the organ that I was born with- was a sign of weakness. If you are meek or a coward you are a "pussy". In my language, I could never find the word equivalent of vagina, for it was too sexualised to use in society. Before I was even old enough to understand the workings of my body, a organ that I had been born with was left redundant to its function to please a man-villified by porn.

"Fuck" is seen as an insult because men consider sex a defiling act that takes away the dignity of the woman. Another misogynistic implication is the term "deflowering"; having sex takes away her innocence. After sex, the woman is not a human to them but a "cunt". The sexual paraphernalia of a woman is associated with purity. There is such a huge emphasis that is put on the concept of virginity, because it brings control to the patriarchal society over a woman's autonomy.

The sexual liberation of 70s was brought as a rebellion to these norms- young women were groomed into thinking that sex is empowering. Hookup culture also emerged as an aftereffect of the sexual liberation. The politics of a woman's sex is argued all day while the male penis remains as a neutral organ despite having been a tool to oppress women.

Sex is a completely neutral act of pleasure that is neither degrading nor empowering. However, this statement would only exist in a vacuum. Men use sex as a form of violence upon women-rape is a political tool. For women to take back control of their sexual autonomy, they must acknowledge the politics of sex-or lack thereof. Selectively choosing whom you are having sex with is the first step.

I implore everyone to stop using degrading profanities that have misogynistic connotations. When others around me --especially men-- use these swear words, I ask them why their insults always involve a woman to be degraded and humiliated. Not acting as an accompalice to patriarchy, not keeping quiet against the patriarchal violence and spreading word against misogyny is the best silent mutiny.

[slimegargoylee]

Vintage Beauty 💜

[kayunscripted]

wow radfem spaces are the only true female-exclusive spaces left. And people hate it because it doesn’t include males. How do yall not see that as misogynistic??? 😭

[brownwomanisland]

My country don't even have trans stuff to the level of the UK and USA but my social media is inundated with celebrities pretending sex-based oppression doesn't exist. It's gonna be pretty embarrassing for them all in 10 years time to see them all walk back those stances.

[lady-lani-1707]

I think at some point, womankind equated the idea that looks serve as proof of their humanity and moral righteousness. Internalised it, memoralised it, worshipped beauty. Now you could say men also face beauty standards, but women will always be their intended and main customers for every fad and trend. Our bodies are not just bodies but political measures. Countrymen love proclaiming that women in their countries look the best or might be offended if women marry outside of their culture and race. They covet their women like resources. When birthrates fall, the blame is shifted onto women to encourage them to have children. Thinness does not count if you attained it through medicinal means, and women who get plastic surgery are still not seen as valid. This all brings me to my one point.

The reason that beauty is so important is because it's a sign of obedience. Seems a stretch, but when I link it back, it makes perfect sense. This is why other means of fitting the standards like makeup, surgery, and medicines like ozempic are all seen as invalid. It's also why influencers fight so hard to keep the lie that they had no modifications to their appearance through unnatural means. It's not just about the looks. If it was, then society would pressure women into taking all sorts of harmful medicines and surgeries, and women would proudly name every single thing they had done without hiding it. It's about that coveted title of being "natural."

Natural means perfect. It means submission and obedience. Going through the agonising hunger pains to look skinny at all costs, spending time and thousands of dollars funding industries that pump out billions of useless devices and mystical serums that promise to fix skin problems and weight issues. Or toiling hard in the kitchen collecting dozens of so called natural remedies and trying to concoct your own ticket to acceptance from society. As if the goalpost isn't constantly being moved to unachievable means. The point is for you struggle and never make it.

That is the true point of it. To keep women distracted, to keep them weak, to keep them firmly under the heel of men and lost in the never-ending trends. Anytime progress is made like the #me too, #man vs bear, #4B movement it's quickly washed away taking the focus from womens suffering at the hands of men to another celebrity drama or hot new aesthetic trend.

The beauty industry is an obedience measurement, a conformity tool, it's the blinkers blindsiding the mare that keeps us trotting gleefully in tow of what the patriarchy wants.

There is nothing more rebellious, than not playing their game.

Take care of your health and physical capabilities - the less you worry about beauty, the more beautiful you become, in terms of your skills and talent. I'm not saying don't take care of yourself but don't aim for perfection - aim for a healthy and happy body that works for you.

I know it's hard, trust me, I know. Start small, feel comfortable as yourself. Don't let yourself get trapped in the never-ending cycle of trends and aesthetics.

Beauty is not an indication of a good person. Your eyes are for seeing, your nose is for smelling, your mouth is for eating, your hands are for feeling, your ears are for hearing. Your body is a myraid of organs,cells,chemicals, and systems upon systems who aren't working with beauty in mind - but health. Remember that.

You were not born to be beautiful but functional. Resist beauty and advocate for health.

- Lani, your Lady

[kayunscripted]

I’m so tired of having this conversation man, if you care SO MUCH about gnc women and intersex people and what bathroom they can go into; ADVOCATE FOR 3RD SPACES SINCE YOU CARE SO MUCH

(btw: gnc people go into the bathroom of their assigned sex… they’ve been doing so for years… that has not changed)

[certifiedsexed]

Genuine question, since the term sex based oppression is used to only refer to sex assigned at birth and is a popular TERF talking point how would someone discuss oppression that is linked to specific body parts and bodily functions, like periods, birth, lack of access to gynecological care, doctors refusal to sterilize anyone with a uterus without a husband's consent and the like?

Well, it definitely depends which of those you're specifically talking about!

Issues like lack of access to gynecological care, pregnancy care and periods fall under reproductive health and are heavily based in misogyny, which are both terms you can use.

There are also forms of those that fall under transmisogyny, transphobia and intersexism as well but just generally, reproductive health and misogyny work well.

As for doctors' refusal to sterilize "anyone" with a uterus, that's also heavily based in misogyny and part of reproductive care discrimination but I'd also like to point out doctors don't just refuse to sterilize "anyone" with a uterus.

It's not as much talked about but a lot of disabled people and a lot of non-White people [specifically Indigenous people in colonized lands] are encouraged to get sterilized, or even sterilized without consent as a form of eugenics. It's far more common than you'd think, unfortunately.

What terms you use can vary depending on the issue but reading up on things like trans and intersex inclusion in politics can be really helpful if you're trying to figure things out!

Hope this helps, Anon. Let me know if you have any other questions! <3

[kayunscripted]

I wish y’all hated misogynists and predatory men the way y’all hate women who are kinda cringe or annoying on the internet 💔

(Ex. my beautiful queen Laurenzside, “millennial cringe” videos that just so happen to be women having fun, “astrology girls”, teenage girls in general…)