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a big lesson for me was learning that most things are not as fragile as I’d believed. missing a class, or turning in a bad assignment, won’t instantly destroy your professor’s opinion of you. accidentally saying something harsh won’t make your friend want to end the friendship. it takes work to repair these things - it takes effort and research and sometimes a sincere apology - but you can do that because they’re not irreparably broken. what you’ve worked to build, in academia and in relationships and in life, is stronger and more enduring that your mind may teach you to believe. don’t let imagined fragility lead you to giving up
#in some rare cases someone will react dramatically to a small failure#it’s very very important to understand that that is about them#it is not about you#and environments that condition you to fear small missteps are neither healthy nor productive#but in most cases things are not so fragile#also this is a follow up to the credibility post#because your credibility will not break if you miss a day#it’s all stronger than you think#academia#study tips#studyblr#study inspo#study motivation#productivity#personal#text post
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The Fear of Losing Someone: Recognizing and Managing It

It can be devastating and immobilizing to fear of losing someone you love. Anxiety, insecurity, and even physical symptoms are some of the ways that this fear, which is frequently based on deep emotional ties and prior experiences, might show themselves. To keep one’s relationships strong and oneself in good health, one must learn how to control this fear and comprehend its underlying roots.
Reasons for the Fear of Losing Someone:
Previous Events Past losses — whether from divorce, death, or separation — can have a long-lasting effect. A dread of losing someone in the future may be brought on by these events.
Attachment Styles: being afraid of failure is more common in those with anxious or avoidant attachment styles. They could have trouble trusting people and worry about being abandoned.
Codependency: The fear of losing someone can become unbearable when one’s value is dependent on them. Excessive concern and control behaviors are frequently the result of codependency.
Strategies for Overcoming the Fear of Losing Someone
Recognize Your Fear: Recognizing your fear is the first step towards conquering it. It might increase tension and anxiety if you ignore or deny it.
Seek Professional Assistance: Counsellors and therapists can assist you in identifying the underlying causes of your fear as well as in developing coping mechanisms. Our knowledgeable coaches at MeetCoach are here to help you along the way.
Establish a Support Network: Make sure you have understanding and reassuring friends and family around you. Fears can frequently be made to seem less intense by talking about them.
Practice Mindfulness: You can lower your anxiety and relax your thoughts by practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing exercises. For more advice, visit our blog on mindfulness techniques.
Put Yourself First: It’s Critical to Look After Your Emotional and Physical Health. Take part in enjoyable and relaxing activities, such as hobbies, physical activity, and time spent in nature.
Dispute Negative beliefs: Often, illogical beliefs are the source of fear and failure. Dispel these ideas by concentrating on achievable goals and uplifting statements.
Conclusion
Though normal, the pain of losing someone you love need not take over your life. Relationships can be strengthened and maintained by comprehending the reasons behind this anxiety and putting management techniques in place to deal with it. Recall that you are not travelling alone on this trip. Visit our MeetCoach blog for more tools and assistance.
#stress#consultation#united states#fear of abandonment#Fear of losing#Fear of losing someone#MeetCoach#Online Consultation#health and wellness#wellnessjourney#mental wellness#love relationship#uncertainty#being afraid of failure#fear and failure
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Funger
been into fear and hunger lately and kinda playing it like a single dad simulator, here's me and my daughter geeked on that dungeon opium
i'm on insta as @/cekyat2003 that's my tag, i'm not that active though
#funger#fear and hunger#ragnvaldr#girl fear and hunger#girl fear and hunger sounds like a trope like girl failure girl dinner#fear and hunger fanart#funger fanart#digital art#my art#artists on tumblr
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the day i get rid of my crazy fear of failure and my procrastination, it will be over for you all.
