#no one is perfect

[lucelute]

Recently, I read @jules-ln post about Mel and Jayce's relationship. And if you read this, thank you. Love the analysis because it's true. Mel was acting throughout the relationship in the way she was used to dealing with people, as it was not only her family; after all, she is a politician of a high-class family even if she was sent away. 

The environment and expectations made sure she learned to manipulate and use people to get what she wanted or needed, and there was no one in most of her formative years to give her an emotional safe space where she didn't need to play mental games. 

As much as I like Mel, thanks to her upbringing, way of looking at the world, and the influence of high society, she approached the situation as best as she knew, with hidden intentions and subtle manipulations. It doesn't make her a bad person, but a relationship built on hidden intentions doesn't tend to last, especially when they never have a chance to talk realistically and honestly. 

And yes, people may dislike the comparison of Viktor's relationship with Jayce when talking about Mel's relationship with Jayce, but even when you see JayVik as platonic, it helps put in context why the relationship of Mel and Jayce would not have worked in the long term.

Viktor was, for lack of a better word, a menace and a freak. He, as Jules said, saw Jayce's dreams, his willingness to stand for them, and his dedication, and he decided that they matched his own, that his research could have been used for good without caring what would have happened to his own life with complete honesty and, to a point, devotion. 

Jayce went about his relationships with honesty and devotion. Mel and Viktor were his two close relationships, but all the time he spent in the cave replaying, thinking, and analyzing his relationships also put them in context, and while the fandom likes to portray Jayce as a himbo character that is dumb, he is not; he is a smart man who got carried away by the relationship and all that was happening, and as much as you may like Mel, she did used him, maybe not with malice, but used him nonetheless, and the context make him notice that.

Liked or not, he saw that between his two closest relationships, one came with more honesty and trust, after all, even as the MH! Viktor always trusted Jayce, and that doesn't mean Mel didn't trust him, just that she couldn't fully do it for her upbringing and/or didn't know how.

Their relationship wasn't meant to last, but in a way, it was good for both of them and the audience. In any other show, their issues would have been brushed aside as it didn't affect them, but it did. They learned from it, weren't mad about it, grew as people, and were mature enough to know that while they still cared and held affection for each other, the relationship had run its course.

You don't have to hate a character to point out their flaws, just as you shouldn't ignore them because you love them. As I stand, I don't hate Mel, but she made mistakes and ultimately grew because of them, not despite them, and that is why I like her.

[twopoppies]

This isn’t really a question, more of a comment, and I consider your blog a safe space to share it: It seems like there’s a consensus in some part of the fandom about Harry, where people assume he was planning his solo career since 2013, that he betrayed the other boys, and that being ‘the chosen one’ by Sony, the Azoffs, and everyone around him has made his life easier. Because of that, people think he doesn’t deserve any sympathy and that he’s to blame for everything. I used to think this way at one point, too.

Now that I’m back, looking at things in retrospect and trying to understand a few other things, I realize how limited (and I’d say harmful) that perspective is. Here, I’ll add a disclaimer: I’m not denying that Harry had an advantage over the others, or that he made mistakes, etc. I’m just trying to understand things better within the context they happened in.

So, it’s 2010, Harry starts in the industry at 16, and from the start it’s clear he’s a pretty domestic, naive, quirky, friendly person with a big heart. And on top of that, he’s physically attractive. Put all those traits together, and you’ve got the perfect target, your moneymaker. You’ve got this young teenager who’s perfect to draw in a huge female audience. So, what do I do as a smart and evil businessman? I decide to milk him for all he’s worth and make more and more money from my new asset.

Now fast forward to late 2012-early 2013. You’ve got a closeted Harry, clearly sad and exhausted from not being able to love and live freely, and from the workload. Then he meets Jeff. What does he do as the son of one of the most successful managers in the industry? He applies what he's learned, sees the potential in this kid, and offers him what he wants most—not just money and more fame, but something way more valuable: freedom.

Add to that, apparently, everyone wants to be your friend because you’re the new hot thing, everyone ‘advises’ you, everyone wants something from you. But most of all, you have a lot of people whispering in your ear about what to do or not to do, and you don’t know who to trust, so you trust those who, even though they’ve asked for something in return, have given you protection and promised you freedom. Those who make you feel safe and have protected your relationship.

