#Sources: been there survived that.

[arcenciel-par-une-larme]

you can’t even “tell a trusted adult” because you cannot begin to articulate the thousands of small transgressions you’ve experienced building to the horror of knowing your peers would like you dead.

But this ain't the only reason. It's also because "soft" bullies such as the ones you describe thrive on maximising deniability and preparing a Poow Opwessed Victim façade to have in handy if they are ever in danger of being held accountable.

The result is that daring to reach out to a Responsible Adult carries a very real danger of having your problems dismissed out of hand because "Who? Connie?? Nooooo, she would NEVER do that! It's probably all in your head" -- or even worse, the bully might well spin the story in such a way that they DARVO their way out of it and you end up in trouble instead.

What's worse, even in institutions which pride themselves on their safeguarding and ethics excellence (*cough*ChurchOfEngland*cough -- *cough*HRdepartments*cough*), the safeguarding codes in place are mainly geared against "dumb brute" kinds of abuse, i.e. very direct and difficult to conceal, and the "soft" bully not only is not threatened by any of the rules in place, but can easily leverage the system to their own advantage -- their real action is their target's reaction.

no piece of teen media has ever accurately depicted the quiet psychological warfare of bullying. bullies on TV are always dumb brutes and not the evil geniuses of emotional manipulation that they are in real life. being given a wedgie and having your lunch money stolen is nothing in comparison to a classmate quietly creating a taboo against speaking to you that they intend to enforce against all the other kids. it’s nothing like continuous cutting comments from people you thought were being nice to you. that way that the work of one kid can make you feel like every person on earth silently hates you and that you are dirty, disgusting, worthless, creepy and useless. that you can have friends but many of them will not speak to you at school for fear of the social consequences on their end. how that damage lasts in any social setting for the rest of your life

[jedi-starbird]

fellas. fellas. listen. qui-gon does express affection towards obi-wan, he just does it in the divorced dad way.

that's his love language, despite never having been married, divorced or had a kid.

[sergle]

yall are about to piss me off by not having any PASSING basic knowledge of the way the u.s. military manipulates its recruits into joining by typing up one of your uninformed, unresearched, unempathetic, individualistic, unbelievably annoying posts about how 100% of the people in the military ended up there because they just Love America So Damn Much! they're extremely mature and informed at time of recruitment, they can totally leave anytime they want, they totally had tons of other avenues in life they could've taken, there was no rush at all to get income as fast as possible, and everyone in the military also totally is part of the combat divisions and personally enjoys being IN the military very much, big believers of violence. everyone in the military is shooting guns all day, that's how that works. they LOVE BLOODSHED. also I love the "amewicans haha" twang to this type of shit because you're actually TOTALLY stealing our Thing, which is turning systemic issues into Individual Issues. Instead of talking about the powers that be, it's so Personal Choice up in here. It's, "well you shouldn't have done it then. I totally wouldn't because I know better." you don't wanna talk about the military industrial complex as a whole, and you don't want to talk about recruiters, you just want to pin the blame on Specific Individual People one-by-one, as if they're responsible for the system that they're being ground up in. someone was in the military? bad person, no matter what. it's easier to believe that, I guess, than to acknowledge that Normal People (with high school educations) are manipulated and incentivized into joining a system that is Bad. at like age 18. but yeah no that 18 year old should have just been smarter lol haha anyway here are some screenshots for no particular reason

side note this reply of someone going "umm just get loans and go into a high paying field it's easy XD" as a direct response to someone trying to explain how most americans joining the military are being funneled in that direction out of a need for money.

and another person who Decided that americans join the military just CLENCHING their teeth thinking of other people, and not thinking completely selfishly about their own selves and their own income/housing/healthcare.

[faithinlouisfuture]

*devastated*

[mollysunder]

If the first season was about Jayce getting pulled every which way by his allegiances to those closest to him, then next season will be about Viktor doubling down on his isolation and refusing to listen to outside opinions. Viktor's already on the path for that. Viktor would have never gotten as far as he did in a society that's as hostile to Zaunites and the disabled as Piltover is if he didn't refuse to listen to the opinion of others. It's largely been in his best interest to disregard avoidable rules and social conventions because they otherwise barred him from not just advancing in society but participating in it in general.

But now this defense mechanism will only serve to further push him from others as he crosses morelines. Sure Viktor will be able to do some good with the hexcore and even gain followers, but a cult isn't a reliable source of criticism, it's an echo chamber to reinforce your beliefs. Viktor's true resolution will be allowing someone, maybe more than one, to tell him to pull back and he actually listens.

Tldr: Mr. "If you want to change the world, don't ask for permission", needs to learn life is a team project and nothings wrong with a little peer review.

[fromtheseventhhell]

The worst part of the GOT and HOTD adaptations is that they remove any sense of narrative or themes being explored from George's writing. The showrunners rewrite characters and change plotlines on a whim and remove any sense of cohesive storytelling. There's just...literally no point to the story and the writers struggle to come up with sensible explanations for the changes they've decided to make.

[weregonnabecoolbeans]

I miss tech.

[facedock]

yes i used ai to make a facedock song no i'm not sorry yes i also set it to clips and made it seem way more dramatic than these two have any right to be no i'm not sorry about that either

[unnamed-atlas]

Finally finished sweet tooth s3. Having incredibly mixed feelings

[slashernipples]

In me heart, Killer Frequency has like, 8 movies, 2 failed reboots, and a tv miniseries.

[silverlininghills]

[habitual-creatures]

Me, at all the askers, likers and sneaky-sneak stalkers, etc of this blog:

(( /p obvs! ))

Sorry! I'm gonna get super mushy and emotional for a minute, guys.

(( ps. I get really mushy in the tags... so... yeah. cheese warning I guess for my emotions, haha? ))

Y'all give a fair amount of purpose to my life, and I would not have been as overall okay as I am right now if it weren't for this blog.

Y'all have partially SAVED ME.

This BLOG has partially SAVED ME.

Honestly, it's been helping me more than I think anyone other than ME would really know.

[mariocki]

Inspector Morley, Late of Scotland Yard, Investigates: The Case of the Scarlet Letters (1.3, WGN-TV, 1952)

"Mr. Mullins, I have in my possession sixty-eight letters, none of which has begun to outlive its usefulness. I'm quite prepared to admit that blackmail is risky, but then murder has its disadvantages too - that is why I gave up murder."

[casual-eumetazoa]

sorry i disappeared for multiple months the darkness got me

[jessaerys]

the only meats i buy from the grocery store nowadays are cold cuts from a brand that's certified humane but this week i got a little bit of pork for the cats (as a treat) and i got sooo sooooo sad thinking about how smart pigs are and how cruel the meat industry is. and although i don't think there's anything wrong with eating meat from animals that have been humanely raised it dawned on me like a brick to the face that becoming vegetarian is inevitable

[untitledgoosegay]

i don't wanna what-about which is why i'm not saying anything on the post but it is. i dunno. weird to me that the armenian genocide is the only anatolian genocide that people mention -- the ottoman empire & (later) turkey also attempted genocide against anatolian greeks and (til) assyrians during the same period (~1913-1923)

i only heard it called the "greek and rmenian genocide" when i was younger, it wasn't until later that i realized that's not the common usage