#being afraid of failure

[loveandrelationshipconsultation]

The Fear of Losing Someone: Recognizing and Managing It

It can be devastating and immobilizing to fear of losing someone you love. Anxiety, insecurity, and even physical symptoms are some of the ways that this fear, which is frequently based on deep emotional ties and prior experiences, might show themselves. To keep one’s relationships strong and oneself in good health, one must learn how to control this fear and comprehend its underlying roots.

Reasons for the Fear of Losing Someone:

Previous Events Past losses — whether from divorce, death, or separation — can have a long-lasting effect. A dread of losing someone in the future may be brought on by these events.

Attachment Styles: being afraid of failure is more common in those with anxious or avoidant attachment styles. They could have trouble trusting people and worry about being abandoned.

Codependency: The fear of losing someone can become unbearable when one’s value is dependent on them. Excessive concern and control behaviors are frequently the result of codependency.

Strategies for Overcoming the Fear of Losing Someone

Recognize Your Fear: Recognizing your fear is the first step towards conquering it. It might increase tension and anxiety if you ignore or deny it.

Seek Professional Assistance: Counsellors and therapists can assist you in identifying the underlying causes of your fear as well as in developing coping mechanisms. Our knowledgeable coaches at MeetCoach are here to help you along the way.

Establish a Support Network: Make sure you have understanding and reassuring friends and family around you. Fears can frequently be made to seem less intense by talking about them.

Practice Mindfulness: You can lower your anxiety and relax your thoughts by practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing exercises. For more advice, visit our blog on mindfulness techniques.

Put Yourself First: It’s Critical to Look After Your Emotional and Physical Health. Take part in enjoyable and relaxing activities, such as hobbies, physical activity, and time spent in nature.

Dispute Negative beliefs: Often, illogical beliefs are the source of fear and failure. Dispel these ideas by concentrating on achievable goals and uplifting statements.

Conclusion

Though normal, the pain of losing someone you love need not take over your life. Relationships can be strengthened and maintained by comprehending the reasons behind this anxiety and putting management techniques in place to deal with it. Recall that you are not travelling alone on this trip. Visit our MeetCoach blog for more tools and assistance.

[bookshopbentley]

what an agonizing existence aziraphale must have . to be overflowing with love . to be forbidden from loving .

[mrmeepsmadmind]

i love when ppl draw bumblebee like the happy little creachure he is but also i love when people draw bumblebee like he's had 500 beers in the last 1 hour and still the pain won't even ebb

[all-pacas]

camchase as a hilson parallel except it’s chase who is 100% wilson and cameron who is 160% house

[boxesblr]

Rotating Etho's choice to protect his allies in my mind. Obviously they made incredible escapes and held their own but Etho also refusing to sell out Cleo and Grian meant that nearly everyone else died, some died multiple times, most lost additional hearts, hurt alliances (Scott: Gem has no band loyalty!), and did not gain something like 120 hearts total

Meanwhile, Cleo and Grian get to feel secure in their alliance, not go red, and actually finish their tasks. The playing field has obviously been levelled significantly and they still suffered, but Etho facilitated his alliance gaining the most where everyone else lost the most

Obviously it's a display his loyalty first and foremost but he also played the game, ran the numbers, and counted himself out of success knowing it would be diminishing returns to go after them and I just think that's neat

[mosstrades]

im someone who stuggles not to let his curiosity and drive sometimes (often) cross over into an overwhelming and maladaptive need for answers, for explanation, for certainty. someone who, historically, sees making art as a primarily intellectual exercise. this is not inherently a bad thing, we all have our temperaments and this kind of attention can be a strength. but, you know that artist who makes a painting, and then only wants to show it while explaining it to you? thats me, sometimes, more often than i like. every story i used to write had another hundred page document behind it, explicating every single choice -- often i would simply read that, instead of ever actually write the story itself. the explanation precedes everything. the answers alone are the experience.

david lynch's work and philosphy has been and is a vital foothold in my efforts to learn to love the questions as our breath. learn to appreciate intuition and dreams, trust them instead of fear them. learn to see that the world has so much confusing, uncertain, strange beauty, that can be terrifying but turns sublime when you cease rejecting it from fear. when you embrace the unknown and dont try to immediately & anxiously explicate it all away, a whole new world opens up to you. that you need the darkness in order to dream, and you need dreams in order to live fully immersed in what the world has to offer. a foothold in learning to be okay with abstraction, with imperfect subjectivity, with uncertainty. to know it is not anthitetical to truth and meaning. know that to skillfully make ideas come alive into a work *is* to rationally pin them down, but that you cannot lose sight of the intuition they were born as.

his artistic intuition reminds me of what i need to have -- the trust and humility for experiencing the inexplicable and understanding that to be enough. a devotion to ideas and their realisation. a balancing force, for my endless inquiry -- to not forget to live the question in my the search for an answer. to allow some thing to go without clear or universal explanation, allow for some things to remain unresolved, allow for others to have that be their resolution. it's why his work equal parts captivates me and disturbs me -- i am very bad at this. but feel in my heart a need to get better at it. to be a better artist, a better thinker, a better searcher, a better person. you need to feel it, intuitively, quiet your endless noisy need for an answer and simply let it fill you up, let it resonate intuitively, and find in that how life makes sense to you and you alone. mediation, mindfulness, humility to sit with abstraction without trying to pin it down. more and more i try to understand this. some things don't need to make perfect sense. some things dont need answers, or their answers are not the point. some things dont need anything but to be experienced as they enter you -- like dreams do. that can lead you to the answer, and that can also be enough in itself. that can be just an intrinsic value in being alive to experience it. and so often, it is all in conversation with the search for joy. it's why he feels so captivating, so unique, so tremendously alive. why people use the word "visionary" when talking about him. because he knew how to use his medium in all the potential he could see, so that it let you live in the strangeness and questions. he understood them as sublime, he understood them as enough, he understood them as a joy. he understood them as beautiful. and his memory will remind me to do the same; always to seek the space to dream.