#college#education#school#academia#note taking#student#study aesthetic#study blog#study inspiration#study motivation#i should study#literally i have an exam in like one week#university student#study tips#architecture student#study notes#studyblr#studyinspo#studyspo#academic validation#chaotic academia#light academia#dark academia#fear of failure
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he could finally be just yours completely
#fear and hunger#darce cataliss#legarde#funger#fanart#funger fanart#darce youre such a girl failure#being in love with a twink? GIRL GET UPPP#lowkey relatable though
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thinking about Lucanis again (always). and how so much of his narrative boils down to the theme of "control". and of course also about how this applies to the Rook x Lucanis relationship.
like the first scenes with him in the game are, in theory, about freeing him from the Ossuary (although he seems to have an escape attempt already in progress at the time, they certainly weren't just letting him keep those knives on him for enrichment purposes, Rook just provided an opening/distraction he could take advantage of and crucially Rook has A Way Out of the whole place not just a cell). but ACTUALLY the purpose it to put him right into a new contract for Us, one set up by his own grandmother and first talon no less, and the person he has the MOST trouble saying no to. He's escaped torture and the Venatori for sure but he still isn't free, which I think is part of what leads to Spite's confusion/the Inner Demons plotline. He agrees to the contract but you can tell it's in many parts out of a sense of duty/mourning vs something he actively wants to do for himself. And then the FIRST real heartfelt conversation you have with him, where he tells you "even before I was captured, my life was not really my own. So much had been determined for me." But he's chaffaing at that! He thinks "to live truly is to live fully" and so directly tells you he doesn't think he's lived a life true to himself. He's been constantly smothered by the weight of expectations around him, even though he longs for more.
And then once you get him to the Lighthouse you see how this Big lack of control in his life comes out as all these smaller frustrations. He's terrified of sleeping and downing 11 cups of coffee per hour because sleeping means he will lose control to Spite, even though Spite is shown to flee rather than fight when he feels threatened, and once calmed down, is more drawn to just benign curiosity/mischief than anything actively malicious. Like if Lucanis loses control and sleeps for a few hours he is not going to wake up surrounded by bloodshed, he's going to wake up to a belly full of candle wax because he wouldn't like Spite taste one while they were awake. Which is the other half of this--he constantly denying Spite's impulses for reasons that in some ways make sense (HE doesn't want to eat candles), but not in a way that's actually satisfying to either of them (why not just take a bite, chew for a bit, and spit it out so Spite knows they kind of suck actually?). But he CAN say no to Spite and so he does. Over and over. Spite's one of the few people he can deny things without feeling bad about it, because it's HIS body he doesn't like that has to share now (<- this is what he thinks about it at first anyway, but he's wrong, it's both of theirs and it's useless to try to hold those kind of boundaries forever. but the "no its mine" spiteful instinct is very beautifully ironic and reflective of them both and their early relationship).
And personally I think this is where his fear of his own desires and intimacy is coming from, at the root. I don't think he's afraid of the concept of being in a romance or having feelings (even if they're unusual and rare for him, this is by no means incompatible with him being demi) but I DO think he is afraid of the kind of power it gives people over you. Getting something you want means there's something else that can be taken away. Admitting your desire means the other person has the opportunity to deny that. The more you have, the more you have to lose, and he has lost again and again and again in his life--his parents, his childhood to the crows, his independence, even his future--he doesn't aspire to be first Talon but he knows the rumors. He knows his grandmother wanted it for him, not Illario. His life path has been laid out for him by others and up to this point he has simply been going along with it anyway, even though it bothers him. He COULD argue and fight Caterina and push for Illario who actually wants the job to be First Talon instead, but from The Wigmaker Job we know he doesn't. He just ignores it and pretends maybe it won't happen, without him having to do any of the work. Which is why in the end Illario is the one who has to make a move about it (and even warns Lucanis of this!!!!). Lucanis KNOWS all this makes him a target but is neither taking charge or getting off of the train tracks, just closes his eyes.
And I think THIS context is what makes the almost kiss scene in the pantry make more sense to me. Rather than being afraid of having feelings (and then NEVER addressing this in game with a Rook who pursues him anyway) or not knowing how to finish what he's started via crow seduction training, it's more like this is a pivotal moment where he can actively choose to step off the planned path of be given a job -> kill the gods -> enact revenge -> go home. even if he doesn't at that point realize that a relationship with Rook could be something that lasts long-term, the very act of doing something just for himself is what's foreign and scary and hard. It's that first step off the tracks, and even if he were to keep walking in the same direction, it means he's making a choice about it. he's accepting that one way or another it IS in his power to go along with everyone else's plans or not. Hence the hesitation, and drawing back, and needing to clear his head.
