#sex based oppression

[selkie-on-land]

THIS 👆 I hate the passive voice made to protect men and never hold them accountable for their crimes!!

Reminder that it's not just something that was far away in the past, this is actually the lives of our grandmothers ! We are the first generation of women ''able'' to own something that belongs only to ourselves. First to buy an apartment or a house without having a male name on the paper first. Even it's still a huge struggle since they prefer couples where there is a man because he has a more steady job and a higher budget since they are still the dominant. But still we are the first generation of women to grasp this autonomy since thousands of years! I don't think people realise that.

“women used to marry young and have a lot of children” VS “men used to marry women when they were still little girls and force them to be pregnant and give birth their whole life”.

“in the past women didn’t get education” VS “in the past, men stopped women from getting education and excluded them from all cultural spheres”.

“muslim women must wear hijab” VS “muslim men force muslim women wear hijab”.

“in this country, abortion is illegal” VS “men in this country made women getting abortion illegal”.

women’s oppression doesn’t happen by itself. women’s oppression isn’t passive. there is an oppressor class that actively chooses to oppress women, and the oppressor class is MEN.

[theangryman]

One person was banned almost immediately.

The other person was not banned until they made another post revealing that they were posting videos of their partner.

One person was harassed and bullied and told that they were lying.

One person was given advice, told about how they could improve their situation.

This is why kink is not safe. There is more compassion and kindness for someone who admits to wanting to kick their partner in the face than there is for someone who has received that treatment.

[redditreceipts]

[she-is-ovarit]

"Allowing girls as young as nine to marry", The Standard can fuck off with the phrasing of this headline.

Iraq passes law allowing men to legally marry and rape girls as young as nine.

Under Muslim and male supremacist rule women and girls in Afghanistan and Iran completely lost all of their human rights, and this is currently happening in Iraq.

[mikasasrippedtoenail]

Profanity and Misogyny

"Motherfucker", "cunt" , "bitch", "Whore" etc. are words that are so commonly used in colloquial language that one almost forgets the nuance attached to them. In almost every language there exist a myriad of swear words that refer to the degradation of the female vagina. A woman's sex is seen as her badge of shame and if she has control over her it then she has become astray from the path of the virtue.

"To insult a man, you insult his woman". I remember awkwardly shuffling in my seat, getting very uncomfortable when male peers would call each other "motherfucker" or "cunts" so casually. A woman much older than them was reduced to her sex, a tool to insult their friends. My sex- the organ that I was born with- was a sign of weakness. If you are meek or a coward you are a "pussy". In my language, I could never find the word equivalent of vagina, for it was too sexualised to use in society. Before I was even old enough to understand the workings of my body, a organ that I had been born with was left redundant to its function to please a man-villified by porn.

"Fuck" is seen as an insult because men consider sex a defiling act that takes away the dignity of the woman. Another misogynistic implication is the term "deflowering"; having sex takes away her innocence. After sex, the woman is not a human to them but a "cunt". The sexual paraphernalia of a woman is associated with purity. There is such a huge emphasis that is put on the concept of virginity, because it brings control to the patriarchal society over a woman's autonomy.

The sexual liberation of 70s was brought as a rebellion to these norms- young women were groomed into thinking that sex is empowering. Hookup culture also emerged as an aftereffect of the sexual liberation. The politics of a woman's sex is argued all day while the male penis remains as a neutral organ despite having been a tool to oppress women.

Sex is a completely neutral act of pleasure that is neither degrading nor empowering. However, this statement would only exist in a vacuum. Men use sex as a form of violence upon women-rape is a political tool. For women to take back control of their sexual autonomy, they must acknowledge the politics of sex-or lack thereof. Selectively choosing whom you are having sex with is the first step.

I implore everyone to stop using degrading profanities that have misogynistic connotations. When others around me --especially men-- use these swear words, I ask them why their insults always involve a woman to be degraded and humiliated. Not acting as an accompalice to patriarchy, not keeping quiet against the patriarchal violence and spreading word against misogyny is the best silent mutiny.