Suddenly, you’re in the media more and more, meeting really interesting famous people, but at the same time, the closet gets tighter, the physical separations get longer, and everything becomes unbearable. You just want to be at peace with your boyfriend and make music. And you can’t take it anymore. And then, there are probably other, much more personal things he was dealing with.

What I’m trying to say with all this is that just because Harry was ‘the chosen one’ from the start doesn’t mean he had the best time of his life while watching his bandmates suffer. Just because he has a smile on his face most of the time doesn’t mean we know what he’s feeling. We don’t know him personally.

I know Harry’s in a different and better situation now than when he started. I know he has more control over some things (or at least I hope he does), and I think that’s because he learned from what happened in the band. He literally said he only started processing a lot of things from that time in 2020-2021.

To wrap this up, I just want to say they were all really young when they started, and I can’t even imagine what else they went through. I'm 24 and I still don't know how to deal with a lot of things. I’m just tired of people comparing their suffering and judging based on that.

I know exactly who you’re talking about with that framing of Harry’s story. The person who started it is a bitter ex-larrie and it’s such nonsense (as you very clearly lay out) but they’ve amassed a big following and that side of the fandom has festered into a nasty cauldron of hate.

Harry’s ability to make everything look easy, and to appear as though he’s weathered his trauma without any lasting damage, makes him a target to people who are angry at the level of critical/financial success he’s had.

Instead of just accepting that he was given more opportunities because people in power saw more potential to make money off of him (for whatever host of reasons), and he had the talent and drive to run with it instead of being crushed by it, they’d prefer to paint a ridiculous story about him being evil, corrupt, talentless, and unsupportive of his bandmates.

Oh, and also, anything good ever said him is due to NDAs and Jeff buying articles praising him. 🙄

[homosherb]

“we need more complex female characters!!”

y’all can’t even handle season 2 caitlyn kiramman

[dovewingkinnie]

you.. you you understand me.. we all need an evil doctor..

real

i need one to take care of me like i am his special creature his special little heeby deeby

[hersheysmcboom]

RACISTS. MUST. PAY

[sirenum]

I've been wanting to ask, are you a native English speaker? Because I read your posts and you have quite a few of spelling and grammar errors. Not enough where it's unreadable but it's something to take note of.

Damn mate you could of just messaged me privately but so everyone is on the same page

I am sorry if this comes off rude or honestly really damn blunt.

People aren't always going to catch grammatical errors or spelling errors. I use google to double check my spelling for the most part but even sometimes I mess up

If it is still readable I do not really see to much of a reason to bring it up. I mean hell my roleplay partners don't even say boo to me about it?

If you have a issue with my writing then just unfollow me? I do my best ?

I also type really damn fast and tend to never really catch things along with the factor when I do catch things I use what autocorrect suggests and sometimes I don't double check

if it is intelligible then YEAH defiantly ask me what the hell I am saying but

If it isn't causing issues and the point is still coming across then it's not to big of a deal.

I Just A) Suck at spelling B) I do my best C) Type way to fast that my brain cannot actually catch up a lot of the time D) Use Google to spell if I notice a error E) SHOCKINGLY am a NATIVE English speaker but ya know mentally ill in a lot of ways I do not talk about. F) I spell things out G) I do try to re-write things if they do not make sense but to me H) I work a lot so I am also really tired a lot of the time when I am doing replies or writing + Also mental health man

People can just up right SUCK at spelling and I am far from perfect. that's why I don't have rules saying that you gotta spell pitch perfect because I am FAR from that

there is a MULTITUDE of reasons someone isn't pitch perfect with spelling.

Some people can grow up with the "spell it how it sounds " way .

there is learning disabilities that people do NOT admit to

there is the trick of the brain where it sounds like that is how something is spelt etc

EVEN NATIVE English speakers are not perfect.

At the end of the day this BLOG welcomes everyone regardless of how their grammar is , how their punctuation is etc

AT the end of the day : I am here for a FUN time NOT a LONG time

[paceypeternathanslawyer]

I don't feel like people call JJ out for the mistakes he makes as much as they should. People say that everyone was such a bad friend to JJ in S4 but friendship is a two way road. What did you expect them to do? Ignore their lives and only pay attention to JJ? Did you expect them to wrap him up in a blanket, coddle him and act like everything he does is fine because he's got a shitty father? I'm not saying that they were always the best friends but neither was JJ. JJ betting the last of their money and then blaming everyone but himself was a bad friend move. Again friendship is a two way street and you can't expect everyone to be perfect friends if you don't treat them in the same way.