[thekimspoblog]

Can I talk a little about how badly Kim broke Francesca's heart in the SK timeline?

First of all, I've seen some people say they headcanon Fran as bi (because Tumblr) and I have no reason to be against that, but having a crush on Kim doesn't necessarily make you bi. But at the very least, she had the same positive first impression of Kim that most people do: professional, kind of stern but shrewd, had a lot of integrity. Jimmy came across as kind of a goofball, but on the other hand, he was the one who actually wanted to hire her.

And over the course of the few months she worked for her, that respect grew. When "Wexler & McGill's" office closed and she had to go back to the MVD, it was a definite blow. When Jimmy's practice reopened, and she returned only to find that Kim had left but she had for some reason married Jimmy, she was a little caught off guard, but for the most part she was happy for them.

Then only four months later they were divorced. And it was at that point that Fran's life got measurably worse. And look, deciding to stay was Francesca's choice and no one else's, and she has to live with that. The sexual harassment she put up with, the crimes she aided, the blood money she accepted, she could have walked away at any time. But the fact that she also lost self-respect only compounds how badly she lost respect for Jimmy during those years. On some level, she only respected Kim more because she did walk away from this. But some part of her stayed because she felt bad! Whether or not she ever learned about what happened to Howard, maybe some tiny part of her empathized with Saul's bitterness, about how suddenly Kim had up and left. She was the only other person who even slightly understood how it felt to have this amazing woman drift into your life only to disappear again, and she didn't want to leave Saul alone with that.

Then all the shit hit the fan and Jimmy went into hiding. But right before the office closed for good, surprise surprise, who should come out of the woodwork to call inquiring whether he was ok. And Francesca understood; as much as she would have liked to tell Kim to put that clown out of mind, of course she was concerned; Kim was a good person... right? She passed the message along, but in the back of her mind, alarm bells were already going off that she might be facilitating something she had no remaining patience to be in the middle of.

The last she had heard of Saul, Francesca saw in the news that Jimmy was sentenced to life, and she was happy to wash her hands of the situation, saying that was the end of that. Another six years passed. But one afternoon, out of the blue, her phone rings from a number she didn't recognize. She still questions what even possessed her to pick up at all. It was Jimmy, and he was... happy. "Hey Francesca!" she hears Kim chime in over speaker phone. No, she didn't want to fly out to Wyoming to watch them retie the knot; were they fucking serious?! Francesca just stood there for a few seconds, phone in hand, numb, not really listening as the lovebirds continued to talk, the disgust just slowly settling in. Ultimately she hung up without saying anything. That person with so much integrity she met all those years ago... was she ever even real? Did it all mean nothing?! Was- was she just keeping her seat warm while the bad parts of Jimmy were too inconvenient for Kim to handle? After all those years working for Saul, Francesca didn't think it was possible to be more cynical than she already was, but this really takes the cake! Don't have heroes! Don't look up to anyone! Everyone's just doing whatever suits them in the moment.

It's not like Kim was trying to rub it in Francesca's face. She acknowledges now that divorcing Jimmy was a mistake, and she feels bad for leaving her holding the bag. She wants to make it up to her; inviting her to the wedding was her way of trying to say that she hasn't forgotten about her and doesn't take for granted all she's done for her family. But it's not like Kim was at all surprised the answer was no. Francesca has every right to be fed up with them at this point, and if it's what she wants, Kim will leave her alone from now on. Kim knew she was burning the few remaining bridges she had by going back to her criminal life. But on the other hand, what was she supposed to do, spend the rest of her life living a lie just because some people preferred that version of her to the truth? She really is sorry she hurt Francesca, disappointed her so profoundly, but she just doesn't have it in her to keep pretending. All she can do now is stay away.

@geeklovesstuff

[hsslilly-blog]

sebastian failing a class because he's terrified of hunt is a good bit and this time it's not even that man's fault

[divorceblogger]

house md liver-isms or as some people might also say: wilson wants to donate the remaining portion of his liver to house so bad

[marsipaniscool]

guys . if i were to break my bones and post a drabble of esikars . would you . would you want that ??? i am simply having so many thoughts about them and . kars being young and infatuated and trying to make himself HATE esidisi but every reason he comes up with has a counter reason and now he’s on the floor pulling his hair out because he doesn’t Want to feel like this and he needs to focus on bringing his tribe to the surface . so he throws himself into his work. i saw fanart of kars making a stone mask that accidentally looks like esidisi . “….that dickhead.” AND THEN HES EVEN ANGRIER BECAUSE KARS DOESNT SAY DICKHEAD ESI DOES. anyways i am torn between kars giving the worst explanation of his feelings ever or him completely ignoring it in the presence of other pillar people.

anyways woukd yiu guys wwant my worms? thwyve been marinating in the compost bin

[silenab]

idk i still think luke's scar should've been worse

[theicarusconstellation]

regulus vs revali sass contest

[dewgongs]

🎀

[fexlucia]

foof

[toastytrusty]

watched succession and i think it irreparably changed my brain chemistry because now i cannot stop thinking about rome and lukas

[ae-cha08]

Every day is a chance to grow.