[certifiedsexed]

what does that post mean by implying sex-based oppression doesnt exist?

More than implying it didn't exist, the post was saying, straight up, that believing in sex-based oppression is transmisogynistic, which is true. It's a very popular TERF term and a generally historically bigoted term and idea even outside of that. Though, to be fair, it also, by definition, is not real.

[To be clear, the general definition of sex-based oppression is oppression based on what sex you were assigned at birth.]

Misogyny, or sexism, isn't a sex-based oppression, which is generally what people are talking about when using that term. Misogyny/sexism can get mixed up with derogatory language and behavior towards people for being "female" and such, but it has much more solid weight tied up in gender than sex.

Sometimes bigotry surrounding reproductive health is referred to as "sex-based" oppression but it really doesn't fall under that either. Needing reproductive healthcare can apply regardless of sex, including needing an abortion.

Implying it's specifically an "AFAB" issue, which is what "sex-based" is supposed to mean the majority of the time, isn't just intersexist but transmisogynistic as well, especially since the bigotry surrounding reproductive health is largely misogynistic in nature.

You could argue intersexism could fall under some definitions of sex-based oppression but intersexism is about much more than just what sex you're assigned at birth and can, in fact, only be apparent long after birth so it's kind of really limiting to try to squeeze intersexism under that definition, in my opinion at least.

The term has generally been used specifically to be extremely transmisogynistic, intersexist and racist, to the extent that it's more than a bit of a dogwhistle. And, as I mentioned, doesn't actually exist.

The idea of it still has a good amount of weight in some circles but it's really not an actual type of oppression, it's just a vague idea based on a shitty understanding of feminism and a massive push for anti-intersectionality.

Hope this helps, Anon! Let me know if you have any other questions. <3

[dykeiism]

i feel inclined to differentiate between "reasonable rights and accommodations that should be given to trans people" and "blatant attacks on women's rights." i'll go as far as to say that most radical feminists will agree with me on most of these points, so if you want to learn about what radfems actually believe, this is your chance.

reasonable rights and accommodations for trans people:

equal opportunities for employment and housing

access to affordable and high-quality healthcare

transparent, unbiased, and publicly accessible research & meta-analysis done on the short- and long- term risks and benefits of gender affirming care

outlaw all forms of conversion therapy. outlaw gender exploratory therapy unless the patient is able to give informed consent. enforce strict science-based regulations on the therapeutic methods used

freedom of expression (i.e. the ability to dress however you like, and to use a preferred name)

widespread implementation of co-ed and trans-only spaces

legal protection against harassment and assault

these are all things that i, and many other radical feminists, wholeheartedly support. we also believe that trans people, like everyone else, deserve dignity, respect, sensitivity, and kindness from the people around them. what i'm seeing more and more of in recent years, though, is that the trans movement is no longer focusing on the aforementioned human rights. instead, i see an overwhelming about of trans activists making unreasonable demands that infringe on the rights of women. the demands are as follows:

the right to enter women-only spaces based solely on gender identity or expression (this includes shelters, prisons, locker rooms, and sports teams)

the ability to access medical transition as a minor under any circumstances, or as an adult unless other treatments have proven unsuccessful beforehand

widespread use of language that destabilizes women and female people as coherent groups that are also in need of rights

deplatforming anyone who criticizes the movement, no matter how polite, respectful, good-faith, or reasonable the criticisms are

i support the trans movement that advocates for the human rights of trans individuals. however, i cannot support a movement that allows males into women's spaces, that is medically irresponsible, that makes it impossible to discuss women's rights, or that opposes intellectual freedom. i don't think any feminist can support this in good conscience.

[femanthropy]

I want all victims of rape to say “Madame Pelicot did it, so we can do it, too.”

[museumofferedophelia]

Just some TiMs casually fantasising about humiliating and raping feminists and lesbians.

