#being afraid of failure

[loveandrelationshipconsultation]

The Fear of Losing Someone: Recognizing and Managing It

It can be devastating and immobilizing to fear of losing someone you love. Anxiety, insecurity, and even physical symptoms are some of the ways that this fear, which is frequently based on deep emotional ties and prior experiences, might show themselves. To keep one’s relationships strong and oneself in good health, one must learn how to control this fear and comprehend its underlying roots.

Reasons for the Fear of Losing Someone:

Previous Events Past losses — whether from divorce, death, or separation — can have a long-lasting effect. A dread of losing someone in the future may be brought on by these events.

Attachment Styles: being afraid of failure is more common in those with anxious or avoidant attachment styles. They could have trouble trusting people and worry about being abandoned.

Codependency: The fear of losing someone can become unbearable when one’s value is dependent on them. Excessive concern and control behaviors are frequently the result of codependency.

Strategies for Overcoming the Fear of Losing Someone

Recognize Your Fear: Recognizing your fear is the first step towards conquering it. It might increase tension and anxiety if you ignore or deny it.

Seek Professional Assistance: Counsellors and therapists can assist you in identifying the underlying causes of your fear as well as in developing coping mechanisms. Our knowledgeable coaches at MeetCoach are here to help you along the way.

Establish a Support Network: Make sure you have understanding and reassuring friends and family around you. Fears can frequently be made to seem less intense by talking about them.

Practice Mindfulness: You can lower your anxiety and relax your thoughts by practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing exercises. For more advice, visit our blog on mindfulness techniques.

Put Yourself First: It’s Critical to Look After Your Emotional and Physical Health. Take part in enjoyable and relaxing activities, such as hobbies, physical activity, and time spent in nature.

Dispute Negative beliefs: Often, illogical beliefs are the source of fear and failure. Dispel these ideas by concentrating on achievable goals and uplifting statements.

Conclusion

Though normal, the pain of losing someone you love need not take over your life. Relationships can be strengthened and maintained by comprehending the reasons behind this anxiety and putting management techniques in place to deal with it. Recall that you are not travelling alone on this trip. Visit our MeetCoach blog for more tools and assistance.

[bookshopbentley]

what an agonizing existence aziraphale must have . to be overflowing with love . to be forbidden from loving .

[mrmeepsmadmind]

i love when ppl draw bumblebee like the happy little creachure he is but also i love when people draw bumblebee like he's had 500 beers in the last 1 hour and still the pain won't even ebb

[boxesblr]

Rotating Etho's choice to protect his allies in my mind. Obviously they made incredible escapes and held their own but Etho also refusing to sell out Cleo and Grian meant that nearly everyone else died, some died multiple times, most lost additional hearts, hurt alliances (Scott: Gem has no band loyalty!), and did not gain something like 120 hearts total

Meanwhile, Cleo and Grian get to feel secure in their alliance, not go red, and actually finish their tasks. The playing field has obviously been levelled significantly and they still suffered, but Etho facilitated his alliance gaining the most where everyone else lost the most

Obviously it's a display his loyalty first and foremost but he also played the game, ran the numbers, and counted himself out of success knowing it would be diminishing returns to go after them and I just think that's neat

[carefulfears]

we've both talked about how scully isn't jealous fire. what differences do you see between protective scully vs jealous scully?

yeah to me the main difference is that one is more external and the other internal. she gets very emotional when she’s jealous. in episodes like alpha (literally sitting that woman down and going “i’m watching you.” cracks me tf up. Dana nobody is taking your man.) and war of the coprophages, it’s kind of angry. it’s louder, but still something very vulnerable and true to her (hater-ism). in episodes like the end, it’s heartbreak. that’s one of the very few episodes where i think she was purely jealous, and sad. she usually understands what’s going on and i think she knew as soon as she heard him call diana by her first name that something was going to change. i think it hurt her feelings, that specific display of connection, usually reserved for her.

when she’s jealous she retreats. she watches quietly. she cries alone in her car. she needs a moment to herself.