And then the rest of Rook's role in his narrative IS about giving him more and more control for himself. Inner Demons, dealing with Illario, his questlines move less towards revenge and more towards just... not being locked into one fate. Which of course Caterina comes back and immediately tries to overturn by declaring him First Talon after all, even though she and him and everyone else knows she's not ACTUALLY ready to give up her rule/decision making power yet. Which in a way is maddening because cmon I did all this work here so this sad man could have some agency in his own life just to watch him get sucked right back in (which, at least we get many directions to headcanon from here), but there's no denying that THIS version of Lucanis at least is actually going in with his eyes open now. THIS Lucanis has had a taste of life outside the Crows, and seen the politics and power dynamics in other places/organizations, and finally has emotional ties to the big picture state of the world now, both in relationship and friendship paths with Rook. He's not just hyper focused on each contract as it's given to him now, he's looking at the whole thing.
Anyway of course the beautiful culmination of all this within the romance is the lighthouse scene with Rook, where he finally is willing to let himself be vulnerable (emotionally and physically), and fall asleep without fear of what Spite's going to do in the meanwhile. He also (depending on dialogue choice) finally talks about his feelings directly with you for the first time instead of in roundabout ways (the dessert being "not enough" is it really the dessert you mean, Lucanis. is it.). Even though he is STILL reluctant to verbally admit his feelings or let Rook share their own at this point, I think that's more a narrative choice about saving those last emotional dialogue options for the big final battle. but it is another point where he does have to stop just following along and ACTIVELY choose that yes, yes sometimes loving is worth the risk of losing it. Even if someone takes it away from you later, even if you don't survive it, sometimes the love alone makes it worth it.
I have like another 5000 words I could add into about how Spite ties into all this, about how having the demon in him is something he both fears AND how it forces him to acknowledge that actually yes he DOES share the same base feelings/instincts Spite does in terms of not wanting to be told what to do. And how this in a way is part of what gives him permission to act on it since he can no longer just shove it down out of sight. but this post is long enough already so i'm just going to take the rest of this and gnaw on it all day like a chew toy I guess.
anyway. AHG. it is kind of frustrating that the culmination of his arc seems to be "and then he got the job he never wanted anyway" but I do think at least all this prepares him for it in a way Caterina actively failed to actually do on her own. He NEEDED that step away from his straightforward path. Whether he stays first talon or not, and with or without rook as a romantic partner, he's finally been able to explore ideas outside the expectations of others.
#AND THEN of course how the whole control theme applies in terms of sex lmao. that man needs to be gently topped/dommed soooo bad#so much internalized shame and fear and he just wants someone who will see it & love him anyway#very much on theme to resent a thing (control) in everyday spaces but desire the inverse in the bedroom/forbidden spaces as a way to explor#it safely etc etc etc. fear of losing control vs desire to submit plus all the torture stuff mixed up in there oooohhh what a mess#themes of resistance etc etc You Get Me or you think im insane either is fine. anyway#dragon age: veilguard#dragon age: the veilguard#lucanis#lucanis dellamorte#rook x lucanis#rookanis#spite dellamorte#lucanisposting#datv spoilers#da4 spoilers#ramblings#dragon age#need to rip a pillow into shreds or somethign AHG im pacing around too fulll of Lucanis Thoughts this early in the day#this is usually a 3am hobby but im 12 hours early#but i think finally this is some watsonian reasoning that makes me more chill about the doyalist failures i have with the writing for him#this may be incomprehensible i did Not proofread it#jade plays dav#juniper x lucanis
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I actually really love that we see Helena's palpable hesitation about going back to the severed floor. We know that this has all been a publicity thing for her and it's about helping Lumon, so she's really invested in the outcome, but like. from her POV, she's literally letting someone who actively hates her and everything she stands for, and also has a proven willingness to hurt herself if it means hurting Helena, who now knows who she is and her significance to Lumon, pilot her body for 8 hours every day in an environment where they've repeatedly failed to control her. If I were her, I'd be genuinely surprised to wake up with my limbs intact.
You already questioned why on earth she'd come back after Helly's suicide attempt, and the identity reveal explains the reasoning, but on a human level that's still a wild thing to have to think about. This person (who is you but also isn't) almost succeeded in killing you, and like a week later you let them pilot your body again like nothing happened. How could you not be terrified?