They say they "don't feel safe," around radfems, while imagining ways to demean and humiliate us.

This is why we want spaces where we can avoid rape and abuse fetishists. This is why we don't want to be exposed to males in environments where we should be protected.

Stay safe out there guys.

[redditreceipts]

me trying to telepathically transmit female class solidarity to this person:

[fembrie]

honestly, rape is not illegal.

if your chances of being convicted of rape are less than 1% (given that it was even reported in the first place), if the chances of a rape victim seeing justice are the equivalent of winning the lottery, you cannot argue society treats rape as a crime. rape is a man's right under a patriarchal system of justice.

[caitlinjohns77]

[certifiedsexed]

Genuine question, since the term sex based oppression is used to only refer to sex assigned at birth and is a popular TERF talking point how would someone discuss oppression that is linked to specific body parts and bodily functions, like periods, birth, lack of access to gynecological care, doctors refusal to sterilize anyone with a uterus without a husband's consent and the like?

Well, it definitely depends which of those you're specifically talking about!

Issues like lack of access to gynecological care, pregnancy care and periods fall under reproductive health and are heavily based in misogyny, which are both terms you can use.

There are also forms of those that fall under transmisogyny, transphobia and intersexism as well but just generally, reproductive health and misogyny work well.

As for doctors' refusal to sterilize "anyone" with a uterus, that's also heavily based in misogyny and part of reproductive care discrimination but I'd also like to point out doctors don't just refuse to sterilize "anyone" with a uterus.

It's not as much talked about but a lot of disabled people and a lot of non-White people [specifically Indigenous people in colonized lands] are encouraged to get sterilized, or even sterilized without consent as a form of eugenics. It's far more common than you'd think, unfortunately.

What terms you use can vary depending on the issue but reading up on things like trans and intersex inclusion in politics can be really helpful if you're trying to figure things out!

Hope this helps, Anon. Let me know if you have any other questions! <3

[fadedelegance]

It’s not women’s responsibility to coddle men. This isn’t 1950 for fuck’s sake.

I am ALWAYS tired when I come home from work, as well, but you know what? I don’t expect anyone else to have dinner ready for me. I scrounge around in the kitchen, or I pick up a frozen dinner and heat it up when I get home. The point is, I take care of my damned self BECAUSE I AM AN ADULT.

Both men AND women work long hours.

I know you’re tired, but fix your own goddamned dinner. You think your partner isn’t also tired? Why is it one party’s—usually the woman’s—responsibility to make dinner for the other when they come home from work after a long day? Why can’t they just relax after they make own individual dinner? What if your partner is still at work when you get home? Do you just sit around and pout until they come home and whine about them making dinner?

Be an adult and take care of your damned self. Or if you come home at similar times, share the responsibility. Cooking together could even be a source of bonding.

I can NOT with how society is regressing.

BTW, this is also an indictment of capitalism. People shouldn’t have to work that much so that they are coming home with barely even any energy to do things like make their own meals, only to barely stay afloat financially. I believe in the 6-hour work day, living wages and salaries, and a 4-day work week.

Archaic gender roles and capitalism are both putting strain on relationships—both romantic and familial. Hardly anyone has work-life balance anymore because all most people fucking do is work.

But this is about the 12th time this week I’ve thought “I hate men. I don’t have time for them and their sexist bullshit, nor do I have time for women who have internalized that sexist bullshit.”

God damn it, I’m tired.

[rhisthings]

I Poured Acid On My Wife's Face

https://youtu.be/2xYhNNH2HsM?si=atAUJzVn20ON4UAW

"'She was wearing clothes that were the latest fashions... it's better to either kill yourself or kill her." This Pakistani man burned his wife with acid because of her choice in fashion. "

These poor women.

[femanthropy]

“Sex essentialist!!!!”

Okay, “uterus haver, ovary owner, bleeder, pregnant person, front hole” believer. You got me there fr.