it’s when she’s protective that you can’t shake her for anything. one of my favorite images in fire is her standing in the doorway while mulder and phoebe meet with the arson specialist. i didn’t even notice she was there the first time i saw it. she wasn’t invited. she’s just keeping watch. later, she’s standing in the hallway. after that, she’s in his hotel room, and doesn’t leave when phoebe comes in. says “are you okay?” the moment they’re alone.

people write off her behavior in this one as being “jealous” because she has a lil crush and there’s another woman there, but i honestly find that dismissive. sometimes people discuss scully through such a wide lens, not taking into account who she is. she’s really surprised throughout the time that phoebe was there. it’s that soft edge that still shocks to cruelty, that she never really loses. it’s what shocks in the pilot when the doctor hits mulder twice. what shocks in the following episode when the government agents punch him on the side of the road. (look at you you’ve radicalized scully). it’s what makes her wary of jerry lamana, even before he stole mulder’s work.

but phoebe is so cruel, and so personal, and has so much history. it’s not jealousy that makes scully linger in doorways. it’s not jealousy that spawns that folie a deux. no one else understands. no one else can be trusted. (which i do kind of think started in fire, i’ve said before). she isn’t jealous that he startles when he hears this woman’s voice.

and i know that’s a lot on phoebe as an example, but it doesn’t stop. she doesn’t stop keeping watch. she doesn’t stop shocking to cruelty. she’ll get loud. she’ll make plans. she’ll surprise herself. and it doesn’t come with jealousy’s mortifying intimacy.

(don’t have much else to say but i found this from an old post of mine and wanted to share: “scully has that kind of protectiveness towards him that you have towards a child that hasn't been touched by the world yet. it's very 'the world is at least half terrible, though i keep this from my children.’ 'good bones' by maggie smith. scully in the beginning is like......there is something here that should have broken by now. and she wants to watch him be able to walk into every room with the most hopeful answer and a hand out to every stranger.”)

she shares him with the world only reluctantly, Etc etc

[divorceblogger]

house md liver-isms or as some people might also say: wilson wants to donate the remaining portion of his liver to house so bad

[marsipaniscool]

guys . if i were to break my bones and post a drabble of esikars . would you . would you want that ??? i am simply having so many thoughts about them and . kars being young and infatuated and trying to make himself HATE esidisi but every reason he comes up with has a counter reason and now he’s on the floor pulling his hair out because he doesn’t Want to feel like this and he needs to focus on bringing his tribe to the surface . so he throws himself into his work. i saw fanart of kars making a stone mask that accidentally looks like esidisi . “….that dickhead.” AND THEN HES EVEN ANGRIER BECAUSE KARS DOESNT SAY DICKHEAD ESI DOES. anyways i am torn between kars giving the worst explanation of his feelings ever or him completely ignoring it in the presence of other pillar people.

anyways woukd yiu guys wwant my worms? thwyve been marinating in the compost bin

[thereareeyesinsidethetrees]

last post for the night i swear

the real tragic part about the whole science fair incident is that perpetual motion is impossible to achieve

ford’s machine would have never worked, regardless of whether or not stan had interacted with it

(warning i accidentally wrote an approximately 30-tag dive into ford’s character in the tags don’t click see more if you don’t want to read that)

anyway!! good night everyone ❤️‍🩹

[silenab]

idk i still think luke's scar should've been worse

[theicarusconstellation]

regulus vs revali sass contest

[dewgongs]

🎀

[mylowmilo]

You know those rats in the studies where they’re trapped and not given any way to get out while subjected to negative stimuli and they start feeling helpless. And then they’re put in a situation where they actually have some power and can pull a lever or press a button but they still feel helpless and don’t even try.

That’s me

[loetise]

saw this on the 'for you' tumblr tab and snatched it so u should all do it and tag me :D

[toastytrusty]

watched succession and i think it irreparably changed my brain chemistry because now i cannot stop thinking about rome and lukas

[ae-cha08]

Every day is a chance to grow.

[rainbowangel110]

Hm. I might need help actually.