#they might play this as like disgust at being an innie or fear of failure or whatever later on but that's how it seemed to me at least rn#like dont get me wrong what helena is doing/supporting is evil this isnt me feeling bad for her im just glad they're actually showing the#reality of how that would feel on a human level and adding that dimensionality to her character. like the mark and gemma thing was more#immediately striking to me psychologically but i feel like the helly helena dynamic has such rich potential. you see how intense and#headstrong helly is and you have to wonder a bit about what she's like on the outside and where this fire comes from and then you see#outside her and its like. oh. of course. there's the exact same intensity and energy its just projected the opposite way. of course someone#like helena would refuse to cooperate and be ready to burn this place down and even end her own life to get at the person who stuck her her#its like the most literal version of the 'the things you hate most in other people often reflect what you fear being/dislike about yourself#idea except in this case you literally share a body with that person#idk there's just a lot there#helly r#severance#severance season 2#helena eagan
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Don’t get caught up in the fear of failure and insecurities. You must become a solid person within. Let nothing come in a shake you. Stay centered. Face this reality with optimism, persistence and courage. Never quit and move as if you’ve already won.
#succulentsiren#writers and poets#dark feminine energy#divine feminine#affirmations#femininity#tips#advice#mindset#attitude#blog#girlblig#writer#it girl#itgirl#awareness#fear of failure#confidence#solidity#solid#character#optimistic#persistence#courage#spiritual#high self esteem#high value#quotes#dark femininity#momentos
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tim drake would rather die than kill innocent people and tim drake killed hundreds of supervillain henchpeople with long-range detonation explosives that one time are two separate headcanons that, contrary to what the fandom discourse would have you believe, can actually coexist at the same time.
there’s even a psychologist term for it.
it’s called compartmentalization!
#let’s be honest#the entire batfamliy “stuffers” from this#and while that’s not something generally talked about#I just find the concept so interesting#how they all justify their actions — both socially moral and socially in-moral — to themselves#particularly how they all justify their actions to themselves in different ways#and for more evidence about their compartmentalization: there’s obviously the fact that they all have superhero and civilian identities too#also#this might need to be a separate post#but#the fandom’s perception of each member of the batfamily as individuals#often read more like they have bought into the characters’s “masks” they wear due to trauma#the “masks” being how the batfam are completely willing to be only perceived as one-thing#because that’s easier than being a real human#with blood and pain and fears and failures#they’d much rather be#the nice one#or the funny one#or the smart one#(etc. etc.)#dc#dc comics#dc characters#batman comics#batfam#the batfamily#tim drake#robin#robin dc#red robin
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20 Affirmations / Mantras for When You Fear the Unknown:
The universe has my back.
I am supported through every life change.
Everything is always working out for me.
Change is okay. Change is good.
I am open to new experiences.
I am always evolving.
Thank you for this new, exciting adventure.
I can handle any obstacles.
I can handle my emotions.
My soul knows what’s best.
I am open to new opportunities.
I am ready to receive my blessings in divine timing.
What’s meant for me will never pass me.
I am enjoying the present moment.
Thank you Universe(or what you call your higher power) for supporting me.
I am enjoying my life’s journey.
The unknown is filled with necessary lessons and well deserved blessings.
Change is inevitable and it’s always for my highest good.
I have a purpose.
My intuition is always guiding me in the right direction.
You can trust yourself in the unknown. <3
#raesworld1#black girl tumblr#affirmations#manifestation help#mantras#mindset#positive affirmations#manifestation#affirm and persist#affirmyourreality#fear of failure#fear of change#life quotes#soft life#intuition#self help#healing#life path#self impowerment#empoweringpeople
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TOTK where everything is more or less the same except the dragon tears are as giant as the springs that Zelda went to, and Link has to wade through them to experience the vision. On top of that, after he sees the vision in full, he can relive that vision for as long as he stays in those tears.
Now, the reason why I want that is because I want to see Link witness the final memory and turn numb with denial and guilt and grief. It should not have surprised him the way it did; he knew in the previous memories she had planned to do it. But there were still more geoglyphs to search, still more time and hope for her to realize there was a different way, a better one that didn't ask her of so much.
He was wrong, of course. Destinies like theirs were never so generous.
Imagine that he appears expressionless, a stark contrast to his more emotional nature that has come out during gameplay. And yet his eyes are noticeably glazed over and he's frozen to the bed of the spring. The sages watch him through their vows, knowing this to be the last memory, and they feel it, immediately, that something is wrong. They desperately try to talk through their avatars, much to the surprise of their loved ones.
"Link? Link, snap out of it!"