Like I think the way he talked to John B after he found out that John B was gonna be a Dad was truly terrible. JJ knows that John B's fears is that he will become like his father and instead of encouraging John B... he puts him down. And I'm not saying that John B can never be called out but this is different. It would be different if John B was acting like his father and JJ called him out for it. That could be construed as encouragement. JJ is just being a mean drunk in that scene. He finds that his bro is gonna be a Dad and instead of being nice and encouraging he tries to make him feel as bad as he feels. And I'm not saying that John B is always perfect but as John B's lawyer I must defend him. John B does not get enough slack. Had it been John B saying that shit to JJ ya'll would have absolutely crucified him. As is John B is given such a hard time by fans. Chase Stokes is also a really underrated actor. The emotion he is able to put even in the smallest lines or scenes is insanely good. And then he also slays the big dramatic scenes like when Sarah almost dies for instance.

JJ is generally a ride or die friend and I don't believe he would have said those things if he weren't drunk as a skunk. But it bothers me that he would have even thought that because John B is gonna be an exceptional Dad and it makes me sad that JJ may have made him doubt himself for even a second. I feel like JJ can be a mean drunk at times. Pope is like a funny and sweet drunk. For instance that scene in 4x03 where they're all partying and drunk and Pope astutely realizes that John B is insecure and he makes a point of encouraging and telling him that he won't be like his Dad. JJ is very ride or die but Pope is an underrated friend. The way he can be such an emotional rock for his friends. And then also the scene when he finds out that Sarah is pregnant. Pope does point out how ill equipped they are right now (because they're broke and stuff) but he also says it's fine "because they will help them". Now that is an encouraging way to respond.

[brainrotcharacters]

lmao when church is saying you shouldn't have anxiety but Ryan Reynolds uses his anxiety to be compassionate with his children's own

[zarahisannoying]

bored of being bored

[darkpoeticsoul]

[scoldingdarjeeling]

Going commando, freeballing it, or we die like men...

I treat my work like a living document, constantly making running edits. It’s been a long-standing part of my work ethic—and tradition—to share drafts that are 98% done and let people in on the thought process behind building a story. What gets cut, what sticks.

Writing is a culture that needs to be cultivated, and inviting others into that space means being open to both learning from and teaching others. I detest the elitist mindset that only perfectly polished work deserves to be shared or celebrated. It’s neither inclusive nor realistic. Frankly, it's an impossible standard—and one that does more harm than good. It erodes fandoms.

Let’s bring back openness, tolerance, and humility.

And if I may say it: I have a sneaky suspicion this kind of gatekeeping is a Reddit thing. The irony is that these self-proclaimed experts, so quick to judge others’ work as unworthy, rarely have anything to show for themselves. You won’t find them posting fanfics and exposing their labors of love to public scrutiny.

So I say—write that shit. Share that shit. Post that shit. Especially all of you writing in your second, third, or even fifth languages. Keep that shit up! How lucky we are to live in a world overflowing with content, made possible by the fact that so many of us are multilingual.

[superstarthusfar]

Hi a skinny girl here to say…

BIG GIRLS AND BOYS AND PEOPLE ARW CUTE!!! YES YOU!!! THE CHUBBY, THE CHUNKY, THE FAT!! MORE TO LOVE!! MORE TO SNUGGLE!!!

[hammill-goes-fogwalking]

THIS IS NOT PRETTY.

this is not natural.

the human body is not build like this naturally.

this should not be the new average women body standard

don't punish yourself or get complexes because you don't look like a porn star

a healthy, natural body is much prettier

[fangomango]

It's always

"He's a criminal"

"Hes the bad guy"

"He's old as shit"

Some people just have flaws and I don't mind that

[lunar-skylar]

I would honestly like to see more of the Potters (Fleamont and Euphemia) not being portrayed as these absolutely perfect parents and people, with little to no flaws.

Let them have flaws. Let them be good parents, but not the best people, or not as progressive as others would have believed. They’re an old couple, I want to see them struggle with understanding or accepting some things, like homosexuality, or maybe they’re classist. I want them to be ignorant of things. I want them struggling to come out of their old ways, out of their little box of things they were raised around and were taught. You know?