He hears nothing.
And so the scene parallels to the off-screen moment Urbosa had with Zelda -- a careful Sidon wills his avatar to carry Link away from the cursed waters, and is pained when he's met with vehement resistance. Why would his wonderful friend drag himself back there, when whatever he saw tore his heart and shattered his soul? It wasn't good for him, to deal with grief in such a poisonous manner.
But for Link, he would weather the heartbreak in watching that bright, curious, ambitious girl sacrifice everything that made her who she was infinitely if it meant he could commit her face to memory. The Sheikah Slate that he took pictures of her with had been dismantled, and the Purah Pad contains no recollection of Zelda. He would watch his princess lose herself, over and over again, in that damned tear, than forget what she looked like.
He couldn't do that to her. Not again.
In the meantime, Tulin, Riju, and Yunobo have created a circle around him together, blocking the hero from hurting himself any further.
By this point, Link's expression is wavering, brows furrowed and lips pressed to a thin line. They don't get it, do they? All of the closest friends he had from an era past are gone; yes, Impa, Purah and Robbie are still alive, and they belong to that era too, but they didn't know him like the Champions did. Like Zelda did. She fought for him in death as much as he fought for her in life, and now he lost her too.
He finally collapses to the ground, shaking, and cries.
He had one job: Protect the princess. And he failed her. Twice.
#ANGST ANGST BABY#i headcanon that link fears failure just as much as zelda does ESPECIALLY because of the ramifications#i mean think about it: his inability to defeat the calamity + ganondorf lead to both a post calamity and post upheaval world#he probably feels responsible for all of it even though a lot of it was out of his control#totk spoilers#totk#tears of the kingdom#botw#breath of the wild#tloz#the legend of zelda#loz#legend of zelda#zelink#<< again qpr or romantic take it as whatever in the end they're just ride or die for each other#link#zelda#urbosa#sidon#tulin#riju#yunobo#impa#purah#robbie
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Our muscles are prompted to grow by failure, healing from countless micro-injuries. Our minds, science, and technology are similarly nourished by defeat. We are creatures born to thrive on the borderlands of ruin. Home is a valley between saw-toothed peaks of loss. Here we sow failure and harvest miracles
— Jarod K. Anderson, "Losing" in "Field Guide to the Haunted Forest" (Crooked Wall Press, December 3, 2020)(via A Layman's Blog)
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Yor worrying that her disappearing because of her job would mean she betrayed the Forgers vs Yor realizing that the risk is worth protecting them.
Grey colours, the Forgers as she first met them having their backs at her with empty, disappointed faces, vs bright, warm colours, the Forgers as she now knows them facing her directly and smiling at her.
She starts the story feeling like an outcast, fearing that no-one, not even her brother, will accept her as she is. That people will turn their back on her, and her life will continue being colourless and lonely.
Then her life fills with colour, with people who will face her head-on and accept her. She develops into confidence that the Forgers care for her and is reminded that even if she ever has to leave because of her job, the knowledge that she protects innocent people...
and that this work of hers will be acknowledged...
... is enough to give her the strength to carry on.
#Yor Forger#Spy x Family#sxf meta#there is also a meta there about how she fears Yuri will be too heartbroken by such a revelation#bc she raised him and he idolized her and she fears to even consider the possibility of him finding out#Loid and Anya are on a different scale#not because they “love her more” or whatever#it's impossible to make that comparison#but because they see her flaws and don't idolize her#but they accept her and support and encourage her#she feels on an equal standing with them#I mean... not perfectly. not yet. but it's closer than with Yuri#I mean protecting him was her first and always motivation#but she also wants to protect him from the truth#while she feels that if the Forgers find out... it will be okay#she won't be judged#and I think that means a lot to her#that she has a place where she can fall and fail and be treated like a person instead of a goddess (by Yuri) or a failure (by society)#wow okay I'm back to writing tag meta I should go to sleep
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Happy Girl failure Friday
#girl failure#chainsaw man#kobeni#chainsaw man kobeni#fear and hunger#fear and hunger 2#fear and hunger termina#samarie#dungeon meshi#dungeon meshi marcille#marcille donato#shitpost
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We all have faced fearful times.
Lailah Gifty Akita
#Lailah Gifty Akita#quotes#motivation#inspiration#thepersonalquotes#literature#lit#fear-of-failure#inspiring#motivational
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